Paleo Pals - Health, Weight Loss & Support

vampeyes

That's wonderful news KSuze! A nice way to end the week!

Jadedjo

Congrats on the clear ksusan

JunieB

Congrats ksusan! 🤗

TwoHobbies

Woo-hoo, Ksusan!

Egads I am mostly a weekender because I have too much stress at work,frankly. I am looking for another job and that and trying to cope with the stress through exercise, meditation or whatever is consuming my free time. But I will still hang with you!

BTW, the ancestral health symposium has posted videos from the 2018 summit. Just search AHS18 on youtube.

JunieB

Well, I made it home this afternoon. My ANC is still in the toilet. It dropped again to 0.75, however because my clinical signs of the cellulitis are mostly gone, the doctor let me come home. Kirby is not back yet, he may come home tomorrow, but his trainer has a very sick puppy of her own and spent most of today with it at an emergency vet clinic. So only time will tell when my Kirbster will get home. I do not drive anymore and most everyone I know works during the week, so I can't ask them to take me. Also, I have to wear a mask and avoid the public as much as possible for now. That's gonna be a challenge since I use public transportation and have to go the hospital Monday for more blood work.

I just did a quick search on lymph edema and cellulitis. It appears that some people with lymph edema are at high risk for cellulitis. Since this is my 5th time having this, 4th this year I am going to need to find a doctor, possibly an Infectious Disease doc. to follow me long term. I read that cellulitis in a limb with lymph edema can be especially virulent and can be fatal. Since it is my right arm that is affected and I am right handed, I worry most about the infection becoming unresponsive to treatment and losing my arm. Which as a last resort can happen. My neutropenia definitely doesn't help my situation either. Something as simple as a bug bite (mosquito) or paper cut can lead to being hospitalized.

At this point the cancer is not my biggest concern!

Okay, I will bid you all a goodnight and look forward to seeing/reading your new posts.

JunieB

Here are 2 recipes from PaleoGrubs.com:

Paleo Pita Bread:

https://paleogrubs.com/pita-bread

5 Ingredient Chocolate Chip Cookies:

https://paleogrubs.com/5-ingredients-chocolate-chip-cookies?utm_campaign=broadcast&utm_source=email&utm_term=fitera&utm_content=181017-PG-EN-FE0201

ksusan

Junie, I'm glad you're home, and I wish they'd been able to give you more effective treatment. How frustrating!

InnaB2018

Junie, what a horrible ordeal! I hope you find a good doctor who can improve your situation.

TwoHobbies

Junie, glad to hear you are home again. Take care of yourself.

I was watching one of the Ancestral Health Symposium videos about the study of fruit flies and altering their diets to see how long it takes for genetic adaptation to the new diet. He studied three fruit fly diets. Rotting apples, which is this particular fruit fly "paleo" diet that they've been eating forever. Then they switched some fruit flies to bananas and saw it took 1000 generations to adapt. He equated this banana diet to our agricultural but organic diet up to about 1850. The third fruit fly diet change was to oranges, so he equates that to our modern diet changes. To make a long story short, he concludes that the 1850 type diet is fine in youth, perhaps up to age 30 or so, but then continuing on with either the 1850 diet or the modern diet into older ages is inferior to returning to a Paleo style diet, and in fact, continuing with the 1850 diet shows no survival advantage over modern diet. I thought that was really interesting.

Egads007

Morning Peeps & happy Sunday!!

Warning: Have not proofread this, should be good for a laugh )))

Feeling so much better today whew…..the past week has been a rough one physically, but muddled through. Enough about me, on to you wonderful Cavies…….

JunieBee – Sweetie, I'll say it again, you deserve a medal for the hell you've been dragged back and forth through! Glad you're home and hope handsome Kirby follows soon….he's such a comfort. I think getting in line with an infectious disease specialist is an excellent move.A friend of mine was recently diagnosed with non-alcoholic cirrhosis. Once she got herself in with an Infect Disease specialist her health is on the upswing. You could consider having a convo with your MO on Monday about seeing an LE specialist. Might as well hit this with everything you can. Paleo hint….keep the wheat, grains and legumes out of the diet, they lead to inflammation throughout the whole body and may help in conjunction with your treatments….don't think it could hurt. Keep us posted darlin'….and big gentle hugs!!!

