I say yes, you say no, OR People are Strange

BarbaraA

Sue, congrats on the clear scan!

Kadeeb - wow, a grandbaby! How wonderful.

Hope everyone has a great day today.

rosemary-b

Kadeeb

A new grandbaby. What good news!

suzieq60

Kadeeb - is this your first grandbaby? We just got our first 2 weeks ago.

Congratulations!!!!

kadeeb

Barbara, the latest of 4 for now.  After the April 27 tornadoes the entire northern half of Alabama was without power several days. No computers to make change. Checking out at a convenience store with 2 items, was a 30 minute deal. Don't want to go back to the "good old days". 

Heading out to work. Cloudy and  looking for a humid 88 degrees today.

1Athena1

Hoping we can breathe a huge sigh of relief for HappyLibby today. Fingers crossed.

bluedahlia

Another grandma in our midst.  CONGRATULATIONS!

RetiredLibby

Sorry, Athena ... no sighs of relief to be had.  I have a new area of DCIS, Gr 2/3, ER+, meaning tamoxifen failed me.  The spot was tiny -- 3mm -- and was likely removed by the stereotactic bx.  However, that means I start back on the merry-go-round all over again - minus rads, since they failed me too.  MRI scheduled for Monday, Gyn for Thursday, med onco July 14 since he is out of town.  Gotta find a new surgeon since mine is now teaching in Saudi Arabia (come baaaaaaack!!!!).  I'm OK -- actually quite relieved it wasn't invasive, as I thought.

No lump, just mammo.  Use this experience to beat your female relatives and friends over the head with the fact that one good mammo (or 20 good mammos) doesn't mean you can skip.  I don't skip -- this grew in a year.  Thank God for OCD radiologists!

Thanks for your support, folks -- It means a lot to talk to people who know the drill.

XOXO

L

Anonymous

HappyLibby

BN was what was being hoped for, for you,  - but if you couldn't get that one, DCIS and 3mm is an understandable relief.  Still frightening - and another but, you have very good options to deal with this, and that's really something to be grateful for!  The C in DCIS still stands for the Beast, but in a very "attackable" stage.  So sorry you have to be dealing with all this, and thank you for reminding us to Beat our Friends over the head re:mammograms.

edited for typos, per ususal

1Athena1

((((Libby))))

I'm so sorry!  You obviously have very careful doctors - DCIS 3 mm - good for them for catching it (and you for keeping up with apppointments).

I was happy with my surgeon and would be happy to give you his name. Let me know via PM if you are interested.

bluedahlia

(((((((((Libby))))))))

Not what I wanted to hear, but better than IDC.

BarbaraA

{{{Libby}}} So sorry to hear this but very happy it is so small. Hugs for you from me.

rosemary-b

(((Libby)))

Well we can't make it go away but we would all like to.Find a good surgeon and (s)he can get that beast off your chest.

Peace

RetiredLibby

Thanks, all.  As you know, going through this (for the first time or again!) is so much easier when friends have your back.  Treatment plan should form up next week and I'll keep you posted.

(((((everyone)))))

Thank you!

Wabbit

Darn Libby ... was hoping for different news. 

So ... now on to the plan and getting the whole thing over with.  We're here to do anything we can to help ... or just to listen if you want to scream, holler, yell, bitch, moan, groan or even cuss a little.  Or a lot ... go ahead and get creative.   

(((hugs)))

Bren-2007

Dammit Libby .. that's not the news I wanted to hear.  I'm glad it was caught early, but so sorry it came back at all.  Sounds like you've got your ducks lined up and then you can get a plan of action.

It scares me that yours came back within a year of your last mammo.  But it's encouraging that mammo caught it both times.

hugs dear friend,

Bren

3monstmama

(((Libby)))  I'm so sorry.

That $uck$!!!!!  Good that you are prepared with your plan of action. . . We await more news. . . . .

1Athena1

And Libby, I vote that you post more :-)

If you feel like it, of course.

Ang7

I agree with Athena...

I am eating dark chocolate and thinking of you Libby!

3monstmama

About plans of action, not to take focus from Libby dear but I figure you are all the best to ask.  I have a chance to enroll in a long term care program without passing a mega physical.  I can't figure out what to do--enroll or pass. 

Its a not insubstantial sum of money per month but as I understand it, it will be cheaper now than when I am older still.

Does anyone have such plan?  any thoughts on what to look for?  Or should DH and I just agree to shove a pillow over each others faces?  Sigh, all these things I never thought of before. . . .

