Housework support group!!???!!

arnie2two

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faithandfifty

Welcome, LG.

Genuinely this thread started out by our dear "mom" to address issues such as those that you are in the midst of addressing. Strangely enough a small cadre of us 'non-cleaners' were attracted somehow and found a little messy, but well loved thread, here together.

We have de-volved to be very little to do with anything domestic & just remain chatty & supportive to one another thru the cluttered, real life journeys we share.

There's always room in the bunny hutch (reference to dust bunnies) for a new friend. Every now and then someone stumbles in with actual cleaning advice & I've noticed that they have stayed around for some reason???? LOL

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Please jump in and chatter on with us, tell us a bit more about yourself. I was just in NYC earlier in the month and was amazed all over by the big city! We're here to help you accept whatever the cleanliness/clutteredness of your life. I must say, you got BONUS points for mentioning that you have a house-cleaner. Best idea, yet!!!!

LG300

Faith,

Thanks so much for your warm, welcoming message.  I'm happy to finally be far enough long in my BC journey that I can actually worry about the clutter in my apartment.  I feel like for the past 8 months, all my energy has been focused on doctor's appointments, surgeries, pain, etc. 

It's been a really bad year (as it has for most of us).  I changed jobs at the end of the last year.  It seemed like a great job, but it turns out the CEO was not very ethical (I work in nonprofit).  I resigned from the job at the end of February (I was kind of forced to resign after confronting the CEO about some of the ethical issues, e.g., some of the funds were being spent on things outside of the nonprofit's charter).  Even though it was a terrible situation, it ended up to be a blessing in disguise because I took advantage of the time off to take care of doctor's appts etc. that I had been putting off for awhile (I was working ridiculous hours at my last job).  I had a mammogram and was competely shocked to find out I had BC.  Fortunately, they found it very early (DCIS).  Unfortunately, it was much more widespread than originally thought - an MRI found two additional areas that didn't show up on the mammogram, and they weren't able to get clean margins even after three lumpectomies (it was grade 3 DCIS and growing quickly).  I ended up having a double mastectomy.

In addition to having a lot more surgery than originally expected, I also had several complications along the way, including three staph infections.  One of them landed me in the hospital for five days on IV antibiotics.  I just had my exchange surgery last month.  I'm happy with the results.  I did have a major scare after the surgery.  Turns out a nurse in the recovery room screwed up and gave me the leftover fentanyl from another patient's IV - ugh!  I  of course got another infection - I'm healed now though.

On a positive note, although I'm single, I have an amazing support network of family and friends (incl. my ex-boyfriend), who have been so incredible during this journey.  And I've found all the wonderful women on BCO to be such a great source of support!

vivvygirl

Thank you all for the prayers for my friend Jenny.

Surgery went well and pathology results showing no cancer.

Now I can breath again!

Hugs and love to all

Viv.

Welcome LG300

mumito

Great news Vivy.

Faith I laughed so hard at your last post about us dusty bunnies.

barbe1958

Good to hear Vivvy! Thanks for the update...

shiny

Vivvy, Happy Christmas! Gosh, can't quite imagine a Christmas in the heat, butg am sure it is just lovely.

Barbe! Thinking of you, as I often do. How are you, how are you managing all your pains? xx.

Snow melting here, shame.

Not feeling brilliant, pain being a real pain tonight, so am going to go with everything I have in de house to sort it. Spirits brilliant though, as I love Christmas, all good things God brings and the children at home, and DH  too. Planning pancakes for the morning. Found candles that have a sent of Christmas, and had them burning all afternoon, so it finally smells like Christmas in the house!

hugs and blessing and all things wonderful is what I wish for you all Bunnies!

xx

Shiny

barbe1958

I'm well medicated Shiny, I wish we could get you to my level.....

shiny

Sounds good Barbe. Starting to work so will try that sleeping thing. he he.

Hospital sent letter for my ct, it is to take place in the first 10 days of my "time of the month" for some reason, so have to call as soon as "starting", sorry to mention it but it sounds an odd thing to me, any guesses why?? It is a chest and abdominal ct.

Nevermind, just glad am finally going to get that, and hopefully some answers in due course.

take care Barbe and all the bunnies!

Shiny

EWB

hmm that is odd Shiny. But then As I was having/do have my scans it was after they put me into menopause. Wonder what difference it makes. Hope all goes well and you are feeling as well and painfree as possible!