Inna (godda davida) – You're next up on the big gentle hug list!! My heart goes out to you and your hubby…..how awful for you both that you couldn't be at the funeral. Yes, this disease is far reaching in it's devestation.More hugs!! As for the pulled chicken…throw that and any recipes you want over to us all. Your Kickin' Chicken will def go in the Paleo Chickens cookbook J.How are the rads going so far? Any SEs beside the dragged out feeling? Btw, thank you for your kind words….love ya, and right back to ya!

JKL – You're another on the hug list….I'm so very sorry to read about your friend's passing, and feel even worse that I didn't offer my condolences on my last reply! I was running hell bent for leather the other day and didn't mention it….no excuse, I should have slowed down. You were def in my thoughts. I hope you made the services (?) and are getting over the nasty cold (?)…..colds utterly SUCK!! JunieBee is right, express away, it's our right as human to vent about colds….did I mention they utterly SUCK?! I'll go over your collagen & mag questions again and post soon, promise! I figure this post is going to be long enough lol. Big cave chick hugs, you've had it rough!

Ksuze – Atta' girl!!! Your clear chest scan put a goofy grin on my face….congrats! You get a hug too!! Isn't it the BEST feeling when clear results are reported? Makes my gait a bit bouncy for a few days ) Hope your lovely wife & yourself celebrated in style!

Jade – Thank you for the kind words! Hugs to you too!Don't sweat the weight gain for the time being. Get yourself on your feet and deal as you can. During treatment I gained (and don't tell anyone )) about 25­-30 lbs. The combo of eating like a maniac and not moving much added up. Pre-diagnosis I was a good 20 lbs heavier than I should have been, so the end result had me looking like a beachball with legs!! Your body is concentrating on healing…..and so should you. Do what you can to keep healthy….the weight will come off later. If not we'll harass you until it does ))))))))))))))) jokin' of course.

Vampriella – You're on the hugs list too…..for the green bean recipe!Question for you…..have you made it with fresh green beans instead of frozen?Btw, not sure if you caught my post where I tweaked your pasta dish. The texture was 'creamy dry'. If you're interested lemme know, if not, all good J) Ok, so LOOKEE YOU GO ALL PRIMAL!!! Yippeeee! The 21 day challenge is awesome! Was my first venture….still remember waking everyone up by shouting "I LOST 7 lbs"!!! the first week. Keep us posted……especially on how the hubs & kids react and let us know if you need on of JKL's midnight clubbing visits to keep them in line ))))) Will be replying to your PM soon!

Kickin – Sending tons of positives for your DIEP this coming Tuesday…..you do indeed got this!! Keep us posted as you can. Gentle hugs for a smooth surgery and quick recovery…..I have a feeling your determined Keto lifestyle is only going to move things along well!

TwoH – Darlin' a stressful job seems to crawl into every part of our lives….been there, done that, so I'm gladyou're looking to switch up to a new job. Supportive stress reducing hugs for you! Let us know how the search is going…..and so glad you're going to continue to hang with us….once a Cave Chick always a Cave Chick!I'll def be checking into the Ancestral Health Symposium….sounds like 53 shades of interesting! The fruit fly results don't surprise me a bit…..just watch teens walking down the street with a bag of Doritos in one hand and a cigarette in the other….late nights, party city. Their skin still glows, they rarely get sick and have tons of energy….then 30 hits and it's like all those bad eating/late nights lands smack dab on their face & their bodies advertise the years of abuse….Nashville allllll the way ))) . I'll be watching your vids this week….thanks for posting! I think we'd all benefit from checking them out, TwoH finds the BEST vids!

Whewwwww, did I miss anyone or anything??? Swing your cave club my way if I did.

Back later with the latest episode of 'Egad's life……The Nursing Home Visit'……spoiler alert, it kinda' went like this…..

Egads007

Morning Cave Chicks!!

