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Good Morning, Loungettes!Temps are up out of the frigid range, and, of course, they are talking about more snow later in the week. So far most of these snow "events" have been pretty routine, no real storms yet. I'm sure there will be at least one before the winter is out. Sadie says Hi to everyone.Drinking my ayem coffee from my "Coffee Because Adulting is HARD" mug.
Jazzy --Not having a mortgage is a great feeling. I put the mortgage payment against some other loans until I got them paid off, now I have that money going into a separate account to use for house projects. It's amazing how fast that account is building up, and I don't miss the money, and love having the "extra" available for emergencies. I'll mention talking to an elder attorney to Mom, not sure if she will do it or not (unless she can find one who doesn't charge anything, which I doubt very much exists!). Thanks for the PM, very helpful!
Cammy Cat--Yes, you are making sense. I've been able to let go of a lot of the worry just by telling it to every one here. Bonus, I've gotten some great advice to use.
Celia--WOW, what a life story so far!
Mulled Pear Cider with Rum
Ingredients
- 1 liter Apple Cider, preferably a "cloudy" apple cider
- 2 - 3 Pears, I used Anjou Pears, thinly sliced - about 1/8" thick
- 1 Lemon, zest and juice
- 6 Cardamom pods
- 1 - 1 inch piece Ginger root, peeled
- 1 Tbsp Sugar, or to taste
- Cinnamon Sticks, to garnish
- Sliced Lemons, to garnish
- 1 cup Rum, optional
Instructions
- In a large pot, add the Apple Juice, sliced Pears, 2 Cinnamon sticks, Zest and Juice of 1 Lemon and the squeezed Lemon, Cardamom pods, peeled Ginger root (left whole), and Sugar.
- Bring to a boil, then reduce to low heat and simmer for at least 30 minutes. You can leave the spices if you'd like or remove them before serving. I like to leave them in until the end and top up with more pears and apple juice if needed.
- To serve, add a slice of pear, a cinnamon stick, sliced lemon, and rum if desired - 2 parts Mulled Pear Cider to 1 part Rum.
- Cheers!
From <https://www.littlefiggy.com/wp-json/mv-create/v1/creations/310/print>
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Good morning ladies, hope you all had a nice weekend! Sposed to get into the 40's here today which means lots of muddy paws around here.
NM, that mulled cider looks delicious, I'll never make it but it does look good! Your mom sounds like she got a couple of my MIL traits, she talks like she's a pauper and she is sitting on a butt load of money saying she wants to leave it to her kids. My DH told her, well you just lost one and think of how you could've helped her, the attorneys would like her to gift money to her kids but she can't handle seeing that balance go down. Buying a house at 82 does sound quite adventurous, maybe a condo? Of course then she'd have a monthly fee and that might not sit well with her but no grass to mow or snow to plow.
Cami, it is nice having each other to talk to, even if I did leave the group for a few years, it's been much like visiting an old friend that you haven't seen in ages and you meet up and it's like you were with them yesterday. I have a friend in FL that I talk to maybe once/yr and when we talk time just doesn't exist. I think I'm going to go see her soon, last time was the year we did the BC cruise. Anyway, that's how I feel about you girls. Yea, men and women sure do see things in a different light, I have a funny little story my DH sent me that I'm gonna post when I'm done here today. You always make perfect sense to me!
Jazzy, Yay on paying off the house!! We haven't done it yet but we are getting pretty close, our interest rate is so low finance guys keep saying not to worry about it cause the payment is all going to principal now but I want it gone before my DH retires which hopefully will be sooner rather than later. Nothing like having girlfriends is there, don't know what I'd do w/out mine, and look where I came when times got rough and you all welcomed me right back!
Celia, I'd love to get together sometime, I'm just 20 minutes from Lakewood and I work in Rocky River... such a small world isn't it? You are fortunate to have gotten to do so much traveling, I always wanted to but whether I'll get my DH to retire and travel is another question, plus we have the dogs. I've got a lot of places in the US I've never been to and I think we'll start there... hopefully.
