INSOMNIACS place to talk in the wee hours

Wren44

Susan, Those birds look like they're used to far warmer temperatures.

Jazzy, Hot springs is a great idea. Hope your CA trip goes well.

Loveroflife

Jazzy, are you driving? Have a safe and blessed trip

magdalene51

I'm dead. Walking Dead, DH said. I finally pulled myself together and went to Kohl's and Walmart and got window toys. They are literally two blocks away, so not too far to drive under the influence. (Pain meds) Barely dragged myself out of Kohl's. Rested quite a while on the bench by dressing rooms at Walmart. But I managed to find some fun things for both DH and DC. By the time I got home, I was overheated, face flushed, and shaking badly. But I did it.

Loveroflife

👐👏👏👏👏

glennie19

(((MAGS)))

sas-schatzi

mags, honey, you sound sucky. methinks that's an unusual thing for dh to say. is it the season or the physical.

susan3

sorry mags...hugs you way

feelingfeline

Mags I am just on my way to bed here in Ireland. Happened to see your post about missing the old days.

Know what you mean.

When I was young Christmas was a big affair (well big for a smallish family).

First we went to visit my Dad's relatives at a cousin's house.

Then on to my Grandparents where there were great aunts, and auntie and cousin and of course grandparents, and my parents and me. The most numerous generation was the oldest. Apart from my grandparents they were all unmarried. Anyway it was wonderful. My grandparents were the most storybook perfect Grandparents anyone could have dreamed up.

A few years ago, actually it was 9 years ago, I was in NC for my FIL's 70th birthday. Jamie's parents and brothers (Jamie = DH) and his Aunts and Uncles and cousins were there and all their spouses of course. It was a big gathering. And I suddenly thought "my family will never gather like that ever again", because all the generation that made up the bulk of the gathering are dead. Lord knows they died at good ages too. But I felt so sad at that moment. Apart from my husband and children my entire family is one Aunt and one cousin and her little boy. None of whom live in Ireland.

It is so true we cannot roll back time. And life is very precious because of that.

Tell you what though, I expect one hell of a party when I get to the other side though, there should be enough people waiting for me!

I think you and your husband's toy tradition is lovely.

I think he is very romantic for doing that still.

And I think you are crazy amazing for dragging your elf out to walmart and back under your current circumstances.

XXX

Susanna

magdalene51

I love my Owlettes. You're my sisters now. I was the middle girl of 5, plus one brother. I have 2 sisters in the metro area that I haven't heard from since dx. The other two are in PA and Alaska. DH and I didn't have children to raise, so their kids were our kids. When my brother-in-law died, DH became a surrogate dad. The mom is the one in Alaska now. We were married within 3 months of each other, lived 2 blocks apart for years. 4 years ago she got offered a job in Alaska, and she never looked back. Remarried, just totally removed from our lives. When mom was alive, we always celebrated Christmas and Thanksgiving together, with whoever could come. Even after she was gone, we did it until sister moved. Now, no more. Yes, I feel sad, also abandoned. Not just them, but friends are gone. It happens. No new ones to replace them.

Thank you all so much for your hugs and caring and encouraging words. You honor me with your affection.

queenmomcat

Magdalene: (shyly) Hope you feel better tomorrow--I'm with you on celebrating [insert family-oriented winter holiday here] online on BCO.

Spookiesmom

Awww Mags, ☔️ , maybe this will help?🍦🍪? Or maybe 🛳🌴?

Did I get a tiny giggle?😍

Jazzygirl

Feelingfeline- welcome to our thread. My sister and I have often commented there are more people on the other side than on this side. The party must be grand over there. Hugs to you over the pond tonight (probably tomorrow there now?)

Mags- I was thinking tonight on my drive home from my client site, how many friends have come and gone through the years because of the changes in our lives, moves, change of jobs, people getting married, divorced, you name it. But more so, I was thinking about friends who disappeared after my family illnesses and then my own. The world lacks a certain empathy I see over and over again with each trial I go through. I have been disappointed by more than a few people through the toughest times, pleasantly surprised others though too. Finding good people to replace the GOOD ones we loose is indeed harder as we get older. My circle of people I enjoy is pretty small these days.

Someone told me the other day, there are 7 plus billion people on the planet. Don't waste your time thinking about people who don't value what you have to offer and want to spend time with you. So many cool people out there in the world that will. I am wishing you some nice new people to come into your life in the new year.

Jazzygirl

Winter solstice is a good time to write down all the stuff you don't want anymore and then burn it. What will you let go of?

magdalene51

Indulge me. Christmas 2010, our last one together. My two escapee sisters cooking. The one in pink mugging for the camera is in Alaska, the orange is the oldest, in Pennsylvania now. Ok, I think I'm done now.

glennie19

Ava sends you sloppy doggie kisses, Mags.

Spookiesmom

Wren44

Mags, They aren't kidding about old age not being for sissies. I admire your determination to do that shopping and get it done. Have they suggested you try another AI? Some times that helps.

PattyPeppermint

mags. Hugs

Well I am back in the hospital. Admitted sat am. Same crap. Uncontrollable vomiting , diahrea, and very dehydrated. Another uti. Asking again for all prayers for quick recovery to get home before Christmas. My dss and dh are of course having a really hard time please pray for them also. I am so very tired of this.

