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Anonymous

I see she won, Lisa!!! It sounds like a great makeover for a very deserving woman.

From the ugliness, anger, and despair of bootface has come a precious gem for me. My son Devin has recieved a connection and experiences in Scotland that never would have happened if I had sailed through life free of cancer. His plans changed a bit, and he was able to spend a little more time with Nettie. They called me on her mobile from a pub in Glasgow that used to be a bank. I understood barely a word Nettie spoke, but her the sound of her voice spoke volumes. Devin refers to her as " My generous host and amazing godmother of the North."

I just couldn't ever buy into the "Cancer has made me a better person" mindset. But I'm realizing that "the gift that keeps on giving" isn't just sarcasm. Each person here has been a gift to my life.

my3girls

Judie...big hugs to you!!! How awesome that Devin and Nettie met and were visiting for awhile!! I think that is so awesome! Devin is so fortunate for his travels and life experiences!!

That was very well said...and I couldn't agree with you more!! I don't think I can ever leave this site and the dear sisters and friends I have gained here!  I still would love to meet each and everyone of you in person.  Some dayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy

Anonymous

Hey Nancy, I just realized that your are having nips done the same day I'm having implants exchanged and recon revised. Let's meet in the anesthesia cloud!

cloudhowe

Bless you Judie

I miss Devin! I so wish he was studying in Scotland. He seemed to be QUITE at home here, and is now well attuned to the West of Scotland accent! He whittled a lovely, incribed scrimshaw for me and I will treasure it always.It had better not be the last time he comes up here, only got to show him a fraction of what I wanted to. Next time, my niece will tag alone to show him the town from a youth perspective. She couldn't last time as her big sis had a hellish kindney infection and my sis was on holiday in the Lake District (now there'e a beautiful part of the country) So wee Carol went to Dundee to be with her (Theresa's boyfriend, a fellow teacher) was away at a golf tournament, so she felt very alone and sorry for herself. That's the 3rd time she has had a kidney infection. Hope it's not going to plague her, such a wretched condition.

Anyway, I feel like I have known the laddie all his life!

I do know what you mean though about the unexpected benefits of Cancer. I have met so many wonderful people, fellow travellers with cancer, and we are all now the firmest of friends, meet for lunch, drinks etc often (at least every fortnight) Meeting you guys (no, at one point DEPENDING on you guys) has been a privilege. Not to mention the guys at Maggie's Centre, the wonderful oncies at Hairmyres, the volunteer drivers etc etc have been a honour to meet.

I would love it if any of you could make your way over here, here's hoping ....

Hosp toomorrow for Herceptrin (and I am not bothered, in fact be nice to see everyone) Had the barium enema done last Wednesday - nothing like as bad I imagined. I have been prescribed Buscopan for the spasms and seems to be working well. i am getting stronger, just the legs find it difficult going uphill, but will be getting phsio for that, and swimming therapy from week after next. Be great to be mobile again and shift the bloody chemo weight!

I love you all very much, am on facebook - albeit very tentatively!

The babies are just beautiful, real wee miracles. Please spare a prayer for wee Amy though, as she will need a lot of reconstructive work done on her wee ear. Mind you, she has sooooo much beautiful black hair that it almost covers it.

Godbless girls and don't stop posting!!!

Tartan hugs

Nettie xxxxx

Anonymous

Nettie has given permission to share this photo...Thanks!

my3girls

I will have to view the photo at home.  Hugs to you dear sweet Nettie!

Good luck Nancy and Judie on your surgeries!

Yesterday was a scary day for me.  I was working when I got a phone call from a very frantic Olivia!!  She had been in a really bad car accident. Driving to college in the pouring down rain, she lost control on the highway, and hit a semi truck. head on...into the trucks side!!! Then she bounced off and hid the concrete median!!! It's unbelievable that she is alive...and not only alive, but almost free of any cuts! All of her windows except for the windshield blew out. The man that stopped to help, couldn't believe she was alive!! Needless to say, I was a crazy mess.  I met her at the hospital (she didn't want to go..I insisted) and had her checked out.  She is ok...some minor abrasions from her seatbelt (thank God she was wearing it) and from the airbag.   Very sore today, and still pretty shaken.

