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Angie M., praying for your surgery that everything goes smoothly and that your port placement will go without a hitch. Praying that you will have the best case scenario but knowing that God will see you through whatever you will have to face. We will be praying for you.
Love
Nancy
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Almer, I am having chemo now. Patients receiving chemo frequently develop dry mouth, which encourages tooth decay. My oncologist stresses tooth brushing after every meal and Biotene mouth rinse. I am due for my next dental cleaning in September. My oncologist also stesses the importance of keeping up with those appointments as well.
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Happy Birthday Nancy, I'm sorry that you had such a crisis and also that your sister had a problem. I hope tomorrow will be much better and you can celebrate. I was happy to hear your trip was uneventful and that your mom seems to be doing okay.
I had a little crisis here on Monday, was very dizzy and blacked for a few moments so my DH was scared and called 911 and I had an unscheduled visit to the ER. at least they take you right away when you come by ambulance. I seem to be ok now but my BP and HR were very low for awhile. No one knows what happened to me but this is the third time it's happened since I was diagnosed. I could use some prayers that it doesn't happen again, especially during our trip which really scares me.
Ladies, you are all in my prayers, Nancy, Jean, Almer, intolight, AngieM, Hershey and especially James and Ade, I hope we hear something from you soon. And everyone else here, you are allalways in my prayers.
Have a peaceful night.
Faith.
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Faith, I am sorry to hear about your ER event. That is scary. I will pray that you can get some answers. I know my AI and BP meds have caused much dizziness when stooping down or sitting to standing. I have never blacked out but have felt like I was going to. Doing those things more slowly might help. I am praying it will not happen again. Thanks for the birthday wishes. I know you have a birthday coming this month but not sure what day it is.
There are many needs on this forum and I pray that God in His infinite wisdom will give each one of us the portion of His grace that we need for each day that we face. Each of us has our own set of challenges we are dealing with and God knows each one of them intimately. The old song Learning To Lean comes to mind.
"Learning to lean, learning to lean, I'm learning to lean on Jesus. Finding more promise than I've ever dreamed. I'm learning to lean on Jesus",
I think the more we can do this the more equipped we feel to handle the tough challenges that we all face. We can never handle life on our own. We NEED Jesus.
Have a good night dear sisters.
Love
Nancy
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Faith. I'm praying your episode is nothing serious and that it won't happen again.
Nancy BELATED BIRTHDAY BLESSINGS & A WONDERFUL YEAR AHEAD! Hoping your back cyst is healed & NEVER returns! Thank you for your words of encouragement for everyone here.
Jean, praying the biopsy is normal and that God will grant you His peace throughout your ordeal.
Almer, may all of your upcoming procedures go perfectly with God's healing hand upon you accompanied by His peace. So glad you have the joy of knowing you're His!
(Please forgive me if I left anyone out. The LORD remembers you in my prayers)
James is slowly progressing. That 2nd heart attack & procedure just weeks from the first just knocked the slats from under him - which he is really discouraged about. He fears another attack and wants to stay near me - but he trusts in the Lord most of all. We saw a specialist to inquire about the injections because James can't tolerate the statin drugs (have already caused muscle damage in him which can be very serious). And what did they prescribe? TWO statins! (They do different things supposedly) Do they even LISTEN???? One was $300/month and we had a coupon making it $85. Walmart refused to honor it because "they'd lose too much money"! So we went ahead and got the second one that was cheaper. He is to take it once a MONTH and the pharmacist put ONCE A DAY on the label! Plus we went to the Walmart pharmacy 4 hours after the doctor sent the scripts in and then still waited an HOUR for it! James was exhausted after the 3 hour trip to the doctor and the Walmart is still an hour from home. What a day! Now we shall deal with the THREE ER visits, TWO ambulance trips, 14 days of hospital stay between the 2 of us (MOST of which was ICU!), one open heart surgery, one stent surgery & 2 heart cath procedures plus the air ambulance that our air ambulance insurance says was NOT THEIR PLANE!
I * AM * TIRED!
THANK YOU dear sisters for all of your prayers!
Love you all!
Ade
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Ade, I am so glad to hear from you. In praying for you these last few days I have envisioned church family, community and family coming together to bless you in helping with the huge medical bills. God has brought you both this far and is not going to abandon you. I am not surprised that you are both exhausted. I am glad you are home and thankful you realized the gross mistake on the prescription.
Regarding insurance as you probably already know, just because they say no doesn't mean it is so. Once you regain some strength and get some good sleep when it comes time for the bill you can appeal. I have been persistent on those types of things and it is amazing how they will finally give in if you stand up to them long enough. Saying it wasn't their plan is just beyond ridiculous. I have heard of people just flat out saying we can't pay this and is amazing how some of those bills can just go away. If you are not up to the battle possible some family or friends can go to bat for you.
