INSOMNIACS place to talk in the wee hours

JunieB

Oh Dear Me!

Tonight has been quite the night. Earlier I decided to do some gardening/weeding. All was going along fine until I was finishing up. I had a spasm in my right thigh and my new hip dislocated, and I fell face first onto the sidewalk. Excruciating pain.

Taken to hospital and they knocked me out and put the hip back into place. Put a brace on it and discharged me home.

Took taxi home, and as I tried to get out of the taxi, my hip dislocated again.

Back in Emergency waiting for more x-rays and they're calling my Ortho surgeon. It is now 3:00 a.m.

Haven't eaten since 11:00 a.m. Friday. So hungry.

JunieB

Oh Dear Me!

Tonight has been quite the night. Earlier I decided to do some gardening/weeding. All was going along fine until I was finishing up. I had a spasm in my right thigh and my new hip dislocated, and I fell face first onto the sidewalk. Excruciating pain.

Taken to hospital and they knocked me out and put the hip back into place. Put a brace on it and discharged me home.

Took taxi home, and as I tried to get out of the taxi, my hip dislocated again.

Back in Emergency waiting for more x-rays and they're calling my Ortho surgeon. It is now 3:00 a.m.

Haven't eaten since 11:00 a.m. Friday. So hungry.

susan3

jazzy, oh my goodness . So sorry, I actually thought it was impossible to do that with any replacement. Wish I was right. Then you would be fine. Hope you get pain under control. Prayers your way.

I now won't say anything about falling off my bike yesterday.

Jazzygirl

Gracie- I am sorry to hear about your diagnosis of the bone mets. I live alone and no family nearby, and dealt with my initial diagnosis on my own. So I understand coming from a place of being alone and coping with not great news. That is why this site is so great, because it is a place to talk to others about what is happening and as you go through your apts about the next steps.

I also understand not wanting to burden others, and am sure your children will be scared for you too. We sometimes worry about other people's feelings around this when we need to put ourselves first. Cancer has taught me that. Were there any friends who were there for you last time that you can share with and who may be able to give you a ride, etc? Friends that are proven to help during tough times?

I am not sure where you live, but many cities have groups that can offer resources to help cancer patients. They may have counseling available, people who can give you rides, etc. Ask your cancer center or oncology office if they know of such programs in you area. There is also an organization called Cleaning for a Reason that helps women with house cleaning whom are undergoing cancer treatment. Here is the web site in case this may be in your area too:

http://www.cleaningforareason.org/

I agree with others here who have suggested you search around for additional threads specific to bone mets. When I was going through initial treatment, I was on surgery threads, rad threads, AI threads, etc. There may also be a thread for women who are widowed and how they are getting through too. So many great resources here.

We are glad you are here and sharing your news so we can offer some ideas as you adjust to this news and prepare for your treatment plan. Let us know how else we can help?

GracieM2007

Jazzy, I live about an hour from the town where my onc is. Last time my husband was alive and he took me to all of my appointments. I have friends who will help I think. But I also live in a very small town and there isn't anything here for help. There aren't any support groups other than Church. And most of my girlfriends are on the stay very positive bandwagon and really don't like to hear anything negative. But I have all of this fear and anxiety and sometimes just have to talk to somebody about it. I'm so grateful that there were women here last night to talk to but also feel that I was kind of imposing because no one wants to talk about negative things. I get that. Thank you for your support. I did finally get to sleep. I hate that I got so down last night but it is what it is I guess. Thanks again, and if it happens again late at night and I can't sleep (insomnia which is why I came to this thread) I'll try to find somebody on the other threads. Thank you to all three of you ladies who offered support, I really appreciated your time and just having someone to talk to helped a lot. Blessings

Teka

I am 5 pages behind, but answering sas-schatzi questions about Teka on page1251.

Sassy,

Teka is our spayed 7 year old maine coon cat.

Daughter chose the name "Teka" which means "angel of death" before I was Dx with BC.

She's more on the small side but dwarfs other cats.

Loves to play fetch but not a lap kitty.

But content being an indoor cat.

The following 2 public posts are from the Smaarty *Cats, cats, cats* thread.

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Jul 31, 2016 09:40AM - edited Jul 31, 2016 08:38PM by Teka

Teka trying to sleep in this morning on our......no her suitcase! ;o))

Jul 31, 2016 09:46AM - edited Aug 2, 2016 10:08AM by Teka

Teka claimed our suitcase last Summer and it has remained at the foot of our king size bed.

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Anonymous

JunieB! Are you home now or at the hospital? You didn't hit your head did you? Your poor face.... that must have hurt. I hope the cement didn't tear up your skin or chip any bones or teeth. Gah! I scolded you about walking to tbe bus and the danged cab ride took you out instead of home 😔 I am soooo sorry..... I jumped out of your pocket too soon.

