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  • justmejanis
    justmejanis Member Posts: 1,847
    edited August 2011

    Paula, the tacos are perfect.  These should go nicely:

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  • Paula66
    Paula66 Member Posts: 1,728
    edited August 2011

    Now for a big plop of sour cream, yummy!

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  • justmejanis
    justmejanis Member Posts: 1,847
    edited August 2011

    Of course, silly me:

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  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited August 2011

    No prob, Reesie!   (Guilt is so middle-aged, btw!)  Embarassed

    When I made this thread, for the neither "young" nor "older," there were people saying that having three age groups was one too many.  I don't know, I just thought we should be sandwiched in there somewhere, since many of us represent the "sandwich generation" in our families anyway.

    Guess our age group is too broad for some, but like some smarty pants once said, "Try to please everyone, end up pleasing none." (I bet it was a middle-aged smarty pants, too!)

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  • Paula66
    Paula66 Member Posts: 1,728
    edited August 2011

    Thank you Janis, lol!  To bad that I just could pull all the yummy treats from the computer then I wouldnt have to cook supper, lol.  Hubs and the son have this crazy idea that they need to eat!  But yet neither wants to cook so it has to be me and Im not even hungry!

    eli I know that some feel we are old foggies and that we dont wanna hear about the kids.  Well guess what alot of us still talk about them even though they are older. 

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  • justmejanis
    justmejanis Member Posts: 1,847
    edited August 2011

    Eli, this thread is perfect.  This one is for you:

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  • jo1955
    jo1955 Member Posts: 8,543
    edited August 2011

    Welcome Duchess - You have found a crazy bunch of ladies.  Jump in anytime and ask questions, vent, cry, do whatever you need to.  I know this has been my lifeline and I am so grateful to have found these wonderful ladies.

    Been reading everyone's posts but have not wanted to write much lately.  Tues is my one year cancerversary and I'm not sure how I feel about that right now.  When I have mentioned it to people here - the response I get is "Where has the last year gone?"  Or, "this last year has gone so fast".  Well, no it has not - at least for me.  Right now, I have no plans to celebrate.  Feeling kinda bummed out actually.  Thanks for listening. 

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  • justmejanis
    justmejanis Member Posts: 1,847
    edited August 2011

    Ah Jo......sorry you are feeling so bummy.  I think sometimes these anniversaries, or milestones, can  be a real challenge.  Mixed feelings are normal.  Talk it through....your "lifeline" listeners are here to help you if you care to enlist us.  I have gotten much strength from reading everyone's stories.

    Sending you a big, gentle, understanding hug Jo!

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  • Paula66
    Paula66 Member Posts: 1,728
    edited August 2011

    ((((((((((((((((Jo))))))))))))))))))))

    Ok got the hubs and the son and the ex girl friend (long story, still trying myself to figure it out) fed, let the games begin!

     

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  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited August 2011
    janis,  Girl, that could me my lunch Mon.-Fri., but it could get real stale by Fri., so how 'bout me and four friends 'caus it looks like it could serve FIVE!
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  • Hauntie
    Hauntie Member Posts: 483
    edited August 2011

    Paula - I believe what your ex SIL is doing is criminal and I'm not using that as an expression of speech. Is there a lawyer in the house? I'm a firm believer in what goes around comes around and do unto others... so she'll get wha't coming to her, eventually.

    Reesie - Rest up, please. I want to meet you at that dinner a week from tomorrow and I want you to be as ready for possible for your surgery the next day. You're still going to be able to make it to the dinner, aren't you? I've been threatened, by my BS, with having to cancel my trip ,if I don't stay quiet so the drain can come out. I've never gone against her wishes before, but little does she know - drain or no drain, needing aspiration or not - I AM GOING TO MAKE THAT TRIP TO NEW JERSEY. I'm going to take my time and make it a leisurely drive down over 2 days, There are hospitals and doctors in New Paltz and Moorestown who can aspirate fluid from my chest incision, if need be.

    Sorry gals. I'm a terrible hostess. I fell asleep during the party. Here's a party game to keep you occupied in case that happens again.

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  • mostlymom
    mostlymom Member Posts: 466
    edited August 2011

    We have excellent insurance but even with it, I believe our part of the payments will be going on long after we are gone.  We will keep making payments till he!! freezes over though.  Those who take advantage of the system & beg for help from soft-hearted innocent people are beyond understanding.  I have to admit heartache for those of us who are struggling on our own.

    Martha

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  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited August 2011
    Hi, mostlymom!  Are you new to this thread?  The name IS familiar, but your pic isn't?  Did you stop by here before you had an avatar?  Either that or I've seen your name on another thread.
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  • tinkertude
    tinkertude Member Posts: 2,047
    edited August 2011

    ok i just want to start by saying and i think you ladies are great. I am only 42 so i admit  I thought maybe do  I" fit in" here. but you all are wonderful welcoming and a blast to hang with!!!!! Thank you!

    Jo.. I now people dont get all the emotions that go along with our cancerversarry. It seems like forever for us what was life like before all this, they cant begin to imagine how much has changed for us even in a year.  Im sending you my extra Tinkerdoodle hugs!!!!!!!

                   we need somemusic for this party!!!

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  • marlegal
    marlegal Member Posts: 2,264
    edited August 2011

    wooo hoooo.....I won!!!  I won!!!!  I won!!!!  I knew all those hours of watching cooking shows would pay off, especially since hub does 90% of the cooking in this house so it's not like I really learned things that I put into practice :)  I graciously accept the award Eli.  I hope I'm not overdressed

    I'll put my thinking cap on this week to come up with something worthy next Saturday.  A minor nod to Irene, more to thank her for leaving us a bit sooner and lighter than expected :)

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  • reesie
    reesie Member Posts: 2,078
    edited August 2011

    Oh I'll be there Hauntie even if I have to give in and use the stupid wheel chair again. I wouldn't miss this.



