STFU (Shut the F*** UP)

4sewwhat

Chickee, hope John is on the mend. It is encouraging that they could save his eye. We will keep praying for continued healing and good news.

Julianna, hope your DH is on the mend too and can make it home for Thanksgiving or you can go to him.

To the rest of the Hoolies, hope the weekend is going well. I know a lot have posted about cold weather and snow. We are expecting wind chill of 19 and some possible flurries in the morning. That's kind of early for us to see those temps! Bbbrrrrrrrrrrrr!

Stay warm all. Extra hugs and prayers to whoever needs them!

Teka

Family illness, need to take a time out from public & private posting!

4sewwhat

Take care Teka, hope all goes well and things get better quick!

camillegal

How are u'r DHs doing. Any better today? I hope so.

I spent the nite with Joey my little man and he made me another bracelet and ring and we watched 48 hrs. That was my Sat. nite

4444 It gets that cold in GA? WTF, it ''s not that cold here.

juliaanna

Teka, hope you can come back soon. Take care.

DH is out of the hospital on blood thinners. Has a check up on Monday. MD thought he could fly on Wednesday.

I can not adequately express how much your support and caring mean to me. Bless you all.

ChickaD

Hugs for you Miss Teka and Miss Jules and your families.

John is resting comfortably...I duct taped him to the couch!  This is going to be a challenge...my hubby is one of those men that has to be doing something...he rarely just truly relaxes.  Got home and wanted to split wood...ugh.   Needless to say..me and the girls are going to sit on him if needed.  We are looking at about a year to complete several eye surgeries on him...no paychecks in this household any more....ugh again.  Cant even begin to deal with those issues yet.

For the next week or so John needs 5 medications administered every 2 hours into his eye...long nights....and visits to the clinic daily.

Did I mention I have a HUGE eye phobia?  I can't even go to the eye doctor without throwing up or passing out...they hate my visits.  So this "test" is going to cure or kill me. Keep sending prayers...much appreciated!

sas-schatzi

Chickie, you can do this b/c 1. you love him and 2. you have hope. Think of this each time you do the drops. Now this is for you. Leave a bucket near the area that you will be administering the drops. It's easier to turn and barf, then run for the bathroom. If you feel faint get flat on the floor fast, then put your legs up at a 45 degrees at least. Stay there till flushing and symptoms pass. This will avoid injuries to you and allow your equilibrium to return to normal.

The old thing of sitting with your head bent over between your knees is an "old wives tale".  AND should you faint all that happens is you fall forward on your face.-------calling

L&H's sassy

IllinoisLady

Well Cam.....where are you. It is not going to get above freezing here today at my house. Had to pour ice out of the dogs drinking container and will have to go out later and buy one with a heater ( only heats enough to keep the water from freezing ) so they can keep drinking when needed. They do have a heated doghouse and dude to much cooler nights I turned the heater on about three weeks ago at least.

Anyway......I'm just teasin' you know. I know where you are and it is likely colder there this a.m. too.

Glad the Dh's are home.....even if being a pain in the petard. Just something us to keep the home-makers on their toes.

Chevy....I love the cat.

Lilli

duckyb1

Chick....you can do this...when my husbands had pancreatic cancer and he was cut from the top of his chest to way below his navel I thought, how will I ever chance this dressing.....it was bad.....the in incision was bad because they needed the room to explore......check for additional tumors, and remove 1/3rd of his stomach, gallbladder, 3/4 of his pancreas, the duodenum, and part of his small intestine, and immediately re-connect everything......imagine the size of that incision.....it was called Whipple surgery, and few surgeons were skilled enough to do this procedure.........

I did it, and you can to..........I know what you mean about him wanting to do things.......You can't keep a good man down....

Chick...question.......is he was at work, won' this be considered a Workman's Comp case......if so, I think that gives you 80% of your weekly salary.......

After my husband went back to. Work, instead of letting his partner get his tool box out of the "gang box" one day, he lifted it........caused a hernia near his incision, and 2 months later had it repaired.....he was covered by WC.his paycheck, and the surgery..check it out.......hugs

ChickaD

Hi Miss Duck.....Yes this should be workers comp, but I know nothing about that....good to know they help with paycheck! 

duckyb1

chick.....yes anything that happens on the job regarding injury is covered under WC.......now that is as long as an employer pays into it, which is a law....they usually have to send their payment for all employees every 1/4, which is 4 times a year.......admitted some try to get away with not sending it in, but they will get caught when someone gets hurt......most pay it, at least a good employer will......