Lori, The b-day party was a lot of fun, Evelyn is so friggin cute, since I saw her last she's learned to say hi and she does patty cake and peek-a-boo! She got a cupcake, her first real taste of sugar and boy did she dig in! I ear ya about getting rid of stuff, that's my to-do list right now, going thru boxes of pictures and all kinds of stuff in my basement, mostly just crap I've help on to for to long and need to toss. Yea, I'm thinking my DH and I do best just pretending nothing has changed, just ignore it but more about that later.
Ill, hugs and prayers for you, hope you get out and are back to normal eating and talking and I'm just so sad that you are going thru this!
JCS, glad to hear you're feeling well, what's going on in Houston, I musta missed it.
Sandy, glad to hear you had a nice V-Day, hope a lot of money was raised for the pooches.
Ok, so here's what I figured out about my DH yesterday.. he is in complete denial I think. He won't talk about it till after we see the MO today, he said something to the effect of, what if they tell you it's just arthritis? I asked him if he wanted to see the MRI and CT reports and he said, "not now". We get the biopsy results today and I think that and the MO is what will make him "get it". Just coming from me is apparently not convincing enough. So we'll get the tx plan today, he's leaving Thursday and meeting his son in Arizona for a weekend of golf, I have the PET next week and maybe by the end of all that we'll be able to talk about "the future". At least now I'm starting to figure out why he's acting like nothing has changed.
Have a good day, I'll pop in later with my MO report and I have some pics to post... love ya!
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my DH sent this to me, pretty funny and so True!
Marital Misunderstanding
Wife's Diary:
Tonight, I thought my husband was acting weird. We had made plans to meet at a nice restaurant for dinner.
I was shopping with my friends all day long, so I thought he was upset at the fact that I was a bit late, but he made no comment on it.
Conversation wasn't flowing, so I suggested that we go somewhere quiet so we could talk. He agreed, but he didn't say much.
I asked him what was wrong; He said, "nothing."
I asked him if it was my fault that he was upset.
He said he wasn't upset, that it had nothing to do with me, and not to worry about it.
On the way home, I told him that I loved him.
He smiled slightly, and kept driving. I can't explain his behavior. I don't know why he didn't say, "I love you, too."
When we got home, I felt as if I had lost him completely, as if he wanted nothing to do with me anymore. He just sat there quietly, and watched TV. He continued to seem distant and absent.
Finally, with silence all around us, I decided to go to bed. About 15 minutes later, he came to bed. But I still felt that he was distracted, and his thoughts were somewhere else. He fell asleep; I cried.
I don't know what to do. I'm almost sure that his thoughts are with someone else. My life is a disaster.
Husband's Diary:
A one-foot putt..
Who the hell misses a one-foot putt?
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Sandy, I know diddly squat about wine, rarely drink it.
NM, nice that you spent the day with your mom, but I'm sorry about the issues with buying a new house. Hopefully the right decision will be made. Nice to know that speaking here can take some of the stress out of things and yes, good advice to be found and given.
Jazzy, sounds like you had a great weekend, some fun and some work around the house. I assume there is no change in your SIL?
Celia, thanks for explaining where you lived, then and now.
Mary, sounds like Evelynn learned alot in a short amount of time, while you were gone. So your DH thinks the scans are wrong and it's just arthritis! Oy vey! Is he going with you to the appt.? Good luck with your appt., hoping it will be the best news possible.....if that's even possible! Such cute pictures.
Gorgeous day here yesterday, got to 70. Still working on moving things out of here. I sure hope we sell most of it, otherwise it's going to the thrift store or the dump!
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Just a funny. I ran into one of my chemo nurses in the grocery store yesterday. She asked if I was enjoying my chemo vacay. I mentioned I was going to Houston. She asked if it was for a second opinion! I laughed and said no, my sister lives there. We had a good giggle.
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Mornin' ladies,
Mary LOL that's exactly what I meant for men an women, that was so funny. And ur pics, are great how cute. I'm sending prayers early today for ur app'ts and let us know cu I check back here too.
Kim I'm glad ur mind is more at rest about ur mom, it is good to have other opinions.. And of course ur DOTD's are always so so good. They always make me want to drink, it's funny tho nowadays I don't even know what some of these alcohol names are but I still want to drink them. I think most of us in the snow area are waiting for "the big one" to happen. None of the snow has really been significant to cause any closings or just staying home.
