thread for middle age to older Christian women.

Faith-840

Dear friends, I'm praying for all of you as I read your posts. Hershey, I pray you are already feeling better after the transfusion.

Ade, I'm sorry you have no answers yet and most sorry that James is not sleeping. That is so debilitating, I feel awful when I can't sleep and you are right, that sleep helps to heal.

Aurora, glad to hear you are feeling a bit better.

Angie, nice to "see" you here again.

Nancy, you've been on my mind all day. I hope the meeting with the family caregivers went well and you haven't posted because you're busy getting ready to drive back home tomorrow. Safe travels!

To everyone, thanks for your prayers, I'm starting to feel a little better also. I'm finally getting some energy back after stopping Ibrance last week. I didn't realize how tired I really was until now. Fatigue just became the new normal for me. I still have some pains to deal with but I'm hoping I'm on the right BP med now after my dr. visit yesterday.

Prayers and hugs for everyone,

Faith

bandwoman1234

Hi dear sisters,

I have to pack and go back home today. The meeting went fine but today it is just sinking in for my mom that instead of four hours a month she will be have 32 plus hours a month of caregiving and she is not thrilled. I am exhausted from going around and around on this issue and didn't want to leave in a tizzy but I am afraid that is what is happening. I will have to check in when I have more time.

Take care dear ladies and hopefully I will be back to normal once I get home. My leg persists in being a problem and I am going to have to have this checked out when I get back home. I have had lots of issues but this is a new thing for me.

I am very late getting packed up so feeling a bit stressed as I tried to talk to my mom and basically talking in circles. I am exhausted.

Love,

Nancy

IntoLight

Nancy, I am praying your mom will recognize her needs. I totally understand. After placing my mom and dad in an assisted living home, as soon as I left my mom promptly called a "friend" and moved themselves back out. Eventually my mom realized she couldn't cope and allowed my brother to move them back in. It is so difficult to lose your independence. I didn't even want to hire a housekeeper, but I know it was the best gift I could give myself. I will also pray God removes the pain in your leg and allows you some peace as you travel home. May God's abundant blessings rain down upon you today.

Ade

Nancy I'm sorry you have had such an ordeal with your mom. We went through this with my mom. MY SISTER made the decision to put her into assisted living - and Mom BLAMED ME for it! Sometimes you just have to "drop" the conversation, for it is what it is. She will feel better about the changes once she adjusts to a bit of different routine and she may just relish the company. I pray her caregivers are kind and compassionate and they get along beautifully. Praying this brings peace to you, knowing she will not be alone so much now. Praying your leg problem just solves itself and goes away - you don't NEED another issue to the pile you've had lately!

Hershey I hope your transfusion "did the trick" and you feel better.

Faith & Aurora we pray you feel MUCH better - not just a bit!

Angie we all thank you for your prayers...good to hear from you.

I have to share one thing. Before the heart attacks my hubby would just give me a quick peck on the lips goodnight. It kind of hurt as it felt obligatory. (We've been married 45 years). However now - he kisses with love and constantly reaffirms his love for me in touch and words and we pray together more than ever. I asked what made the change in him and he told me that now he realizes what is important in his life - and that is the Lord - and me. Oh what a blessing from God this is! God DOES bring blessings from tragedies. I praise His Name! Thank You Jesus!

Ade

auroaya200882

Ade praise the Lord something good has come through all your trials. God is good all the time.

Aurora

bandwoman1234

Good morning dear ladies of faith.

I am back home and feeling exhausted after a pretty good night's sleep.I am going to try to swim today and I think that will help me on the road to recovery for myself. I am in a difficult place emotionally and physically but it always takes me a few days to decompress after taking care of my mom. I got a call from my mom's senior agency saying that her present caregiver will be able to be the one doing all the extra care so that takes some pressure off of me. I am supposed to call her and I think this new schedule will be starting next week.

My mom has been my best friend my whole life so it has been a long and slow torturous process for me to watch. She is not really my mom now but a whole other person in her body. I can't imagine what it feels like from her perspective losing control of things but not understanding why.

My sisters husband passed a kidney stone last night. For those of you that have been one the forum for several months you may remember he went through four awful surgeries to remove one very large stone in the winter because of a medical mistake. I know my sister is relieved that he passed this because she didn't know if he was going to have to go to the hospital. Needless to say it has been a stressful time for our family.