    Now since I spent today nauseous -no more percs for me - I will be deciding on and posting a place tomorrow.



    Can't wait to meet everyone.



    Oh and I will call you tomorrow with an idea of a place to stay.

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  • jo1955
    jo1955 Member Posts: 8,543
    edited August 2011

    Janis - At one time, I thought the one year mark would be exciting - but now not so sure.  As I am stitting here, I can't help but thinking that this time last year, I was getting ready for my surgery early Monday morning and feeling scared shitless. I think that may be part of the problem - a little PTSD - reliving that horrible day.  I am not going to completely write it off - I am going to wait and see how I really feel when I wake up on Tues morning.

    Paula - Thanks - hugs back atcha 

    Tink - Aw!  You always know what to do to cheer me up.

    I knew you ladies would understand - you get it!!! 

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  • marlegal
    marlegal Member Posts: 2,264
    edited August 2011

    Jo, big gentle hugs hon. I agree that we definitely have PTSD at times, and it can hit us out of the blue.  I'm glad you're here with us one year later. To better days ahead :)

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  • tinkertude
    tinkertude Member Posts: 2,047
    edited August 2011

    Jo i am going to pm you!

    Marlegal... lovely dress!!!!!

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  • mostlymom
    mostlymom Member Posts: 466
    edited August 2011
    elimar.  I've been around - I'm a step up from a lurker as I've made a few posts.  I have had a different avitar - I was a pug in bed wearing pink with a thermometer.  I read several different threads daily & I can't tell you how much they have helped me through these tough times.  I've been having fewer pity parties but my emotions are still out of control.  I finished 33 rads Aug 5 & am going to start on a 5-yr regime of pills soon - can't remember which ones but not tamox - don't know if that's avoidance or lousy memory or both....  There is one other Martha I've "seen" also.  She just had a melt-down in a grocery store which I throughly understand.  I will try to pipe up more often - I certainly feel part of the group!!  Cool
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  • Paula66
    Paula66 Member Posts: 1,728
    edited August 2011

    welcome mostlymom, glad to have you as a lerker or a poster! 

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  • justmejanis
    justmejanis Member Posts: 1,847
    edited August 2011

    mostlymom....lurk no more!  Just pull up a chair and stay awhile.  I am fairly new here, just diagnosed in July.  I have not seen anything but friendly faces here.

    Jo......I think it will all hit me one day and it may surprise me when it does.  I have yet to shed a tear, even well up over my cancer.  I have been nervous, but never really scared.  I have no idea why.  I think it is out there, in the perimeter somewhere, but it hasn't hit.  I suspect one of these days I may just have a total meltdown.  When that happens, I will be counting on my new friends here to hold my hand through it.  I beleive that is what everyone here does so well.  I get the fear, I really do.  I guess it just never hit me.  I think what you are experiencing now is so normal.  I believe it is okay to be ambivilent about these milestones.  Cancer changes each of us, profoundly.  We will all get through this, together.

    So this one is for you:

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  • Hauntie
    Hauntie Member Posts: 483
    edited August 2011

    Paula - I just read your post - really quicky and thought you wrote "leaker" not "lerker"Laughing This thought flashed through my head "leaker"? I know this is the 40-60 year old thread - but hopefully we're not old enough for that to be happening yet. Wink

    I think the "Good Night Irene Party" is a bust, - just lke the lady herself, for most of us. The last 11 days of sleep deprivation have finally caught up with me. I'm way too tired to party hardy tonight.

    If any of you watch "The Glades", a show I don't think I've ever seen. A childhood friend, who recently retired to Florida, is an extra in tonight's episode. This seems to be his new career. He'll be the guy sitting at a bar and in the parking lot of the bar. In the parking lot, he's right in front of Jim (the star's) car as he (Jim) rushes in. I'm DVRing (is that a word?) it in case I can't stay awake. Right now staying awake from 10:00-11:00 EDST doesn't look promising. Next month he appears on Charlie's Angels twice.

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  • jo1955
    jo1955 Member Posts: 8,543
    edited August 2011

    Janis - Sending you a PM

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  • Paula66
    Paula66 Member Posts: 1,728
    edited August 2011

    Ok I now we are all big girls here, some say we are foggies, lol!  Well Tamo left me with the lack of desire.  Well it has came back, yahoo!!  Doing mental cart wheels here.  Im ready to get my freak on with my new girls.  I dont have nipples, so Im gonna have to get creative.  I can only come up with tassles or a dollup of whip cream.  Any comments on making it feel somewhat real would be welcome!  Thanks

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  • tinkertude
    tinkertude Member Posts: 2,047
    edited August 2011

    Paula LMAO!!!!  you are too funny.. well i have foobs and fake nip but there are as numb as anything not sure what would make them "feel" real but we could get creative... maybe silly tatoos?????

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  • Paula66
    Paula66 Member Posts: 1,728
    edited August 2011

    ooo edible tatoos hmmmm Tink has her thinking cap on.

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  • tinkertude
    tinkertude Member Posts: 2,047
    edited August 2011

    ok Paula fuuny thing... I typed in edible tatoos and some srange pics came up.. hmmmm gonna have to think of something else i think lmao!

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  • juliet62
    juliet62 Member Posts: 3,412
    edited August 2011

    is that why fresh whipping cream was part of the hurrican supplies!

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  • Paula66
    Paula66 Member Posts: 1,728
    edited August 2011

    O yea nothing to freaky to start out.  I will have to work up to the freaky, lol!

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