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  • susantm
    susantm Member Posts: 184
    edited December 2010

    elimar, I had one of those e. biopsies recently, when I had some unexpected spotting. (I'm not on any of those drugs yet.) Afterwards I just had a tiny bit of spotting, and that was it. AND it came back negative, so I was quite happy. I'm glad it wasn't anywhere near as bad as people online made it seem.

    Running and screaming through a field of daisies. Yeah, that sounds nice!

    Susan

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  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited December 2010
    Why, thank you Eph!  Thank you for noticing that I did accessorize my normal skin-tight convict bodystocking with some adorable red figure skates and a jaunty green scarf.  Boop, boop-a-doop! 
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  • marlegal
    marlegal Member Posts: 2,264
    edited December 2010

    Brazos I forgot to address the part of your message about the necrosis.  I have a part of my affected breast that gets watched closely - it's fat necrosis but I did have two BX's at my surgeon's insistence just so we were sure.  She knew I'd never rest otherwise.  I say get the BX, hear that it's nothing to worry about, just to watch.  It's right in the area where they did the concentrated rads and I was told that wasn't unusual for that area to develop issues.  What fun, huh?

    Jo1955, I clearly remember one day after surgery, after chemo, after radiation - I was working from home and I totally lost it!  Talk about delayed reaction, huh?  I went up to bed and crawled under the covers, lights out, and let myself really take hte time to cry and be scared and think about what I'd been through the last 6 months.  Luckily, I'm not the kind to hold things in so I started talking to good friends (hub is a gem, but not for that) and came to the boards and to the chat rooms very often to voice my fears, concerns, whatever.  If that hadn't worked, I would not have hesitated to seek outside counselling.  I'm 5+ years out now and doing well - still see the onc and the surgeon every 6 mos and that's fine by me actually.  Bottom line, we need to acknowledge that shit happened to us, and to seek whatever solace we can whether it be from friends, from BCO, from therapists, from meds, or some combo of all those things.

    Hugs buddies.

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  • Maureen813
    Maureen813 Member Posts: 2,893
    edited December 2010

    Hi Ladies, new to this thread.  Happy Holiday's to all.  I'm in this age range and in active chemo.  Get a little down every now and then so it's nice to know I have someone to talk to.  Married with one daughter, one son a good husband and a really cooperative cat.  She stays with me through the chemo stuff.  Just finished my last A/C and onto the Taxol x 12 starting 12/20.  Spending Xmas with my family and suppose to cook so I'm really looking for advice on the Taxol s/e's and recovery time.  The A/C kicked my butt or I'm just whiney? 

    Looking forward to meeting fellow warriors and raising my spirits.

    Maureen

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  • jo1955
    jo1955 Member Posts: 8,543
    edited December 2010

    marlegal - Thank you so much for the support.  It does go alot of good to talk about this. I have two friends that also went through BC this summer.  One was dx'd in April and the other in Aug.  It turns out the one in Aug was dx'd at the same time was getting my 2nd mammo & US.  I had my lump on Aug 30 and she had her mx on Aug 31.The other two did not do chemo or rads just AIs. I was the only one who did rads. The three of us have talked alot and all of us agree we really haven't dealt with the emotional side of things.  We are making plans on getting together and have a rant, rave, cry, session.

    We all have great hubbies, but this is not the  thing they want to hear about.

    My next step is to see my onc on Monday morning to see what happens next. I don't have to see my surgeon anymore - do have an open appt to go back if I need to.  Don't have to see the rad onc anymore - wouldn't even if I had to - he is such a moron. 

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  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited December 2010

    Welcome Maureen813!  I guess the good thing about having treatments during the holidays is that there are other activities going on at this time of year that can take your mind away from the B/C saga for a few moments now and then.  The bad side to having treatment now is it does drain away your energy at a time when there are more things that need doing.  Well, there never a good time to get B/C, but it's always a good time to get The Beast cut out of you. 

    Don't worry about whining.  The women here would just invite you on their Rant & Rave retreat (which is only in the imagination stage at this point.)  

