Do I scare you when I offer advice?
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I would like to echo what wannaB just said... we need you to explain things to us - a lot of us are caught in a web of MDs with no real answers from any of them and 3 months between visits to simply escalate our fears and anxiety... thank you for giving it to us straight.
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Jenn,
I thought your post was very sensitive and sweet, and you are very much in the right place.
Big Hugs
Bobbie
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I think I'll hang around for a while.............(((hugs)))
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the stage III peeps are awesome. never leave....never leave*
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What can I say Jenn. We've been in this together since the start - shared on your chemo thread, share on TN and both are/were stage III. You have arrived at stage IV, and we are all scared it's going to be us. You are always there for us, and we will always be there for you.
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jenn3 - I agree too! ......
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Jenn, don't even think of leaving us! We all need each other, no number changes that.
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Jenn,
I missed a few days and hadn't heard the news myself. Damn this freakin disease! I am sorry you are having this added stress.
As far as you still posting here---you better, or all us girls who have gotten to know you will have to track you down and make you write us!
(((HUGS)))
Sharon
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Jenn, progression is a reality for all of us, its no secret!!! We need you here, were all in this together, we are not stages, were sista's!!!
Hugss,
Stephanie
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jenn...your peeps have your back* talk to us often*
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Thank you. It really helps to talk to people that "get it". I know that we are cyber friends, but I just can't imagine not having you here to talk to. I have learned so much not only about BC, but about dealing with everything comes with it from you. (((hugs))) to all of you - this disease sucks.
We drove up to talk to my youngest daughter, she's away at school. She took the news better than I thought, much better than the first time around. We had a great weekend with a lot of laughs and she seems to be doing well. I think that she saw that I am doing "okay", which helped her to deal with it better. I was honest, showed her all of the reports and the trial information, just like I did with my oldest daughter (they are my avatar).
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I think that most of the threads here at BCO have a give and take concept. There are times when we need advise, help, or just someone to listen, and in the next second we are in the position to offer advise, offer a shoulder for someone to cry on, or support someone needing to vent. At these times it doesn't matter what the thread is or what stage it is listed under.
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Jenn, so happy that the "talk" with your daughter went well. That is what would get me ths hardest - having to tell everyone again.
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Kerry - you are so right, having to tell everyone AGAIN has been tough. But, it's done, they all know - now it's onto treatment.
Laurie - you are right, we use the threads to vent, ramble, ask questions, support, cry, share new of various sorts and there are times that it doesn't matter where it's posted, it's releavent to all of us.
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Hi Jenn,
Thanks for sticking with us. I agree, stage or thread really should NOT matter. Glad to hear you're done with "telling" everyone. I'm not sure why, but it was also one of the harder things I had to do when I was first diagnosed. I think part of the difficulty in the beginning is that I was dealing with the unknown myself and not sure how to share that with family and friends. I found it easier to talk about my diagnosis after my treatment plan was set up. I pray that your treatment works ASAP and that the side effects are minimal. Take care.
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Jenn, you belong here. As Diana said, never leave.
I think of you often and you're in my prayers.
As Sherri said, good to know your talks happened and the girls are okay. I'll keep them in prayer too!
xo
janyce
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Today I called into the office and took a day off. I haven't taken a day off since my dx and I really just needed a day to wind down. My mind was going in so many directions that I couldn't think straight and I just needed to bring it down a level. It felt good.
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I'm so glad you're staying with us. And I think it was so wise for you to take a day for yourself and regroup. Only one day off since your dx - you are an iron woman!
Your daughters are beautiful and I sense they have a close relationship. May the bond they have with each other help them through this time.
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No, you tell what you feel. B.C. is like Russian Roulette, and we know what might happened, even if one is Stage I or in SITU. I think your are doing fine with your postings.
I am a long term survivor, but I had 3 B.C. biopsies. Just had a D&C in case I had Uterine cancer because of Tamoxifen. I took it only for a year. Luckily there were only polyps.
But 3 weeks ago I was diagnosed with Basal Cell Carcinoma in my face,usually it doesn't kill, but the surgeries and scars are scary. I have 15 stitches on my cheek after Mohs surgery. Need follow every 3 months, I was told I am at higher risk because of B.C.
I don't tan,or stay in the sun.
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Jenn, I had a bit of a break from the boards and had missed your latest news. I'm sorry you are going through this, it totally sucks.
Glad you have decided to stick with the Stage III boards. ((((Hugs)))).
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