For first time in years I am actually enjoying Christmas! Perhaps because the idiot and I are not doing holidays together w kids (their choice thankfully made it easier) or maybe cause I scaled down more reasonable which I could do w/o the idiot? Don't know. Also feeling reasonable last few yrs not so much.

Anyway..hope all are enjoying the holidays they observe and celebrate.

shiny

Sooo glad you are enjoying the holidays your way, nice and simple and with your kiddos AND that you are feeling reasonable with it too! Brill, long may it continue!

I do love Christmas but don't slave at it. I do all the bits that the kids and I enjoy, tree, cookies shaped and decorated (by the kids), sending letters to Santa and preping for his arrival by making sure loads of room in the garden for Santa's reindeers to land the sleigh etc.. feeling grateful for each day. Feeling very blessed and thankful to God.

So glad to have heard from you EWB. Sounds like you are about to start a gooooood year and be able to concentrate on what is good for YOU.

take care all bunnies. I will be thinking of you and sending you my bestest on Christmas, and consider yourselves prayed for for an extra long time on Christmas day.

in bed, trying for an early night.

Shiny

EWB

sweet dreams

barbe1958

I know for breast MRIs you have to be out of your period as there are hormonal changes that affect cysts, but I've never heard of it for CT scan. Maybe they don't want a bulging bleeding grossly over-puffed and stuffed uterus blocking what they need to see. TMI?

shiny

ohhhhhhhhhhh, Barbe...you do crack me up!! he he he.

They want the test "during" the first 10 days of the cycle.. that is the weird bit.. still.. probably TMI so we'll just see what they say when I get there.

Have a great Christmas in your new home!

Got to get some zzzzzzz. I will be thinking of you all.

your accross the pond friend

Shiny

Anonymous

Maybe they want to be SURE that you are not pregnant since the CT involves some  pretty strong x-rays? 

shiny

Thanks Patmom, we shall see. Just glad to be getting some scans and investivations done finally. Hope you are happy and well.

off to :London with the family as dh wants to take the kids to see the Christmas lights there. I think the 45 minute train journey will be the most exciting bit for the kids though.

Have a lovely day all bunnies!!

Shiny

Gingerbrew

Housework, oh no. I need to have a service come in but I think I have made to much of a mess now to do that. We moved here in July and there are still boxes unpacked and items that were unpacked but have nowhere to go.  

My husband helps but if there is a clear surface he finds that a good place to put things, anything at all. 

Oh boy, Ginger

faithandfifty

Ginger, welcome to our bunny hutch of non-cleaning, but completely upbeat & loving one another thread of 'accepting' what is -- when it comes to the 'state-of-our-home'.and cleanliness/clutteredness.

You're amongst friends here.

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Bunnies. We are in the car and headed due south. For real. Big time. This is the actual move. You should see our car --- hilarious. Talk about Beverly Hillbillies. Every square inch is filled with something. DH has warned me NOT to open any door, but my own. Although I'm betting it's all packed in so tight that nothing will fall out, without a can opener to pry it outta the mass of miscellaneous.

Ready or not.

First stop: Augusta, GA for these several days of Christmas cheer with my family. A first in my memory -- since childhood. There will be four generations of fun. Whooooobooooy.

barbe1958

Wow Faith, a down-home-family Christmas! Have a blast.

faithandfifty

Yup. Down-home family Christmas............. with all the bells and whistles of what that means and implies.

(Insert slightly dysfunctional smile, acknowledging less than Norman Rockwell like family togetherness painting on the horizon. LOL.)

barbe1958

Ah heck, my family used to put the "fun" into dysfunctional! Then we split to the four corners of North America and now we get along sooooo much better! heheheehehheeheh

coonie

GINGER---- welcome to Bunnyville The ladies here are some of the sweetest you'll fine anywhere in the world. Hope you hang around and enjoy getting to know everyone here.

Shiny!!!!!! It sounds like a PERFECT day for you and your family!! I SOOOOOOOO hope you all have a wondermously brilllllllliant day together!!!! Hope you've got the space cleared for the reindeer to land. Don't need to delay Santa

Vivvy!! It's good to see you!!! How DO ya'll celebrate Christmas down under? Does Santa wear boxers and a t-shirt? of course, where I live it's not that cold either, so Santa comes down here with his regular red duds on:) Hope you and your family are doing well and have a very Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!!