    I cannot comment on Taxol S/Es.  I didn't have chemo but A/C+T is a common treatment, and there should be some on this thread that have also had it.  A/C+T anyone?

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  • kadeeb
    kadeeb Member Posts: 305
    edited December 2010

    Maureene,

    I did the AC then Taxol.  They were my last 3 treatments. Any hair that wasn't gone left with taxol but by the time it was over there was fuzz growing in several places. SE are about the same, numbness in hands and feet, but not so much tired as with AC. No real digestive problems. Just keep an eye on the numbness. I'm 3 years out and still feel a little numb in the tips of my fingers.  After AC, it's not much to write home about.

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  • marlegal
    marlegal Member Posts: 2,264
    edited December 2010

    Maureen, welcome.  We love and hate to get new buddies in here, you understand!  I had A/C and Taxol.  I don't want to talk about side effects though because we're all so totally different, truly.  I will say that most people thought Taxol was easier to tolerate than A/C.  If I'm going to be honest, that wasn't the case for me.  Just know that whatever you experience, probably one of us did too, so don't hesitate to talk about it.  Not sure if you checked the home page of the boards, but there's probably a thread for "starting chemo Dec 2010" in there, so you might find more answers to instant concerns of yours.  Which is in NO way to say we won't help here too, I just want you to have all the answers you can possibly find.  I was doing tx during Christmas 2005 and my hub and 2 grown single daughters cut me no slack, which was good for that day.  I had my pity party later :)

    Jo, support is what we do ... it's what we got when we needed it (us old timers) and it's what we can and want to give back, so no thanks ever needed.

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  • sheila888
    sheila888 Member Posts: 25,634
    edited December 2010

    Hi Maureen....i also had 4X A/C   and Taxol every 2 weeks 4X

    You are not whiney A/C kicked everything in me mouth sores, nausea lost 8 pounds in 2 weeks.

    Now Taxol was so pleasant after that red devil.

    Just mild discomfort like heartburn or this heavy feeling in the stomach.

    We are all different. I wish you a no SE Taxol treatment.

    If you survived A/C.....Taxol will be like a breeze.

    Hugs

    Sheila

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  • sheila888
    sheila888 Member Posts: 25,634
    edited December 2010

    We have 2 new Sisters under 50 posts. This information is for you.

    ♥

    ALL NEWCOMERS ARE ALLOWED  5 POSTS IN 24 HOUR PERIOD UNTIL THEY REACH 50 POSTS.

    YOU HAVE UNLIMITED PRIVATE MESSAGE POSTINGS BY CLICKING ON THE PERSON'S NAME YOU WANT TO COMMUNICATE.

    JUST FOLLOW INSTRUCTIONS WHEN THE NEW PAGE OPENS UP.

    I HOPE THIS WILL HELP ALL THE NEWBIES.

    SHEILA

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  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited December 2010
    Thanks Seyla for posting that public service announcement for Newbies.  You are so good at remembering to mention it and I always forget about that.  :-)
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  • Meece
    Meece Member Posts: 19,483
    edited December 2010

    Welcome newcomers.

    This is a wonderful resource for information and chuckles now and again.

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  • cookiegal
    cookiegal Member Posts: 3,296
    edited December 2010

     (NOT) BREAKING NEWS

    The crazy glued hope ornament is safely up!!!

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  • 3jaysmom
    3jaysmom Member Posts: 4,266
    edited December 2010
    welcome Maureen813
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  • 3jaysmom
    3jaysmom Member Posts: 4,266
    edited December 2010
    wow! barbe i would love a rant and rave retreat!! im getting good at it at home, by myself.. so, i should be good "to go" !!      3jays
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  • faithandfifty
    faithandfifty Member Posts: 10,007
    edited December 2010

    I nominate Utah for our first rant and rave retreat.

    I was there for over 36 hours, spent nearly 5 hours in Zion National Park and suggest we meet there.

    Welcome newbies.

    Welcome grandson.

    Welcome whining.

    Welcome supporters.

    Welcome information.

    Welcome progress thru treatment.

    Welcome good news for our PM/Lisa.

    Welcome holidays ahead.

