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  • Eph3_12
    Eph3_12 Member Posts: 4,781
    edited February 2013

    LorAll-Love the big girl panty picture.

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  • jocanuck1951
    jocanuck1951 Member Posts: 1,003
    edited February 2013

    I'm so very sorry Dianarose! There's no words, I'm thinking of you now....Xoxoxoxo

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  • Meece
    Meece Member Posts: 19,483
    edited February 2013

    (((Dianarose)))) Words cannot console you, I know, but isn't it good to think she is where there is no more pain!

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  • marlegal
    marlegal Member Posts: 2,264
    edited February 2013

    Diana, I don't have anything that will help either, except to say that I believe all the prayers and good vibes we're sending up for you just have to make a difference. Maybe not immediately, but maybe they will dull that knife of pain tomorrow. We can't change the past, but we can sure influence our futures. I'm glad you had a friend like that in your life. Hugs sweetie.

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  • barsco1963
    barsco1963 Member Posts: 2,119
    edited February 2013

    Diana - so very sorry for the loss of your dear friend. It is hard to move on when you didn't have a chance to say goodbye. Hold onto the memories.

    Thinking of you.

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  • mumito
    mumito Member Posts: 4,562
    edited February 2013

    .((Dianarose))so/sorry for your loss.

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  • NativeMainer
    NativeMainer Member Posts: 10,462
    edited February 2013

    Oh, Dianarose, what a horrible situation!  I am so sorry for your loss, and will be praying for you and your friend and her family. 

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  • Cynthia56
    Cynthia56 Member Posts: 27
    edited February 2013

    Diannarose, thinking of you and praying this morning.

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  • dechi
    dechi Member Posts: 173
    edited February 2013

    Dianarose - Praying for you today...

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  • heartnsoul76
    heartnsoul76 Member Posts: 1,648
    edited February 2013

    Dianarose - I'm so very sorry. What a horrible thing to happen! I know how much it hurts when you suddenly lose someone. Praying for you and her family and the strength to get through this huge loss.

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  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited February 2013

    It's official, I've got a date with a robot.  It's Mar. 12.  I do like the new guy doctor too.  He is the only one in the group not to have done an uneccessary procedure to me, so that's a plus; and he didn't flinch when I basically asked him if he ever killed anyone doing this robotic surgery yet.  (He said he didn't, but how would I know?  I just went by the body language that implied he was telling the truth.  It's kind of like how you watch for a reaction when you ask a pilot, "What time is happy hour again?" only without trying to simultaneously sniff his breath.) 

                                          

    The good:  I'm an ideal candidate for the robotic surgery.

    The bad:  Almost certain that I have to wear a temporary ileostomy bag.  Eeek, double eeek!

    The ugly:  (Bet you thought the bag was the ugly!)  A fifty-fifty chance that I might have more chemo coming my way after the surgery, and if I do have to have it the bag stays on til I am done.

    Oh, woe is me.  It' sounds terrible.  I mean TERRIBLE.  That would be the entire summer again.  I already lost one summer to breast cancer just four years ago.  When do I get my middle-aged me time?   My middle age can't last forever.  Tick, tick, tick. 

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  • marlegal
    marlegal Member Posts: 2,264
    edited February 2013

    Eli, all my thoughts, prayers, energy, marbles and lucky charms will go toward you NOT needing more chemo after surgery. I hope you are able to enjoy the next few weeks doing relaxing and fun stuff. Hugs

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  • odie16
    odie16 Member Posts: 1,882
    edited February 2013

    (((Dianarose))) I am so sorry for your loss...May you someday find peace and comfort in the memories of good times with your dear friend.... hugs....



    Elimar, Wishing you the best with your surgery...I hope you get to enjoy the summer despite your treatment...

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  • Valjean
    Valjean Member Posts: 1,898
    edited February 2013

    E~~ The first thing I thought of (well, not the first thing) but, second, while reading your The Good, The Bad & The Ugly was I hope you don't hear that spagetti western song while you are going under for the surgery. IMHO, stupid western & equally stupid theme song.