Another Monday rolls in like a lion here in good ol' Hell-ifax. Vegas….I'm pretty sure I may have gone Vegas on Friday night, courtesy of a visit to my MIL's nursing home. She had invited my cavedude and myself for dinner.....very cool!

Nice set up they have in the home…..much more like retirement living, small apartments, common areas, tiny library etc… The dining room was decorated in a typical stogy fashion, but very nice all the same. What wasn't nice was the temperature…..it must have been 1000 degrees !! Between the thermostat setting and tamoxifen, well, you can imagine….

There were several choices on the menu, I chose the chicken meatloaf. When it came I was shocked at the tiny servings (my MIL has to pay for our meals….12 bucks a shot). Twelve dollars for a plate that resembled…..

Along with a thin playing card size slice of meatloaf the plate held 3 tiny cauliflower florets covered in what I'm guessing was watery cheese sauce....oh and and a tablespoon of boxed mashed potato. I took one mouthful and was smacked on the tongue by the taste of sugar…..who puts sugar in meatloaf?!?!?!? Bless my MIL's heart, she was treating us so I……

We tucked into the food and chatted pleasantly. Our convo was suddenly interrupted by a loud almost shouting voice at the next table. "HELLO!!! HELLO!!!!!" one of the wheelchair bound residents almost screamed at one of the waitresses...far across the large room. She then proceeded to holler "HELLO…..I WANT COFFEE!!…COFFEE!!…..I WANT MY COFFEE NOW!!!!!" My MIL rolled her eyes and said "There is nothing wrong with her mentally, she just thinks she owns the place. She makes everyone here miserable". I watched while the waitress patiently tried to soothe the meany of a resident.....she wasn't having any part of soothing. She gave the poor server a dressing down from hell. I agree with my MIL, this wasn't a matter of aging….this mean old goat was probably the same bad tempered bee-otch when she was 30. We continued with our meal, had coffee and refused dessert which was something yellow….still no clue what it was....

Dinner done and we had to pass by the mean old goat's table to exit the dining room. We almost made it…almost. The loud booming voice started up again with "HEY STELLA (my MIL) WHO IS THAT???" the goat said with a mouth full, pointing her fork in my direction. My MIL introduced us. Did we get a 'nice to meet you?'….no, of course not. As if I wasn't standing in front of her, she said "WELL, SHE SHOULDN'T BE WEARING THOSE HIGH HEELS IN HERE, YOU KNOW THE RULES!!" (tripping hazard on carpet for the residents). My MIL is a gentle soul and tried to diffuse the situation with a short chuckle and "Oh, she's so young and pretty that she can wear shoes like that" **mental note, get MIL's glasses checked )))** The old goat almost screamed "IT'S AGAINST THE RULES!!!".

By this point I could see my cavedude was getting nervous and expected something like this to happen….

I held my tongue and continued on, the memory the poor waitress being berated and her nasty comments to my MIL still ringing in my ears. She offered this parting shot to our turned backs "NEXT TIME WEAR FLAT SHOES!!!" That tore it for me. I'm not a fighting woman, but the old goat brought out my inner gorilla…..and I was stuck! What could I do?….the lady was elderly, and in a wheelchair….but she really need some serious ass whopping! Without my MIL & cavedude noticing, I turned, looked right at the goat and….

We could hear her hollering all the way down the corridor outside the dining room. My MIL & cavedude asked "what is wrong with her now?!?!?". I replied with this….

Churning tummy and my weekly carb load spent in one meal aside, the evening, went purdy good. The food doesn't matter, the point is the gesture, a family thing, and one of those occasions when I felt it was best to keep Paleo on the down low. Easy enough to fix my unintentional Vegas with extra effort in the gym this morning…..

So Chickies, how was your weekend? Need to hit the dreadmill hard like me or all good? )

Egads007

Because I never shut up...…….

Kathindc - I mentioned yesterday that I might have missed replying to one of you, so I did a triple check this morning and saw that I'd left you out...my bad!! Big hugs to you, and so glad to see you're still kickin' it with us in the cave! Yes, yes, yes! small steps in the right direction are awesome....every little bit counts! Keep up the good work! ) Hope to see you post again soon darlin!

