STFU (Shut the F*** UP)

Chevyboy

flat13good

Me in my younger years of stupidity well maybe not that stupid Thanks for my morning laugh it means a lot.

Teka

In my younger years I helped friends close the bars in the wee hours of the morning.

Oh to be young again and climbing Fool's Hill.

duckyb1

Shell, sorry to hear about your husband........hope he is feeling better today..........dealt with drinkers part of my life, and I know it is tough to deal with.....my step- father was a drinker, (a wonderful loving man, and only Father I ever knew,) until he lifted that first glass.......living with that was awful....The one thing I made sure of when I met my husband was "he did not drink", at least not in excess.......I could never have dealt with that, regardless of how much I loved him.............I watched what it did to my Mother, and vowed it would not be my life.

None of my children are drinkers, nor their spouses, but I have a couple grandsons who somtimes go overboard, and I don't like it.........but it is at weddings, or some special event.......but they are what I call "happy drunks when they drink".............my father was a nasty drunk, and it was quite often, then became "a way of life for him".....….......my poor Mother......she gave birth to me, my biological father left us and not sure he ever wanted us.."(she took that secret to her grave)..........it.was her and I till 14, then married my step father................once he became a constant drinker after several years her life became pure hell........"she deserved better....When my father died she said to me........"I know he was a "pain in the ass"...........but he was "my pain in the ass"...........she died a year later of Colon cancer.........

So Shell I am no stranger to it, but just wish you the best.........not PREACHING girlfriend just lived it, and I know how tough it can be........and how it affected my thinking when I was young and choosing a mate..........it scared the hell out of me........so take care of your good man, and I hope he recovers, and this seizure is nothing serious......a seizure, even 1 is bad enough...........had that too dealing with an epileptic daughter.....hugs

4sewwhat

Don't have time to address all personally, I have been keeping up though. 3 Doctor appointments today though. Done with rads tomorrow, so I can catch up then

Sorry everyone has been having a rough go of it. I blame the time change! Or the alignment of the planets, or who the hell knows. Something is out of whack.

Hi to the new girls. I am the quiet, reserved one.

Flatsy, hope surgery is going well today!

Be back sometime ladies, until then hope all continues onward and upward.

4sewwhat

Teka

I've seen it all now.

4sewwhat

Thought Chevy and Cami would appreciate the rooster!

Teka

Cock!

marywh

Oh Shells Im so sorry about dh. Is he ok now? Wish I could say 70 was brrrr. We are getting really cold for us today, low 20s tonight and not out of the 40s tomorrow. Maybe some snow flurries tonight as well. Yuck. Rehearsal dinner went well. They had a cash bar for those who drank. No alcohol was served at the wedding, but there was quite a lot of brown bagging. Everybody behaved themselves though. We had such a mixture of people, my side of the family didn't drink at all due to lots of alcoholism in the family, her side drink like fish, minister was evangelical, so you know they don't drink. But they had it in their cars, so it was all good. Nobody knew anything and nobody got out of line. My feet still hurt from dancing ha-ha. Next time I just wont move my feet!!!

4sewwhat

Fly!!

HI Mary, wedding sounded like fun. I love to dance too! Hope this chemo is kinder and more productive for you.

Shells, sorry about DH. Hope he is on the mend!

Out the door...................

duckyb1

Mary...sounds like a nice time......

Funny story....you might remember my Chicago trip for my grandsons wedding.........my daughter had to do the rehearsal dinner at a Chicago restaurant.....,,very classy place........never saw so many people at a rehearsal dinner in my life....and I had 6 weddings.........not like back then.......her family not only the ones in the wedding, but their spouse, kids.........it was crazy. While relatives of ours who came all the way from Phila., Pa went out to a restaurant together, except of course the ones who were in the wedding.......and they were fine with that, and knew they would not be going to the rehearsal dinner......

Well anyway......her side of the family drank like fish......it was a disgrace......the Hostess when my daughter went to pay the bill said....." I have never in all my years at all the affairs I run, have I seen a bar bill like this"...........ready for this........the entire rehearsal dinner cost $4,000, and it was 48 people......we had tops 15 people who attended from the grooms side.

The woman told my daughter....doing a flat rate bar bill would have been better, then per drink.........my daughter said........who knew they were lushes.........I was floored when she told me......

Sad part is, had they come to Pa, for the wedding, my other daughter could have gotten them in the "ballroom" where she works, as a wedding coordinator and saved my daughter on the rehearsal dinner 25%, send my grandson 35% off the wedding cost.

But she was from Chicago, and he moved there for work 3 years ago, where he met her, she had the larger family (although she is an only child), so we got the expense of traveling.........worse yet, many no-shows on her side, and some gave no gift, and one gave her a repaired xmas plate from 1983 right on the front of the picture............the cost of the wedding per plate was $150.00......they paid for the wedding.....wanted nothing from my daughter, cause her parents were not paying anything......so she gave them a very generous gift which covered a huge part of the wedding cost..........90% of friends and family from our side did not go! but still gave a generous gift..........not that you judge by the gift! but "no gift, or a mended 30 year old plate..........oh well shit happens....