Wowzers! It's SOOOOOOOO good to hear that other families are dysfunctional too:) Is there REALLY a perfect family anywhere??? If so, I'd sure like to know how it's done. This is supposed to be a joyous time of year, but I think I feel more stress now than at any other time. Now if it was like Barbe's family--------all spread out-----that might make it a little easier.....LOLOL

Big hugs to all you bunnies!!!! Have a wondermous Thursday!!!!

faithandfifty

Dang gum it.

West VA 'mountains' bumped me mid post.

Maybe that's the Universe telling me, not to have been so candid about our FUN dysfunctionality.

LOL.

The part I will re-type, is how happy I am to see everyone checking in with holiday greetings. Coonie, I'm so glad to see your wondermous word with my own eyes.

Yes. Shiny reliving the reindeer landing in your yard from last year: AWESOME!

Vivvvvvvy girl of tomorrow sending you a few snowflakes from these mountains. Seems they have enough to spare.

Barbe I own the bumper sticker about Fun in dysFUNctional. Yup. Being there in a mere 7 hours is enough to smile -- knowing that I have my Ativan prescription for the first time this time around. LOL.

I will be happy no matter what. Better living thru the pharmacy!!

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coonie

LOLOL----please pass the Ativan.......I like that!! Instead of, please pass the rolls.

Now THAT might make family gatherings more bearable:)

Drive safe in the snow Faithie!

barbe1958

I have a Disfunctional Christmas story! My aunt was a nun until she was 42 and she quit. She met a guy called Ed. They got married. So he had a 42 year old virgin! Lucky him I guess...anyway we called him "Almost Uncle Ed" as he never quite fit it.

On his first Christmas dinner at our house he drank a bit too much before dinner. We used to go all out with good china and white napkins, etc. Anyway, he talked and talked and talked and talked. We just sort of went through the motions stunned tp silence until we noticed that as he got a plate or bowl passed to him he just kept piling it on his plate right over the napkin that should have been on his lap by then! We all realized it almost at once, so 6 of us (we kids were early teens) got googled eyed watching him struggle to cut his "meat" and trying not to laugh. Each member got to excuse themselves to go to the bathroom to laugh and snort but had to return to the table and treat him with grace....ah good old almost Uncle Ed. He didn't make it too long. Even a 42 year old virgin knew he wasn't any good!

shiny

Back from London, kids tucked up in bed, me doing same until pills start to work then will go visit with dh downstairs. Wow, you gals been chatting!! lots of good cheer and wishes and Faith on the mooove, wow talk about a busy week for moving. You are one cool cucumber, doing that now. So you have sold your house and moving to FLA? Where have I been to miss that!

Ohh \Barbe, you have so many stories! xx

The highlight of the journey to London today was the kissin tree in Covent Garden, just by the market square. Huge old tree, with a large bundle of Misletoe dangling from it.. when you stand under it, and touch one of the misletoe branches and kiss someone, the whole tree lights up in red and silver lights. Lovely to see in the dark, donations to charity for the priviledge and my 2 kiddos went up and had a kiss and the tree lite up and my DS was hopping and hopping with excitement in the dark. My DD said"mummy, how does that tree do that?" I said (coudn't resist) "must be the magic of the Spirit of Christmas I supose". She said, "ahhh ,never saw or heard of a tree like that before!"

And.. yes, another year, and sure enough DS  on going to bed tonight, and knowing that tomorrow is the most special and exciting "sleep time" of the year cause "santa is coming in ourrrrr garden". He said "and move the trampoline, enough space for Santa and Reindeers not crash". I said yes sweety, tomorrow mummy and daddy will move the Trampoline out of the way, I promise so that the Reindeers and the sleigh do not crash".

I am blessed.

bug hug to you all and please God a good generous helping of love cheer and tenderness for all of you dear bunnies this Christmas! Be thinking of you.

Shiny

Marple

May special joys find you all at this time of year. 

arnie2two

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to all my dustbunnie sistahs!!!!  xoxoxo

mumito

Merry Christmas Dustbunnies from Mexico

coonie

Shiny---I hope you've got the trampoline out of the way by now. I'm sure Santa will be at your house really soon now. Sure wish I could see the kiddos faces when they wake up:)

Mum---stay safe in Mexico!

Merry Christmas to all of you Bunnies!! I love and appreciate each and everyone of you!

May your new year be happy and healthy!!!!