I say yes, you say no, OR People are Strange

jancie

Sounds like there are many of us at the bar tonight

CherrylH

We have a good crowd tonight.

208sandy

If I  felt up to it tonight (which I don't) I would regale y'all with stories about my former step-children (who are now in their 40s) - they would make a good book of horror stories - they are the gift that keeps on giving but I stopped dealing with them 20 years ago to save my sanity and my marriage - they made dh's life a living hell and while he lay dying they "couldn't get away" to come and see him in the hospital.  I KNOW where they're going to end up.

I'll have a very dry martini please - make it a double.

Night all,

Sandy

jancie

Sandy - in a way I can relate.  My sister was dying of lung cancer and had mets to the brain.  My biological father stated "if she doesn't die by x date then I have to leave because I have a trip planned for Europe and I already paid the airfare"  He was more concerned about losing $1000.00 versus being there for my sister when she was dying.

He has no idea about my BC.  In fact I haven't had contact with him for 12 years.  He is no longer in my life by my choice.  I don't have room for toxic people in my life.

Some people are just flat out evil as far as I am concerned and as you get older the list gets longer.

bluedahlia

Don't anybody hit me, but I've been pretty lucky on the toxic people front, well except for my ex who couldn't accept the fact that I had PD.  The only toxic people I have had the unfortunate luck of meeting are on this board, present company excluded!

covertanjou

Blue, their are toxic people in my life.  I try to stay away from them as much as possible.  When I do have to see them--family get togethers, I speak to them as little as possible.  I also reveal NOTHING about my life.  I keep the conversations to the weather.  It seems to work.  

I want to have a lazy day today, but I have so many errands to run.  I may do all my errands and correcting today, and then veg for the rest of the weekend!

bluedahlia

I have errands to run today too.  Then outside work.  Were going to Stratford on Monday I think.

rosemary-b

Not too many people here this morning. Are you all recovering from last night at bcobg?

Anonymous

I'm here, just lazy, reading the daily newspaper. Getting ready to  start the day, lovely, unplanned, my favorite kind of day.  Like most of my other days.

Fall feeling, leaves are really turning so early, feel so sorry for those who depend on tourists during what we call "Leaf Peeper Season."  It's usually SO amazing around here. Fall colours are dramatic.  Don't know what it will be like this year.  A special concern for those folks north of us in VT.

BarbaraA

I'm recovered and ready to do it again. DH's band is playing at a beach bar from 2-7:30 so I will head down there and drink some beer and hang with friends. Maybe catch a few rays, if I can stand being in the sun (it is still HOT here).

The toxic people in my life are mostly gone with a couple exceptions. I do as Mary does and keep conversations to the weather and stay as far away as I can.

bluedahlia

Yeah Rosemary, we're all a bunch of "bored dangerous drunks".  Hahahahahahahhaahaha!

bluedahlia

Read this on FB this morning.  hehehehe!

STRESS MANAGEMENT: This really does work & will make you smile.
Picture yourself lying on a rock that hangs out over a clear stream.
Both your hands dangling in the cool water. No one knows this place.
You are in seclusion. You hear the waterfall sounds of serenity.
The water is so clear that you can easily make out the face of the person you are holding underwater.
There see, it really does work, your smiling already! 

208sandy

Yup, got rid of all toxic people after DH passed away - life is now too short to put up with nonsense.  Going now to run errands - it is beautiful today but a little humid and hot for my liking - stay inside this afternoon and READ (I LOVE to read).

Everyone have a wonderful day.

Bren-2007

Morning Peeps!

I was up early .. then went back to bed.  Had to let the dogs out and decided it was too early to start the day.

I don't have any toxic people in my life.  I guess I'm just lucky.

I'm going to head up north to Roanoke today to Petsmart (the closest  one is an hour away), then meet my sis for lunch.  My old dog Winston can't control his bladder and I need some Nature's Miracle for one stain that is driving me nuts. 

The traffic should be pretty wild this holiday weekend.  Yikes!  Thank goodness I drive slowly and take my time to enjoy the scenery.

Hope everyone has a great day!

Bren

lewing

I'm lucky on the toxic people front, too.  I had one horrible experience with the family of someone I cared about; long story, but his ex-wife abused him physically and psychologically while he was dying of cancer.  Their daughter enabled the abuse, and then absented herself.  It was ten years ago, but it still makes me shake to think of it.

Blue, love that stress management post!   What are you planning to see at Stratford?  "Jesus Christ Superstar" seems to be the runaway hit, but my daughter and I liked the gender-bending production of "Richard III," and I just read a NYT review of "Twelfth Night" that makes it sound like great fun.  (I love that play!)  We would have seen the Pinter play if it had been on the roster during our visit - grim but funny.  We are huge fans of Stratford, both the festival and the town.  It's where my daughter got her introduction to theatre - Midsummer Night's Dream with Cirque du Soleil style acrobatics - and she really caught the bug.

L

rosemary-b

I know it is not Thanksgiving but I just wanted to say how grateful I am to have the women on this thread in my life. Everyone is so supportive and welcoming of new posters. Everyone, have a great weekend!

suzieq60

 We are in Lochend!!! B&B seems nice except no lounge area for guests - whatever. Free wifi though, so that makes up for it. We didn't get lost at all. Hire car is good - very comfy. Unfortuntely it was raining a lot of the way, so no photo ops. We stopped for gas once and later for lunch. I love it - we can see the loch from our room!!! We'll do a cruise tomorrow.

There's a drive and dine bus that will take us to the Clansmen pub and bring us back - sounds like a plan to me.

Sue

jancie

Blue - that was great!