Just saying......

marywh

Rehearsal dinner was not as expensive as we thought. A lot of people left due to the fact that rehearsal ended an hour early and nobody with small kids wanted to wait an hour for dinner, so we got out of it for less than a thousand, which is what we were expecting..We covered the minister and gave ds and dil a choice between a honeymoon and catching their bills up for a wedding present. They chose the bills and still got a wedding trip to St. Augustine next week, so it worked out for them too...

duckyb1

Mary......sounds great.......such a wonderful gift for them......your a good Mama, marywh.........they like my grandson are very fortunate.....now you relax and be good to .......MARY.......

camillegal

OK I have to ask Ducky. a 30 yr old mended plate--was it an heirloom of some kind? I mean who would do that for anyones gift for anything??? It's so bad it's funny. But I can imagine growing up with an alcoholic that had a bad side would be horrific for a child, my dad always drank but not during the work week just on the weekends but he was so kind anyway and sweeter and no one minded and he wouldn't drive, all he did was go to bed if he thought he drank to much so it never concerned us.

444444 U'll be done with rads tomorrow YYAAYY--u seemed to do pretty well, at least u'r attitude was good, but glad that's over now tell us how u feel. U'r always so busy, I don't know how u've done it all.

Shell I'm so sorry what happened to u'r husband how scary. Well if anyone can take care of him u can-that ways he's lucky. And we know u'r busy but pop in when u can and keep us updated.

Hey Chevy next time u chickiesit bring a rooster in and see what happens---that would jazzy up the chickens and thro the neighbors for a loop. Of course get the cock out of there before they come home.

I'm busier during the day now, so can't get on so much and my eyes are so tired at night.

duckyb1

Cam......I was 14 when she remarried, and for years it was fantastic...he fell on personal hard times and it turned that wonderful, sweet, loving man into someone we find not recognize. He could not handle job loss, which brought on my mother being the bread winner......he could not deal with that......sad...

Heirloom, who the hell knows, but the Bride was not happy, but laughed like crazy when she shared the story at dinner the night after her wedding......we stayed 2 xtra days to be with them.......

Take care dear...

Wren44

SAS, It has happened 4-5 times, always with nausea. I have learned to kneel at the toilet, not squat. If it happened at other times, I'd be into the doc's in a flash. They said it was harmless unless I hit something fainting (like the wastebasket, which gave me a black eye). Interestingly it didn't happen when I was sick after my mx.

Chevy, No pacemaker for me. Sas asked if I had one. They've only taken things out, not put things in.

Ducky, if I was hit with a $4,000 bar tab, there would be articles in the paper about the bride-to-be who died at her rehearsal dinner.

Shells, hope your DH recovers without a concussion.

Mary, The wedding sounds like a lot of fun. Hope your new chemo treats you gently.

Hello to all those I didn't address personally. Hope you all have bright spots in your day.

chabba

Shells, I was the one with the PET.  Small mass in colon, scheduling a colonoscopy.  1 cm spot in lung, follow up in 3 months.

Brother  married Bridezilla in 1978, 2 weeks after our Mother died.  I had no access to what little money Mom had so DH and I had to front all of the Groom's expenses, Brother had champaign tastes and a beer budget.  She left him when she discovered he couldn't keep her in the manner she was accustomed (less than 6 months).  She came from a very wealthy family.

They were married at the Episcopal Cathedral, the priest expected a significant gratuity.  DB was allowed a Best Man but the rest of the attendants were her family and friends.  At the rehearsal dinner the grooms family and friends consisted of Best Man and wife, DH and I.  She had 40 of her nearest and dearest.  Since I was coming from a distance and was still dealing with Mom's loss she insisted on "making the arrangements" for the dinner.  Naturally she chose one of the most expensive resstaurants in town and had an open bar and wine with dinner.

duckyb1

wren.....that was the entire cost of the rehearsal dinner...not just the bar tab....but still ridiculous......she ( the Bride) is so sweet.....expects little....I really blame my daughter for not saying the Wedding Party only when she hot the number , which would include readers, people bringing up the gifts ( catholic service).......spouse of the wedding party is not necessary, more their kids".......of course parent's of both would be there..............."they invited me....I said....I don't belong there....I will go to dinner with my other kids who came to the wedding.......grandson insisted.........not sure if the Bride ever heard what the entire affair cost, but again! my daughter did not want to say no to her son, and had no idea how much her family drank.....not the Mother, but the mother's brothers and sisters and their spouses.......ridiculous.

Chabba....thank heavens they are so happy....she worships him, and he is an amazing guy who treats women like Goddesses, even his Mother (my daughter). He learned from the best...my SIL, who is 1 in a million....love the guy.....".