JC isn't it funny tho when u see someone out of character doing the same thing u r, it doesn't seem right. It makes them real.
Oh I forgot <this is just a silly story, so it's not important really> Saturday, Marty hurt his foot really bad so they went to the urgent care thing around here. So I was home alone and coming back from the bathroom I lost my balance, saw my glasses fly and I wasn't on any carpet an falling backwards, so I maneuvered my body to fall towards my left cheek <not on my face> cuz I actually thought of my tailbone. And down I was laying on the floor and the dog just watching me. Everytime I fall my body shakes a whole lot right after so all I could do was wait. Then I realized I was going to wait more cuz there was no one to call. So I laid there an calmed down for a little bit and said a prayer and right after the prayers the dog started going crazy so I knew my kids were home. Well they walked in and Leslie has a pitch in her voice that u want to punch and she gets hysterical and Marty could barely stand <he tore all kinds of ligaments>. So now there's Les hysterical, Marty thinking and our dog acting like he cares and I'm laughing at them. Then she gets madder. So she got behind me, Marty brought me a chair and he took my arms and 1.2.3 I was up. I was worried about her arm especially, but somehow she said she was fine. And I was fine, well later I started hurting and what I don't understand is why does my body shake so badly after, it's like I feel like I'm in shock and all day every so often I felt like that. Hey I warned u this was a stupid story so if ur still reading it's ur fault. I always said this was the house of Ziggy, entering it needs a sign of the cross at least. Holy water and a rosary would make it better. Somehow that took my whole weekend and I'm still hurting, but I'm fine. I usually don't fall backwards an hit my head. Again no one can tell the difference about my head.
Well hello to all I missed. Illi I hope u check in today. And yes I'm still interested in London, did u DH already live in England.
LUBS U ALL
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Cami- are you okay? What a hard time for your family this weekend. Are you sure you are not injured?
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Hi friends- in to a new week once again. The weather this weekend was SO nice, and so I got some pre-spring clean out done. also time to prune my oak tree which took all of 2 minutes. Lots more to do but we still have winter here and more snow coming this week. Today is the last "nice day" and I have some things to go to consignment this afternoon, and some donations to drop off from the weekend purge activities, then to a board meeting tonight. Three weeks from today, we will have day light savings time!
Cami- that calico cat video biting the finger is just hilarious. First of all, I love calicos as they have a very specific type of purr-sonality. But the look on that cat's face, you know it was not going to be good for that finger. Anyways, I was concerned to read about Marty's injury and them coming home to find you on the floor. I hope you get checked out to be sure you are okay? I think you are going to be sore.
Genny- I think bringing your husband to the appointment with you and discussing your progression and what is coming next will be the only way for him to get it- let him hear it from the MO directly. Although I don't have a husband, I have a sister who is just like this and refuses to hear anything for awhile, if ever. Denial is a normal reaction to difficult news, some people tend to stay there too long though? If it is someone you don't depend on, you can put them to the side for awhile, but with people you need help from, you have to really figure out how to get them to understand the new information being presented and what they can do to help you. Do you go to any kind of local support group? I know some of the local cancer support groups here can be for entire support systems as well as the cancer patient. There could be some good resources for both of you there, if he would go?
And well, in the midst of all this crap, that beautiful little Evelyn celebrating her 1st birthday. She is so cute and love the peekaboo pic the best. Glad you have those grandchildren to keep you smiling!
NM- I was glad to share some ideas with you and wish you the best with helping your mom figure out where she needs to be going forward. Never an easy conversation, and my mom always dug her heels in with any suggestions about making changes as things were changing through time. I think there is a better solution than a home purchase out there for an 82 year old. We have more winter coming here tomorrow into the weekend and will send it your way when we are done with it (oh thanks a lot jazzy). Hi to Miss Sadie!
JCS- that is funny about the nurse, but also a logical question given the MD Anderson presence in Houston. Here in the southwest, a lot of people go to Phoenix or Houston for their cancer care, as our cities here only have so much they can sometimes offer for treatment. I went to Scottsdale for my radiation treatment back in 2013 and know our friend Goldie goes to PHX from northern AZ where they live. Anyways, enjoy your friend in Houston and your chemo vacay.....