Kickin - Just thought I'd explain, you being new and all, the meaning of Vegas. Monday is the day we can (if wanted) report any lifestyle cheats or mishaps we encounter over a weekend (what happens on the weekend, stays on the weekend). Not necessary, just a way to post judgement free, poke fun at it sorta' thing. So tomorrow is the big day, how you feeling?....we'll be with you in spirit!

ksusan

Oh, man, I'm sure I know that woman! Good for you for turning it into a great story.

I've continued to eat keto but cut back the fat and added vegetables and a little more greens to see what happens. I had dinner at a student's house where you smile and drink the sugary homemade beverage. Weight is holding at 1.5# above my lowest mark thus far.

I spent my weekend writing presentations for an upcoming conference (I've already mapped the route to a Trader Joe's and will take some non-grain, low-carb staples with me), so although I got up every hour and walked around, I got no formal exercise yesterday. Therefore, I'm about to leave for work early so I can walk in, then at the end of the day walk to lovely wife's office to catch a ride home. Aiming for around 6 miles.

JKL2017

Love, love, love your post, Egads! I especially love that you gave the old bat "the look" (every mom has that in her repertoire). And I can SO identify with your story. My sweet MIL (no longer with us) was in a seniors condo with a community dining room & every visit was an experience. The food was actually very good (& served buffet style so you had total control over what you ate) but the residents made for some interesting meals. I was constantly grateful that my MIL was the wonderful woman she had always been rather than one of the gossipy, eavesdropping harpies that populated that place! What a waste of a Vegas visit for you & your cavedude! (But kudos to you both for doing it.)

I've been residing in Vegas for the last few days. What I thought was a cold was actually the flu (PSA: Get Your Flu Shot!). I didn't eat badly but my sore throat dictated all my food & drink choices so there were some non-paleo items on the menu. I'm feeling better today & hoping that I'll be eating paleo & back at the gym by tomorrow. And I will definitely be getting a flu shot as soon as my PCP approves it.

I'm still pretty tired so I'll just send big hugs to everyone with my wishes for a stress-free, pain-free week.

vampeyes

Never a dull moment with you Egads! Your retirement home adventure made me laugh like this, especially picturing you giving the old coot the stink eye!

Yes please I would like to try the recipe that you altered for me, it sounds wonderful and so much better than my soupy version!

Day 4 and going strong. So far no complaints from the family - although none of them are doing the 21 Day Primal Transformation with me. They eat what I make, buuuuuuuut there are hidden foods that I dislike around the house still.

Yesterday I tried making chicken pot pies and they were chicken pot soup! They were tasty, but not what we were expecting, next time I plan to use my recipe with their crust. I had left over crust so we made butternut squash stuffed pockets - a hit with only 3 of us, one didn't like the squash that way.

Got the twins and myself hooked on doing Diamond Dotz. It's a good craft to keep my hands busy while "watching" tv.

xxx

kathindc

Egads, I will always be with the cavechicks! OMG, your lead in to and the nursing home post had me roaring. Your gifs are perfects to what you talk about. Oh, there is a book in you yet.

Vamp, you're not to far behind Egads with those gifs.

Junie, so glad you got sprung. I hope you got a better blood report today. I second Egads on seeing an LE specialist. Might be something you want to think about. Do you know when Kirby will be able to get home? Wished I lived closer as I definitely would volunteer taking you.

👍Ksusan.

Inna (godda davida and I must say I caught the relation to the song the moment I read Egads changing of your name because I read your name to the lyrics/melody in the song and still do), so sorry for the loss and hugs to both your husband and you.

Now to get back to one of my many projects. Just can't settle into doing one start to finish as I keep changing my mind how I want to turn some rooms around.

Love to all you wonderful ladies.

InnaB2018

Hello, ladies! Egads, you are hilarious, you know that? Your cave dude is one lucky caveman. Love your posts!