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  • Momine
    Momine Member Posts: 7,859
    edited February 2013

    Eli, I was operated by the robot (hyster). When they were getting me ready, dh asked why they couldn't just do it with a local (he is scared of anesthesia), and the docs all sort of laughed and said they really didn't think the average patient would feel very comfortable with robot scissorhands coming at them. 

    It is a brilliant method, however, in my opinion. Keeping fingers crossed that you won't have to go back on chemo after.

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  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited February 2013

    Val,  LOL.  Funny, I keep thinking about that "Mr. Roboto" song by Styx.

    Momine,  My RL friend got robotic hysterectomy 2 mos. ago, so I know about how my tummy scars will look.  Your husband sounds as bad as me. I almost always ask if I can just have things done with local, prefering not to be out of it, but I already knew that wasn't even a possibility on this one.

    Can only guess if your husband has a touch of the control freak in him, but I know that is at the root of me not wanting to be unconscious and, therefore, out of control.  That is the epitome of no control.  I have to state, for us control freaks everywhere, that these surgery situations are even more daunting because we have that nature of not wanting to turn the reins over to someone else.  Heck, if only I could, I'd scrub in do my own surgery!

    The doc did tell me I had a choice to have regular laparoscopic, if I preferred.  I told him no way would I give up the opportunity to say a robot operated on me.  It's cooler.  It's funnier.  Twenty-first century, baby!

    Related to my other post, as you all probably know, I have to keep the port in until the whole chemo scenario gets determined.  Well, I still don't like the port too much but finally, after two months, I hardly have any soreness anymore.  In fact, if it were just slightly more prominent, it would make a great hook to hang my purse on.

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  • Sherryc
    Sherryc Member Posts: 5,938
    edited February 2013

    Eli glad you got the surgery date, but that sucks about the temp ileostomy.  Was really hoping you would not have that route to go.  Let's pray for no chemo after surgery.  You need a middle age summer.

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  • Eph3_12
    Eph3_12 Member Posts: 4,781
    edited February 2013

    remind me not to show up at your place unannounced with that attack dog loose!!!

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  • heartnsoul76
    heartnsoul76 Member Posts: 1,648
    edited February 2013

    Well, I hope this does NOT drag into another one of your middle-aged summers, Elimar! I did chemo June - Sept and I still call it "The Lost Summer".

    At least you got the robot, should be interesting and very Star Trekkie.  Not so barbaric, as Bones would say.

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  • Dianarose
    Dianarose Member Posts: 2,407
    edited February 2013

    Elimar- your robot tech is a cutie. Wink I don't know anything about surgeries done with robots. (I live in Maine, hello). What is the benefit of this way verses a traditional surgery?

    We had my friends service today in the middle of this blizzard. It has been a tought day to say the least. I miss her so much. I almost picked up the phone to call her the other day. If things come in 3's I am all done. In the past 13 months I have lost my dad, my boobs, and my best friend. I want off this ride.

    I hope everyone who is riding out the blizzard stays safe and warm. Lets pray for no power outage.

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  • Eph3_12
    Eph3_12 Member Posts: 4,781
    edited February 2013

    As my friend "Faith n 50" is fond of saying: "Strength & Courage", "Strength & Courage", "Strength & Courage", Dianarose.

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  • marlegal
    marlegal Member Posts: 2,264
    edited February 2013

    Diana, I hope your threes are truly done sweetie. I'm sorry to say though that you will go to pick up the phone and call your friend many times over the next several months. Each time that happens, force yourself to stop for a minute, think of her, think of a funny memory, and smile through your tears.

    Getting ready to head to dd's tomorrow to babysit, then I'll leave from there Sun morning to go to other dds' and bond with my newest g'son. (To those who may have been following, yes...other dd had her baby last Fri)

    Love and hugs buds.