It was a wake-up call, I hope.  She drives too fast...and she has been really down lately.  I hope this makes her realize how precious life is!

Hope everyone is doing well...back to work!

xoxo

Lisa

lvtwoqlt

Lisa, what a scare! I did almost the same thing when I was out of High school, trying to get home from work in the snow and pulled out in front of a big car, I was in a small 2-door chevette, and got t-boned in the drivers door. I ended up with minor scrapes, mild concussion and a bruised knee where the knee got caught between the door and the steering column. The side window was broken out by my head. My car went across 3 lanes of traffic and didn't get hit again (miracle at 5:00 pm) and ended up in a grassy area next to the highway. They found my eye glasses in the road completly flattened when they were sweeping up the glass.

Sheila

barbe1958

Holy crap Lisa! Your heart must have been in your throat all day...and then the horrid adrenaline crash when it's all over....But like you say, a good lesson to learn; the hard way!

GREAT picture!!!!! I LOVE it!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 

Anonymous

OMG Lisa!!! A semi no less!!! Her guardian angels were on extra duty 'cause it's a miracle that she is alive and not seriously injured. Big hugs to both of you. Wow, Sheila...yours was another miracle. Luckily, I have no story to add.

Anonymous

http://www.refresheverything.com/adolescentcenterfortalentdevelopment

Just one last request for this program. If you think it's a good idea, please vote. If not, don't!

Thanks...Judie (aunt to the program developers who can vouch for their integrity and talent with youth)

cloudhowe

God Almighty Lisa!

That is a true miracle - walking away from a colllision with a truck! Like you said. thank god, she was wearing her seatbelt! The car's a right- off?

Poor wee soul, her nerves must be shot. Not to mentin your's!

I am getting a bit more au fait on FB, bit of info overload and my emails re full of disjointed messages (was ever thus!)

God bless pet and give your wee girl a good tungue lashing for overconfident driving! AND a great big cuddle.

 Nettie x

portiasproudmom

Ack!!!!!!  I just lost an enormous post!  That is so aggrevating!!!! 

Lisa, I just had to come here to see what was up with Olivia after reading your fb post.  It's an absolute miracle that she's alive!  Someone from above was definitely watching out for your beautiful girl!  Thank you, God!!

I love the picture of Nettie and Devin!  Nettie, you are such a doll!  And is it possible that Devin becomes more and more handsome all the time?  I think so!  How wonderful that you two were able to meet!

We still haven't moved into our new house.  It's essentially done, but a few more minor things have to be completed before it's approved for occupancy.  Portia is doing well after her oral surgery (thanks for asking, Jane).  She's good as new! 

Here's a picture of my favorite part of the house---our back porch.  I think I'll be living out there!

This is looking out the french doors, onto the porch, from the great room.

Can you see the orb and what looks like a spirit or something, coming out the door?  I think my dear daddy was there with us that day!  He would have loved the house and that big porch!  He loved the outdoors and loved our acreage out there!  Can you believe he's been gone almost two years?  Where does the time go?  Sigh......

Speaking of dads, I have your dad in my prayers, Lisa.  My dad died of congestive heart failure.  His heart was VERY damaged, but my mom and the meds kept him alive for over eight years.  It's really amazing, looking back on it, with how sick he was.  I have a feeling your dear dad will be with you for many more years!

Shirlann, it was so good to see you here!  I'll keep Walt in my prayers as well!

Love and hugs to all,

Karen

my3girls

Thanks everyone.  Olivia is doing well.  She was very sore the first day after the accident, but is doing better.  Waiting to hear from the insurance company.  Going for a rental car today.  I am sure the car will be totaled.  I still have not seen it, and not sure I want too.

I can't see the pics of Devin and Karens home...but I will look at home.  You have to be soooo excited to move in!  I bet the orb is your dad, Karen.  I can't believe it's been 2 yrs!!

My dad is doing VERY WELL!! His meds have really helped him. He is out walking every day, slowly, but walking..and feeling sooooooo much better!  I have his car today, so that Olivia can drive mine to work and school.

Enjoy your day girls.  It's sunny here in OHIO!  Today is my Friday, and then I am off for 2 days.  Out with Tom tomorrow night, and to Matthew's soccer game on Saturday!  He get's so excited when I come to watch him!