I hope to be able to address all of your needs soon. I am praying for you and I can't tell you how much I appreciate all of you and your support both in prayer and in words.

Love,

Nancy

auroaya200882

Nancy I typed a message here earlier and I don't see it but mainly it was to let you know that I'm praying for you and ade in particular but not to put "our" needs ahead of yours. Rest and have some peaceful time.

To ther st of all ladies here know that I do pray each time I see a request. I have a request from another thread their user names are Dianerose and MicMel. Dianerose is very sick and in the hospital trying one more thing before going for hospice. MicMel is very close to Dianerose and is feeling desperation and sadness that she might not have her friend here for very long. So I ask you to please pray for them. Sometimes I feel like I shouldn't even ask for prayers for myself because others are in so much worse shape. So if you don't remember to pray for me please pray for this two BCO sisters.

Thanks

Aurora

Faith-840

Nancy, I'm glad to hear you're back home and I pray you can find some relief from the stress and your own health issues. Yes, it is very hard to watch your Mom deteriorate in mind and body. My Mom died from Alzheimer's and the last years were hard as I felt I lost her long before she actually died.

Like Aurora, I also feel I shouldn't ask for prayers when there are so many needs everywhere. I am also on the same forum with her and Dianarose and this has been a terrible battle with breast cancer for her. I believe she has an 18 year old son as well as her loving husband who will be devastated if anything happens.

I know God hears all our prayers and is merciful to us and helps us deal even when we think we can't. Sometimes, though, I think we all wonder why there is so much tragedy in this world. The devil is certainly hard at work all the time.

Hugs and prayers for everyone,

Faith.

bandwoman1234

Thank you Aurora and Faith. I thank each one of you who have been so kind in reaching out to be in one form or another. We are here to lift one another up. When one needs more help it is a wonderful thing to see our little community fly in for extra support. When one feels stronger then they can lift up the others in need. That is what the body of Christ does so I hope NO ONE ever feels like their prayer requests or needs are any less important than anyone elses.

Lord, I lift up Dianarose who is so sick. I pray that you would cover her and her family with your love and mercy. Help her now in her suffering and only you Lord knows what your plans are for her. I pray that you will prepare the hearts of her family for whatever is to come and that you would give Dianarose complete peace right now in her hospital room. I pray for her friend Micmel. I can so identify with her suffering as well as I have experienced that on this forum. Grieving starts for many before the funeral and I suspect that she is feeling that. I pray that you would give her strength and courage as she goes through this very difficult time.

Angie M, (Almer) I continue to pray for your healing and pain control after your surgery. Let us know how you are doing when you can.

Ade, praying for you and James as you maneuver this tough time.

I am still pretty exhausted and had some extra stress from a situation that was shared by my neighbor who was so kind to change my bandages for so long. Her family needs protection. There is a very serious and ugly thing that has happened and that has been very alarming to me. This morning I was so wiped out I took some of my night meds by mistake. My cat just now threw up all over my pillow and my sheets. Does this smell like the enemy to you! I shall not be shaken by the wiles of the devil.

Take care dear sisters. I still pray for each of you individually even though I have not mentioned everyone now.

Love,

Nancy

IntoLight

lord, I also lift up my sisters who are struggling through this awful disease. I especially lift up DianaRose today and ask that you touch her in a special way today. I lift up micmel who weeps for her friend, and the many other ladies here who need rest and relief from their pain and nausea. Thank you for your promise to stand by our sides when we suffer and cover us with your wings of love.

Ade

Praying for Dianerose and MicMel, that Nancy can get rested up and regain strength & peace, that the Lord will lift you all up with His love for you, His healing, His peace, strength and provision.

James got permission to drive yesterday! YAAAY! But he thinks this is license to overdo now so I have to keep on him and remind him he is still in recovery mode and doesn't want a setback.

Got our $43,500 air ambulance bill yesterday and just had to laugh. I'm sure that is a minor one compared to what's coming. Praying that the medical institutions will accept whatever Medicare pays and NOT insist we pay whatever it doesn't. (Been there - still making payments!!!) (

Just wanted to share the lovely sunrise this morning with you.

Blessings upon your day!

Ade

HersheyKiss

Praying for all of you, your loved ones, and friends ...

