I say yes, you say no, OR People are Strange

scuttlers

BIL passed this AM. I am so mad, he did not get the proper care, had a long talk with him and his wife last July, they choose to stay with the treatment he was on. I felt at the time that I was interfering. Now I feel that I didn't interfer enough. Sad day in the family. :-(

bluedahlia

I'm so sorry scuttlers.  Please don't blame yourself.

suzieq60

((((((Scuttlers))))))

DH away - I'm up late been watching TV - had a frozen pizza for dinner which was actually really nice (usually make my own)  and a couple of glasses of wine. Poppy on our bed waiting for me to join her - might be a good idea - see you tomorrow our time.

Sue

Anonymous

Scuttlers, please, please don't "second guess" yourself, you did the best you could, you had the "long talk" but you can't be responsible for other people's ( no matter how much you love them) choices.  A terribly difficult time - I hope you and your family bring comfort to each other.

RetiredLibby

(((((Scuttlers))))) Ultimately people make their own decisions -- for whatever reasons, for whatever they are comfortable with, for whatever they want or believe.  You did your part, he did his, his wife did hers ... you did your best.  Wishing you peace and comfort during this hard time for your family.

L

kad2kar

Scuttlers-----So sorry.  May you and your  family find Peace within your Hearts to give each other the support and care you each need at a time like this.   Prayers & Hugs-------------kad2kar

Enjoyful

(((Scuttlers)))  I understand how you feel, but it wasn't your responsibility.  Please don't go to "if only"-land.  There's no comfort there.

Sending you as much comfort as I can in a cyber-hug.

E

3monstmama

(((scuttlers)))  what happylibby said EXACTLY.  You did your part but they are grown-ups and have to make their own decisions.  Please don't feel guilty.  If you had pushed harder, the ends might have been the same only you might have damaged your relationship with your sister.  I am sorry for your loss.

Went to oncologist.  She was an hour late like usual--WAIT!! I am not cross.  Her being late is what allows me lots of time to knit with the knitting support group downstairs.  I love my late oncologist!  Seriously, she is always late because she never pushes you out the door and always gives each person all the time they need to meet with her and ask questions.  She Rules.  But I digress: I am proud to say that I am boring just like the other ladies.  And I don't need the MRI until the spring.   But I do need to do a better job on the vit d as last bloodwork I was down to 15. . . .whoops!  okay just grabbed vitD drops from desk drawer, smack hand take drops 

Now what was I saying?  Oh yes I remember! Yee-hah!

Happy Boring to all and to all a good virtual drink and a Happy Weekend!

Enjoyful

Boring here, too, except that I need a CT scan with contract next Tuesday to see if I qualify for a trial.  I need measurable disease and I'm NED as far as I know.  If it's okay with the trial folks, I think I'll take NED over the trial.

Bren-2007

Enjoyfool .. I think I'd pick NED over a trial too!!

Scuttlers .. I am so sorry for your loss .. I know how much it hurts to lose a loved one.

Just talked to my best friend and she was reading the results of her scan last week.  The cancer has returned to her sternum, ribs, thoracic spine and shoulder.  I am so upset and trying to be strong, but all I do is cry.  She had another CT today of the abdomen and pelvic region .. don't have those results yet.  We're so scared and shocked right now.  I love her and don't want her to have to go through this.

hugs,

Bren

kad2kar

Bren----Sending Love and Prayers and Hugs to you and your BF.------kad2kar

3monstmama

Hey kad2kar Congrats for being post 20,000.....at least in the favorites counter!!!!

enjoyfool, seems like reasonable to me...

Bren, so sorry about your friend.  many hugs.

1Athena1

Much sadness about lately - in a bit of a valley myself.

So sorry Bren; Scuttlers - there is most likely nothing you could have done. 

HL - How is your convalescence going? Do you have more energy now? When is Stage II?

I, with my teeny surgery, am the world's WORST convalescer and that bears repeating. Don't like being even slightly grounded. Hardly the world's worst problem, I realize.

Barbara, hope you continue to enjoy your cruise.  

And may the posts keep coming!! 

suzieq60

Bren - give your friend a big hug from us - I HATE cancer!!!!

Enjoyfool - NED sounds much better to me too - hoping for boring results for you too.

Morning girls - slept quite well with my kitty and even had a nice cuddle with her when I woke up (she's not a cuddly cat). Looks like another fabulous day in sunny Queensland - hope it's not too hot.