I am leaving shortly to clean my trainer's house that should have been cleaned on Thursday but I had the issue with Jazzy's eye and I couldn't bear to leave her alone until it was resolved.  Ok, I admit it - I was a huge basketcase that day!

So clean the house and then lunge Jazzy over some jumps and poles.

The cardiologist will not let me ride until after my nuclear stress test.  I was told not to do anything at all that would exert my heart and raise my blood pressure.   What do I do when the stress comes from within the house????    Is he giving me permission to  live in a Hotel for the next 5 days?

Enjoyful

Happy Libby Update!

Our dearest HL is in good spirits and we're chatting away, sharing tales from the dark side, beams of goodness, and How To Fix The World in Ten Days.  Her drain output is trending downward so hopefully she'll have one or more of the remaining five drains removed this week (she had one removed last week).

She sends big hellos and hugs to everyone and thanks you for your concern and well-wishes.

I do, too!

E

P.S.  Is everyone welcome at Las Vegas or is it just for a specific group of BCO-ers?  I may go if it's available.

lewing

Thanks for the HL update, Enjoyful.  I hope you two have a great afternoon.  Re: beams of goodness and fixing the world in 10 days . . . someone at the farmers' market this morning was sporting a great button: "I Oppose Bad Things."

To the point, yet versatile, and always appropriate!

(Had an amazing vegetarian sandwich for lunch just now . . . fried eggplant slices, mixed spicy/lemony greens, ripe garden tomato, smoked mozzarella and olive-walnut tapenade, all on a crusty baguette.  Messy but delicious.)

L

BarbaraA

Linda sounds yummy. E, the Vegas thing is open to all. Thanks for the HL update. On my way to see DH's band on the beach.

Anonymous

E     THANK YOU for the HL update.  Please tell her we're taking good care & the BCOB&G is well stocked with her favorites.  Oooohhhhh....tales from the dark side, don't scare her too much.  I shudder at even the thought of 5 drains....brrrrr...I had to wear my 2 for almost 6 weeks way back when BLM, and I was NOT a happy camper!   As long as she's off most of her pain meds, we don't have to stock pitted prunes at the BCOB&G   Happy Healing.

Bren-2007

Just got back from Roanoke .. had a great time with my sister!

Barbara .. sounds like a fun afternoon.

Jancie .. I think I would get a script from the doc saying 5 days in a hotel are ordered because of your heart.

Linda .. your lunch sounds wonderful.

Enjoyful .. thanks for the Libby update.  Hope you gals are having a fun day!
hugs,

Bren

crazy4carrots

But for anyone who IS on drugs, maybe the BCOB&G should create a special pruntini (vodka and prune juice) and stock it for emergencies!

Linda -- You eat so wonderfully exotically -- that sandwich sounds so delicious!

E -- thanks so much for the HL update.  Remember when we thought drains only existed in bathrooms and kitchens?

It's hot and humid here today but I hear cooler weather is on its way.  Must go out to my favourite market and buy some fresh corn -- it's been amazingly sweet this year, just like all of you!!!

Hugs to everyone! 

AnneW

Ummm, I think I'll pass on the Pruntini!!!

We're having our first fall-like day. Sunny, cool. Ahhhh.

Hope everyone has a great weekend. We USers are celebrating Labor Day (well, those of us with jobs are celebrating...) with cookouts and outside time with friends.

lewing

Sweet corn sounds great - I should have picked some up today, but didn't.  (I do have plenty of eggplants, peppers and greens, though.)

My "exotic" sandwich was just good Detroit food.  When I first moved to this city almost twenty years ago, the big farmers' market ("Eastern Market," a legacy of a time when each quadrant of the city had its own market) was a wonderful place to shop, but the local produce on offer - while farm-fresh - was pretty standard, and a lot of the stalls were occupied by wholesalers rather than growers.  It's gradually been revamped, and now there are a lot more growers represented, and a lot more organic and unusual produce.  And some of it is REALLY local, from urban farms within the city, which is becoming a big thing here.  (Heaven knows we have the land for it.)  And there are lots of little food businesses springing up - artisanal sausage makers and bakeries and picklers and coffee roasters - that have stands at the market.  But it still hangs on to its blue-collar, workaday feel.  It's still a place where you can buy mountains of collard greens for cheap, or a bushel basket of tomatos to can.  I love going there, and there's no better place to people watch in the city!

L

208sandy

Love the idea of a pruntini - actually sounds good to me.

Lewing - that sandwich is making me hungry and I just ate lunch.

E - thanks for the HL update - I hate that she's still got so many drains but as long as she's feeling better .....

Blue - your stress reliever cracked me up.

lewing

My personal jury is out on the pruntini concept, though I've been known to steep prunes in Armagnac, eat the prune, and then sip the Armagnac.  That's more of a winter thing, though.  Doesn't appeal on a day like today.  (The weather app on my phone informs me that it's 95 degrees as I'm typing this.)

 L

Bren-2007

Linda .. it got hot here this afternoon too.  The heat index is up to 99 degrees.  Too hot and muggy to do any yardwork.  Rain is forecast for Monday and Tuesday .. yay!  Hope it brings cooler temps and lower humidity.  I'm looking forward to fall!

Bren

crazy4carrots

Anne - We Canucks celebrate LaboUr Day too!

Well, I'm going to have to try the prune Armagnac thing -- that sounds just TOO good, and tastier than a pruntini!

So, it's fresh corn, broccoli from our garden and BBQ'd organic chicken legs for dinner tonight -- with Italian tomato salad to finish off a lovely summer meal.  I look forward to fall too, and am hoping thisyear it will be sunny and mild.  Is that too much to ask?

Susie -- hope the weather clears up for your loch cruise.