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  • Momine
    Momine Member Posts: 7,859
    edited February 2013

    Diana, the advantages of the robot are several:

    It gets a better "view" than traditional laparoscopy and the surgeon does not need as much air, making for better recovery. It is also more accurate, since the "arm" of the robot can enter the body. If a surgeon is trying to manipulate a knife from outside the body it will get more and more inaccurate the deeper he has to go. The surgeon operates the robot from a work station inside the OR that looks like a gaming device.

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  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited February 2013

    Momine, Thanks for answering about the robot.  I will just add about recovery from robotic.  It is supposed to be much faster than open surgery of this kind (but about the same as regular laparoscopic,) which is four days compared to seven days in the hospital.  The at home recovery time is quicker too.  Also, not being as open, it lessens the chance for infection too.  I could have had regular laparoscopic, but wanted that distinction of having a robot operate on me, 'cause that's the kind of new millennium gal I am.

    Dianarose, I hope the service for your friend brought a little peace and closure to all who were stunned by her passing.  There is something to be said for being able to share grief with others.  You don't feel so alone.  (Kind of like here, where we know we are not alone in our cancer drama.)   Not everything has to come in threes, does it?  I'm a little superstitious like that.  Now on my second cancer, I'm feeling like if there is a third one, it will take me out for sure; so I'm just stopping with two.  Hope you didn't fare too badly in the big snowstorm.  Take it easy with all the shovelling.

    Marlegal,  CONGRATS on the new grandson!  I don't think you gave us a heads up on this thread, so that news was a surprise to me.  If things do come in threes, you might have more baby news before too long.  Just sayin'.  Grandma, please try and make a good impression at this important first meeting.

                                                   

    I would have answered about the robot yesterday, but I was busy.  Busy making reservations.  Since I have some indication that I could once again be forfeiting my summer over to cancer treatment, I decided to move some summer right up to the end of this month,  I'm heading down to the Caribbean to do some snorkeling.  Copying off Eph, I'm taking another cruise and this time my husband is not too uppity to go along.  I did have to play the cancer card to get him to go, but he loves snorkeling too so I didn't have to do that much arm twisting.  Since Eph gave us such a good report of her trip, I doubt I will write a full-blown travelogue on this one, I'll probably just mention a few highlights when I get back. 

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  • Momine
    Momine Member Posts: 7,859
    edited February 2013

    Eli, yes, the recovery is quite amazing. I only had a hyster with it, but I was home after 24 hours and back to normal in a week. The only thing that hurt for a few days was that I got some of the air, even though they used very little, trapped in my torso, so that sucked. But the incisions were just a little sore and there was none of that sliced up feeling you otherwise get after surgery.

    I had a C when my daughter was born, I was pretty much in bed for 2 weeks, and 6 weeks after that sucker I could still barely walk upright. The robot surgery was way, way, wayyyyy easier.

    Taking a trip sounds like a really smart idea.

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  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited February 2013

    Momine,  My friend reported the same as you, as far as hyster. recovery.  She was back at work about a week later.

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  • Momine
    Momine Member Posts: 7,859
    edited February 2013

    Eli, I realize that the surgery you will have is quite a bit more involved. But I really hope that you will have a quick and easy recovery.

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  • Dianarose
    Dianarose Member Posts: 2,407
    edited February 2013

    We are going to need a bigger yard stick. My son measured 38 inches of that nasty white snowman poop and it is still snowing.Cry 

    Eli- I am glad you are taking a trip. Have a blast.

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  • Eph3_12
    Eph3_12 Member Posts: 4,781
    edited February 2013

    Why did you not tell me it was supposed to be dark boots--not white?  I look ridiculous, but my eyebrows rock!!

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  • barsco1963
    barsco1963 Member Posts: 2,119
    edited February 2013

    Oh Eph - you always were the rebellious one weren't you? Anything to get noticed - lol

    Eli - glad that you have decided to bump up your summer so that you can enjoy it. Sounds like a great time. You'll have to get a picture with your snorkling gear on.

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