The dumbest things people have said to you/about you

NativeMainer

has any one with recon, or better yet no boobs, ever shown up for a mammo?  I would love to know the reaction of the staff.  Maybe if that happened enough they'd realize they would stop losing money if they adjusted their automated call back systems. 

o2bhealthy

I called my center and asked to be removed from the list and they acted like it was brain surgery...really I do not need this annual reminder!

dixiebell

My supposed bf who has proven to be a very big disappointment and very unsupportive said: What size boobs are you picking out? Bigger I hope! wow and another guy well now you will have nice perky boobs since they are starting to sag anyway.  All I can do is laugh!

sas-schatzi

sas-schatzi

I got my Mammo all clear letter in Dec of 08, after I had the MRI that showed a cancer. Had the MRI b/c I was going for an elective bmx due to family hx. Very aggressive tumor at final path report. If I hadn't been going for the elective, I'd be toast now. 

elmcity69

i wound up with bilateral mx with recon (cancer only on r side), and my BS insists on mammograms and MRIs, every 6 months. i get the MRI, but the mammo is irritating (although that's only yearly). he insists that obtaining both is the "gold standard" for f/u. and then he reminds me of my nodes - and God, I really do love him, but I always think, "Dude, I got the f#*@(ing memo on the nodes!!"

riley702

Haha! Oh, I'm tempted, NM. But they'd probably charge me for the appt., so not sure it's worth the $45, but what a great joke that would be!

dixiebell - for that so-called BF:

justagirl

elllmcity69 -

Now I am really confused - mammogram with a bilateral mastectomy?  Would not that cause undue pressure on the implants?  I can see a MRI or an U/S of the areas surrounding the implants but squishing the implants?

I also got the notice for the annual mammogram 3 months after my DM.  My dear husband saw the notice and said 'are you going'?  He didn't mean to hurt my feelings - he is just  a clue-less sweetie-pie.  It was easier to throw it away than to call up and get off the list.

NativeMainer

With all the emphasis on "Patient centered care" it's sad that it's easier to throw away a mammogram notice than to try to get taken off the list.  Sigh.  Now computers are running health care along with the government.  

Just_V

My Breast Radiologist is a 10 year survivor - I suspect that when my 'time' rolls around again, that my experience may differ from yours... she was so sweet about telling me I had cancer - I could tell she had been through it... my PS, while I love him, had NO idea - I can tell - I know I will get perfect foobs from him, but it does not occur to him to explain how completely odd the breast area looks while 'under construction'....  maybe that should be a pre-req of going into the business, that the providers must be BC survivors...

barbe1958

Native, my doc wanted an US of my cancer side due to a new mass but the centre insisted on doing a mammo first. I warned them I had nothing to mammo but they insisted. I followd the tech to the mammo machine saying I don't know why we're doing it this way instead of an US. (don't know if she was told or not) and she said 'we always do it this way'. So I dropped my robe. I must admit, it was FUN!!! Watching her trying to keep her face impassive was the BEST fun I've had at an appointment like...ever!

She still wanted me to try to get my left side uner the plate but due to LE I refused. She said 'we do LE patients all the time'. I said, 'Not this one!'. My doctor got a note that I refused left side image and he said good for you! Then I got the memo in the mail that my mammo (1/4" on right side) was clear and 'see you in two years!'

riley702

THEY STILL TRIED?!? Idiots.

dixiebell

Thanks riley702 i told him to google mastectomeys last night that is is not what he thinks guess what, broke up with me this morning stating he thinks he decided he wants more kids lol all I can do is say wow and thanks for letting me know what a a_ _ you are. But all I said being me is "ok well thanks for being honest with me".

riley702

Wow.

There. That about sums it up.

barbe1958

Dixiebell good for YOU!!!!

sas-schatzi

Justagirl- I had augmentation in 1980----started mammo's in 90's I forget what year. I also forget what year that the mammo caused one to collapse. I couldn't prove cause and effect, so, I didn't take it to a lawsuit. It was in the consent that this could happen. With an augmentation, the Mammo's were always done at the higher level of testing. They had a special name for it. I believe it was referred to as a diagnostic mammo versus standard mammo. Several extra films were required. My augmentation was above the pectorals.  After the collapse I did not have a redo b/c I had gained weight and my son was born in 1984 and I nursed him for quite along time. You couldn't tell there was a difference. Saggy baggy boobs, put in a bra.