Can one of the ER staff bring you something to nibble on? I would think that they would have some crackers or some such stashed away somewhere. Especially if you are taking pain meds.... you need something in your tummy!

I am praying your hip can be easily fixed and that your pain is properly controled. Wish I could be there to bring you some food and something to drink and to hold your hand.

(((HUGS))) 💔

Teka

JazzyJuneBug, sorry, you must be in so much misery!

Anonymous

Gracie ~ There's no "rule" that you can only post in one place........ we are all here to share the sh*tty and the silly stuff. I was DX'd Stage IV from the get go Feb. 2013. My mets are all to the bone, from the base of my skull to halfway down my thighs and every bone in between. My MO has kept me stable all this time with meds, Zometa and rads. I haven't needed chemo and hopefully won't. The orthopedic dr who found the cancer in my spine told me I would "drop dead" in 6 months..... ha! I am still here and plan on out living the jerk by many, many years.

I would be so mad to have gone through BC successfully once before and have it come back so many years later. (((hugs))

Cancer sucks. We all have the days of tears, anxiety and full on panic attacks. All that "stuff" buids up inside and it needs to come out. Much healthier than keeping it "in". Every one here understands.

I'm married but spend most of my time alone. My husband was great in the beginning but seems to have lost most of his coping skills and empathy. You'll see I call him FFH... FartFaceHusband.

My son was a high school senior when I was DX 'd. I tried to keep him from worrying and wanted him to be able to focus on school. Over the past year or so, my son has become more involved and is one of my biggest sources of strength and support. He takes me to most of my appointments, consults, tests and treatments. He fully understands all that is going on with me now. Yes, he worries about me. Having the knowledge and sharing in this experience has helped him to deal with this in a more positive way. Not knowing all the details was scarier for him. Now he can share his opinions on doctors and such - which I greatly value - and he also understands when and why I need help. We have always been close and our bond has become even stronger.

Try talking to your son and daughter. They are adults and parents. With that many kids, they have to be strong! And compassionate. Let them into this "new" part of your life so they can understand and help you in whatever ways you need.

You are always welcome here! Please check in and let us know how you're doing.

Sending you thoughts of hope and healing 🌷

Smaarty

well, Evie is in Colorado, they're all settle in and her dad is already working at his new job. Chevy, they're in your neck of the woods now, so please keep an ear out. They're in Ft Collins.

She has gotten better about controlling her tongue now!

Gracie, I have no experience with mets but listen to the women here. If you read the tag lines you'll see that many of them are stage IV. It's not a death sentence anymore. Lots of options out there. I hope you have great docs. Come anytime, someone is always here.

Loveroflife

Oh you two!! I was waiting for you both to show up to chat with Gracie and I fell asleep because I am not an insomniac, maybe a maniac, but not an insomniac for sure.

Oh my dear JunieB, this is one of the times when we wish we lived closer to each other. What were you doing sitting in one position for so long when your joints are compromised and your body is still in the healing process?? Ok, that was a scold of a younger sister. And your poor face. Are you home? What are we going to do with you?

Gracie-- JunieB (aka Jazzyjunebug), ShepK (aka Annie Oakley), and Susan (aka the Iron Lady) only when she has things on her mind,are the insomniacs. Forward and I like to stay up late like teenagers, and can't get up in the morning. You are welcome here anytime. Please don't feel bad sharing your feelings, bad or good. We have a rainbow of people here.

Susan, you fell off your bike? Are you ok? Last time I fell off my bike I wasn't even speeding. I didn't see the curb. Good thing I landed on the grass. Such a clutz! And I wonder why both of my girls are clumsy.

sas-schatzi

Feline have a great vacay

Lookie in your pocket for today...........

Susie Happy viewing. Nice story on Pilates

Junie, the d-dimer is always positive in post surgicals, but I'm just not sure how long. So, a tough call as to whether it's a true positive.. The chemical measured is released by cutting tissue as well as when a clot's present. The ultrasound & imaging are the definitive. The insurance rule is that the d-dimer had to be positive to do all the imaging It was so stupid with post surgicals b/c it was an absolute b/c of the sx's that it would be positive. But that's insurance. the troublesome thing is the size difference in the legs, clinically that IS a concern until ruled out by imaging.....Just saw where you looked up the d-dimer. Thanks.

PATTYHOOTIE HOOOoooooooooooo

sas-schatzi

OMD ChrissyB. Life is like a bowl of cherries left on the counter. Hahahaha. Some good, some overripe, and some bad. Head isn't in the right place, but working on it. So, wish you'd stay. How you doing. How's the southland? How are the kids? Haven't kept up with you since your DD's wedding. DS steve is getting married in Feb. Lovely gal. So, any particular ESP thought's that I ought to be working on?