Now your husband has to report the accident to his superior, then a form is completed..........when ever you get hurt on a job, you should report it right after it happens.........well within reason......even if you think your ok, because, if you don't they can say it happened after you left work.......you may never go to a Dr or hospital, but you always report it......,,

My husband got 80% of his weekly, pay bi-weekly......not like full pay....but 80% is very good.....sometimes the paperwork takes a little time! but you still get paid retro from when you left work.......

Make sure you check this out........make sure he reports it.......make sure he fills out the injury report papers.....good luck.....

sas-schatzi

littlegoats, how ya doing? Glad some of those things helped. There's so many other ideas from all sources. I tend to pop off with the ones where people tell stories about what they forgot or went wrong. Like powers out , lots of canned goods and no can opener.........or like lots of wood , but it's wet.......Me thinking my  bath garden tub was a hurricane reservoir----water leaked out.

The fires of 1998 were so bad all summer long, I did the laundry basket trick. Wrapped up precious things in socks and clothing. Those baskets stayed ready to go for a couple of months.

Weather stuff is so fatiguing. I've gotten to a point with hurricanes that there's a basic laying in of supplies at the beginning of summer. Upgraded house protection after Floyd in the late 90's. So, my list is short to get ready. Spookie might agree with this, the news channels keep the story going 24/7, so, learned to check only every few hours. Otherwise it feels like we're heading towards Armeggedon. it just saps energy. Hope your fairing well.

Chevy, and Di, and Foley????????

duckyb1

chick.......google Ohio WC.....good explanation.......

I hope I am not coming off as a "know it all"..........I rarely give advice to anyone considering myself not an expert.........but when you said "no pay" for me that sent up a red flag......just know what we do here in Pa, when my husband had gotten hurt in work.....

Now with his surgery for PC, it was entirely covered, but under his health insurance with work.........not WC because that was a disease that happened.....

But the hernia surgery was covered by WC because it happened as a result of picking up his took box, which was heavy, and caused the injury which was the hernia......

Hopefully I have not confused you.....just google Ohio WC...

luvmygoats

Sassy - I know about the bathtub. I need to get one of those flat rubber stoppers because my tub does not hold water. I am not a tub person so haven't used it in years. I do bathe the dog in DH's LOL. The design of these is horrid - indents in the center. Talk about hard to get in and out and that was 10 years ago pre-Femara.

Yes, wood is very wet but very old and seasoned. Have fire starter log and those baby ones that are kindling. Lots of long Bic lighters. Newspapers galore. I think we are OK, talk that freezing rain is less likely more sleet/snow which is better. Made it to SS/worship service but DH does not want me to return for Missions dinner tonight. We'll see.

Our first home burst a pipe while we were at work (1978). DH knew it was frozen, came home at lunch which was 30-40 min. drive to find water running out front door. We stayed with DM for 2 nights while water was off, then a week or so with bare concrete floors while Steamatic dried out the carpets in a big warehouse. Worst "ice" storm I recall. Now snow we get pretty regular, of course everyone remembers the SuperBowl 2011 with ice falling from Cowboy Stadium.

ChickaD

Thanks Miss Duck  ANY AND ALL info is appreciated ALWAYS!  His boss is aware of accident and they provided the hospital with all their info.

Miss Sassypants...thank you also for your good info on care!

luvmygoats

Chickie - Hog tie that man to the recliner. NoNo chop wood. I hope you have someone that can do that for you - son, BIL, uncle, best male friend.

I did not know the paycheck help with WC. Good to know.

Julianna - hope your DH is doing good and his checkup up tomorrow is Mahvelous.

Teka - sorry for the family illness. Prayers from here. Come back soonest.

duckyb1

Chick......great, just make sure he also notifies Ohio State WC board that there was an accident on his job, because any and all bills, and pay checks will be paid by the state.....you will do nothing but get a check......everything else they handle.......direct payment to Dr's, Hospitals, etc......

Shellshine

I’m reading four pages of posts with a word document side by side so I can read and respond right away. Super cool.

Illy – love your pocket flowers!! Di, LMAO at “jowls are now by the sides of my mouth!” Quarter – just love love love the literary coffee, precious.

Dagnabit, Cammi needed me in her pocket, and now Blondette does, I was WORKING so hard and missed it.

Dwilly – at least I can be in YOUR pocket. The reconstruction surgery is much easier than the previous one, especially since you know what to expect and can be a little better prepared. You will heal much faster physically. Emotional healing may take a bit longer, .... I'm 6 months out from mine, doing really well, and so will you. Then there's nipple tattoos to think about....