Praying for strength and peace and hope for both of you. Getting home is a victory!!!!!
Love,
Nancy
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Ade, I am praying for you and James. Cancer is tough enough without all of the financial worries on top of it, and to have to worry about your DH and insurance issues too is just too much! I know God will make a way for you.
Faith, I am horrified at your ER experience. It is just wrong. I thought hospitals cared about these things. I have always been timid about conflict, but the deeper I get into all of this mess, the more assertive I have become. You would have thought that since I have taught courses in change and conflict at the university level that I would be a master at this, but I am still learning!
I am waiting on scan results. I fear my arm issues are a result of enlarged lymph nodes under my arm so I am a little apprehensive, but I am trusting for an answer. No one else seems to know at this point so I look forward to seeing my onc next week and getting some resolution.
Chris
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We ALL have to advocate for ourselves. It's not totally their fault...these people are really overworked - I know that's no excuse, but I try to give people the benefit of the doubt from time to time.
I know my MO is really overworked at Kaiser. The proof is in the chemo infusion clinic. It was wall-to-wall the last time I went in there for mine, and they were an hour late bringing me back there (I didn't enjoy sitting in the waiting area for over an hour...they always tell you to get there about 15 min early.)
So we have to be very vigilant when it comes to scanning our Rx's, etc. The pharmacist at Kaiser always has me look at the bottle to make sure my name is correct, the drug is correct, the dosage, etc., because he says, "You know, we're human. We make mistakes, too."
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Faith, I also have Kaiser and appreciate all they do for me. I have been very pleased with the care I receive there so far. I am sorry if I sounded a bit strong. I have witnessed poor care for my parents who both died of cancer just a few years ago, so I am a bit over-zealous when I hear a story like yours. I feel a little guilty for not flying to them more often and spending even more time than I did. You are correct that we have to be our own best advocates.
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Thank you all for your prayers, yes, we do have to advocate for ourselves. Right now, I'm trying to get my BP back under control, its been way too high since my insurance company stopped covering my brand med and we keep trying different combos and nothing seems to work as well as my other brand name drug. I have to call again Monday to see what to do next.
Ade, you and James are in my prayers, what an awful time you've had and now adding money woes too. Sometimes life just isn't fair. We have to trust that God will help us find a way through. Please take care of yourself too, the stress of all this is not good for you or anyone.
Hugs and prayers for all,
Faith ( in the future).
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Good morning dear sisters,
Let's remember to pray for Almer (Angie M) as she has surgery tomorrow (Monday, Aug 7). Praying the her port placement with go smoothly without any problems.
Jean has her biopsy tomorrow morning. Praying for supernatural peace and for a good outcome.
Faith, praying for a breakthrough with insurance issues regarding your BP.
Ade, continued prayers for you and James.
Praying for all of you as you deal with SE's, challenges and life in general.
Have a good day dear sisters.
Love
Nancy
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Prayers for all ...
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Amen, to that pretty banner Hershey!
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Thank you all for the prayers and wonderful banners! I am praying for all of you.
Tomorrow is another 3 hour trip to see the cardiologist's P.A. The clinic in the town where we live is full so we get to spend 6 HOURS on the road tomorrow. We have lots of questions.
Love to all,
Ade
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Dear sisters,
It has been a very busy and stressful time and I have not had much time to post but I have been praying.
Ade, I have prayed for your long trip to the doctor today and pray that you both will have the strength you need to deal with all the stress you have had.
Almer,(Angie M) I pray you are resting comfortably now after your surgery. I am praying for the best possible outcome.
Jean, I know you had your biopsy this morning and I imagine you will not get results for a while. Praying for GOOD NEWS.
Faith, praying for all of your needs.
Praying for all of you dear ladies but don't have time to mention everyone now.
Joanne, thank you for your thoughtful banners. Your post is a great reminder that we only see dimly what is happening to us on this earth. When we get to heaven all the "unknowns" will be revealed I believe and we will have eyes to see the mysteries of the whys that we all experience now.
Have a good night dear ladies.
Love,
Nancy
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Joanne, I just LOVE the poem you posted. I copied it word for word into my cancer notebook. As a stage IV person, I was instructed to keep daily notes to document my side effects and the timing of my chemo dosages. It helps when I see my MO and we go over stuff.
Do you know who wrote that poem?
DD went ballistic today as we were trying to email and instant msg the invites for her party...we didn't have all my DH's contacts' info. I couldn't help laughing, which only aggravated her more. I told her if all else failed, we could SNAIL MAIL them likewe used to do 25-30 years ago b4 we all had access to the internet. Those were the days when we had to fill out those little invitation cards, hand address all those envelopes, lick stamps and mail them all 😄.
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Ade, I hope the trip to the doctor went well and you have some answers now for D H.
Jo, I love that poem, it's a great reminder that God is in charge and we just have to trust Him.