Thank you all for the warm words and gentle hugs. My hubby is back from the funeral a little worse for wear, but overall as good as can be expected. I am so sorry I wasn’t there to support him.

I went to Vegas today with a chocolate covered waffle and paleo be damned. I think radiation might be messing up my food choices. I started craving salt again, for example. And bread. I gave up and make sure it’s sprouted whole wheat. Every morning I make myself go to the basement and exercise for an hour, since the weather stopped cooperating with my body temperature. I do cardio and Pilates on alternative days, yoga on Saturdays and Zumba on Sundays. Thank God for Amazon Prime membership and wonderful exercise videos. My weight actually started going down slowly, even with the grains. 143lb now, down from 147.

Today was Rads #10. Breast feels a little tight, but otherwise still fine. Thank God for the small mercies.

Pi-Xi

I went to Vegas - at least in my world. It was Ottawa actually where my plant-based diet was supplemented by filet mignon with a couple more ounces of wine than my usual weekly allotment, ginger beef and a decent wood-fired pizza. Goodness knows what was in the lunches served at the meetings, but in addition to the lovely trays of fruits and veggies, I consumed soup and vegetarian wraps. I do know what I got at Piccolo Grande Gelato! Shared half the smallest with DH. So unlike me. So Vegas. No regrets. I haven't visited Ottawa without a trip there. Cancer has to lose sometimes.😊 No ill effects. I feel pretty fantastic! (Could be all the walking...)

JunieB

Thank you ladies for the hugs and well wishes. I do have an LE specialist. She is very excellent at her specialty and is booked at least 3 weeks out. Plus, I am waiting for a referral from one of my medical providers. I wasn't able to get into the MO's today, because they had no same day openings, but I do go in in the afternoon today (it's 2:20 a.m. here now).

Kirby did make it home yesterday and I gave him a bath then hugged and kissed him like crazy. His trainers puppy that was at the emergency vet is going to be ok, thankfully!

Here is the link to the article I mentioned before on Lympehedema & Cellulitis:

http://www.lymphnotes.com/article.php/id/557/

Inna - I am glad your rad treatments are going well. So sorry to hear of your not being able to make it to the funeral with our DH.

Ksusan - If I walked 6 miles I wouldn't be able to move for a week. Tried it once earlier this year and my hips, pelvis & lumbar spine hurt a lot.

Kathindc - Glad to see your post. Are you renovating your home or just redecorating?

Egads - Your post about your visit to see your MIL was hilarious. Before I got to the part about the "stink eye" I was kinda hoping you'd turned and made some type of snarky remark to that horrible old woman. However, I do know that any comment made to her would probably fly over her head and would be pointless. Your gif's add so much to your posts.

Okay, it is time to say goodnight again. I am off to bed now to snuggle with my Kirbster.

TwoHobbies

Egads please buy the tallest pair of heals you can find and report back after your next visit! My mom was in the nursing hme for rehab after her hip surgery and it is quite the group sometimes.

Pixi you had me at gelato.

Inna when I did chemo I had a weird appetite, One day I would want salad and the next a McDonalds cheeseburger. Its been a rough time for you and DH. A little waffle might be good for the soul.

I did have a little apple pie this weekend. My son mentioned he needed a birthday pie, so it seemed wrong to not celebrate!

Egads007

Morning Peepers!!

Well, it appears that we all pushed Vegas full throttle over the weekend )))))) Meh, life happens, we pick up, dust off and carry on with our Cave Chick noggins held high!

KSuze - Nice 6 mile trek!! Also, nice planning with the Trader Joe mapping….no wonder you're doing so well!! Did the sugary drinks hit your tummy hard?

JKL – Uggggg flu, I'm so sorry you've been suffering! Take it easy and don't worry too much about the gym. I read somewhere that it takes your body 3 weeks to completely recover from the flu. So yeah, rest up! Thank you, and glad you liked the post. I only WISH there had been a buffet like the one in your MIL's home……bless her, she sounds lovely! Harpies!! YES!! Perfect word….they are HARPIES LOL!! Ok, so new life goal for me…work at not becoming a harpie! Rest up darlin', and let us know how you're doing. HUGS!