Sad what happened to you, and they were wealthy............in dollars and cents........certainly not kindness and consideration.........

IllinoisLady

Stopping in to say hi today at one of the neatest threads ever because in-between the fun it is so informative. I think it was Chevy who said that be between thanking you Sass for being a wealth of knowledge along with Shell, or Wren....oh well count me lost sometimes. I just think it is great here.

Lilli

Teka

4sewwhat

Heaven Help Me! I have 4 kids to marry off! At least only one is a girl.

sas-schatzi

I just got up from a nap and have to catch up, BUT

Just got off the phone with Flatsy, she's being wheeled into surgery as I write this for her deconstruction. She's very happy to be having them off. She's happy to be here with all the crazies. She will check in tomorrow or after.

marywh

Today was youngest ds 22 birthday. Decided to spend it with gf. So that saved me from big family dinner...I cant believe my baby is 22.Chemo is alright so far, nothing major, just the usual steroid-rage. Its dropped about 20 degrees in the last 2 hours brrrr snow flurries in the forcast for tonight, but I wont be running to the window to look for them...I need to be in Hawaii with Shells where 70 degrees is brrr weather

Teka

Flatsy, this evening & night be comfortable & on the mend.

sas-schatzi

Wren going to PM , so, many questions

Spookie, so, it was a moment in time and no problems since?

Di, yes, love all the vibrating shiatsu stuff. Probably the foot is the most used. I can use it on my back too. I like it better then the chair sometimes. The bed vibrating is a mixed bag. Sometimes it interferes with getting to sleep, so off it goes. The position change is GREAT when reading a book. Especially in the Harry Potter days b/c I'd start and not stop until each were finished. Dh would bring me all my meals in bed. He was so sweet.

Chevy yes, the vibrating changes the tinnitus. Wish it would take it away. Ever notice how it gets worse  when you talk about it. There have been a handful of days since it started that were tinnitus free. Those quiet days were so delicious. and wonderous. I definitely need to reset the right. Oddly the left is quiet,

Ha, I know about Bantam chickens. Brother was given some as pets when he was in a wheelchair after polio. Goodness they were noisy. No one messes with a Banti. But they used to sit on his lap in the w/c and they would just let him pet them. I remember thinking what an odd thing to give as a pet.

Mary, after all the worry, just delightful that you had so much fun. How did the farm/cowboy/western theme come off? Are you going to be able to post pics? Wedding costs, they always seem outrageous for two days.

Shells , so sorry about DH. Everyone said it well. Wish it were different. Wish we could make our wishes come true.

Chickers  glad Herceptin pain subsided. I'm into a fibro TBPP. Fentanyl is even failing me.  Is yours behaving?  BTW loved the pic of Cooper. Is he still ruling over Tasha and Samantha?

Jackie thanks Hugs, you're always so sweet, it's appreciated.

$$$4444$$$$ Miss you, know you're busy

Teka

Maybe someone can post a Hawaiin photo to warm the bones.

I don't know how to post photos.

marywh

You know me and posting pictures, but I'll try the next time dd is over. Wedding theme actually was pretty nice, although I really didn't like the bridesmaids dresses at all. They wernt very becoming with the cowboy boots. Dd and a couple of others looked good in theirs, but a lot of the girls were a little heavy, and they just didn't jive. Decorations were really cute and the s'mores were a big hit. Instead of a wedding cake she had about 12 different flavored pound cakes. As much complaining as I did it really was a nice wedding. My feet are just now recovering,ha-ha.

Teka

sas-schatzi

The count down to T_DAY. If it works out. There will be 7 from USA, 1 from France, 2 from England, 1 from Australia, 2 from Canada. The ones from France and Aussie land aren't for sure. Won't know for sure till closer till the day. The one from France is cousins BF. Aghhh he's a chef. it could be a great thing or I'll fret over it LOL.

Short, quick, easy, make ahead at beginning of Season, amount generally last for all of season, depends -- appetizer recipe: Jezebel>>1 jar 16 oz apple jelly, ......1 jar 16 oz--pick one either orange marmalade/ apricot preserves/pineapple preserves.....I jar 6-8 oz unprepared horse radish.....1 heaping tablespoon of freshly smashed peppercorns. Pour all into mixing bowl , mix with fork till blended, use paper plate as funnel and pour back into bottles. Keeps in frig for months.  To serve place half a brick of cream cheese in a bowl(little larger than a cereal bowl), pour jezebel over to cover and around the sides, serve with different crackers. The cream cheese blends well with the hotness of the jezebel. People that like hot things will love it. If they don't, don't bother. Do half a brick at a time b/c leftovers look ugly. Also, can be used as a baste on chicken, turkey, pork, fish. Oddly, as a baste the hotness of the horseradish doesn't come through like it does uncooked, but very nice.

The toilet will be on the deck. Given up hope for the holidays. So, it will get decorated