The dumbest things people have said to you/about you

slinky

I went out with a woman I haven't seen in 10 years or so.  At the end of the night she said to me she didn't know how I could go through so much.  She said if it were her, she would be so worried about dying and leaving her kids.  I told her I worry about the same thing.  During the evening, she tugged at my hair, under the pretense that it was getting so long.  Does she think I am whistling a happy tune throughout this whole cancer s**t? Unbelievable!

Rowan47

I thought this was funny (odd/strange/thoughtless??). One of my closest friends came to visit me in hospital the day after my BMX. Her "gift" to me was a biography of a topless dancer!! Book (and cover) was full of photos of a topless dancer....very strange....my nurse came in after she was gone, took one look at the book, said "how bloody ridiculous" and threw it in the bin!!! Still laugh about it...

sas-schatzi

Rowan--------someday just for kicks ask the twit why she was influenced to buy you that book.

3jaysmom

WTH!!!!REALLY?  3jays

3jaysmom

heck, we haven't had the bus in a Long time throw em under, gals...

Rowan47

She will probably ask to borrow the book one day...I will say, "Sorry, one of my other friends just lost her breasts and REALLY wanted to look at the photos to remind her of her loss".

mammalou

ok, I have to quit lurking and tell you that I'm laughing too hard now.

Kay_G

Wow! That is strange. Maybe it was her dh's and she wanted to get rid of it? Although why she wouldn't just throw it out is beyond me.

barbe1958

Rowan, your friend wins the Boobie prize!!!

hdangelbaby

that sounds a little cruel, that book!! but love what the nurse did with it!!

i know when i was bald, i would torture myself.... i would watch tv and see these beautiful women, with their beautiful hair and beautiful bodies ( im not vain, but i considered myself pretty good looking before BC) and i would just cry and cry and cry! i would look at old pic of myself and do the same

then i told my BF about it.. she said something pretty awesome.

she said "ya know, even tough those girls are pretty on the outside, everyone has issues and problems. how do you know those women aren't drug addicts, in violent relationships, have family issues, food issues, etc etc." it made me appreciate what i had,,, even if it was cancer, cause i still had my husband, my friends who were super supportive and such

and yeah i have a scarred up tit now, i gained 15 pounds from the meds, still sporing a square tan on the left side, feel like an old lady some days (im 30) but, i am still here, still married, still BFwith that girl, still have my job and still have my home.. and i'm back on track to getting to look pretty hot again.... lol!!!!!!

Kay_G

Good for you Angelbaby!  And you have your youth too!  You have your whole life ahead of you to enjoy.  You have a great attitude.  I am going to try to take some of that to heart today too.  Thanks for reminding me of all that I should be grateful for.

sas-schatzi

Yes Angel---your new avatar is beautiful

Barbe hope you got good news.

sas-schatzi

This was one of those WHAT THE CLUCK moments. In the mail today, I get a envelope that has on the bottom right hand corner. "Free Prepaid Cremation!--Details inside". Duh do they know something I don't. Been waiting for yearly tests to be completed. Turns out it was a national sales thing. They did have a disclaimer inside that said--"Please accept our apologies if this has reached you at a time of serious illness or death in your family."

sas-schatzi

A minute ago sas-schatzi wrote:

Friends I'm reposting this here----------it has implications for you and your childern. Many of you don't post where you might see this.

2 minutes ago, edited a few seconds ago by sas-schatzi wrote:  I'm re-postig this from another thread. tested hyperlink. There are implications , not just for us, but all women and childern males as well as females. Children being exposed to high levels of estrogen. Could explain why early onset puberty has been such a problem. AND newborns being born that have signs of going through puberty.

-I'm even more bummed that article was published in DEC 2006. It should have been a Public Health Warning issued from some agency. You noticed that at the end of the article they said they were going to lay low. It was fascinating that the Mongolians to empirically figure this out and have been doing it for 2 thousand years. That's HUGE.

Another thought the government has NOT dealt with the public impact of what this article identifies. Guess it's not politically correct.

I'm going to add the hyperlink here and re-post it on a couple of threads.

http://news.harvard.edu/gazette/2006/12.07/11-dairy.html

barbe1958

There are women on this thread, and probably more men too, that have never had chocolate or vodka and still got breast cancer.

barbe1958

Meant to add, in Canada, we don't add hormones to our milk, but do to our chicken. I think it's the chicken that is causing all the kaffuffle.

barbe1958

Oops, double post. But, I'll stop in to say, I am lactose intolerant (most humans are, but don't realize it - we can't break down our modern milk properly). Anyway, being lactose intolerant, I haven't consumed a glass of milk for over 30 years. Mild use of cheese (fattening!) and low dairy consumption, so I don't factor in milk as my cause.