Vampriella - LOL!!!!! LOVE the gifs.....perfectly match your words!! Lay a beating on anyone in the house that brings in non-compliant food )))) Did you use the gnom gnom pastry? I PM'd you the starch trick and will be posting the recipe for the salmon/tuna soon. Still have another idea for tweaking. I have a feeling we're going to be up to our ears in casseroles here!

Kathindc – Sweetie, if I ever do get published you'll be mentioned in the dedication for sure!! I'm doing some reno around the house too and boy do I hear you on starting one and on to another before finishing LOL!!

Inna (godda davida) – You're too sweet! Thank you for the kinds words. My cavedude might have a few different observations than yours LOL, especially when it comes to yard work....he thinks I'm anything but funny then )))))) So glad you got a laugh, you deserve some chuckles considering what has been happening in your life. Give your hubby and yourself another hug from all of us, and I'm sure he's all good with you not being there....he wants your treatment done and you all healed up. Awesome on the weight loss and the rads!!!….YAY YOU!!!! One step closer to done for you!

Pixi(dust) – Hiya girlfriend!!! So good to see you post!! LOVE the 'feeling fantastic' attitude!! Your Vegas/Ottawa venture should be enjoyed guilt free, I mean, what's the point of beating ourselves up if most of our days are spent eating the right way....so yeah, glad you feel fantastic! Cancer has to lose sometimes…..GREAT statement!

JunieBee – YAY!!!!! The Kirbster is back where he belongs!! I bet you were overjoyed to see him! Glad you do see an LE specialist. Please keep us posted on your progress….we're all rooting for a speedy recovery and an end to all your woes! Thank you for your kind words, glad you enjoyed the post! Hugs!!

TwoH – Apple pie....yummmmmm, now you got me thinking )))))) Funny you should mention the shoes….I was thinking exactly the same!!! Matter o' fact I might get these….

I would take the pole too, but would be afraid of causing cardiac arrests.........considering where I was. Do you happen to have a pair of break away leather pants I could borrow?? )))))))))))))))))))))))))))

Hope you all have a splendiferous day Cave Kids! Love to all!!!

vampeyes

Two-Cent Tuesday - The Poor Me/ Woe is Me attitude

Today I decided to write up Two-Cent Tuesday because I seem to have a few friends with this attitude and lately it's, well, pissing me off! First let us define this person from Google:

"The victim grates on you with a poor-me attitude, and is allergic to taking responsibility for their actions. People are always against them, the reason for their unhappiness. They portray themselves as unfortunates who demand rescuing, and they will make you into their therapist."

I have listened to these friends, I have cared enough to look for or offer help with support in any way, but now this is my feelings:

I have a friend who is overweight, she is about 100 lbs to big for her frame with a bad back. I have heard the excuse many times on how it's too expensive ( yet I buy KATE SPADE purses and wallets) to change her eating, or how everyone else around her gets to eat the fun stuff. It was suggested to her that she see a therapist (nope just thinking about it puts her in a panic attack- WTF?) She refuses to exercise, (because she is in so much pain - D'uh! If you don't move much you will seize up) sits around most of the day watching tv, she lives through her kids, without them she has/is nothing. I offered to do the diet with her for support - she ignored the offer; I offer suggestions to walk even 30 seconds to start on the treadmill she owns working up to more (nope, too lazy); I offer an ear and finally I couldn't take it anymore so I quit the friendship.

What I am finding with these friends is that they don't really want to evolve and change they just want to complain about what's wrong, not fix it. I want to fix them, especially my one friend who has Scleroderma. I won't quit on her, we had a big talk and all is good...for now. Mind you she won't get herself a very needed scooter for her very bad feet, but can spend $1000, yes that's the correct amount of zeros on a concert! They can buy a brand new trailer, but hey who cares about my bad feet, my failing system because I can go camping a couple times a year now! Priorities.