One thing I can tell you, is there is quite a bit of difference between foobs put over the pectorals and under them. In a do over, I think I would have done a Diep. Who knows. It's done.

sas-schatzi

Barbe----------totally priceless. The tech was an idiot.

Anonymous

This bus is for dixiebell's ex-boyfriend's n*ts.

 

tinkertude

DIXIBELL.. good for you ! you should be surrounded by good supportive people! hugs to you!

sas-schatzi

Goodness I thought I resonded to Dixiebell. I wonder where I put it. Out with him and change the locks!

CrazyKitties

I will never have a mammo again with these implants, are you kidding me? Plus my cancer never showed up on the damn mammo anyway, nor repeated unltrasounds.

justagirl

dixiebell,

I think a guy who can't handle you having had a mastectomy is a guy not worth having in your life

It's  just not easy, with or without breasts, to find a good guy when you are in your 40's or 50's even with breasts onboard.

By this time in life, guys may just have too many issues that  get in the way such as ex-wives, children, and life-style habits.  I don't mean there aren't good guys out there that can put ex's and children in their lives but are welcome to having a new lady and is willing to adapt and make changes to bring your lives together.  Maybe that's why older women are dating younger men. And that, I don't know why, is made a big issue out of.  Forever men have been with women 15 to 25 years younger than themselves and it isn't' front page news.  My husband is 18 years older than me and I have to tell you 30 years later the age difference just doesn't matter to me.

Just let a 55year old women date a 40 years old man and she will be labeled a cradle-robber or cougar.  Some men just have really good sense about women. They appreciate the knowledge and wisdom of  an older woman.

Don't let this get you down.  I truly think it is better being in your own company than with a man who doesn't truly love all of you.

Flautalee

Hello-I am new to this forum so hope that you understand that I am suggesting this idea with the greatest respect to barb1948. I realize that I am "off topic", Barb.   You mentioned that two of your nodes were positive.  I suggest that you have a second or third opinion for "preventive chemotherapy." Best.

Flautalee

Hello-I am new to this forum so hope that you understand that I am suggesting this idea with the greatest respect to barb1948. I realize that I am "off topic", Barb.   You mentioned that two of your nodes were positive.  I suggest that you have a second or third opinion for "preventive chemotherapy." Best.  lgkoss 

Flautalee

When I was going through chemo in 2000, one person said (of my obvious wig), "I'd love to have my hair look perfect every day." LOL!

PLJ

miasanta2007

When I told someone I was going to need another surgery: "Why? they didn't do a good enough job the first time?" Clueless I tell you, clueless....If noone ever asked me again how I'm doing, I'd be happy...

drdolittle

Shortly after being diagnosed I was having trouble deciding how to tell my patients That I would be out of the office for surgery. I had told just about a half dozen when another doctors office receptionists called and said they heard i was dying, they felt bad and wanted to buy patient records. My, that is compassion and true concern. After that I have taken the time to shout my health issue from the roof tops and tell everyone how I am doing. I have been open and encouraged all my clients the benefits of early detection. People never cease to amaze me. Being a veterinarian your pet gets and exam at my office and I remind my clients to look out for their own health:)

sas-schatzi

drdolittle-----well that gets about as bad as it gets. Can I have your parking spot? LOL. When I got dx'd I asked that all that knew warn/ask others in the family network to get Mammo's if they weren't up to date. One cousin was found with an early stage BC---Yeah.MX, 3 years later she's fine

 There's a thread called BONFIRE OF THE GODDESSES-------we throw idiots like this in the bonfire for being so stupid. I'll try and get the link

http://community.breastcancer.org/forum/7/topic/763848?page=54

jackifp

Drdolittle - I was on the vet path once, got waylaid, ended up a high school bio teacher...still working with animals and their owners, oops, I mean parents, and dearly love my job. Not only have I put together a great cancer lesson for my students, but the parents have heard the health message. I'm the wildlife rehab director for our big area/ tiny population, and have had cancer conversations with people calling in with injured wildlife. Curious where our path takes us, eh?