GG, where was it 86 degrees, girl? It’s 72 right now!!! We are COLD. Shut up Chevy…. But oh, Chevygirl, just love your neighbor profile: “about them being brainless, air-head animal keepers, who couldn't take care of a flea! Nor did I call her a raggedy little twit who only cared about running around.” Priceless.

I just love this side by side writing!!! Here’s a picture:

Oh shitshitshit Dana, I gotta quit reading everyone’s posts and go straight to Chicky’s last post. Crap, Julia, DVT’s, and he’s in Wisconsin. I just PM’d you and didn’t know. Ok, first need to get through this eye surgery….they saved his eye, thank you God. Oh Chicky and Juliette, you must be soooo worried…..and Teka.

Julia, so hopeful that DH can possibly make it home on Weds. How long is the flight? Very good to be on anticoagulants, you can rest easier. When he gets home make sure he gets checked for coagulopathies: protein S, protien C, lupus anticoagulant, Factor V Leiden, anti-thrombin 3 deficiency (my dx),anticardiolipin antibodies, etc. I know you are worried.

Chickster: you are one tough cooookie and there is NO DOUBT that you can do this. One day at a time. I'm praying for both of you.

My DH fell again and rebroke his arm. Needs to have another surgery and hospital admission next week. We qualify for free health aide services from the VA so I am going to get them in place beforehand. My work is going well, long hours but rewarding. DS comes home in 4 weeks, really miss him.

It's a sunny cool day - the first sunny day I have been off work in ages, so enjoying the peace and happiness that brings. Love to all, you are deeply in my heart and thoughts

Michelle

ChickaD

Its AMAZING what love can do......I put the drops in John's eye for the first time because he keeps missing with his depth perception being off.....then....

I threw up...lol !

Chevyboy

I thought I was HERE! Nope, guess I wasn't....

Just trying to stay warm! Yes Shells.... Neighbors.... aka twiddle dee-dee and twiddle dee- dum are still home as far as I can tell...They are supposed to go for a week.... I mean like yesterday, but one of the little people was sick.... so they are supposed to be going soon???? Don't know if they even know..... So I will see if any lights are on tonight, if not, I will go over first thing in the morning.... I don't know how they survive over there! They are both college graduates, but the "she" talks so slooooooow, that I sometimes finish her sentences.... Ha!

She couldn't figure out why the eggs were cracked! She asked.... "do you think they froze???" Well yes, my little absentofabrainneighbor....I think they froze! Kind of like laying a warm egg on an ice block you think? Damn!

I mentioned that WE would help them set up a tarp around their coop, and to put up their warming lamp.... so she said they are doing it.....

Hell! Why not wait until one of them has 4 legs up in the air? Oh wait.... they only have 2.

So I'll go stomping over there in the morning.... food for them all... even Tuna for the cat! She better be in the garage in a warm bed.... She just won't jump our 6 foot fence to come into our yard.... She and Lacee like each other, but she likes her home.... cause she doesn't know any better, I guess....

So Shells Michelles is cold? It's WHAT? 72????? Are you kidding me? And you are cold? You don't have any blood. And DH fell again? And he won't be home for 4 weeks...? Somehow that doesn't sound right.... did you lose him again? You miss him? Are you talking about DH or who? Just kidding....

So where is miss Camera and 44444444444444??? Off today? xoxoxoxo

IllinoisLady

For all those taking care of Dh's now and in the future:

Lilli

4sewwhat

I'm here lurking! Been working on laundry and general picking up. Starting to really stress the upcoming holiday because one way or the other I have to deal with my mom. Everyone will be miserable if I give in to her AGAIN and drag my family over there to sleep in the floor and then be told everything that is wrong, in detail, with every single member of my family, and if we don't go there will be hell to pay as well. Damned if I do and damned if I don't. She really has taken all the joy out of any holiday or birthday for me. Sucks because my kids pay the price. I would invite them here but don't want to hear about my house. Doesn't matter if DH is in a sling and I have had 2 surgeries, chemo and rads in under 6 months. It would be a bad reflection on HER.

Ok, pity party over some of you have much worse stuff going on! Sounds like things are getting better for the husbands and they are holding their own. Onward and upward!!

Wren44

Would she stiff the kids at Xmas if you don't go? What if you decline and say you're not feeling well enough for ___ days of criticism? If you don't go, I suggest caller ID for your phone--or letting all calls go to voicemail and only picking up if it's someone you want to talk to. How far away is she? Would it be possible to go and not stay overnight? I can't imagine trying to sleep on the floor with an arm in a sling.

