The Hermit Club

Teka

Lily,You haven't had enoughhhhh if still going to have surgery.Think Positive!!*Hugs*

Teka

Mags, looking good.

Jazzygirl

Hi hermits- back from the hot springs and fun day with my friend. I am going to her house tomorrow for a little Labor Day BBQ too mid afternoon! 

This is where we went today. Jazzy really likes hot springs.

Teka

I would also like hot springs!

Jazzygirl

Teka- it helps for what ails you! My body needed this after all the moving around of stuff (still in progress) and a sore ankle that has been bothersome lately. I feel much better after being there. Fun time with friend was the best part of all.

Lily- I know you have your surgery tomorrow and hoping all goes well and you can get on the other side of this. It is very hard to feel good when you are going through the surgeries still. The further away I got from all the really hard stuff, the better things have become for me. I remember wondering at times if I would ever feel good again, would I ever enjoy life again? They answer is yes, but this stuff really takes away your joy for awhile. It will come back, just keep taking things one day at a time. We are here for you.

Mags- you look FABulous! If I did not know what was going on, I would not guess what you were in the throes of. You look very good in the photo and do thing the wig is very flattering.

Hot springs hangover makes jazzy want to veg out tonight.

camillegal

LOLJazzy I love when u talk about u'rself in the third person--what a beautiful day u had today.

Mags u are so beautiful, and the wig looks like it's u'r hair perfect on u. Glad u got out too. and Yummy.

Lily we'll all be thinking about u tomorrow and as dark as u feel it WILL end, u'll look back upon all of this like it's surreal and even forget what u thought u'd never forget. Lily when I was first DX my whole family (they told me later) thought I'd go into the abyss of despair---cuz I've had problems before and they hovered and I didn't want anyone to bother with me actually, no one went to chemo--operations where like just a couple of people and I'd get mad when they wasted their day. For some reason my inner self kicked in a whole other direction (good for me) but it wasn't anything that I controlled it just happened. When my Onc. first talked to me I said Oh good I won't be able to work for a while--I got a strange look---and when my BS first talked to me he was holding my hand and I said  damn when I retired I planned on being a stripper part time, now what am I going to do He let go of my hand and seriously said I don't know maybe u can still do tht???? That's why I feel so bad for u feling so down, I know the feeling but I got lucky that's all it was so tomorrow know  this is another step closer to being done with all this chit. I't a long process and not a fun one but it doesn't change the person u are. U are a woman that can and will be OK and no matter how u look u will be beautiful--So as soon as u can tell us how u'r feeling and please talk to u'r Dr about all this u aren't alone, they can help u.  

SallyS70

Lily, you are in my thoughts.  I hope you receive really good, kind care because you deserve it.

Mags, you look terrific.  i haven't tried the peach tea, but it sounds yummy.  I have been ordering fish tacos, but your meal sounds delicious and a must try.

Jazzy, are the hot springs near by?  Did you have it to yourself? ... there is no one in the picture.

blondiex46

Lily hate thst u r so far away,  wish we could help hugs, we r here when u get bwck on n tell us how u r

John so many questions would b glad to answer, breathe, no didnt feel ehen it went to my lungs or bones, just pain then

Thank teka

Jazzy blondie would love love love hot springs, thanks 4 the pix, so glad u r taking u time, have fun tomorrow

Mags u look awesone, cant tell that it is a wig

Cammie, yep I know xoxo

Hugs 2 all hope u have a nice labor day

Monis

Oh how I would love to soak in those hot springs!  

Lily, I will be thinking of you tomorrow.  Surgeries are always tough, but we make it through, and you'll have one more step behind you.  None of us will ever be our former, "normal" selves that we were, but we have to find ways to adapt and accept our new reality.  BC sucks, that's for sure, but life is still beautiful.  Sometimes it's just harder to find that beauty, but it's there.

Mags, you look absolutely fabulous.  That wig looks great on you.  Good luck with chemo #4.