Is it wrong that I need to limit the amount of time I spend with them or quit the friendship all together? My therapist thinks it is because I am doing good self care, me I feel badly about it, but honestly feel better emotionally not being around them all time. The overweight friend she exhausts me with her constant complaining, bragging about the kids and how awesome they are at everything, the need to only buy name brand and look to me for this reaction:

But this is more my reaction:

There are so many things that people can do to help themselves if they only wanted to do it. Unfortunately there is an excuse for everything and mostly just laziness.

All right cave chicks, I am ready for your feed back, do you agree with my therapist that I am doing good self care and my self esteem is raising or do you think I am too harsh and a shitty friend? I sometimes think I am the latter, with my past friendships, but again the therapist says I outgrow the relationship by trying to better myself and leave the ones that don't want to help themselves behind.

Well Egads - I think I can take your for a run on length, how many do you think stopped reading halfway through? lol

Egads007

Vampriella, WELL PUT!!!! I agree with your therapist. If we've given our all to a friendship with support/concern/love and it's still frustrating after having a heart-to-heart convo, then it is time to move on to greener relationship pastures. I think JKL posted recently about cutting toxic people out of our lives....and I concur with her 100%. Cutting ties on consistently frustrating people IS self care. We DO deserve better. A toxic person's constant whining without doing anything to change is going to leak into our lives....and make us less happy....not good. I had a close friend back in TO....bitter, angry...started EVERY convo with "ya know what really pisses me off". One day I calmly said "why not tell me what doesn't piss you off"....then proceeded to gently tell her she was angry most of the time....even looked for things to get angry at. Her reaction...you guessed it...she got mad. Didn't stop her, didn't miss a beat, and she continued her daily 'pissed off' sessions. My move to Hell-ifax came just in time. I didn't have to 'break up' with her....something I decided I HAD to do, for my own good....emotionally & physically. She was exhausting & upsetting. If you approach, and diplomatically (and out of love and concern) tell your bud how she makes you feel and they do nothing to change what is in their control....well, it's decision time. You've gone through cancer, you know where priorities lie, there is nothing selfish, shitty or callous about taking care of your own peace of mind. You aren't there to be constant sounding board for whining. Yes, when change is within a friend's control, your two cents is dead right.

Again, well put Vamp and glad you jumped in with your take of Tuesday!! I bet dollars to donuts (paleo donuts) that no one stopped reading 1/2 way....your 2 cents was def a 'can't put down the book' read!!

BTW....still LMAO@ the screaming pic....awesome!!

ksusan

Junie, I'm so glad Kirby is back with you!

7+ miles yesterday. Weight is within .5# of the lowest I've had yet--just in time for a whole lot of sitting at a conference. I stopped at Whole Foods and picked up some non-refrigerated salami, Moon Cheese, Flackers, and a small packet of olives. That should give me options on my cross-country flight.

JKL2017

Well done, Vamp! When Egads goes off on vacation in the future, I hope she leaves her cricket scepter with you; you're a worthy replacement (gifs & all!). (BTW, I wasn't even tempted to stop reading!)

I'm a firm believer in ridding ourselves of toxic relationships - friends, family, even husbands! I agree with your therapist: it's a sign of your emotional growth that you are questioning these relationships & ending the ones that are not healthy. Sometimes we outgrow relationships & sometimes we just grow up & realize that some people are not what we need or deserve. The fact that you feel some reluctance to move on just indicates that you are a very nice person. Don't let people take advantage of that!

Egads, good for you for leaving you faux-friend behind in Toronto. And all I have to say about those shoes is WOW! I fell off a pair of heels on a cobblestone street in Germany once & sprained an ankle. If I tried to walk in those stripper shoes I'd probably break both legs & a hip!

Junie, so glad you're back home with Kirby. Hope you keep getting better & find a way to control both your LE & that nasty cellulitis.

Inna, I'm glad radiation is going well & I'm really impressed with your exercise program. You go, girl! And I'm echoing the others in sending hugs to you & your DH. Sorry for your loss.

TwoH, welcome back. Hope you find a lower-stress job & soon. Dealing with BC is enough stress for anyone!

Ksuze, well done on the weight loss! That's a tremendous accomplishment & I have faith that you'll get through your conference with no problems.

