The Hermit Club

Jazzygirl

Monterey- please feel welcome here. I have been on this site since last Nov and we have some longer term people here like Teka, Cami, Blondie, Skittle, etc. Some people have moved on, they got what they needed from here or may be taking a break. Skittle does still post here from time to time. We try to support one another here, we have a few laughs, we have sad days together too.

camillegal

Monterey Skittle still posts but she's working so we know she doesn't have the time she used to and Markat works too so we understand and yes we have a gentle side we always have but there's nothing wrong with some laughs either sometimes it's what we need. but if someone is down and feels sad we watch over them completely and yes some people move on because they are not at the same stage they were in and that's a good thing. And some of us are still here, it' not that we don't talk to people it's just that we might still have issues not daily bit in part abut our feelings of being alone and we like it. We're a mixed bag of nits as most are here and most other threads but we still care for everyone coming in and bless them if they ,leave. So of course u do whatever makes u feel good and seek out the right threads for u to share, there are so many.

duckyb1

I have not been here long enough to judge...."1week is hardly long enough", however the ladies I do know from other threads that are here are the best....."

Teka

MontereyRobin, slowly back away from the keyboard and post on a thread or threads that leave you feeling warm & fuzzy!

Members of the threads come & go for whatever reason.

I am sure you'll not be able to resist coming back and reading our posts in reply to your post, sweet dreams ;o)

bgirl

Some of us don't post as often, on any thread. I still come back to this one and even though I am not on as often I will often think of you lovely ladies. Hi to JO from tami SE thread.

Cami, glad you seem to be a bit better again, always worried when you are not posting as much.

camillegal

Bgirl u'r so kind, but there are day I don't even feel like posting, just cuz I don't feel well, but It comes and goes with me a lot so I'm used to it and I'm fine with all this. I just like to see u post that's all.

lizlori

Hi Everyone,

My surgery is next wednesday. Sorry I haven't been on here for a while, been busy between appts and going to Lacrosse (wi) last week was busy. I am also trying to get the house in order, my sisters are coming to stay with me a few days,(DH is leaving for hunting) so it gives me a good reason to clean. Cleaning is booring.

Teka, I am hoping that your diverticulosis gets better. I don't know much about it, have known people with it. Its one of those diseases that can really alter ones routine, and then not always easy to discuss.

There was discussion about "friends" not being available during out journey. I am working on resolving my dissapointment by just accepting this. It seems like a waste energy to be angry all the time about it. I discovered that some people can even be quite cruel......those types somehow didn't learn compassion growing up....maybe they will have a crisis and will "get it" The good thing that comes out of this cold creeps is that I realize who really does care about me.

Bounce----last week you requested a link regarding a posting on another site.....the posting was by a person who goes by ispiredbydolce (sp???) The post talked about ways to handle stress and overall emotional turmoil.....sometimes taking a break from these boards, doing something good for yourself. For me, I watch the flock of birds at my feeders, they seem so happy, as if they are having a party. When I am struggling, its an hour by hour deal. Sometimes I just need to get out of my head, and go shopping, cook or read. I would like to somehow get into a routine of coming on these threads. THe only time it is hard, is when someone passes......

I have learned so much, and sometimes it is crazy how I can't seem to get a straight answer about things from my onc, but then come on here and I get the help I was looking for....Oh and there have been many times when I was busting a gut reading a funny post, or seeing a cool picture.... I hope everyone has a good weekend....Lori

camillegal

Lori u said next Wed. do u mean the one coming up on the 30th? We'll fet the UFO sparkly clean and be there even if it's in spirit only we will be there for u.And now u have to post cuz maybe we can help u somehow. We're here Lori u know that so u do what u can to keepbusy as long as that helps--do whatever u need--it's u'r time for fussing about YOURSELF.

duckyb1

Lori.....3 years in Feb 2013 for me........when everyone else (all well meaning family and friends) went on with (life as usual).....these wonderful ladies got me through the (no everything is not ok days).

How wonderful is it to have "best friends", yet if they passed you on the street you would not know who they were..........that is why I come back each day........

CCFW

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duckyb1

CCFW....""that is exactly what it is ......."fun talk"..........

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bgirl

Cami, Love back at ya! Been taking a course called "The Healing Journey", Meditation, etc. Lots of interesting conversation on dealing with our own thoughts as well as with others .... this week was "letting go of resentments". People with all sorts of cancers and at different stages both in the their cancer and their healing/acceptance.

I always come back to this thread. whether funny, sad, happy, worried, lol .... it doesn't matter ... most are gentle here, especially compared to some other threads .... I know that people are being real and genuine with each other. I do think of you all ... I imagine Markat having a great time with her girls, Jazzygirl standing up for herself at work, our teachers imparting their knowledge to others, your love of the world, whether with animals or birds or flowers, Cami's fun pics .... the support and compassion that is there for those who are having a tough time or going through treatment ... I always think of the amazing bunch of women I have "met".

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camillegal

CC hahaha my name is Camille--I'm no spy nor any legal eagle just me

Bgirl I'm glad u r doing some things just for u. It's good.

