MIDDLE-AGED WOMEN 40-60ish

barsco1963

Welcome MameMe - sorry that you are having to go through all of this again. Best of luck with your decision making. It is never easy, but it sounds like you are on track as far as knowing what is best for you.

Come back often and let us know how you make out with your onc appt.

Here is some great inspiration for a Monday morning. Shared from Ann's fb page. Happy Monday everyone!

butterfly14

Good luck MameMe with your decisions, hopefully no additional treatments will be needed.

elimar86861

LOL!  As someone who's just finished rads to that area, I found the glowworm jingle hi-larious!!!!!!  Surely mine is glowing now! 

MameMe

Hi to Eph, Barsco and Butterfly, I am on lunch break at work, first day back after 2 weeks off. So far, so good. I was pretty anxious all night, despite my efforts to calm myself, as my work calls for lots of mental and physical energy, and I am JUST getting that back. It helped to have several staff members welcome me, and for the boss to ask me how I was holding up just now.

It was great to hear from you all in the same sort of way. In reading thru some of the forums on this list, I feel the most comradeship with this one. I really want to be a wise consumer of health care and not reject standard care automatically, nor accept anything that has potentially damaging side effects without knowing the real risks I might be running.

It's warming up a bit in Mid Coast Maine, after a deep freeze in which we went through a LOT of firewood. Nothing like a wood stove in a small living room on a cold night for major comfort!

Nice to be out driving and in the world again. During recovery it is hard to imagine functioning relatively normally again. Warm wishes to all, Mame

barsco1963

LOL Eli - I never thought of that. I'm sure JoC and her Dragon's breath can relate as well.

Hope you both are healing more each and every day.

carollynn79

Welcome MameMe I hope you continue to heal and make decisions that are best for you.

I agree I did think of Elimar when I read about the glow worm, I know warped sense of humor!!

ducky9

Hi Ladies i have a problem i hope someone can help me with. I had a lumpectomy a year ago, now i have a seroma 2cm that has become painful any suggestions for uncomfortable pain

marlegal

Mame, it sounds like you have a good handle on things, and I'm really glad that you're happy with your team. All my best to you.



Loved the glow worm!!!



Ducky, have you seen your doctor yet? I think that is the first thing I'd do. I personally never had a seroma so I can't offer suggestions for pain relief. Good luck.

ducky9

Marlegal, thxs for the reply i did see the dr she is keeping a close look on it really dont want it drained tyenol will be my friend

Rdrunner

I had a seroma after my mx twice, doc drained them, it didnt hurt at all to have them drained. 

heartnsoul76

Welcome, MameMe! When I read about your bad stereotactic biopsy it sent chills up my spine. I've had the ultra-sound guided biopsy, too. That was almost relaxing. The stereotactic lasted 40 minutes and I was silently sobbing the whole time. Ugh, the things we have to do!

When I was in college, we had a small living room with a wood-burning stove.  I knew nothing about them - I was roughing it during the hippie days.  That stove was the most marvelous heating device I've ever seen, even to this day.  Of course, the most pleasant part was watching my sculpted boyfriend swinging that axe to chop up kindling and firewood for the night.... ahhh, sweet memories.

Oh, Eli! What a perfect song for you! The Mills Brothers "Glow Worm": http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9WuZ3zV_w4Y

"shine little glow worm, glimmer, glimmer, shine little glow worm, glimmer, glimmer"..."Light the path below, above and lead us on to love." Take it, Eli!

MameMe

Oh, heartnsoul, I loved the song! What a great start to the day! My husband got a chuckle out of it, too. With Barsco's poem, why, its a virtual tidal wave of silly sweetness! The wood stove is the ideal winter companion in a cold climate. We have a small salt box house that we built in the '70's, when we WERE pretty alternatively oriented. Now, we are just economical rural types with a taste for books.

My revised path report came in yesterday, with proliferation rate info. "Mib-1 proliferation index: High" Does that have any bearing on treatment decisions?

Time to get that oncologist appointment set up. I need a good advocate for making a tx plan that really fits my situation, age, preferences.

One work day down, three to go, then I can sleep all day on Friday if needed. I held up pretty well, tho, yesterday, so may not need to collapse over the weekend. It would be more fun to go see friends or go shopping, actually. Nothing like a clearance sale at a few choice vendors to take the mind off mortality...!

(((hugs))) to all, Mame

elimar86861

ducky9, wecome!  As you have heard, fraining a seroma is not really painful, but the release of the fluid pressure provides almost immediate relief.  I'd have it done myself.

Rdunner,  Thanks for joining in to help out on that question.  Wow!  You have a lot of Dx lines.  Usually we just go with the "biggest" of the masses (which is the one that ends up determining treatment anyway.) I will say this, IF you have DCIS, it would be Stage 0 automatically.  This is because, regardles of size of area, until it mutates further into IDC, it lacks the ability to spread.  For a small amount of DCIS like you had, it is not neccessary to include that in your Dx.  Why?  Because probably half the women here with IDC also had some component of DCIS alongside it.  I had about 5%.  Unles it was an "extensive component" it does not make much difference by being there.  So, tell us, is that all in one breast or both?  Did you do BiMX?  Getting recon or no?

HnS76,  "glimmer, glimmer"... I've changed the top pic today in honor of the song.

iatigger

Eli, Love the jitter bugs!

MameMe

I am going to wear out my welcome at this rate, but here goes. Just after I wrote to you folks this morning, I got a call from the social worker who coordinates cancer care at the small hospital where I am being seen. She had an onc appointment for me and was able to tell me that hte onc has ordered an Oncotype test, so I need to wait for those results which take about ten days. I am glad to have that settled, and to have a week of no appointments coming up. The appt. on 2/12 will hopefully give me a better handle on what to do next.