Ill- gentle hello and wanted to see how you are doing?
Goldie- my SIL is still the same, in rehab and now past the Medicare days so my sister is having to pay for her care now. They told her up front what it would cost and my sister pretty much ignored the the timeline and then freaked out last weekend about it as things were running out. My sister also discovered a tourniquet left on my SIL arm from a blood draw last week; they were not sure how long it was left there but told my sister this does not speak to the place that is on top of things. I heard there could be nerve/limb damage from that but nothing more since the speed dial call last Wed. My SIL celebrated her 69th birthday last Tuesday and they have a friend from back east visiting right now; the woman visiting is a psychologist and could tell she was already trying to help my sister remotely about better ways to support this situation through the duration. Free counseling, who wouldn't like that in a situation like this, but also heard my sister argue all the reasons why everything must be dismissed. She does not want any advice, she just wants everyone to agree with her about whatever she is doing. I hope the visit is going okay. I continue to keep in touch, but have some firm boundaries around the drama management here. Thanks for asking about my SIL......
I hope everyone has a good week with appointments, medical care, work, fun stuff, whatever you have going on.
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I am home from the oncologist, no real surprises. Well of course unless you're my husband after about 10 minutes I think the lightbulb went off in his head. She started talking about my treatment and bloodwork and he started to cry so I think He gets it now, Just needed to hear it from a professional and not from his wife I guess. Treatment will be Ibrance, letrozole and xgeva pending insurance approval so no real surprises there. Bloodwork every two weeks to start and bone scan and or CT scan every three months. The only thing that would change that is God for bid it turns up to be triple negative because they still don't have all the biopsy report inbut that would be very unusual since I was ER PR positive the first time.
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Genny- well I am glad that you had a solid visit with the MO. It does sound like your husband now understands this is REALLY happening. I hope you get your results soon and know the ER/PR variety is way more treatable. Hopefully that is the case here too. It sounds like she has a plan for you and find a plan always helps me to get my head around things better.
I found an Ibrance thread for you here that might be helpful:
https://community.breastcancer.org/forum/8/topics/828848?page=690#post_5518576
I don't see any specific thread for Xgeva, but do see there are some other good threads for Stage IV. I expect some other sisters here may be on those and can give you some better advice.
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I'm back like I said.
Oh Mary I'm glad ur DH went with u, I'm sure he really didn't want to hear it but good he did. Oh an he cried, I'm so sorry, now he has to sort thru this chit, but u have each other and I'm sure he'll be ur best supporter. And u'll be his. <<<PRAYERS>>>
Jazzy I'm sore but I'm fine, u actually read that??? LOL
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NM - I agree with Jazzy - your Mother doesn't need to buy a house at 82. Maybe you could find one to rent. That's what I did with my Dad after my Mother died & we finally sold the big house. He insisted on a HOUSE and not an apartment or senior community. Although of course that meant we (he) had to pay for yard care, at least we didn't have to pay for repairing heaters or roofs or plumbing. RE - services for seniors - check out AARP. They have lots of good references - including attyorneys.
I also found the ElderCare group very useful
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Mary, sometimes I think our husbands stay in denial for so long because of a sort of wishful thinking that they hope will come true for us: they try to tell us everything's gonna be alright not just to cheer us up but that until they get the inevitable evidence, they can continue to dwell with us on the “happy" side of a break in time. The older we get, the more unhappy life events, the more we think back on things falling on one side or another of those breaks in time.
Ilona, hope things start looking up for you. You’re overdue to catch a break. May you be rocking out at concerts & festivals again by summer/
Cami, never a dull moment at your place. You seem to have a handle now on how to break a fall with the least risk of injury, a skill that perhaps Marty needs to learn. Had to laugh when you described “the House of Ziggy,” with all attendant religious rituals. Sometimes when things threaten to drive me nuts, I think that if I weren’t Jewish, I’d be praying to St. Anthony to help me find my mind.
