STFU (Shut the F*** UP)
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Just "mowed" the Fairy Garden...
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And my Fairy Candle, from Sass....
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Oh Ducky what u said is so true---if i don't move at all-I'm somewhat normal-the minute I move my body my back, side legs, one shoulder and one arms (an dmore) feel like I'm either being stabbed or punched constantly, so what does that mean more laziness for me. ick It's crazy and this crap about u'r body getting used to it is crap to me--my body has crumbled and can't fight the SE's anymore.
Chevy u'r garden is so lovely, u should be proud u take such care. and pretty soon it will be covered in snow, oops did I rush ur winter to u. Those little scenes are so adorable.
Spookieranfromjob wow u really left in a hurry, but I understand totally. I planned on working til I was 70 then retire and my pension would be better as would my SS but---this stupid disease changed my long range plan and screwed me good. I knew exactly what I'd make in a month and I knew I would not be rich but I could get by--I loved 3 of the women that I worked with and we still see each other and talk alot nothing has changed that, but I hated my job--not just the stress--no one in the higher jobs knew what the hell they were doing ever. Rember I worked for the state and their jobs would change every 4 yrs and hardly anyone ever worked for the state beforehand they all had different type of jobs, then all of a sudden they wer made bosses not having a clue what or how to do things and yet make decisions so it was always a mess--I'd see so many coming and going after a while I just ignored memos and worked the way I wanted to. Thank God I loved my GF's and did get along with everyone but it was a nightmare at times. But I knew I had to work. well I'm way retired do not miss my job--see and talk to my GF's all the time, but much less money and that hurts. But everything could be so much worse so I shouldn't complain, but I do enjoy complaining especially if Chevy is reading this.
So all in all we pretty much have a lot in common because of all this crap pumping into us altho it killed the cancer somehow it managed to do alot of other things along the way that totally changed our lives, not the way we wanted---but what can we do so just go along with it and make the best of it. Whoa I'm getting to serious--don't like that so much.
Well we're supposed to be --HAVING A HEAT WAVE, A TROPICAL HEAT WAVE--sound familiar? It's to late now pools are closing, kids are in school coming home wet just from the bus ride home. hahaha But winter will come with a vengeance this year---but I'd rather have snow that all those thunder and lightenting storms which are much scarier. Can u tell I just took my pain meds. hahaha Maybe there is one nano of a steroid in there IDK.
OK how is everyone? I hope everyone is dealing OK with this stuff u'r going thru and can have a decent week-end.
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Yeah - commuting costs, eating costs and I think I pay at least one Starbucks employee full time all by myself with coffee/tea/etc on a daily basis!!! We'll be eating rice and fish for the foreseeable future
and I'll totally stress over money, but it's all OK. If things really get desperate I'll get creative and hopefully sell something or other. I just know I can't keep going the way I have been for much longer. Everything is too painful and I'm tired all the time. If cancer didn't do anything else for me (and it didn't) it did make me look squarely at what is important and what isn't. Time with hubby is important. Everything else - not. -
Chevy
sassy
S-p-o-o-k-I-e no way to work a deal on the retirement? How long ago? -
Oh little Cammi! WHAT do I have to do to get your mo-jo back? I'm so sorry little honey, about your job.... I just know what you mean, when you talk about your gal-friends, and then some of the OTHER ones. We all have those in our life. People to bring us down. But if we can survive THEM, we can do ANYthing! I have been retired since September of '99.
I miss the way my job was when I started.... I miss the "family".... they were the best.... And I always wanted to go to work! My gal-friends made it all so much fun! The folks I gave tours to, made me so happy!
But it all changed.... It all changed mostly after I was re-tired.... but I still have all the fun memories.
Oh, by the way.... Man, I hurt like hell today... But I got out there twice to dig holes to plant my Mums... and put the mulch down, and put flag-stone pieces out front. My left leg hurt so bad yesterday, when I pushed the clutch in when I was driving, I was sooooooo glad to get home! So tomorrow I'll rest.
I KNOW I'm older... But I'm not old enough to just hang up the fun things I enjoy.... I guess I don't hurt so much then. Ducky is the old one! JUST kidding! I love you Ducky.... You and your fun, crazy personality.... You are such a little scrapper!
