Support Group Reject

kmccraw423

When I was diagnosed in October 2008 and found this web site two months later I thought it was a godsend and I think it is for so many of you.  I thought I had met many new friends, some, hopefully, lifelong.  I thought I belonged to a true sisterhood.

I shattered my shoulder on May 29th and had to have a total shoulder replacement. 

I have posted many times on here so I had a friend post that information to the board.  I didn't want to worry my friends .  I see I needed have concerned myself..  Apparently, no one noticed I wasn't posting anymore.

I have  had and continue to struggle with depression and loneliness  and a sense of not belonging or fitting in anywhere.

I guess being rejected by your support group says it all.  I am very hurt right now and will seek another support group.  Be gentle with each other and may God bless.

EDITED:  Boy, was I ever wrong about this group of beautiful, courageous women who care and love and laugh and make me a better person.

GramE

Dear (((( Kathleen )))),  I am so sorry you had to have surgery and of course were in pain and lonely.   BIG GENTLE HUG for you.   

Not that it is a good excuse, but I sometimes find there have been so many posts on the threads I visit that i cannot catch up or remember who and what all is going on.   Please know I care about each of those here and pray that each day will be a good one or better than the one before.  

Don't give up on us, or on me.  I too have my pity parties since I am a widow and have no one to bounce things off of.   Even when I have a really GOOD day, I come home to an empty apartment and sometimes post it on these boards.   When I get no response, I find that just reading what I wrote is validation that I can get through it -- and that I made it another day,another week, another month.   

Blessings,   Nancy 

kmccraw423

Thank you but you see it has been 3 hours and one - yours - very kind response is all you get.  I appreciate your kind wrds but I think I need another support group at this time.  I'm usually a very strong woman but this last set back has really knocked the wind out of me and it would have been nice to have had some support.  I will try to stay in touch with you.  Again, thank you for your kind words. 

hollyann

Kathleen,  I never saw your post sweetie....I have PM'd you......

Deb-from-Ohio

Kathleen oyu are not allowed to go anywhere..YOUR the only one who has answered most of my posts...silly as they are.........You gotta stay here..I guess people are busy and some of us get lost in the shuffle, didn't ignore you on purpose............we love you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hugs

Deb

coonie

Kathleen!!!

I'm sooooo sorry!! I've been a little out of the loop for the past week, but I know that doesn't help with the pain you're feeling now. I have to admit that I have only 3 or 4 threads saved as my "favorites" and really don't look at the others. That's probably not the right thing to do, as it looks like I missed a very difficult time for you.

I've loved your posts and input to the threads I've been on. Especially the "cute" thread. You're the #1 pic getter of all time:)

I'm sorry I've failed to feel and see your pain. Please give us another shot......please.

((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((very gentle hugs to you)))))))))))))))))))

coonie

((((((((((((((Kathleen)))))))))))))

I'm gonna send hugs until you're feeling better!!!!!

coonie

Shoulder not included...........:)

coonie

How 'bout a gentle puppy hug?

Marple

Kathleen.........my most sincere apologies.  I  somehow missed your posts and there is no excuse for that.....other than I simply didn't see them.  I often don't go to Active Topics.  I can understand your feeling the way you do but please.......don't give up on us just yet.  I'm sending you my most heartfelt hugs and I truly hope you will give me a second chance.  I don't blame you for feeling bitter one little bit.

How is your shoulder and how the heck did you shatter it?

Gentlest of hugs.

Marple

coonie

Kathleen!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Please come back

EWB

So very sorry you had this experience. I have to say though that I am having a hard time finding the post regarding your accident and surgery. 

Hope all is well and you are having an uneventful and speedy recovery! 

Deb-from-Ohio

Ok I am going to join Coonie in this plan.........well at least till 10 after 2 when I have to leave for rads, but I WILL be back!

coonie

Kathleen!!! Maybe the kittens will lure you back:)

Now who can resist these faces?

faithandfifty

Kathleen, I am so sorry for the pain you are under going, both physically, emotionally and all other aspects, as well.



I know that I have gone thru phases of complete addiction to BCO and then attempts at getting some distance.



Arrived @ target -- more later.

candie1971

Kathleen, I can't keep up with the threads here and due to work, I only have so much time. But don't you go anywhere!! We will help you through this time. Please stay...hugs!!

Candie

lmays

Kathleen - it is heartbreaking that you feel so abandoned.  Think maybe we all go through some form of that sensation at one time or another - but you are really suffering and no one should have to feel like that.

Know that your BCO sisters are here and thinking about you.

Caseysmom

Sending prayers and hugs

Caseysmom

coonie

Kathleen.......you're not getting away that easy:)

coonie

coonie

coonie

Kathleeeeeeen.............c'mon

K?

faithandfifty

Back on the road. -- thumb typing (a new skill, not yet mastered.)

...... Anyhow, I'm sorry that we've failed you as a group.



I know for myself I am quite challenged about who is who & what everyone is up against. I don't mean to be making an excuse, just tellin' it like it is.



From my experience, I just reach out with the specifics -- when I'm in need. Like "hey , it's my birthday.... Or gee, I'm feeling anxious over yadayada."



Of course, when you're genuinely depressed that's harder to do.I think now that you've been very candid, we can attempt to be more responsive..... Depending on your tolerance for second tries.



With all that happens on here on any given day, it's true that anyone's situation might not get the attention that it deserves.



Thank you for your willingness to share your feelings. We will do our best to show our support, more specifically, in the future.



xx00xx00xx00xx

Marple

This is why I didn't respond.......at the time.

I can only speak for myself Kathleen but in my defence I checked back on your posts.  You posted under two topics that even under Active Topics I simply wouldn't have clicked on to.  And from there I read your friend's post that said you fell and wrecked your shoulder.  After all you've been through and then this........well it's no darned wonder you are upset.  All I can do is say I'm really sorry and I hope you can find it in your heart to come back and join us.

Gentle hugs.

Edit to add.........Kathleen, I hope you see how many people have read your post 'cause lots have. 

coonie

Kathleen? I hope you're reconsidering joining us again? Pweeeeze

barbe1958

Well you are just a silly-willy!!!  All your friends are on your normal threads and you go and tell people on a DIABETIC thread??? You deserted US!  Now I feel terrible that I didn't know, but with people going on vacation, me included, it's anybodies guess where anyone is at any given time! Where the heck have you been and what the heck did you do to yourself? I hope it was mountain climbing or surfboarding or something stupidly exciting. Don't tell me you slipped in the shower!

Now get your bum back on the Housework thread or Please Help, or I Bitch and Moan thread where we all love you.

(If it makes you feel any better, I've started about 3 threads that died and were buried before the end of the day! That's one of the reasons I bitch and complain only on the regular threads. No one goes looking for me anywhere else. )

coonie

Kathleen........one more hug before I turn in for the night.

I hope to see you tomorrow

Jenniferz

((((((((((((Kathleen))))))))))))))))))))  pm sent.

Jennifer

PS  --- Here's one for you, too ((((((Barbe))))))))))

windingwayfarm

Kathleen,  dont feel like that, if you look at "need someone to talk to" I immediately sent good wishes to you in your time of need, just because I posted and answered in the wrong area,like a goof, dont think we are not thinking of you. Just take a deep breath and think of all the people who are concerned about you, dont feel you are alone, because you are not.

Best wishes

Linda