Strange you should drop in now. JazzyJuneBug is being worked up for a blood clot post hip surgery.

Junie meet Chrissy. She had a knee done a few years ago and the idiots forgot to put her on an anticoagulant at discharge and she got a clot.

Chrissy remember that genetic blood study I found after you got the bleed. I was subsequently tested and mine's abnormal. So, I know it if I ever need Coumadin/warfarin. I thought it sooooostrange that I found I was abnormal after looking for stuff for you.

How's your bones doing? Several folks here with bone mets too?

Please, even if you don't stay here permanently, Stay awhile. This is a nice place. It goes 24/7 now versus just at night.

Can you still call transcontinental?

Jazzygirl

Gracie- I have some other ideas for you, will PM you.

Wren44

Gracie, Don't worry about posting negative thoughts here. The best way to get rid of them is to share them with people who understand. We try to look on the bright side most of the time, but we've all posted when we're down and need a hand up. And there are lots of understanding hands here. Hugs.

Junie, I can't even imagine. I'm so sorry you're in pain, and hungry besides. I imagine you'll have to wait for food until they decide what they're going to do and whether you'll need anesthesia. Maybe you could have apple juice or similar now.

Jazzygirl

JazzyJune- I am sorry about your fall and hope you are better soon sister.

sas-schatzi

Junie, cool ultrasound negative. How far up the leg and into the groin did they go? Never too late for a guy that can mess up your lipstick Hahahah. I found Donnie when I was 62.

Two OMD's Jan69 haven't seen you forever either. ChrissyB was here today too. Nice that you lurk, but visiting is good too.

Lookie, say on clear liquids until the gas starts coming out. Ask for a stool softner and a fleets. Walk as much as possible too. The gut --intestines slow down with anesthesia & surgery. Nothing can speed up their starting to work after surgery. It's a tricky balance. The key is do everything in moderation. Sometimes the intestines just get real bitchy an go to sleep(ileus). That's why you want to stay on clear liquids till you start passing gas. Sometimes assuming the position in the bathroom on the commode helps the gas to come out, even if nothing else does.

Gracie sorry for such a troubled night. I agree with all the others. Call your doc today and ask for Ativan/ Lorazepam. It's the bestest. Well tolerated by most everyone. Never had a patient in decades that had a problem with it.

sas-schatzi

JUNIEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE CHIT......... Junie, there are activities that will cause posterior dislocation in hips. CHIT. Won't say more till you post what the doc says and does. CHITCHITCHIT.

GRACIE, never think you can't come here anytime. I think folks were just trying to say there are other threads too that cover the gamut of BC stuff. We are here 24/7. " Back in the day" when I started this thread it truly was an insomniacs thread. Sometimes when I'd come in the middle of the night everyone would be sleeping. I'd just talk away. Just me. About page 180 it became a 24/7 thread. So, even if no one's here at night, just talk and talk and someone will be here soon enough.

Hi Teka, I thought Teka was older. She is such a beauty. Of course she probably has a dozen years left. Cats are so resilient. Wished my Shats had that many years ahead of her.

Smarrty, Evie looks great

sas-schatzi

Well, we had some excitement here last nights dogs were growling and going nuts, I let them out. Flurry of activity. All I could see was a long tail. I thought it a Detroit size rat. The dogs killed it. Why an armadillo was at my back door dunno, but he's deceased now. Dini was so proud. Shats came and hid under the table after it was over. Donnie wasn't home.

WenchLori

Welcome Gracie! I also agree with everyone else here. I'm a day insomniac so in here mostly days. I'm so far behind that I need to get me a new notebook to go over all the missed pages and catch up with everyone.

I think everyone agrees that we'll be watching for you!

See?!

Anonymous

Susan - Oh No! I was so upset about JunieB I missed that you fell too! Are you alright? Falling is too scary with our mucked up bones. We should all be walking around with helmets, knee pads, elbow pads, shoulder pads....heck we need full body pads! I hope your damages weren't anything that a smiley face band-aide couldn't fix. And I wish there was a great big smiley face band-aide to put over your brother's mouth! Did you say he is a school teacher? Yikes! Elena's eyes.....ooh to know what it is she is thinking? You are going to have so much fun with her 💗

Lookie ~ So glad your surgery went well. Being tethered to the bed might not be a bad thing.....seems to be a lot tumbling going on lately 😶 Has the gas gone away? Simethicone should help, drinking ginger-ale with the "fizzies" stirred out helps too. Home tomorrow sounds wonderful 🌻

Wenchie ~ Yay for your first day of chemo being over and done with! May every treatment go as well. I hope you were able to stop "zooming" and get some rest. Those dressed up raccies were adorable, weren't they? They even looked happy! Purple is my fave too 😊