You guys, I'm so sorry you are hurting..... and having to go through chemo.... and all the other stuff.... Wish I could help you more....
(((( my hooligans)))) xoxoxoxo
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I think we all must hurt like heell this week. Ixempra truck still running me over every time I sit down or get up. Dont have anything interesting to talk about so I will just lurk....
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For everyone in pain, Dr. Susan Love's foundation is funding a study of the collateral damage from BC treatment. I think she's getting an earful. Of course, she had a bone marrow transplant for leukemia or lymphoma, so she already knew.
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Hi hooliegirls, will read your posts later. Just want to report that my mojo came back today and I've gotten my butt off of the couch and started working on projects, cleaning up this falling apart house and job hunting some more. Feels good. I will catch up will all of youse this weekend. April - REST. All my sisters who are dealing with side effects of treatment - my thoughts are with you with hopes for moments and hours of peace and contentment. Michelle
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Shell I'm so glad u feelin' good with some energy--Keep it up girl
Now about me--I had a horrible headache and I thought I know what I can do to cheer up my bad feeling I'll come to SRFU and relax and enjoy some fun, even thos there are so many here not dealing well u all still have a great attitude---Then I saw it, yes every part of it another picture of a CHICKEN my eyes started throbbing more, my head was as if I was banging it against a wall, the pain was extending down the back of my head, I felt woozy and sick to my stomach--I came here for comfort and what happens a CHICKEN even a cartoon makes me shiver, the little hair I have left on my arms are standing up all 6 of them. My back immediately went into a spasm knowing what I looked at and it was spinning in my head. But I did look at it knowing I could scroll down shortly and loose the sight of it altho not the image of this horrendous sight of a CHICKEN so I had chicken nuggets for dinner--yummy with honey mustard sauce. BTW I had no headache or feeling sick CHEVY--it didn't bother me in the least bit.
Oh Chevy what would we do without u, u brat.
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Gumby, Lived with post polio for decades, did okay. Drug free. Valium when neck and TMJ misbehaved. But learned how to deal with it all(total body pain) decades ago. Then the AI's came. Quit Arimidex After 7 1/2 months. Femara after 3 1/2 weeks b/c it right away was showing it was going to do the same things as Arimidex. Aromasin I think 2 years.
I had a shingles shot I think aug 31st 2012, within 24 hrs low grade fever, abdominal pain that I still have problems with, Neuropathy of forarms and lower legs which lasted for 3-4 months. Everyone denied any connection between a vaccine and Aromasin. But 4 days after the onset of the symptoms after the vaccine, I quit aromasin.
I wasn't going to risk anymore damage. Overall there is residual damage from AI's. But I think I was lucky that I quit when I did versus holding on. Technically by law, any s/s that occur within two weeks after a vaccine, the docs are required to report to the county health department. The reports supposed to include lot number. County required to report to State. State reports to CDC. Didn't happen. Should have done it myself. I was pissed off at the time.
Glad Dr love is taking action cuz the FDA is dead on the subject as it seems most docs are not listening.
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Oh, the quit/retire thing got even better that day. I was a school bus driver with insane hours. The incident with stupidvisor happened about 4:45 AM. I had all morning while I was taking the kids to school to think.
So I went to the retirement desk, told them I wanted to retire. They asked when? I said NOW!!!! To their credit, no hassles. Got all the papers, got a manager to sign. No way did I want to see stupidvisor again. I'd probably deck her. Got the bus back where it belonged, told the time clock to F off, I was done. On the drive home I felt a great weight lifting off me.
I had 23+ years in the state pension system, one of the top 5 in the country. I was able to start that right away. I was also, thank goddess, to keep the same medical insurance as all regular employees have. Not COBRA, but had to pay full price. Almost 600 a month, for me alone. I sure spent a lot of their $$$$ last year.
I was 61 when this went down had to wait 8 months before SS started. It was rough. I'll be 65 in a few months, so can use that $$ at Publix, LOL!
I do miss my co workers, still have contact with a few. I don't miss the BS that goes with the job. I don't want to work any where. I'm happy playing doggy mom to Spookie and Kris. -
SPKYSMOM: Stupidvisor....Thanking Goddess. You rock, girl!