Glow Worm ran around in the back of my mind all day!

Best, Mame

heartnsoul76

Haha, Elimar! Don't know where glitter came from. Hope the song put a little rhythm in your rumba.



Mame - A week of no appointments- how nice! Hope the Oncotype number comes back good and low! So glad you and your hubby enjoyed the song! It's been in my head all day, too!



I looked it up because we used to sing a few words when we were kids but I never knew the rest. Such a catchy little diddy! Can't you see our parents dancing to that when they were young? We have the neatest picture of my parents looking like movie stars sitting in a nightclub in the 50's with the heavyweight boxer Jack Dempsey.

Life seemed so glamorous then!

elimar86861

I can't keep up with all the comings and goings around here, but seems like we haven't heard from Barbe1958 in a while.  Are you doing o.k. Barbe?

When I don't see someone posting for a while, I don't really worry too much...I usually think they are off doing other things, but sometimes I wish that some ladies from way back would just reappear at some point to say how great and non-cancery their lives are going now.  So anyone thinking of moving on, don't think you have to get cancer all over again to come back and say "hello" every once in a while.

jocanuck1951

Yes Barb....I can relate to the glow worm as well LOL! Had my Abraxane & hercepton yesterday and the dragon came 6x....3 of those times I managed only 1 step away from the magic bowl. Took 8 Imodiums.....



So far today, ssssshhhhhhh...haven't seen the dragon's breath yet....so tip toeing, my sis is bringing me for a follow up with my breast surgeon....the one that didn't have the balls to tell my hubby and I that I had liver mets. So arrogant that she wanted to save face as she poo pooed me prior to surgery with only 7mm IDC and DCIS at the time...I have my 10 page path report now....10 pages for 1 boob! I'd like to hex her!

jocanuck1951

Oops, lost most my hair, have to update my pic. Xoxox

elimar86861

JoC,  Was thinking about you...and if you ever did find out about that certain nodule that was giving you trouble?    Wish you the best in handling those awful S/Es.  Besides Imodium, they gave me Lowmotil, for dragon control but the dragon showed up daily for a while, with its blood-curdling dragon moan.  (Oh wait, that might have been me.)

barsco1963

JoC - good to hear from you. Won't even mention the lack of visits from you know who! Glad that you are able to get through the tx with a bit less drama than the first go round.

 Can't imagine trying to wade through a 10 page path report - yikes.

Are you gonna rock the bald or do you have wigs/scarves? Either way I am sure you will rock it!

Dianarose

Joc- My path report is 12 pages so I know what you mean. I don't even look at it anymore it's so dam ugly.

You have a great smile in your picture.

I was just noticing that you didn't have any positive nodes and yet barsco had 21. I had 17/17. This whole node thing bothers me. I don't think it should have as much weight with the doc's as they say it does. It gives women a wrong sense of relief when they say you are fine because it's not in your nodes.

marlegal

Mame, never worry about posting a lot..that's why we're here, right? Good luck with the onco test.



HNS... I loved when my parents got together with my aunts and uncles and listened to the classics. All in suits and dresses, all drinking and smoking, and eventually they'd wind up dancing. And I have one of those pics of them at the Latin Casino in NJ...I think for Sinatra. Classic table shot.



Jo, hope you continue to feel well hon.



Eli, speaking of feeling well, how's the appetite these days?

marlegal

PS...hoping Barbe chimes in herself, but she has been posting to FB so presumably ok.

luvmygoats

Don't know why Barbe has not been on here. Know she posted on some board I was reading in the last day or 2.  I wonder if this fell off her favorites list

Jo - sorry to hear the dragon visited but glad he is gone for now. That is one thing I've never heard it called.

Liefie - great about the no news mammo. The best kind. Enjoy your trip.

Welcome Mame - This is a friendly bunch. Don't worry about being chatty. Nobody's counting words or the # of posts.  Just glad you found us.

Eli - How are you feeling these days?

Heartnsoul - I had never really listened to Glow Worm just toe tapping along with it. It's really cute.

Well, after a mammo 2 weeks ago had visit with BS today. Like the radiologist, she told me everything looks fine and she'll see me in 6 months. I have managed to get the MO and BS appts too close together. I think it was the MO delayed an appt for something. Anyway we moved BS appt to the end of August. Sounds like forever far away right now but have MO in June. Don't have anything now until the end of Feb then go the internist and glaucoma dr.  Then the only thing left if the gyn which I will put off until March. I might have serious shopping withdrawal at this rate with no trips to the big city but DH would think I would be saving money. But --- I might get rescued if I go to visit my DD across town.

Hope everyone had a good night.

Ossa

elimar... I have seen Barbe on facebook

Meece

I had thought thought about Barbe about the same time you did, Eli~.  I thought she may have been put in the "time out chair" again, but she is posting on other threads.  She hasn't been on the threads I usually meet up with her on though.

Cynthia56

LOVE, LOVE THAT T-SHRT!

elimar86861

I second that emotion (on the shirt) Meece!  The t-shirt of my mind sez. "I just don't have the time for all this cancer-y business."

Cynthis56, welcome!  You are so newly diagnosed, just let us know if we can provide you with info. or support.  We've been known to "jump into your pocket" and go along to things like SNBs and surgeries and I see you have that coming up.  Just be warned that we do sometimes leave snack crumbs behind in the pocket, or the suspiciously orange residue of Cheetos fingers...which is an incredibly small price to pay considering the monumental support you will feel by having us along. 

Cynthia56

Thank you so very much..........and I love Cheetos!