Shellshine

Quattro - DON'T GO THERE! Stay home and be happy with your own family. Your kids only get one childhood, let them enjoy theirs. If she makes a fuss - let her. Pls don't let her vengeance manipulate you - do what's best for your own family.

I have a good mom who has a streak of that. Very loving and wonderful, but there was a time when I wouldn't have anything to do with her because I couldn't handle it. We've both gotten older, and she needs me more, now, so it is a lot better. In fact, I rarely experience that with her anymore. Every year one or another of us kids gets on her shit list and we just wait it out, but come to think of it, I haven't been on that list for years!!

Yes Chevy - I meant DS is coming home in 3 weeks! DH will have surgery on 12/6, be in the hospital about 4 days, then DS will be home 3 days later on the 13th.

4sewwhat

I tried the day trip thing. She bitches about that too. She is about 175 miles away. She doesn't care how I am feeling. She turns everything into something about her. Even my Dx. And she certainly doesn't care about DH. I don't have to worry about her calling because she has a "rule" the younger generation is supposed to call the older one, so I sit all day with my stomach in my throat until I call and get it over with. My kids keep asking why I bother. I tell them I am trying to be the bigger/better person. Yes she would stiff them. Thing is they don't care. They usually get something practical, which is fine, just not every kids dream gift! Last year she wanted to see them open their gifts because it was actually something they asked for. She would not come here spor mail so we ended up driving over Christmas eve and driving home Christmas day. A friend came to my house and put out the gifts, turned on the tree, etc..so the kids knew Santa came. Even though they are not supposed to believe in that any more according to her.

Like I said doesn't matter what I do, it will NEVER be right. I accepted that years ago and realized I would never be more than a constant disappointment to her. My dad chooses to sail on her boat, so.... It's their loss really. These are their only grand kids except for my nephew that passed away and my Neice that lives in Japan and doesn't even speak English, so we can't talk to her. There is a huge custody issue so my brother can't bring her here so we have never even seen her.

Sorry, just having bummer day. Doesn't happen to me much! The Holidays used to be my favorite time of year but that got spoiled years ago. Need to buck up for the kids though. We have a lot to be thankful for and celebrate this year!

4sewwhat

Thanks Shells!

I don't know why I keep going back to beat my head against that same wall! There have been many times she has quit speaking to me. She didn't even see my daughter until she was 2 months old because she was pissed at me. She can hold a grudge like nobody else I know. Her mom died and they were barely speaking over stupid shit. She is happy being miserable and happier if she can take everyone there with her!

Sorry abou DH's arm. Ughhh one more thing! Great news your DH will be there though. Sure you miss him lots!

Di2012

okay....today I am Cheetos Cheese PUFF or a banana flavored/colored marshmallow......I am yellow bruises everywhere, almost down to the foobs....

I do have a little of my favorite color...purple....on my neck & face ....rather wear it with my clothing choices...than my face

4sewwhat

I think they make gingerbread flavored marshmallows this time of year that are about they color you describe!

The color will fade in no time and you will be even more beautiful! And no matter what colors you are on the outside, you are still the same wonderful spirit on the inside!

I'm so jealous too. Need serious wrinkle cream and something for crows feet here!

Chevyboy

44444444444444444 You will learn, maybe when you get older, that people, no matter who they are, aren't worth all the stress they cause you! I would NOT go around, or even better, have them come over! You can meet who you LIKE to meet.

I grew up hating Holidays.... for maybe different reasons.... but the men got drunk.... the women cried, and the kids were just....... there! It is no fun. You don't have to do it! YOU don't "owe" them anything..... think about it.....

We don't have to compensate, and make ourselves miserable, to "take care" of others feelings!

Your family deserves to be happy. I would go out.... or stay home alone, and the hell with everyone else. Things won't change..... like you can't change her..... You just can't.

I used to get a sick stomach thinking of my drunk Dad coming over.... or even going out with him..... I even talked to a counselor where I worked..... HE said, "Have you ever told him how you feel?" I couldn't.... I couldn't do it when he was sober.... because I loved him and I was chicken.... But when he was drunk, I hated him.

That's okay too! If they act like a$$es, you are not required to be in their company! I don't care if it IS your Mother....! Sometimes relations are not worth the breath you use to tell them how much they hurt you.

Spend all the rest of your Holidays without those who make you miserable..... I'm sorry...... But I know how you feel....... It just plain hurts, and makes you mad.

But it's up to you..... Take care of your family..... no-one else.

Chevyboy

Oh wait! Di! It's you....! So what's this about being yellow? Okay, then it fades to ..... well...... skin color....Ha!

I don't have crow's feet.... just a turkey neck...Ha! I mean a chicken neck.....