And that calico kitty? The other day, when it was really sunny out, my little black cat Heidi came into the den where I was sitting on the loveseat in front of the window having my morning coffee, and began meowing loudly (the way she does when she wants food, catnip or a cuddle). She jumped up behind me on the loveseat, and while still purring whomped me on the head! Apparently, I was occupying too much of “her” perch atop the top of the seat back.
Sat. night we went out for belated Valentine’s Day dinner—I started with a glass of Domaine Collin Brut Cremant de Limoux with our shared app, and with our entrees we had a Fess Parker Santa Rita Hills Pinot Noir. Went to brunch yesterday, and the DOTD was cava.
No drinks tonight. Typing this on my iPad, as my computer is in the Apple Store getting a keyboard-and-trackpad transplant. It’ll be nice not to have to keep going back and deleting the extra “t”s, lower case “L”s, “e”s, & “r”s (sometimes three in a row). The “I” key (which often did not respond) fell off, so they replaced it first, then deep-cleaned the keyboard & trackpad. But the key-repeats persisted, hence the repair. (And because I still have AppleCare+, what would have been a $99 job is free).
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Good Morning, Loungettes!Happy Twofer Tuesday! Not quite so cold here this ayem, but snow is coming. That seems to be this year's pattern, snow, then very, very cold, then warm up and snow, then very, very cold, and so on. The other night it got so cold that the steam from the humidfier actually condensed and then froze on the bedroom window! Last night after work I put up some stick on lights in the shower. I've been wanting more light in the shower forever, finally found some very inexpensive, stick on LED lights with a remote, and boy does that make a huge difference in being able to read the labels on the shampoo and conditioner and in being able to see the grunge that's collected in the tub! I knew there was some, I scrub at a bit every shower, but I didn't realize how much there really is! So, the tub will get a big scrub out after my shower tonight. Amazing what enough light to be able to truly see will reveal.Sadie says "Hi" to everyone.
Genny--ah, yes, muddy paws, nothing like muddy paw prints! I can't see Mom agreeing to buy a condo, it has fees and rules and close neighbors. One of her criteria for a house to buy is no visible neighbors. Anything with rules about what she can do to the inside or outside will never work for her.I'm probably borrowing trouble, Mom is totally capable of taking care of herself right now, but I keep worrying about what things will be like in 5 years. Sounds like you've figured out your DH. Sounds like his brain needs some time to get used to the idea that things aren't perfect in his world. Hopefully the hard biopsy results and MO comments will turn the trick for him.
OMG, how adorable!!
OMG, how funny the diary entries!!!!
Goldie--I keep reminding myself that it's Mom decision and nothing to do with me, but I still find myself worrying about what is coming. Maybe my brain is trying to get my heart to understand that Mom is aging and may not be around forever? My own version of denial? Hmm.
Librarian--Sounds like a fun meet up with the chemo nurse!
Cammy Cat--That cat is so getting that bird! Oh my goodness, you and your family just cannot catch a break!The reason your body shakes after you fall is because your body releases adrenalin when you fall. It's a hormone that's part of the fight or flight reaction to stress or surprise. It makes the muscles more responsive and ramps up the nervous system to make running or fighting more effective. If you don't run or fight, it triggers the shakes. It's actually very common, it's just that some people feel shaky on the inside without looking shaky, and other people are shaky on the outside. Maybe Les and Marty should wrap you up in bubble wrap whenever they leave you home alone??? Sorry to hear Marty got hurt, and I feel sorry for Les, she must have been so afraid for you.
Jazzy-Mom is the same way, doesn't want to take advice and frequently doesn't follow advice even when she knows it's good. I'm going to talk it over with my brother again soon and see what he thinks.I'm still praying for your SIL and sister. Such a sad and difficult situation.
Genny--well, like you say, no surprises. Sounds like DH was holding out hope until the MO said the words out loud. It may be easier for him now that there is a plan in place. How are you doing with it all?
Minus--Mom will not rent a place, that's "just throwing money away." Thanks for the link! And I hadn't thought about AARP. Will check that resource out, too.
Chi--good for you for getting a free repair job!
Ok,running late, gotta get going to work.
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I observed National Drink Wine Day with a flute of Mumm Napa Brut Reserve. (Didn’t finish it, though—have a weigh-in tomorrow).