Nancy, I hope you have been able to find some answers to all the problems you're dealing with while you are away and get things resolved before your return. Safe travels back home.
Jean and Almer, I pray you are both ok and have good news after your surgeries.
Keeping you all in my prayers daily. I have a follow up appointment today after my ER visit last week and hoping we can figure out these BP meds.
Hugs and prayers, Faith
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I haven't been feeling too well since my last infusion nausea vomite and extreme fatigue prayers welcomed
Aurora
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Ade, Almer, Aurora, Faith, Jean, Nancy...so many prayers and needs. I pray that God will meet you by your side. Ade, for answers for your treatment; Almer and Jean for restful recovery; Aurora for strength and relief from the horrible medical effects that rob us of our joy; Faith that God will move mountains with your insurance needs; Nancy for wise discernment in your decisions and that you have physical strength during this stressful time. I know God cares about each pain and stress and wants us to commit, trust, rest, and delight in His promises.
Chris
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Praise my dear Lord Jesus and thank you for your prayers. The biopsy was benign. No cancer! Hallelulia! Love, Jean
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Praise the Lord Jean. I know this must be a great relief.
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Whew, sure is! Grateful do isn't even describe it. I don't post a lot but I do read daily and pray for all of you. Love, Jean
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Good evening dear sisters. To say that this time here at my mom's has been hectic would be an understatement. Just many things crammed into a very short time. I would ask for your prayers for tomorrow morning. We are meeting with the head of the agency that provided minimal care for my mom and we are going to drastically increase those hours for my mom's safety. Even though my sister and I have both told her we were going to have to do something I have purposely not gotten into it tonight. Actually I have been having a terrible time with leg pain which feels like nerve pain and have had lots of trouble sleeping. Today I have had a terrible stomach ache and obviously some things I ate didn't set well. I am not prepared for how my mom is going to react to all of this. She will be furious after the lady leaves more than likely. I am leaving for home on Thursday so maybe that will give her time to digest all of this extra care.
Jean, that is fantastic news. PTL I can hear your big sigh of relief from here!
Almer (Angie M) praying that you are doing well with good pain control after your surgery yesterday. Let us know how you are doing when you are able.
Aurora, I sure am sorry to hear you aren't doing so well. Praying that those SE's will subside quickly.
Faith, continued prayers for your bp issue and all of your challenges with pain and dizziness.
Ade, praying James is holding his own and that you are taking care of yourself as much as you can.
Praying for all of you.
Love,
Nancy
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Aurora, praying you feel better!
Jean, praising the Lord with you - WHAT a blessing!
Joanne, thank you for the poem - I reposted on my facebook page.
Almer & Faith, may the Lord bring healing each day for you.
Nancy, so sorry you have to deal with physical maladies when going through such emotional upheavals with your mom. I pray you feel better and that she will see the changes as your caring for her welfare and well being and that she will even welcome them.
Again thank you all for your prayers. We got no answers from the cardiologist PA visit Monday and now go see the surgeon (another 6+ hours on the road) Friday. Then a local doctor follow up on Monday. The air ambulance folks are balking at our insurance and that bill alone will be tens of thousands of dollars. James hasn't slept more than an hour at a time for weeks. He took an Ambien last night and it did nothing. Please pray he can sleep well. He needs it to heal. Also his breast bone should not be clicking at this point and there are some kidney/bladder issues. I am still 'the driver' and ALMOST got into an accident changing lanes yesterday! SOOO thankful to the Lord for preventing that!
Blessings to you all,
Ade
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Dear sisters,
I know I am not alone in feeling that I need to rest in the shadow of the Almighty. My human strength is not enough but with the Lord giving us His strength we will make it through what ever challenge we face.
Ade, I sure am sorry to hear all that drive produced no answers to your questions. So glad you got home safely. Praying that you will have better results at the next doctor visit. Praying James can sleep. I have gone for nights without a good night's sleep and it is not good when your body needs to heal. I will be praying for you and for this insurance to wake up and get a clue!!!
I will share more after our family meeting with the senior agency coming in less than an hour. Oh Lord give me peace and wisdom!
Love,
Nancy
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Dear ladies, please keep me in your prayers. I must go to the hospital this morning for a blood transfusion. My RBC count is much too low, and I am quite faint and light-headed. Also, my blood clots have not diminished, and the doctors are having a tough time regulating my INR (clotting) times. Thank you, and God bless everyone.
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Hershey, praying for you as I read your post. I pray your blood transfusion will make you feel much better and praying that the doctors can find a solution to the blood clots. Hang in there. You will get through this.
Love,
Nancy
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praying for each individual posting Hershey, Nancy, Ade and husband. Feeling a tad better.
Aurora
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Praying for each individual need! Rejoicing for each individual victory and praise report.
Most of you who are new may notrecognize my name but do know I read and pray over this thread often.
Love across the miles,
Angie
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