Hey Pi-Xi, great to see you back in the cave. I've been missing your pics of your DH's amazing meals. Mmm, gelato ...

KathinDC, how are you doing?

I'm still congested & coughing so not back at the gym yet. And obviously so bored that I have time to write very long posts! Maybe I should hop on the internet & start Xmas shopping?

vampeyes

Hello again!

JKL I am so sorry that you're suffering with that nasty cold still. Hopefully it's the only one you get this season! Thank you for your kind words. xxx. You know if you have time for long posts I bet Egads would welcome another cave chick doing the two-cent Tuesday.. 😉

Ksuze - great Bob on the weight loss. Maybe those chair videos will come in hand while jou are sitting at conference.

Pi - glad to see you back!

TwoHobbies- my one twin and your son would get along quite well as he requests pie for his birthday as well...Rhubarb Butterscotch is his favourite.

Egads - I didn't use the one freedom gnom gnom, if I was looking st the right recipe it uses cream cheese, the once I have uses mozzarella. Now I am craving those little pockets of goodness!

ksusan

I made up a bowl of roasted Brussels sprouts with garlic and prosciutto, another of mashed cauliflower, and chicken broth with shitakes to tide my lovely wife over while I'm at my conference. I ate some too, and a big salad. Yeah, I'm that person next to you on the plane who had Brussels sprouts for dinner.

TwoHobbies

Vamp, you don’t have to keep up friendships that bring you down or wear you out. You didn’t ever have to, but now you have cancer, so I’m going to play the cancer card for you. Who needs to have their mood brought down. Not us. I have had more than one person like that. One I truly love and I learned to say”Uh-huh, Uh-huh” instead of offering advice that won’t be taken. Others I don’t spend time with. Can’t stand the non stop Debbie Downer,

Egads. Those are the shoes I was thinking of!

Egads007

KSuze - Nicely done on the exercise front and the weight loss, not to mention pulling yourself together for your conference...you gotta be some tired! Brussels are tops, love em'! If I was seated next to you on the flight I think I'd be more nervous of you whipping out the moon cheese....and then cutting it )))))) Sorry, couldn't resist, blame my inner child Where are you traveling to?

JKL - Ouchies @ the Germany tumble!!...while I understand the female love affair with heels (ohhhh I love em!) I've often thought the inventor must have been a cobbler/part time sadist:))) Couldn't agree more, Vamp did a superb job of Two Cent Tues! Christmas shopping, thank you!!! I promised myself to be done and wrapped by Nov 15th, your reminder is appreciated! Glad you took a pass on the gym, rest up girlfriend, we want you feeling 100% ASAP!

TwoH - they are something eh? AND they have a tip holder LOL, what more could any self respecting stripper ask for?? )))

Vampriella-Shakespeare - As JKL noted you deserve the Cavegal Cricket Scepter AND you're in line for the Cave Pulitzer Prize...just don't forget us when you're published and all famous!! The gnom gnom has no dairy...will be posting soon! Soon as the day has 48 hours )))))

Everyone - I don't corner the market on daily posts...if the mood strikes and you want to 'take the day' with your two cents, workouts, tutorials etc..then please go for it...would be lovely to see a cross section of posts (as we did with Vamp's 2 cent!) Giving me the heads up would be good, that way I wont cross post. Yup, our thread is community at its best....all voices equal

PLEASE - light candles, pray, dance naked around a fire in the pale(o) moonlight, anything! Just pour your positive vibes towards me getting my car back FIXED by this time tomorrow. Oh yeah, the automotive excitement never ends. Meh, the saga will make a fun post ))

Later gators!

vampeyes

Egads - Is this you on your way to the nursing home?

TwoHobbies - you are so right! I talk to the one friend very rarely and only through text. For a laugh one day we were out shopping, she was driving. This truck come up beside her into the lane she wanted to switch to, she got so mad, she was mad because he knew she wanted in that lane and was in her way. I said maybe you should put your blinker on to let them know you want in, she said "they know", I only use my blinker when I am ready to switch lanes. lololololol I wish my husband could read minds like all those driver that "KNOW".