Tonight at choir practice I taught a piece (a hymn) for which I wrote the music (melody & chords). The director loves it, and wants me to write some harmony parts
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Good Morning, Loungettes!Happy Hump Day! Got another few inches of snow overnight, now the temps will start dropping. This snow is wet and heavy, not so much fun to clear off the deck. Good exercise, though, I suppose. I love that yesterday was National Drink Wine Day! Sadie says Hi to everyone.
Chi--wow, you really are talented! Good for you!
On Wednesdays We Drink Pink
Ingredients
1 1/2 oz. Milagro Reposado Select Barrel Reserve
1/2 oz. Kronan Swedish Punsch
4 dashes Aphrodite Bitters
1/4 oz. Manzanilla Sherry
1 barspoon Greek yogurt
3 each black cherries, with juice muddled
2 each picked black cherries with stem, for garnish
Directions
- In a mixing glass, add 3 black cherries with a barspoon of black cherry juice. Add yogurt and bitters. Muddle together.
- Add remaining ingredients and ice and shake vigorously, 10 to 15 seconds. Double strain into glasses.
- Garnish with 2 fresh cherries, including stems, picked.
From <https://www.delish.com/cooking/recipe-ideas/recipes/a55900/on-wednesdays-we-drink-pink-recipe/>
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Hey hey ladies, I've been super busy. Hauling stuff for the sale, and yesterday I took my neighbor to run some errands and take care of some business. As for the sale, holy the cow, the stuff one can accumulate in 20 years! I read yesterday, just didn't post. So now I shall go back and re-read so I can comment! Hauling more stuff today.
Cami, I was horrified to hear of your fall and especially heading down backwards and home alone! I'm glad you didn't hurt yourself or bang your head. I really do hope you are ok. So scary. Strange about the shaking. Have you ever mentioned it to any of your doctors? Ahhh, NM explained it to you. Kinda knew she would.
Jazzy, winter weather? Our lowest high temp in the next 10 days is 48. Now the lows are quite a bit different, some nights in the 20's, but I'll be sleeping, so it's ok! The next 3 days in the 60's. So sad to have the facility eat up all of your sisters money. Was she able to get on hospice? And OMG, a turniquet left on her arm??? And that sister of yours is a hard headed one, isn't she! Good for you in keeping boundries.
Mary, glad to see that maybe now your DH "get's it". Time will tell. Like I said, mine just seems to ignore it, I think mainly cuz I feel, look and act as normal as always. We'll have to compare notes with our treatments. Pretty sure Ibrance will be my next one. I've been on Xgeva for years, no issue with that. I give it to myself, in the tummy.
NM, I hope you can help your mom to make the right decision about buying a house, or not! I wouldn't want to be somewhere where there are rules either. Why doesn't she want to stay in her current home? Too big? Nice to have the extra light in the shower, not so nice to see extra grime! Hi to Sadie.
Sandy, yay for free computer fix! Congrats on the music writing the director wanting you to do more.
BabyGirl, thinking of you.
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What a mean kitty. That puppy wasn't bothering him/her. That was not nice AT ALL!
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Good morning girls, work day and pooches to walk so I'm gonna hafta keep it short. Nothing going on here, DH leaving tomorrow to Arizona to golf with his son so I have to get up at 3 ayem tomorrow to take him to the airport... ugh!
Kim, so nice to have your mom in such good shape for 82, I do understand your concern, she won't be 82 forever but what I'm figuring out here lately is that it's really important to live for today, do what makes you happy today and worry a whole lot less about tomorrow, what worries you may or may not come to fruition, so with that in mind maybe let her do exactly what makes her happy now. Sound like an easy solution to your shower problem, amazing how fast that crud can grow in there isn't it?
Lori, hope the garage sale is successful both in getting rid of stuff and making some extra cash. I'm trying to declutter but it is going slowly and I haven't even started on boxes of pictures and containers in the basement. I did finally get rid of ALL of my clothes that are too small, if I ever get back to my pre BC weight I'll buy new clothes. Oh boy does that kitty have a hell of a right hook! I had a siamese like that years ago, declawed but all the other animals were afraid of him, he had this deep growl and the BOOM the punch! He ruled my house at the time.