RetiredLibby

Oh, 3m -- yes, do it.  Enroll.  I enrolled the year after my first dx, after I attended a retirement seminar.  The guy who was talking about LTCare told us his personal experience:  He is older than his wife.  She works for the largest LTC provider in CT.  They were going to get his first, then hers -- each of them when they were 55.  And then she was DX with MS at 45, and rendered instantly uninsurable.  So -- I trotted off and got the insurance.  I was a year past DX -- a year past surgery -- and I went through full underwriting.  With DCIS, not in active treatment (except tamox), I was approved.  I was 51. I have 5 year/inflation protection/90 day waiting and it costs about $1300/year.

So ... you can probably afford to wait a little and go through underwriting, since I don't think your DCIS will disqualify you.  Or if it makes you more comfortable to be insured (it did me), go for it.  DH elected not to go for it this time -- he's only 48 and believes he will be able to get it in due course.

Just my experience.

And thanks, Athena and Ang -- I may consider posting more .... glad you like having me around! 

L

PattyS

Libby.....I am so sorry you are having to go through this again. I can't imagine the emotions you must be feeling to be hit with this a second time. Thank goodness you caught it early.

desdemona222b

Libby, so sorry to hear about your diagnosis.  I know it is tough!  Hang in there!

3monstmama

Libby that is kind of where I am.  I have healthy genes --well at least I thought I did until the stupid breast cancerbut then I wonder what the future will bring.  What if my breast cancer comes back and I find myself somewhere besides DCIS.  

As the financial engine of the family, I have to consider making sure things go on if something happens to me. . . .

blech.  hate looking at all the forms. . . .

oh and I'm glad you are here too. 

crazy4carrots

(((((((Libby)))))))  The only -- and I repeat, only -- bright spot about a recurrence is that you've been through it before, and now you know what to expect.   Am sure you're planning everything out very carefully, and I know you'll handle this with your usual grace and good humour.  We're all in your corner, sweetie!

And good for you dealing with the LTC issue.  I knew you were smart, and now I know just how smart you are!

More hugs,   Linda 

RetiredLibby

Thank you all for your kind words and support and hugs.  Much healthier for me than drowning myself in a tub of Breyer's Mint Chocolate Chip ice cream, assuming I had any.  Fortunately, the Trader Joe's cranberry oatmeal dunkers are all gone now ..

The bright spot in having a recurrence is that I have you all at my back.

XOXO

L

AnnNYC

((((((((( Libby ))))))))))

(not squeezing too hard! did you find the butterfly bandages?)

RetiredLibby

Nah, I'm pretty practical -- I'm still in the basement organizing files, so I just stuffed another tissue in my bra.  I'll go upstairs shortly and find the butterfly bandages -- both cars are out front and the household kit is in the linen closet! 

bluedahlia

Libby, this one's for you!

20 Ways To Maintain A Healthy Level of Insanity

1. At Lunch Time, Sit In Your Parked Car With Sunglasses on

and Point A Hair Dryer At Passing Cars. See If They Slow Down.

2. Page Yourself Over The Intercom. Don't Disguise Your Voice.

3. Every Time Someone Asks You To Do Something, Ask If They
Want Fries with That.

4. Put Your Garbage Can On Your Desk And Label It "In."

5. Put Decaf In The Coffee Maker For 3 Weeks. Once Everyone
Has Gotten Over Their Caffeine Addictions, Switch To Espresso.

6. In The Memo Field Of All Your Checks, Write "For Sexual Favors"

7. Finish All Your Sentences With! "In Accordance With The Prophecy."

8. Don't Use Any Punctuation

9. As Often As Possible, Skip Rather Than Walk.

10... Ask People What Sex They Are. Laugh Hysterically After They Answer.

11. Specify That Your Drive-through Order Is "To Go."

12. Sing Along At The Opera.

13. Go To A Poetry Recital And Ask Why The Poems Don't Rhyme

14. Put Mosquito Netting Around Your Work Area And Play Tropical Sounds All
Day.

15. Five Days In Advance, Tell Your Friends You Can't Attend Their Party

Because You're Not In The Mood.

16. Have Your Co-workers Address You By Your Wrestling Name, Rock Hard.

17. When The Money Comes Out! The ATM, Scream "I Won!, I Won!"

18. When Leaving The Zoo, Start Running Towards The Parking Lot, Yelling

"Run For Your Lives, They're Loose!!"

19. Tell Your Children Over Dinner. "Due To The Economy, We Are Going To
Have To Let One Of You Go."

And The Final Way To Keep A Healthy Level Of Insanity.......

Anonymous

oh, Blue, I'm laughing so hard I can hardly type, not to mention need to change my panties!  #1 got me started!!!  they are amazing - where DO you find these absolute gems!!!???  thank you again...

Bren-2007

Blue ... #19 had me laughing out loud!

hugs buddy,

Bren