Almer

Good morning, everyone,

I read through these postings but don't always respond or comment. I think you are all remarkable and that the Lord has given you such great strength, even in your weakness! How marvelous that is! It's so encouraging!

I had my surgery last Monday (see below) and got the results of my axillary node dissection. 14 out of 21 lymph nodes were positive making the total (with the sentinel nodes) 16/23. I have a PET scan scheduled for Thursday this week to see if the cancer is anywhere else so my main prayer request is that: no distant metastasis. The plan is to have 2 months of A-C and 3 months of Taxol followed by radiation for 36 sessions. The area of radiation has expanded since this last biopsy and there are probably positive nodes in my chest and collarbone area.

Thank you for your prayers. God bless you all,

Angi

Almer

That should have been signed Angie, not Angi

HersheyKiss

Dear Lord, I pray that You bless our friend Angie with Your loving care. Comfort her and make all good things for her. In Jesus' name, Amen.

bandwoman1234

Good morning dear sisters,

I think as a travel this road with all of you bc sisters I am becoming keenly aware that our lives have never ever been just about ourselves but about serving others.

Ade, all I can say is keep laughing and take big breaths. What else can you do with seeing those huge medical bills..........of course pray about it and and ask God for supernatural provision. Praise God James can drive now. Love your sunset pic. How are you feeling?

Hershey......love that banner. So true. How are you doing?

Angie M., it is good to hear from you and I am glad your surgery is behind you. Praying for your upcoming treatments and we pray for the BEST possible outcome in your further diagnostic tests. Praying your pain is minimal at this point.

Please pray for my mom as she has all of a sudden been worse since I have left for home. I am hoping it is only the temporary stress of her new treatment plan that is causing this. Her new care plan starts Monday.

Take care dear sisters. Off to church. Matthew West is going to lead our worship this morning. I am so excited about that.

Love,

Nancy

auroaya200882

Praying for Angie that no distant mets are found! Praying for Nancy's mom to accept her new care schedule.

Thank you for the prayers for Dianerose. She received a third blood transfusion and she's feeling better. She's a fighter and feels she is ready to go home and start chemo again. Please continue to pray for her.

Aurora

bandwoman1234

Good morning dear sisters,

Praying we can all see the blessings in this day. They are always all around us.

Praise God that Dianerose is feeling better after her transfusion.

I will be praying for all of you today.

Love,

Nancy

Ade

Beautiful post, Nancy. Praying your mom does better soon and adjusts to the new routine. So glad her caretaker can be the one to expand the care so she has less to adjust to. May the Lord bless you with peace. Take care of yourself (and that beautiful naughty kitty!).

Angie, praying the Lord will also grant you His peace throughout your treatment and that it does what it is supposed to do - to His glory.

May the Lord bless Dianarose with strength, peace & healing.

James saw his local doctor yesterday (YAY - no 6 hours on the road!) who gave a bleak prognosis as several have - that even though they get cholesterol (which isn't all that bad) lower, the mechanism for clogging his arteries (already a mess) will continue because of heredity. We are doing all we can by reading all of the ways to reverse heart disease, we are taking supplements and eating right. We need a miracle from the Lord. I admit I got really depressed yesterday and cried alot out of his sight. But we have to trust in the Lord whatever the outcome and remember that HE has numbered our days. James begins cardio rehab on Monday so I am hoping his strength will return with that. He still has a lot of chest pain (not incision) which bothers me. He hasn't slept more than an hour at a time for some time but the Dr. gave him a medication that he took last night in hopes that this may reset his sleep cycles and he slept well! Praise the Lord (as I did too - because he did!). Thank you for praying, sisters.

Love to all,

Ade

bandwoman1234

Ade, praying for you and James. This banner is for you and all the ladies who need a miracle.

Love,

Nancy

Ade

Thank you Nancy!

Ade

Faith-840

Sorry, I haven't posted in awhile but things have been very busy in both good and slightly bad ways but I know all will be well. I'll fill you in later as I need to get some sleep. Our Idaho daughter and family are arriving tomorrow on their way to take our granddaughter to college in Indiana.

Nancy, praying your mother is okay and adjusting to the change in care. Ade, prayers for James and you. I'm sure the stress of all this is overwhelming.

Goodnight,hugs and prayers for all.