Sue

208sandy

E - I'd say NED over trial - certainly!!!!!

Scuttlers - so sorry about your BIL.

Bren - hate that your BF is going through a tough time.

HL - how are you doing these days???

Hugs to everyone.  Sandy

RetiredLibby

Bren, I'm sorry about your best friend ... This sux. Cancer sux. It robs us of so much ... (((((Bren))))))



Athena, I'm thrilled to hear you are doing well enough to be impatient with convalescence. I knew I was truly on the mend when I started getting stir-crazy at home. That took an unnervingly long time!



I am doing well, finally. The wounds are significantly better - the larger one is almost closed. I have started going into the office a few days a week half-days, and working full days from home the rest of the time. I am in the danger zone where I feel really good and almost normal and then I act normal and promptly crash and burn from exhaustion. My workplace is very supportive -- my boss has taken to tapping his watch and saying, "Goodbye Libby" when I start looking hollow-eyed around noon.



DH and I are heading to Cancun tomorrow on a long-ago scheduled vacation (booked last March, 3 months before the second dx). Sitting around in the shade reading and drinking the occasional margarita should help with getting well!



Hugs to all.



L

suzieq60

Libby - have a great time - you deserve it!!!

Anonymous

Libby - wonderful to think of you in the warmth of the south, enjoying a cool drink, warm air, shade, good books - AAAAHHHHHHHHHHHH....just thinking of you enjoying it makes me smile! Have a deliciously wonderful time.

Athena - I smiled when I read your description of yourself - cuz I am the best patient - I can spend days, weeks, just reading, drawing, studying what ever my current interest is - I don't even think I've ever gotten "cabin fever" - even tho I live in a very, very, very small cabin.  Love how different we all are.....

Al 28 inches of snow from last weekend are about melted - can see the Fall colored leaves, and green grass, so strange.....

208sandy

HL - glad to hear you're doing so well and delighted that you're headed to Cancun - enjoy!

bluedahlia

We lost our Nicki today.  So sad.

suzieq60

Oh Blue - I'm so sorry - ((((((((HUGS)))))))))

Sue

kad2kar

Blue and All that knew Nicki-----The Sincerest of Sympathy to you and all of her family. No words can express the depth of sorrow for her family.-------kad2kar

kad2kar

Is there someplace I can send my Condolences to the Family?  Chaplain, are you able to give us some words of Peace?-----kad2kar

CherrylH

Hello friends,

Jus t got home from a fund raiser and logged on. Such sad news.

Kad2kar, here's a prayer for us. Thank you for asking.

Into your hand, O merciful Savior, we commendn your servant Nicki. Acknowledge, we humbly beseech you you, a sheep of your own fold, a lamb of your own flock, a sinner of your own redeeming. Receive her into the arms of your mercy, into the blessed rest of everlasting peace, and into the glorious company of saints in light. Amen.

Grant, O Lord, to all who are bereaved the spirit of faith and courage, that they may have stength to meet the days to come with steadfastness and patience; not sorrowing as athose without hope, but in thankful remembrance of your great goodness,and in the joyful expectation of eternal life with those they love. And this we ask in the Name of Jesus Christ our Savior. Amen.

kad2kar

Amen. Thank you-------kad2kar

Enjoyful

Condolences to all who knew Nicki and loved her well.  Thank you for the prayer, Cherryl. 

Bren-2007

Chaplain .. what a lovely prayer.

E .. thank you for your kind words.  I miss Nicki so much.  She was my friend for so many years.  I have a couple of pics of her that I could post.  I need to find them.

I'm struggling friends.  I need to go to Medford, OR to be with my cousin and I'm dreading the travel.  I believe my sis and I are going this next weekend.  It is so painful, as I remember traveling to San Diego to say goodbye to my dad just two years ago.  Now I must say goodbye to my cousin who is like a sister to me.

Too many freakin' goodbye's this week.

hugs,

Bren

Anonymous

Bren,

so sorry for the goodbyes you are experiencing & facing...no words.  Please do whatever, whatever, whatever you can do to take good care of yourself, and your sister.   There seems to be so much grief around us now, a difficult, difficult time. 

Thanks, Chaplain - comforting.

rosemary-b

Oh no,Bren and scuttlers and everyone who knew Nickki. Peace to everybody. So much sad news

Thank you Chaplain.

rosemary-b

Athena

It is always good when you feel well enough to be impatient about healing.