Love to all!

xoxo

Lisa

geebung

Lisa - what a terrible fright for both you and Olivia but quite miraculous that she walked away from it. There are few things as scary as hearing that your child has been in an accident. I'm just so glad Olivia is ok. And I'm also very happy to hear that your Dad is feeling so much better. What a relief! 

Karen - I can't wait for you to move in to your new house! I can imagine you out on the porch, relaxing - you deserve it after all these months of waiting.

 Judie - I love the pic of Devin and Nettie - it's wonderful how they met up and became friends - all through bc.org! Good luck for your exchange surgery. Won't it be great to have that over - you're nearly there!

Nancy - my best wishes for your surgery too! Wow - you will feel so good when it's done. I hope your aunt starts making some progress soon. 

Nettie - I'm so glad the barium enema went well and I hope the Herceptin was uneventful. Prayers for little Amy - I hope her surgeries go smoothly.

Cathi - I think you must be very busy with your family. Hope you are not wearing yourself down to a frazzle.

Hi also to Barbe, Sheila and everyone else. I don't seem to get on here as much as I used to. I'm going to a birthday party tomorrow for one of my nephews (do you say "great" nephew? I think so as I'm his great aunt!) I must go and wrap his gift. He'll probably be more interested in eating the wrapping paper as he's only 1! 

Jane oxoxoxo

lvtwoqlt

I got my ceiling fans put up this week! and boy are they quieter than the old ones. The only thing is I can't use my regular bulbs in them, only the candleabra base bulbs. I have 6 CFL bulbs with regular bases for ceiling fans that I can't use any more  and I bought them just over a year ago (20 for all of them). I can buy CFL bulbs with the candleabra bases but they are $12 or $13 for 3 bulbs and each fan has 4 bulbs in it and that would mean another $60. I thought that the bulbs that came with the fans wouldn't be very bright but with 4 60 watt bulbs instead of 3 they put out quite a bit of light,

Anonymous

Surgery went swimmingly. In at 6 home by noon. Heidi and Jill are here. We just had a yummy supper of oxtail beef barley soup I put in the crockpot before I left this morning and some amazing rosemary herb bread from the bakery. While we watch a movie, we will snack on various cheeses with fig jam and a slice of pumpkin cheesecake (made it last night)! See, I can entertain even under the knife. I am, of course, loopy with narcotics and will be ready to crash soon. My breasts, according to my doctor, are just shy of double the last set. I'm bound up like a sausage, so it looks totally flat to me. Time will tell.

 

Just what you were dying to know, eh?!

Anonymous

Surgery went swimmingly. In at 6 home by noon. Heidi and Jill are here. We just had a yummy supper of beef barley soup I put in the crockpot before I left this morning with some amazing rosemary herb bread from the bakery. While we watch a movie, we will snack on various cheeses with fig jam and a slice of pumpkin cheesecake (made it last night)! See, I can entertain even under the knife. I am, of course, loopy with narcotics and will be ready to crash soon. My breasts, according to my doctor, are just shy of double the last set. I'm bound up like a sausage, so it looks totally flat to me. Time will tell.

Just what you were dying to know, eh?!

barbe1958

You went TWICE the size you were originally???? 

NancyD

Judie...no anesthesia for me!  No, I'm not superwoman, just have totally numb breasts. Anyway, I get to see my new nips tomorrow when I change the dressings for the first time. From what I could see during the surgery (it's kind of a hard perspective), they look very small and dainty.

I did it on my lunch hour. Actually told my boss I would be taking a long lunch (which I rarely ever do). I left at 10:30, walked down Park Avenue South to the PS's office on 14th Street, and walked back afterwards. I was back at my desk by 1:30 pm.

I hope your exchange loopiness has settled down to a nice buzz. :-)

Lisa, I am so shaken up about Olivia. Having a daughter about the same age, who also drives too fast, too close, it's my absolute worst nightmare that she will have a smilar accident. I am so, so relieved that Olivia is OK. Sometimes, it takes an incident like this to shake them up and make them drive safer. I hope you see safer driving habits come out of it. Also I'm very glad to hear your father is doing better.