Hugs to all my bco sisters. Hugs and prayers for all who need them.

Hootie hoo

Wren44

(((((((Patty)))))))

susan3

Night nighy all

Rosevalley

Patty- Crapola girl! enough with the nausea and vomiting. I had my own little fest Sunday morning and thought for sure I was headed back to the ER. But a reprieve. I am hoping you get your walking orders before Christmas. I will be praying my hardest you get sprung. I am so sorry and I bet you are sick of it. Did your white count come up?

Mags- I feel your pain. i am in awe you went shopping. The big family gatherings I remember as a child my kids have never known. It makes me sad. I enjoyed those times. Our family is so spread out that it's hard. The window gifts are a very cute tradition. Quiet reflective holidays aren't bad and sometimes refreshing.

Like Jazzy in the hot springs for xmas. Good luck with your sister visit. Hope it goes well.

Hugs to those having holiday blues. I have enjoyed the trees and sharing, dog photos.

kathindc

For you Patty and all you other wonderful ladies!

kathindc

Sas, thought of you when I saw this one!

I like your tree's dress better.

feelingfeline

Patty so sorry to hear your bum deal. Blessings to you and yours and I really hope you are feeling better and home with your loved ones soon. XXX

feelingfeline

Woke up in the middle of the night (must be because I posted on the insomniacs thread) and realised that I had left out MY PARENTS when describing my family! Lucky me I am 48 and still have 2 healthy 80+ yo parents. I FELT SO GUILTY!!! How did I leave them out? Swear I have chemo/tamox/AI brain so badly that I can simultaneously know it's Tuesday on one side of my brain and think it's Wednesday on the other side. Anyway I had to write a note to myself to MENTION MY PARENTS!!

Love to all.

Chevyboy

PEPPERMINT ! You had better go crawl back in bed.... you don't need to be dusting off the window ledges in that hospital place, and mopping the floor... they can get someone ELSE to do it... I think they just send for you when their regular help quits. Tell them NO.... with your hands on your hips, and mean business this time ! Tell them you have other stuff to do.... Like party with the girls and all that other Christmas chit.

MAGS! Capitols for YOU too! WTH???? You dragged your butt to Kohl's without US? But did you enjoy it? And stop for a Toddy on the way back? I think I would have.... at LEAST a Starbucks.... with a shot of Hot Damn that you keep in the car for emergencies!

I met one of my BEST friends for lunch yesterday, and it was just a kick! We laughed and talked for 2 hours! Had 2 glasses of wine, with our lunch.... We used to go out when our Husbands were hunting.... And WE would go dancing, raising hell, and we always had the best times EVER! We just laugh when we even THINK about our fun.... She is a month older than my oldest Daughter.... and I figure you have to have younger friends as well as your own age.... cause they KEEP you young.... Ha!

One time when our Husbands were of course gone, we, (including a bunch of us girls that I worked with) met for Dinner! Then went back to meet at BF's house.... Rented a Limo, went up to Central City, with one of our Supervisors...(He was supposed to chaperon us girls)... But a couple girls thought he was fair game.... So during our laughing, giggling, gambling trip, I lost BF! Found her, at a high-top table playing BLACK-JACK with 3 nice guys-in-suits type of guys!

And she said she wanted to stay there with them, that they would bring her home! Of all things! So me, the older more sensible one, carded those 3 guys.... ! I didn't know what else to DO!

I said okay, and we finally did meet at her house, and all of us in the Hot Tub! She made it back, like an hour later, and made them a frozen spaghetti dinner.

The rest of us finally left... I said "No, I can't stay, my dog Chevy is waiting".... So I leave, and SHE and these 3 guys spent the night in and around her Hot-Tub! I called her the next morning to see if she was still alive... And all she said was "I think I died and went to heaven!"

I didn't have to ask..... but I did.......... So what she was saying was, I missed out on what would have been a night to remember..... Hah!

Oh well.... So many fun times to think about...... and keep a secret.... except I just didn't..... Too fun not to share....

Chevyboy

PattyPeppermint

chevy. Love your stories you have had a good life with good friends. No doubt because you are such a dear friend. I think it's awesome you still keep in touch with so mmany friends. Kiss kiss I love my sis

I am feeling much stronger today. Woo hoo.

Hugs all around

Hootie hoo

feelingfeline

Jazzygirl

Good morning friends- my last post for a bit as I get ready to head out for the holidays. Another day at the client site today, then flying the friendly skies tomorrow to the west coast until Sunday evening. I will be trading my wnter boots for flip flops by tomorrow evening!

Patty- I am so sorry to hear that you are back in the hospital. I hope you are stabilized and out of there soon so you can be home with the family for Xmas. Hugs sister. Sending you special love and hugs today.

Rose- I hope you are doing okay and able to enjoy this holiday with family too. I know your DD's will be wanting time with their mama!

Feelingfeline-what a blessing to have your parents still. My last parent passed three years ago. There is a palpable absence this time of the year with both parents gone.

Mags- whew girlfriend, that shopping trip sounded like some work! I was at Walmart briefly last week and found it to not be too bad. I think I was lucky.

To all my other lovely friends here who celebrate Xmas, wishing you a good week and see you next week when I am back home and settled back into the work thing!