Let's chug on over to mamby-pamby land

Anonymous

Ducky, you had me also looking in the dictionnary - for masochism, but I'm not wasting my time.

JBinOK, some Viktor Frankl quotes for you:

"Only to the extent that someone is living out this self transcendence of human existence is he truly human or does he become his true self. He becomes so, not by concerning himself with his self's actualization, but by forgetting himself and giving himself, overlooking himself and focusing outward."

"The one thing you can't take away from me is the way I choose to respond to what you do to me. The last of one's freedoms is to choose ones attitude in any given circumstance"

duckyb1

Luan................you go girl..................and Amen to that..........Sorry Blue Dahlia, we did it again..............

Bren-2007

JB .. in my case, you are right.  I did find a tremendous blessing in all the friends I have made.  I've been very fortunate to make lifelong friends outside of this website because of the friendships that were started here.  So I am blessed in that respect.

What isn't a blessing is the fear that came into my life with cancer.

Bren

Anonymous

There comes a time in life, when you walk away from all the drama and people who create it. You surround yourself with people who make you laugh, forget the bad, and focus on the good. So, love the people who treat you right. Think good thoughts for the ones who don't. Life is too short to be anything but happy. Falling down is part of LIFE...Getting back up is LIVING...

Bren-2007

Thanks for the reminder of the serenity prayer.

Bren

mspradley

I have considered myself a victim a few times, and at other have counted my blessings or have felt blessed by the outpouring of support.  I have also found myself at all other points of the spectrum that JB described.  While not everyone has been as tactful as possible (please don't infer here), I have been able to identify with every single post made.  Cancer didn't define me in one particular way because I'm not that one dimensional.  My only stand would be that I won't see cancer as a blessing or gift - it doesn't have that power for me.  However, I can recognize the blessing or gift that has resulted in the generosity of others and personal presence of God as I do what I can to overcome this dreadful disease.

I did see on a FaceBook status once, "If you believe that cancer is a gift, then you are not invited to my next birthday party!" 

duckyb1

mspradley..............love that Facebook saying,,..Words to live by.

Ellie1959

mspradley - I've been waitin to chime in but you it better than I ever could. I have learned a lot about myself and other's after my dx - while not a gift -it is an attention getter.....,

Beesie

I'm so confused!!!    

We're supposed to embrace breast cancer but we're not supposed to marinate in it. Is there is way to know when the embrace has been going on for too long, to the point where it's considered marinating? Is it a specific number of days after one's diagnosis or from when one's treatment ends?  I think I do understand the importance of not seeing oneself as a "breast cancer survivor" because that's just a tricky disguise for "marinating" in your breast cancer, right?

We're supposed to view breast cancer as a gift and be grateful for the blessings that it has brought us but we're not supposed to whine about the losses that we've suffered or problems we have because of breast cancer. Really? We can't whine just a little bit, and only when we really really feel like crap?  Not even then?

We're not supposed to take offense at the trivialization of breast cancer but it's okay if we point out to those who do that they are bitter and whiney and bitchy and wasting their lives.  We are not offending them; we are helping them see the light and become more fulfilled.   

We need to remember that taking offense, complaining and whining is a "chick thing" and that's bad.  But isn't embracing kind of a chick thing too?  So shouldn't we be fighting our breast cancer - that's a manly thing to do - rather than embracing it?  It's so confusing!

Obviously I missed the seminar on "The Correct Way to Deal with Your Breast Cancer".  And if there was a handout, I didn't get that either.  I've made so many mistakes!!

Yet despite my failures, I still have my sense of humor (or humour, to those of us in Canada).  Is that allowed? 

AnnNYC

Beesie, a sense of humor is allowed only if you spell "humor" correctly, and only if you are laughing at people who didn't consider your insults a "joke" !

Anonymous

Beesie, are these the instructions u're looking for

Marinated Chicken Breasts

 

• 1 to 2 tablespoons vinegar, like cider, balsamic, or red wine
• 2 to 3 teaspoons dried herbs, like thyme, oregano, rosemary, or crumbled bay leaf
• 1 to 2 tablespoons mustard, whole grain or Dijon
• 1 to 2 teaspoon garlic or onion powder, optional
• 1/4 cup extra-virgin olive oil
• Kosher salt and freshly ground black pepper
• 4 boneless, skinless chicken breast, each about 6 ounces

Directions

Put the vinegar, herbs, mustard, powders if using and oil in a large re-sealable plastic bag. Close the bag and shake to combine all the ingredients. Open the bag, drop in the chicken breast in the bag. Close and shake the bag to coat evenly. Freeze for up to 2 weeks.

Thaw in the refrigerator overnight, under cold, running water, or in the microwave at 30 percent power for 1 minute at a time.

Heat a grill or grill pan. When the grill is hot, place the chicken on the grill and cook for about 4 minutes per side, or until cooked through. You can also bake the thawed chicken in a 375 degree F oven for 15 minutes, or until cooked

Alpal

Beesie - you forgot women are back stabbing bitches. Well, even if you are a BSB, I'm glad to see you posting!

Anonymous

Blue nailed it perfectly, again.  Thank you.

Anonymous

delete

Anonymous

Notice the word bras in the French translation.

bluedahlia

Congratulations.  You can now take your show on the road.

Anonymous

Beesie, my old pal

So glad to see you've joined us.  You're one of the old timers here as well as the expert on everything. (this is the part where you'll all join in and tell everyone that we like having old timers here and that she is filled with so much vital information that we can't help but stand up and applaud her.  I just stood up myself.  Keep on buzzing.  Bzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

pil

I agree with Bessies post.  I have to say well written.  Frankly, Alpal  whether you spell humor the American way or HUMOUR the British way, Bessie's post was still entertaining. But, she did not misspell the word. 

Anonymous

Do you see how much good I've done here?  I put a big smile on all your faces.  Isn't it better than being all sad and depressed?

Anonymous

Bluedahlia, I keep looking at that handsome guy on your avatar.  Is he a relative?  If so, could you introuduce us.  I'm available for a drink this evening.

bluedahlia

JBinOK last seen 36 minutes ago.

Anonymous

Where are the moderators! 

BarbaraA

I think I have to go puke.

Anonymous

For all you gloom and doomers I give you the following:

hymil

Luan should we not maybe have some asparagus in the recipe??

Totally agree that MindOverMatter has a real talent for graphics even if not always to my taste, i'm wondering how she got the one of my CDQ sister in the pink robe. I thought they were all destroyed when lightning struck her house. Wait now, perhaps she is my CDQ sister -OMG

Anonymous

nurse-ann, we're being big girls now.  We don't have to raise our hands and tell the teacher that I'm being rude, especially when it's not true.  Now, pull the sides of your mouth up and SMILE! 

Alpal

Well, I just raised my hand. Reported your original post because calling all women on here back stabbing bitches is a rules violation. Actually, I don't thing that's the worst thing you said, but it was and is a rules violation.

Anonymous

Alpal, shame on you!

Anonymous

Woueeee someone has been drinking too much



If anyone needs translation i,m an expert and fyi

mindoverthere the word "bras" in

the french version of our national anthem means

"arms"



go to bed, u have just crossed the line and this is

the last time i,m stooping to your level

Anonymous

Just wondering out loud I guess why these moderators are hovering over some threads and not others.