Karen, I'm so pleased to see the progress on your home. Moving Day is just around the corner. How exciting!!!

Nettie, I saw the picture of you and Devin (Judie, he's a stunner!). You look so cosy there in the pub!

Cathi, it sounds as if all the illnesses/accidents have started to pass in your neck of the woods. I hope this means you get to relax and concentrate on YOU for a change. I hope so.

Sheila, hang in there, girl. 

Barb, you're as succinct as ever!

Sue, and everyone else...I see your news on facebook. 

Anonymous

Barbe, not twice my "previous" size. When I had implants put in I didn't want to do expanders...just wanted to fill up the hollows in the chest. The implants were 250 cc. the capsules remained supple and since I needed some scar revision and removal of "dog ears", we decided to replace the implants with the largest that could comfortably fit. The new ones are 450 cc. We'll see how they work.

Nancy, congrats on such an easy procedure. If I decide to do nips, I won't need anesthesia, either. My chest is totally numb, too. Here's hoping that Olivia's experience will affect others...it is so scary knowing that one's children push boundaries, feeling invincible. Being a mother is sometimes quite terrifying!

I'm still a little ditzy. Lasst night on Facebook my daughter posted, " Heidi and I are sleeping over at our mom's to take care of her post surgery. She is heavily medicated and quite chatty! She keeps telling the same stories, so I don't see her running out of material anytime soon". Thanks Jill! What would I do without my sweet daughters!!!

barbe1958

That's weird cause I have sensation in my chest. I just pinched myself and yes, it did hurt!  Why would your's be numb? I had a double mast....

Anonymous

I don't know why some are numb and others not. It's due to nerves being severed during the mastectomy. I had zero pain after my double mastectomy, which was nice, but a numb chest isn't a great gift. I'm having a fair amount of pain now in the dog-ear removal area but not too bad. The sleepover with my daughters was great fun, even though I was babbling on, repeating myself. I told them it's a preview of what they're in for when I get old...lol. I had baked a pumkin cheesecake the night before and threw stuff in the crockpot for oxtail barley soup before I went to the hospital. Jill brought a wonderful bottle of organic wine, and I added a loaf of rosemary herb artisan bread. It was a supper to die for. The cheesecake was the best I've ever made, This morning, I dutifully had my quinoa and totally forgot about breakfast for them. Heidi, with a guilty look, asked if anyone would like cheesecake for breakfast. The response was a resounding "yes"...it made a fab breakfast for them and post-breakfast treat for me.

oh, geez...I see I'm still repeating myself. I hope this isn't permanent!!!

lvtwoqlt

Barbe, my boobs were somewhat numb. When Earleen did my first session for tatts, she didn't numb but the 2nd session, I could feel the tattoo needles and she sprayed lidocaine on the area and I couldn't feel much after that. Even now I have some numb areas as well as some areas that have some sensation. It does have alot to do with the nerves regenerating and connecting.

Sheila

cloudhowe

Hi guys!

My the thread has been quiet of late!!

Judie, how are you feeling now? Remind me, when did you have surgery? It just takes so long doesnt it? For some unfathomable reason I thought that once "active" treatment was done you just bounce back. My boob is quite sore now, a bit hard and shooting pains which is all part of the healing process ...

Have you guys herd of "Coronation Street"? It's the oldest soap in the UK - 50 years old this year. They  had  a BC storyline breaking on Xmas day last year. The actress was actually dx a few days later with BC! She is 46. It is bloody everywhere don't you think? God love her, we are all praying she gets through this.

Judie, I have just texted Devin to wish him Happy Birthday!!! 21 eh??

OK girls, just going back to FC - a long lost friend has just contactec me for a chat from  Dubai!!! We share a cousin, Jaquie, who was also teaching in Dubai before moving to Brussels.  We Scots - we get everywhere!

love and  warmest best wishes

Nettie x

lvtwoqlt

Netti, I saw something about the actress on Coronation Street on Foxnews.com. Isn't life funny, just when her character was being dx, she found her cancer.

Sheila

1Cathi

Hello all,

I have just skimmed the missed posts of a few weeks -  Lisa OMG Olivia ,  Thank the Good Lord thats all I can say. 