Faith

bandwoman1234

Good morning dear sisters,

I am off to do some blood work and have drank enough water to sink a ship! The transition for my mom has been rocky after the second day. I would appreciate your prayers.

Faith, praying you have a good visit with your daughter's family and praying your granddaughter has a great year at college.

Take care.

Love,

Nancy

bandwoman1234

May God meet each one of you at your point of need today.

Love

Nancy

IntoLight

I thought I would share The Blessing from Susie Larson today as it holds special meaning for me today. I have included her link below so you can receive a new one each day if you choose. I enjoy them and hope you do too...

May God, this very moment, lift your heavy load and breathe fresh life into your weary sails. May He give you relief from your pain, rest from your fears, and refreshment in your perspective. Sometimes we just need to pause, open our hands, and give back to God the things we're holding so tight. May Jesus help you! May the Holy Spirit infuse you with power and inspire you to trust Him more fully. May your mind, body, soul and spirit experience an awakening as you trust Him with your cares and take Him at His Word.

http://www.susielarson.com/daily-blessing/2017/8/1...

Blessings to all today.

Chris

bandwoman1234

Amen to that Chris! How is the remodel going? The stress level of dealing with a 2 yr old? I have been praying for you and continuing to believe in your healing that your believe you received.

Love

Nancy

IntoLight

Hi Nancy.

The remodel is finished except for a minor repair, so I can now sleep in a bit and not have men in my house every day. I put a picture of it on the Ibrance page but will repeat it here. It is bright, simple, and easy to clean which was my main objective since I still cook for the family when I can. I can cook, but my DD has to clean up afterwards...It is small since we live in a condo, but is sufficient.

The 2 yr old got sick her 4th day of a new pre-school with a double ear infection. Her mama is now very sick so that has its own stress as I try to help with the baby and not get extra help from her. So far I was only feeling ill 1 day and am doing pretty well right now, so I have some energy at least. I have learned how to avoid her, wear a mask, wash my hands constantly, and sanitize everything when she gets sick.

Thanks for asking. I am ready to have my peace and quiet back with everyone gone to work during the day. Hope you are doing better. How is your mom? I pray for her peace.

Chris

Ade

Chris the remodel is beautiful! Praying you can keep your strength and stay well with the extra care you're giving. The Susie Larson devotional post BLESSED my soul! THANK YOU!

Nancy thank you for the perfect posters. I don't know where you find them but they are a blessing to all of us. Praying your mother's doing better and kitty is behaving herself!

As I had posted earlier I have been trying to stay strong for James but he keeps getting told by every physician that basically no matter what he does a cardiac death is inevitable for him. We were getting SO depressed. I cried out to God and Wednesday night our pastor preached about the hope that our Lord offers, that we don't even EXPECT miracles anymore - yet Jesus our Healer is the same yesterday - today & tomorrow, and that no matter what, He deserves our thankfulness for not just what He does but Who He is. This really encouraged James and the beauty of the songs we sang that night made me cry. The Lord touched both of us so wonderfully and I just want to praise Him and give Him glory

God's blessings be upon you all,

Ade

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IntoLight

Ade, praise God for His faithfulness. And you are right that people don't believe in miracles anymore. Even Christians look at me strange when I tell them God has healed me in a special way. They think I am delusional because I am Stage IV. But how else do you explain my onc saying she should have done more biopsies in the beginning to prove the cancer really was there when they can no longer find the tumors on my liver. She doesn't know our God! Know I pray for you and your husband daily.

Chris

Ade

Chris I rejoice with you! Yes God DOES do healing miracles today! When our first born son was diagnosed with ADHD he was put on Ritalin. But it gave him a roller coaster effect & a dose had to be taken at school which was a stigma. He was 10. So they put him on Cylert SLR which was a slow release drug. It caused Tourettes Syndrom - which became MORE of a stigma at school. We gave our hearts to Jesus that year and at the event where we prayed for salvation they had a healing prayer and we lifted Jamie's diagnosis up then to the Lord. He was healed of Tourettes which was 92% permanent into adulthood for most people! When we took him for his Pediatric Neurologist appointment we wanted to see what the doctor would say and he said he couldn't find any of the symptoms in Jamie! We witnessed that the Lord had healed him and the doctor said we needn't return unless we had a concern. YES Jesus heals today! Hallelujah!

Ade