    Welcome!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    xx00xx00xx00xx00xx

    Can't wait to get a slide show together of this afternoon's pictures.

    Spending a day is the BRISK fresh air, seeing the marvels & wonders of our creation has left me too euphoric to sleep on my Red Eye flight.

    xx00xx00xx00xx00xx

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  • faithandfifty
    faithandfifty Member Posts: 10,007
    edited December 2010

    Yes. I am posting on BCO from above planet Earth, mid-flight.

    Boggles my mind, which many of you know is very easy to do, but still................

    So awesome.

    Seriously big things must be comin'

    cuz who'd a thunk such a possibility as this?

    xx00xx00xx00xx

    Hope that you're all sleeping well, while I tend the fire.

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  • Raj20
    Raj20 Member Posts: 1,112
    edited December 2010

    maureen818! A big welcome ! You are lucky to be here amongst  the most experience and brave ladies. With their support  you will definitely  be able to forget about  your BC. If you want to get  healed faster, this is the only thread  through which you will get  all the answers  to your  queries from time to time. Lucky to be here. Well done.

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  • jo1955
    jo1955 Member Posts: 8,543
    edited December 2010

    WELCOME TO ALL THE NEWBIES!  You will find lots of support and real good information here. Ask lots of questions and feel free to vent.  We are all in this together.

     

    Welcome Comments and Graphics for MySpace, Tagged, Facebook

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  • susantm
    susantm Member Posts: 184
    edited December 2010
    faith and fifty, Zion National Park is a wonderful place. I haven't been there since a backpacking trip over spring break when I was going to college in California. We hiked in under beautiful sunny skies on a warm March day, woke to snow bending down our tents, hiked out faster than we hiked in because those empty gullies we crossed on the way in were turning into raging torrents. It was quite an experience! But the place itself is beautiful. I would love to visit it again--but no backpacking this time! I'd love to rant and rave with you ladies.  Yell (That's what I look like when I rant and rave.)
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  • BarbaraA
    BarbaraA Member Posts: 7,378
    edited December 2010

    Zion Lodge has group rates. And they give one free room for every 20 booked.

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  • barbe1958
    barbe1958 Member Posts: 19,757
    edited August 2013

    I'll be the 21st then please!!! Is that like calling shotgun?

    Edited because I failed the IQ test and said 20th....doi!~

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  • BarbaraA
    BarbaraA Member Posts: 7,378
    edited December 2010

    Barbe you crack me up.

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  • barbe1958
    barbe1958 Member Posts: 19,757
    edited December 2010

    Yah, I crack ME up too! ehehehehehehhe

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  • 3jaysmom
    3jaysmom Member Posts: 4,266
    edited December 2010
    this how I look ranting, and sceaming... 3jays
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  • TMarina
    TMarina Member Posts: 692
    edited December 2010

    Maureen--sent you a PM (Private Message--click on tab at top of page)

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  • cookiegal
    cookiegal Member Posts: 3,296
    edited December 2010

    Hi all....just an update on my friend. His cancer is now in his liver, so it is "treatable" not "curable". Does this mean he is now Stage 4? They feel they can control it for a number of years...I'm not sure how many. The odds for pancreatic cancer make bc look good.

    It's odd...unlike BC gals he wants to talk about it as little as possible. We are going to my Packer bar tomorrow to watch football. He starts chemo Thursday.

    He seems to have a really relaxed attitude about it all. It's funny because my instinct is to chat about it, but he would rather I talk about ANYTHING else.

    I still think it's odd...just a few years ago we would go to a beach, not a care in the world, now we are both cancer patients.

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  • karen1956
    karen1956 Member Posts: 6,503
    edited December 2010

    OG...congrats on your grandbaby :)

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  • barbe1958
    barbe1958 Member Posts: 19,757
    edited December 2010

    Cookie, he's a guy............he internalizes everything. Give him a hug and stop talking Kiss

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  • jo1955
    jo1955 Member Posts: 8,543
    edited December 2010

    cookiegal - My hubby has had two bouts with cancer and he does not talk about it.  Face it - it's a guy thing like barbe said.  Give him a hug and be there for him - he will talk  when he is ready.

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