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duckyb1

Smoking.....no.......drinking.......no......eating the wrong things.......GUILTY.......too busy raising 6 kids......no time to drink or smoke........Sorry......7.......if I include the biggest kid.......my husband....

camillegal

CC I watch person of interest----but that's certainly not me. hahaha

Oh to think about the older days of drinking all night and just doing whatever and never thought about later on in life--well especially when my parents lived long lives doing what they wanted. But we were drinking wine when we were young, my dad always thought it was good for u and he drank his red wine everyday and lived to 96 and my sister still has her 1-2 glasess of red wine everyday after work--She's 74, works full time Stage 4 since 2007, but I don't only because I get a headache from it unless it's really expensive wine, which is not in my budget LOL cuz it doesn't have all the additives in it.

FireKracker

GUILTY----smoking yes...still smoke 1-2 a day

Drinking NO...stomach would never allow it..

Eating the wrong food....GUILTY...I was a junk food junky....it was hard givin up the sugar...

Not to mention how many times I quit smoking.

Jazzygirl

Hi Hermits- checking in on this sunny Saturday morning. The weather here is lovely, and I plan to go for a walk down near the river to see the cottonwoods in their full golden color as well as whether I might see or hear any sand hill cranes. They come to winter here, and are very alluring to those of us who love nature. If I manage to get a good picture, I will post it here so you can see the real visual.

Lori- we will be here and waiting to hear from you after your surgery. I am sure you have lots to do to be ready to go, and know cleaning is a drag but having your bedroom comfy as well as good food in the fridge for when you return will be helpful. My surgeons always told me to do a more high protein diet after my surgeries last year, it will help with your healing.

And about those friends who come and go, life does have a way of showing us who cares by those who show up and stick around from diagnosis, through treatment, and afterwards too. I have had folks who have been present through treatment, but now seem very absent from my life. Like Granny says, people help you, but then do move on and our moving on process is much longer.

One of my epiphanies from all this is that one should really spend time with people who care about you. There may not always be a lot of those people around when you need them. Like many have said here, it is why we come here because it is a place where we are understood in a world where people are just afraid of the whole subject. I have learned to trust how I feel around people more, and just don't make excuses for people anymore. Not everyone is capable or willing to support us through our journey.

Teka

Doctor got me back on smooth pavement and feeling better this weekend.

Remember in 2012 Walmart staying open on Thanksgiving and not waiting for Black Friday.

X-mas shopping 2013 can only get worse (

I do enjoy roasting hull-less pumpkin seeds on Halloween, and pigging out on a delicious Thanksgiving meal.

duckyb1

gotta believe when it's your time, it's your time.......my husband died at 57........special occasion drinker, which were not that often......same with beer....with his crabs, or pizza...also not that often.......not a smoker......hard working construction worker,..........died at 57

Father ate a hoagie almost every other night (nitrate lunch eat).....if the crabs were small he even ate the shell.....not a lick of exercise..........the Mother......heavy, no exercise, loved sweets.......

The father died at 103 1/2, only on Valium for BP, and 1 bad knee...........

The mother died at 96.......had a massive BC tumor in 1980....mx, no chemo. Just Rads that was it....no recurrance......broken hip at 90.....replaced without incident.......bypass surgery at 92....survived..

Want to tell me the good Lord doesn't take you when he wants you.....

When your number is called.....you go......

Teka

I thought at 1st you met he had crabs, not ate crabs ;o)

I am going back to my perch!

duckyb1

Hey Tek, anything is possible...lol

Jazzygirl

Ducky- I agree with you about when it is your time, you go. I have lived through some things that quite honestly, I never expected I would like rolling a vehicle on black ice (and walked away without injury) and a ruptured appendix (which I walked around with for three weeks before they figured it out).

Likewise, I have watched a number of friends and family go early in this lifetime due to any number of things. I have friends who have said to me "I want you to get better and live to a ripe old age" as I went through treatment. Maybe their goal for me, but I am not looking for quantity but quality of life. Because our life expectancy has increased in this country, many thing they will live to be 80, but no one is guaranteed to make it to old age.

About alcohol, my med onc said to limit the drinking. I know some women who just don't anymore. I have lost a lot this past year and/or had to give up a number of things, so I try to find balance with these recommendations. For me, it's about enough sleep, good whole foods, exercise, time to read, mediate, do yoga. I am happy with the simple things.

duckyb1

jazz.....and in the end isn't that what it's all about.........quality.....that is what I say every night when I toss down the Femara.......Is this what life is about.......live longer.......but is it quality of living or just existing through the SE's of living longer.....This is existing........I did not realize how much I did, till I no longer could do it.......but I push everyday waiting for that one day when I don't have to refill the "Devil Pill"..........

FireKracker

I should be dead now too.

But

I also believe that when ur time is up that's it...the good LORD turns the page and calls ur name.

I lost 3 friends in 2months...I wanna live my life doin the things I want to do...

Just tryin to be stress free...yeah right!!!!

It's gonna be freezing tonite...and I don't no if I'm getting a cold or it's my sinuses acting up

Cookin chicken soup...Jewish penicillin...

Lily55

thank you everyone, i feel in a strange world, and currently have partners family over, finding it tough, nine people to deal with when i would choose to hide, having said that we have had some good times, not staying with us thank goodness as no room ........but i feel sealed in a bubbke where nothing quite reaches me and i seem to think about nit being alive every day