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Spookie, soooooooohappy, you got your retirement and your pension. Never to have to work for what sounds like a bully again. To many companies allow bullies into management positions. These types are such classic manipulators. It will take along time for things to change. Bully bosses are only being recognized as a problem in the workplace in the last few years.
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This is a fairy tale story: I have permission to tell the storey, infact she's wants it told all over hoping it will help others. A BCO friends' company changed pension management funds. When she onlined regesitered, her name kept coming up in her ex married name under a car company. She looked into it. Her ex husband died in 07. He never took her off as beneficiary of his pension. She will now receive a monthly check for over 1000$. Back monies due are about 80K. Serendipity. Social Security should have notified her. It's being looked into. The car company is doing the same. It was in the divorce decree that she would relinquish rights to his pension. The final paperwork step was never completed. I.E. the form with her signature saying she reliquished rights. Hidden money
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Gumby , please, let's talk about needy.med.org There is a section about different organizations to apply for assistance. Needymed.org is a bit difficult to navigate. Pm if you'd like help using it. For those uninsured or underinsured it can be a tremedous resource.
Chevy try tracking ebay--fairy candle site. They also have fairy living miniature furniture etc. I love your creation. I watched Fall tv previews last night. There's a new show in the fall called "Once". It will have lots of magical things about Alice going down the rabbit hole. The fairy next to the ice castle, so pretty, so pretty
I so wish I could have been there to go through your treasures that you were selling. The mirror if you don't hand it down to the kids, I'd love to buy it. It has to be special if you won the employee art fair.
Your hx at Coors was/is such a special memory. Hard to believe you've been retired since 1999. Didn't coors get purchased by a foreign company? My brother tells me Yeungling is the only major beer producer still american owned in USA.
Cami, this is a pain free day. So, I'll be writing allot today too. Doc agrees it's okay to have a couple a week, she's so understanding. Your storey about clueless pass through managers. It's so rampant. Kind of a take off of the Peter Principle. Google definition I don't want to misquote it and inparticular the nuances of definition. May be I'll wiki it
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Cammi, you are so full of shit!
It was NOT the picture of that cute little chicken that made you go nuts... It's that what-ever ELSE you are taking! You HAVE to know when to say when funny face! And so you ate chicken nuggets? Those aren't even chicken.... those are made with Spam and flour.... or something. I laughed my butt off, sitting here, reading your exploits.... How did you even spell everything right? But I LOVE reading what you say... Makes me think you are feeling better. The ONLY reason I post a picture of a chicken, is to make you feel better............. so it must be working!
And Sassy... I have that mirror hanging in our Living Room... It was just something new at the time.... cementing ceramic chips/dishes around mirrors, etc. I even made a little coffee-table at one time using plaster of Paris, and broken dishes! But that damn thing was so HEAVY, it was hard to move.... except with your shin... Everytime I hit it, it WOULD move.... It was pretty, but not something made to be shin-level...
Or around someone as clumsy as me.I'm really not "selling" anything, just giving away a lot of kitchen ware that I don't use anymore.... like BIG bowls, pots and pans, baking stuff, etc.
This is a fun place to get Fairy Garden ideas.... Mine is pretty full now, so I don't have room for anything else.... Unless I make another one..Ha!
Spookie, I'm so glad you told them you were leaving! I used to wonder to myself, "how old do I have to be before I will speak up, and tell them to STFU?" I never did, but I would now... Actually, I DO now.... but only to DH when he turns into his GRANDFATHER and attempts his bossy tirades. I turn around and just giggle! And say WHAT? Are you talking to ME? That ends it.
Good to see you Shells & Wren...
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Good Morning Hoolies----
Sas I know all about Peter's Principle--I have thought over the years that I had reached mine many years ago. I just settles for the truth about me. LOL
Chevy $$%^&*((*&^%$##@!%&*_ u'r chickens but that one has a puppy in it and so I can't get to excited about it. The puppy makes it cuteliest.U are very creative Chevy making a table that will certainly hurt u is very hard to measure --Kudos for the ingenious way u did it.