I guess the 'ads' on bco for dairy products should disappear round about now, eh?

Just_V

SAS - I completely believe this - I have always bought my milk at the local chain b/c they do not use hormones or antibiotics on their cows -- and both my kids developed AFTER their classmates - both did develop, just not at 10 or 11, like so many of their friends.  I am not nearly as good about cheese and processed foods, but the milk I got right!

barbe1958

I didn't raise my kids on milk, they had water as they grew. My daughter developed at 13 1/2, same as I did 40 years ago!

Sandeeonherown

ok...went to the dentist today to get a filling put in...the receptionist/dental right hand woman told me as I was leaving tha the dental hygeinist had been upset last time I left because when she asked me if anything was new, I said 'no',,,,and then she heard me talking to Kim about breast cancer and my heart attack as I thought I might need to update my medical file....Kim said the gal didn't understand how i could have said 'no' and acted as if I had done her a disservice. Seriously? Since when do you have to disclose to someone who is using dental floss in your mouth and using flouride? I cheked with my GP re. my heart meds and dental work and no....I do not have to stop anything...and what the hell does breast cancer have to do with my oral hygiene??!!!!?? Seriously! I would tell her if I had a cold and she was working on my mouth because that would have something to do with her....ARGH

sas-schatzi

bARB ET ALL-------maybe I should have just posted the hyperlink about milk. It's not that they are adding hormones, they're milking pregnant cows in late pregnancy when their estrogen levels are very high. You need to read the hyperlink please. Once you read the hyperlink you will get it.

 I deleted the other stuff-------it wasn't the issue of the post----------the hyperlink on milk is

Edit the other stuff was related to the hotflash forum and was germain to that site. I didn't realize it would cloud the issue-----so, I deleted it from all the re-postings ----------lesson learned.

riley702

Hmm, I have consumed large amounts of dairy all my life. I love milk, cheese, yogurt, etc. But the article seems to say milk from pregnant animals can cause hormoner-receptor positive BC, among other things, and my BC is triple-negative.

sas-schatzi

Riley--------I didn't take that it can cause ER+ BC . I took it to mean we are getting an estrogen load. Only further research could make that link. But we do know the problems with early puberty and puberty in newborns. Would people in the USA have made another drink choice knowing the might be getting an estrogen load. I would have. Here I always thought I was helping myself by choosing milk over soda. I also chose not to take HRT because of a stronge family hx  of ER+ BC in the family. Who new I was getting it through the milk.

riley702

Ganmaa's topic was lunch-appropriate: the suspected role of cow's milk, cheese, and other dairy products in hormone-dependent cancers. (Those include cancers of the testes, prostate, and breast.)

Butter, meat, eggs, milk, and cheese are implicated in higher rates of hormone-dependent cancers in general, she said. Breast cancer has been linked particularly to consumption of milk and cheese.

Is hormone-receptor negative BC still considered a hormone-dependent cancer? I didn't think it was.

sas-schatzi

Riley thanks for reading the article. It would take more research to find if Ganmaa's suspected connections proved true. But I still think they should have warned the public of our milking practices and the estrogen, it's almost 6 years. For something like this it's significant. Especially for children.

Your last question I have no clue

sas-schatzi

http://milk.procon.org/view.answers.php?questionID=000825#answer-id-004223

Riley I googled G--------This page is scary. Again they should have made the general public aware of this. Now they are even mandated all/most choices of drinks be taken out of schools and milk be pushed.

http://internalfitnesstrainer.wordpress.com/tag/dr-ganmaa-davaasambuu/

this article written by Ganmaa in 2010

Kay_G

Shouldn't the FDA stop this?  I don't get it. 

sas-schatzi

Kay-------some Agency should--------it's outrageous. The implications for the whole population are mind boggling. Precocious puberty for girls, hormonal problems for boys, hormonal effect on adults. Newborns being born with signs of puberty i.e pubic hair and breasts. This is a PUBLIC HEALTH issue and the government has buried it.

sas-schatzi

Barb I edited my last post to you above so , if you have bypassed it already, please reread.

Eema

Yay for hot ladies!  I gotta say, that book takes the cake.  Although I wonder, is the friend an artsy type?  Maybe it was more for the esthetic part of it, like, since you don't have your own any more, here's some for you to dream about?  Or, if having reconstruction, choices for you to share with your PS?  You know, like when you are getting a new hairdo, you bring in a magazine of styles you like?

I'm just looking for an explanation-- I like to think people like that have a mental challenge.  It makes it easier to deal with if I think they are mentally ill.   Because anyone who would do that would have to be!