Went bra shopping today - First time since my surgeries are all done (hopefully!).  What a nightmare.  I must have tried on 50 bras, most of which didn't fit right.  I really wanted to find a cute, sexy lacy bra, but that didn't seem to be in the cards.  I always seem to end up with plain, neutral boring bras.  But, at least they somewhat fit.  It's tricky when your two boobs are shaped different!  And then the shock, when you take your purchases up to the cash register to pay - Holy crap!  Why are bras to expensive?!  These things better last a long time!  Other than that lovely shopping experience, just hanging out at home for the holiday weekend, working out in the garden and getting some painting done inside the house.  Hope you all have a great, relaxing Labor Day weekend.

Jazzygirl

Good morning hermits. I just have to post this because it is so cute and will make you smile. For the dog lovers out there (and you know who you are!)

http://blog.theanimalrescuesite.com/happy-puppy-co...

Jazzygirl

Sally- the hot springs we went to yesterday are about 60 miles from here. An hour plus driving time and a beautiful drive too. My favorite hot springs are about 2 hours north of where I live, but not as good for a day trip. We are going to go back to this place, and do an over nighter there this fall to celebrate this friends 60th birthday.

You asked if there were others there and yes there were. We did the springs for 2 hours and the first hour there was a nice couple there, who were in from Odessa, TX and seem to spend a lot of time in NM. The second hour there was this cool homeopathic lady who had just moved here from Denver and we had a great chat with her. We went early and it was not busy so we mostly had the springs to ourselves.

I slept so well last night, and also have an ankle that is bothering me that seems better today.

magdalene51

Good morning, Hermies! Doing absolutely nothing today. DH has left the Star Trek marathon on tv and gone shopping with cousin. They love to shop together, they have a great time and always come home with interesting finds. Today it's Bed Bath and Beyond, so you can imagine. 

Jazzy, I can see a problem with the hot springs... I'd never want to leave. Our hot tub broke this spring, and with the surgery and chemo, we decided not to replace it until I was done. I sure miss it. I sat in the bathtub which has jets, and it's nice but so hard for me to get in and out of, even with the nice handle DH installed. I have to turn over and get up on my better knee and pull myself up. By the time I get out, I need a shower. And then exhausted the rest of the day. 

Monica, your experience with bra shopping is one reason I chose BMX with no recon. After spending a small fortune on bras that never fit properly, and carrying 44DDDs around all those years, I'm glad to be rid of them. Now if I could get rid of the Buddha belly, that would be great.

Jazzygirl

Mags- I never want to leave the hot springs but always remind myself I can go back to any number of them. New Mexico is loaded with them.

dwill

Hello, my hermit friends!  Been celebrating life.  I was taken off Anastrozole 6 weeks ago.  Felt a 100% better after 3weeks.  Bones stopped aching, my trigger thumb that was popping up to 6 times a day only pop about once every two weeks if at all. My energy level is so much better.  MO was very pleased but today I started on the new med Aromasin.  We are trying this out and hoping it will treat me better.  Oh yeah, my new PS has schedule my surgery to correct what the other surgeon did, as well as lifting my left breast and lipo under my arms.  Can't have surgery until Dec 17th because I'm teaching again and have only 4 sick days left, so I need to wait until my holiday break.   Hope all is well with all of you. Love you all!

Monis

Mags, I know about the Buddha Belly all too well!  Sometimes I regret not doing a DIEP, but the whole concept kinda grossed me out at the time.

Dwill, glad you're feeling better - Hope it lasts and the new med treats you well!

Just hanging out at home today for the holiday, Hermit Style!  Did a little gardening and house cleaning.  Got this year's garlic harvest all trimmed up and stored in mesh bags, and had a big pot of tomatoes simmering on the stove for sauce for the freezer.  Back to work tomorrow, blah.

 

magdalene51

Nini Hermies.