The weather outside is delightful so =, but turning super hot for a while so right now we're enjoying it..
My eyes are closing already, dam pain meds.
BBL
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Ladies I'm in a panic. Just got itinerary for my corporate meeting next week. CEO says 2 dinners are "a little nicer collared shirts and summer dresses are a good fit." I don't own a dress. Would a nice blouse and slacks work? And another thing WTH is bocce ball? We are having a tournament! Is it in door sport or do I have to bring hat?
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Bocce ball is an Italian game played for years by italian men in Italy and became popular in the U.S. years ago.........it is played outside...........similar to bowling, but played on a smooth dirt surface instead of a wood alley........the balls are much smaller and have no finger holes....
Bring your hat.....you absolutely will be outside.......have fun.......I say wear whatever is comfortable for you..........have fun........Google Bocce you ill learn more...... -
Gma - what the heck are you supposed to wear with the "nicer collared shirts"? I hope someone shows up in hot pants - now that's dating me - and a little nicer collared shirt. That'll serve them right. Could you pick up some pastel or brighter colored pants and wear with a breezy shirt? I know us women of a certain age don't/won't wear sleeveless in public and count me as one. I have bought a purply/pink with black top and wear it over black ankle grazer pants. I would think you would need something you could bend over in to pick up the bocce balls. Is it required that you play?
One thing is that all summer things are on good sale. Might be able to pick up something that will do for cheaper. I try not to buy things for an "occasion" unless very special to me - like if family member wedding. How about a gauzy skirt?
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I for one would vote for nice slacks and a top. I dont own a dress either, but I sure wouldnt go out and spend money on something you're never going to wear again.
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Gma, I think slacks and a nice top will be fine. Maybe a bit of sparkle jewelry to dress it up. I'm sure you will see some of everything worn. I think they are trying to say no ratty jeans and t-shirts. They would have better luck if they just said that instead of beating around the bush.
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Alysonworldtraveler, safe travels. Have a wonderful time.
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Working on a project for someone on another thread. Came across this old post. It describes how to correctly transition from one drug to another drug in the same classification. Thought I'd drop it here too.
Jul 19, 2011 11:58pm, edited Jul 19, 2011 11:59pm by sas-schatzi
To all-have seen multiple posts re: which new thing is working. Just a phrase to add to all the other info that clogs our brains. A WASHOUT PERIOD. This is a time when you stop one treatment and start another. In studies, this washout period can last from weeks to months. It depends on the study or drug. 8- 12 weeks, in general, is an acceptable washout period.
What the washout does is prevent giving credit or discredit for a treatment response -- bad, good or no response to the new tx. Just as many responders have said, "I did 2-3 things different at one time, I didn't know which one is working". That's how a washout helps. When I quit Arimidex, I did a 2 1/2 month washout before starting Femara. When Femara started with s.e. within 3 weeks, there was no question in my mind they were attributable to Femara. Conversely, when the Arimidex sledgehammar hit. the s.e. were growing for a time, but then I started Celexa. The hammer further came down within 2 weeks. I chose to quit both drugs b/c I couldn't tell which one was the offender.
When we are so desperate for a response, too many things may be changed at once. If something goes bad like an increase in s.e which drug/tx do we blame. Again , conversely, if things go well. Is it b/c of all or only one. Are we then adding something to the regimen that could have been left out. Some may say, if it's all good who cares, I'll just keep doing them all. I get that. But all drugs have consequences, we may not be aware at first what they are, but long term could be a problem. . When we run to a new tx, this must not hurt us in the long term, i.e other system dysfunction years down the road. So, just a suggestion to try and leave a washout period between new tx's. I know it easier said then done.
Consideration of a washout or lapse time between new treatments will allow a drug or tx to be able to be given full credit or discredit for a change.
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Sas Good info for all of us--cuz we do switch drugs.
GMA--slacks will be fine like everyone said--and just dress up the top or have a dressy top either way, u'll be fine. If it;s really hot wear cool clothes too.
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For chevy
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Watch out you lot I am on my way to your side of the world.
This is the start of a very long Sunday. Leave tonight -its a 14hour flight and it will still be Sunday. TTYL
Big hugs.
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