Smaarty ~ Evie looks about to have a burst of the giggles! Love to see the little personalty developing. My Uncle and Auntie started skyping with their granddaughter when she was about one. They visit in person several times a year and skype in-between. Very sweet, and very funny when DGD tries to "kiss" them goodnight 💋

Teka ~ Fetching kitties are the best! I've tried teaching mine but she prefers to play "attack". I made the mistake of teaching her "hide n' pounce".....now anytime my face is hidden, intentionally or not, I get ambushed by a spread-eagled splat cat! So embarrassing if I'm on the phone and she makes me shriek in surprise. A small Maine Coon would still be huge! Teka has such pretty coloring and soft looking fluff 🐱

Jan ~ Welcome! Thank you for sharing about your students. How heartbreaking to hear of the parents sacrificing their freedom and safety for sake of their children. As an ESL teacher, you have made such a difference to so many - proud to "meet" you! Hope you hang out with us some more! 🙂

Loverly ~ Sorry I left you alone last night! I actually was sleeping......again. I need some of that "zoom" of Wenchie's! Thinking about Mitzy and the leash..... I have a couple thoughts, let me know if you want 'em. My claim to "fame" is that I can get any dog happily to heel nicely on the leash in 15 minutes or less. 🐶

Chevy ~ I sent you a wake up call.........

you kids have fun!

that man does have such a sexy voice!

Hey Wren, Jazzy, Sassy, Jwoo, Eeyore, HiHo, Meadow and all the Owlettes !

Happy Saturday!

Anonymous

Dang Wenchie! Did Loverly give you that pic?

Sassy ~ I saw armadillos the last time we were in Orlando. That little guy in your yard had done some travelling! The wildlife experts think they will someday range as far north as SC. I think they look neat but have been told they are destructive to landscaping. And that they carry leprosy yet are immune to it. I don't recall if they all carry the disease. I hope you wore gloves when your disposed of it. At least the dogs didn't let it go in the house while it was still alive!

WenchLori

Oh my goodness! Pics of the sexiest man a live! I started warning my parents at about age 10 I was going to marry Sam Elliott so be prepared to move. Being a horse crazy girl, no one could ride like Mr Sam! 😂

WenchLori

Shep, a friend sent me the picture of the kitty. She made me smile as usual!

Chevyboy

OH!!! GREAT MINDS THINK ALIKE!

Did anyone notice "coffee" is spelled wrong? Who cares?

WenchLori

Smarty, what a beautiful picture of Evie! Just can't stop looking at her!

Teka, Teka is just beautiful!

My DS brought a beautiful black and white stray home, for me of course. She was oh so tiny! Every morning before work I had to check my sneakers to make sure she wasn't sleeping in them... As usual she was. I like to get a sense of personality from any critter I bring/comes to my home before naming them. She was crowed Sneakers. My DS had a blast antagonizing Sneakers when he'd stop by, so much so I had to hand him a broom to defend her off as soon as he walked in the door. It was hilarious and a game she loved to play with just Jon. He'd come in, hide in one of the rooms before saying a word. Sneakers would tear thru the house until she found him, then it was on! Sneakers slipped out one day before her spay date could be set due to her age. She got preggers of course. I was finding dead kittens all over the house, so sad. It felt like she still had one left, I took her to my vet and he thought the same thing. Induced her and sent her home with me, 3 days later no kitten. Took her back for ultrasound and discovered it wasn't another kitten. Poor Sneakers was born with only one kidney, she couldn't support herself and her babies. I spent a lot of money to save her, hysterectomy and kidney meds. Vet said to hold her close as she probably had about 6 months left. My Sneakers had 6 more years with me. A few months after moving her to Texas I lost her but no way I was leaving her behind.

We all love our four legged babies just like children. It's just pure magic

WenchLori

Chevy, I think it's a cowboy kinda thang??

All I saw was Sam myself ❤️

susan3

wowwww, got to go back and read everything. Ok...the fall was really a tip over. Having lots of trouble with cramping. Stopped at a street, I have a road bike, took my foot out of my clips, for all you who don't road bike, you are clipped into the pedals, so I unclipped, out foot down on ground....and who knew a leg that starts cramping won't hold you up??? But...other foot is still clipped in. Nice picture right?? Me on ground, one leg straight up in air cramping, the other attached to bike, so bike on top of me. Just scrapped up my knee with some asphalt burns too. Ego got hurt the most

susan3

here is the rescued dog, Marley

queenmomcat

Susan3: sounds like something I'd do, and I got no excuse beyond being a yutz.

Grace: please do stick around. Really, we've all had those "cries in the darkness" moments, and we'll be here for you. We may not be awake when you post (hangs head), but post anyway.