Monica, I am green with envy at the bounty of your garden. Mine is a failure this year. Everything died.

I'm in the chair tomorrow. Wish me good blood.

Lily55

think time zones confused things as surgery was yesterday and everyone was really kind. It was a rough one over four hours, and i feel really hungover today.  Last time had local in areas touched as well as general, yesterday no local so sore today. 

I see lots of people on Aromasin feel joyless.....but there is another 8 years of ALs for me and no doctor, even naturopathic will agree to me coming off them, anti deps dont agree with me, have tried various ones........i dont just sit in a chair but make myself do things, but nothing reaches me

Jazzygirl

Lilly- so you are on the other side of surgery? Are you in the hospital or home? I am glad you were treated kindly. Rest well and hope you will be pleased with the outcome. 

Keeping you in my thoughts for a good recovery and better days.

Jazzygirl

Cami- this one is for you.

Lily55

i am home Jazzy, bit bruised and battered.......but i just feel like i am going though the motions in life emotionally....... I remember feeling like this on Femara, one reason i was changed to exemestane, i dont tolerate normal anti depressants but will look for natural alternatives like tryptophan

Jazzygirl

Lily- I am sure you are hurting from the surgery, and am sorry to hear this. I hope you can rest well at home and know your support system is not ideal, but hope you have what you need. I am glad you are through the surgery though and on the mend. You will get better.

I know that feeling you speak of (going through the motions) from the hardest times during my medical care. I remember feeling that I might never feel good again either, I was pretty convinced at one point I might not. But the further I got away from things, the better things got and continue to improve to today. 

It just takes time. So just keep taking it one day at a time for now. That is the best any of us can do during times like this.

Bippy625

good morning Hermettes! I have returned. i've been lurking but not posting and I'm glad everyone seems to be doing okay.  I also love all the pictures of your beautiful bald heads!

Thanks to everyone who sent me encouraging messages when I had my mini meltdown last week. After my second chemo on Friday I basically slept for the next 48 hours. I was fighting the fatigue at first but then I thought what the hell I have nowhere to go nothing to do why not just give my body what it wants?

I'll be doing this in the future- listening to my body- I feel so much better today.  I'll try to remember that I will have setbacks and not let it drag me all the way down into that deep dark hole. All those beautiful vegetables have made me want to go to the store and get lovely things to nourish my body and soul. 

Teka

Good Morning Hermits!

No going down the rabbit hole.

Stay in the sunshine.

Jazzygirl

Teka- bunnies! I love bunnies!

Bippy- sorry about the meltdown, it does come around for us all sooner or later. I am glad you are letting your body rest. It is taking the lead as you go through this and trust it's wisdom. I hope you feel better as the week goes on.

Jazzy is getting her stitches out this afternoon. Can't wait.

OncoWarrior

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Teka

Jazzy, stitches out?

Onco, No!

Lily55

No there aren´t any here otherwise i would go to one.....Jazzy how you doing?

Mags how was the chair today?

Jazzygirl

Hi ladies- stitches are out! No pain with it either. The nurse who removed them said everything looked very good, no sign of any concerns, etc. She told me to let the stitch openings close over the next day and then I can get back in the pool by tomorrow night. Yay! I have so missed swimming.

I go back mid November to see the derm to have her check things to make sure everything is healing, then again in 6 months, then yearly after that. I made my apt for the 2 month today and will see her 11/14. I will have a very thin scar from the looks of it, but nothing that will be visible with my hair that will cover it. I feel fine and thank you for caring folks!

Onco- I have not ever done a support group here. I kept my bc diagnosis and treatment private for professional reasons (and that has continued to this day). It sounds to me like maybe it has served it's purpose and you are ready to go?  You can always talk to the leader and maybe ask her what the best exit strategy is. I do think it is good to find a way to say goodbye so people don't worry something happened to you if you stop going. 

Hope everyone is having a decent day! 

OncoWarrior

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Jazzygirl

Onco- no pictures!