Happy to hear all surgeries and healings are going smoothly.  I love you all.   Family sicknees hopefully has gone away for a good long while - have my fingers crossed as many of you know Ed and I did a baseball game and ZZ Top concert Saturday night was good to be away and enjoy sometime together.

Thursday is our 4 year wedding anniversary - so happy for that yet  for me always a touch of sadness it was amonth later that my BC Journey began and a top of all that I have received some very very sd news from a very dear friend. You have heard me talk about Jo-ann well we have a wonderful  mutual friend named Blaire - some of you FB'ers may see her on my page from time to time - (although this subject is not talked about on there) ,  it was her DD's wedding we went to in January, anyway she called me last Thursday - I knew by her voice something was wrong,  but I never expected in a million years hearing the words "I HAVE THROAT CANCER" I am at a loss, we have cried together,  we have talked but truthfully I am a mess over this.  It is in her R tonsil and her palate that they know now, she is having surgery next Wednesday to remove the tonsil,  tissue from the palate and some lymph nodes. She will be in the hospital at least 3 days,  she will come home with a feeding tube as she will not be able to eat for awhile,  her DR told her yesturday she needs to gain weight between now and surgery (she is 148) I guess the norm after this is to loose quite a bit of weight. No matter what she will be having 6 weeks of rads and chemo,  the chemo cocktail will depend on the surgery results.

To try and give you a small idea of how close we are,  sense my bone journey has begun on bad days I have often thought who would I nominate to be SURROGATE MOM to Amanda nad Jaclyn,  (someone they could talk to - what ever us mom's do) it would have been Blaire. She has 2  DD's right around the same age ,  I AM SO SAD - SO SCARED, she is so much more than just a FRIEND.  We were destin to meet  - we had so many things in common before and dam it now we both share a Cancer DX, I don't know what to do,  or say sometimes,  I thought it would come easy or natural after all my shit - but it does not when it is someone so very very close in my heart -  she knows all my details so of coarse what help,  assistance I have offerd she has refused ,  says you just stay home and take care of yourself.

Anyway  I am kinda beside myself these days,  once again finding myself question God's big plan -  lots of whys and how comes.

XOXOXOXOXOXO

cloudhowe

Hi Shiela

My goodness, it was reported on foxnews about Sally Whittacker! It is very sad. I can't believe she managed to act the storyline carrying the weight of her own dx. Life imitating art. I find myself inexplicably upset! I love the show - I have grown up with it - and the plot was very well done. Breastcanercare.uk were the show's advisers so it was superbly done. She got off relativly lightly on the show, lumptectomy with a bit of rads, and I pray to GOD that she doesn't suffer too much in reality.

Off to watch  Luthor, a new BBC prog starring Idris Elba (from the Wire) Seems to be great. Have a lovely evening my friends, and sleep well.

Nets x

lvtwoqlt

Netti, here is the link with what fox news had about her dx http://www.foxnews.com/entertainment/2010/05/03/soap-star-sally-whittaker-credits-role-saving-life/

Cathi, I just don't know what to say. just plenty of hugs and prayers for both of you.

Sheila

cloudhowe

Oh Cathi - it just never stops does it? When I was getting rads, there were 3 people with mouth/throat cancer getting rads at the same time. If it is any consolation, the  treatment seems pretty mild and they all coped very, very well. She might lose her sense of taste and be unable to eat (all 3 found that) so that's possibly why she has been recommended to bulk up a bit before treatment. Julie is in her 60's and she has made a great recovery, appetiite is back, strenght returning ...

I was shocked to read that Lynn Redgrave died of BC yesterday too. I swear, it's like a biblical plague! So soon after Corin died of prostate cancer too, and Natasha dying in that freak accident last year. That just leave Vanessa of that generation. So sad.

Thanx Shiela for the link! She seems to have had treatment now for months (explians why she was off screen for so long) Oh for a world free of hte threat of this bloody disease!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

BTW, the new drama series, Luther, which debued last night was SUPERB. I have watched so much TV in the past year - only watched the good soaps, comedies and documentaries before. Still finding it really hard to sleep!!!

Blessings my dears

Nets x 

geebung

Cathi, that is unbelievably horrible. The random destructiveness of this stinking disease...I'm so sorry. Love to you and everyone else here. oxoxoxox