Cami, I so glad you weren't seriously injured, I'll but it scared the bajeebers out of Lezlie. Do you wear an alert button? My MIL has one but it's on her key hook on the kitchen wall, lotta good it's going to do there. Your description of the scene and your house just cracked me up!
National drink wine day! My kinda day, wold love to chat with everyone but it's 8:00 and I have to get moving, Ill, hope you're doing better, have a good day everybody!
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Oh again I lost a whole post, WTF I was almost done. Chit, I have t get ready for my shower day, so I'll be back later GRRRRRR.
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I have been cleaning out, but I am tired after work so I don't do much until the weekend and then doing cleanout of an room or area, puts me behind with the normal cleaning. Such a ghastly circle to be in. I don't worry too much about it, you do what you can and what you can't do will still be there. I didn't know it was National Wine Day, I will have to make up for it. I have a wedding to go to on Saturday, not sure where it is- it is a town I have never been to and when I looked it up it is about 2 hours away, I think I should give myself a little time to get lost. The GPS should help me.
Cami - my daughter, Amanda, is an esthetician too. I didn't even know what it was when she went to school for it. She also learned to do permanent makeup, which worked out good for me because she did my eyebrows before I had chemo. Now she is learning to do tattoo removal, she said she thinks all these people getting tattoos will want to get rid of them in a few years. Hopefully your Leslie can get back into it, but she has gone through so much with her health. Oh Cami, I bet you scared your family when they came in and seen you laying on the floor, you gave me a fright even though whatever is going on with you and your household, you describe it so comically, I always end up smiling!
Goldie- it is amazing how fast things accumulate. I think we should pretend we are moving every 5 years to get a good cleanout of junk. It sounds like you are doing a good job with the cleanout and maybe making some money at it!
Jazzy - Glad you got out to enjoy the weather, even if it was doing yard work. I told my sister that her and I should go to NM Oct. 2021 to see the hot air balloon festival.
Librarian - That was nice seeing your chemo nurse in a different setting than as a patient. I don't know why, but I always think people won't know me unless I am in the place they always see me.
Genny - I am glad your husband got it. I think there are a lot of people who have a hard time dealing with some stuff so if they don't see it - it doesn't exist. Hope you are feeling well.
Illimae -Gosh you sure are having a heck of a time recovering from this! Hopefully, this will be the end of problems and you can start healing, you have places to go and pictures to take to share with us! Especially for people like me who is home a lot.
Chi - It is so cool that the choir is learning your music and that the director loved it and wants more. You are one talented lady! Glad your computer got fixed, sometime things cost so much to get fixed it is cheaper to buy new. Hope your weigh in went great.
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Good afternoon ladies- just checking in as I am working on some business things today. Glad to see some of you did your part with national drink wine day. I met up with a friend last night at a little bar that is attached to one of our Whole Foods markets and had a really nice red wine that I think was some kind of meritage but did not write the name down (should have taken a pic of the bottle). Met a colleague for a glass of vino, she gave me the heads up on it being national drink wine day. We had a lovely cheese board that also included fig jam (this is yummy if you have never had it) and I will have to look for that wine name next time I am at that store and get a bottle of it too. It was good!
Goldie- good for you that you are purging/de-cluttering. I have moved often but lived the longest in my home here for 16 years and find that I now have to make a point to constantly de-clutter. I took a bunch of things to consignment on Monday and another small load to the nearby donation truck right after. Recycle, reuse, repurpose through selling, donating, however it needs to go. You will be the better for it when it is all done, and don't forget to create a little celebration for yourselves when this project is done.
My sister is very stubborn (our mom was the same way). I talked to my SIL's aunt yesterday and have been keeping in touch with her since everything changed. She was feeling distraught as my SIL has asked her to come see her, which is just not possible. The aunt is elderly, in poor health with very bad back and other health problems. She has not been on a plane in over 20 years, never mind she is not a good candidate for a solo trip. And SIL knows this too, but then it occurred to me maybe my SIL is wanting to have this time with her because the time is coming for her? I know this happens, and a nurse friend suggested yesterday that maybe my sister could create a Facetime session for them to at least see each other? I have people where the aunt lives back east who might be able to help with this. As my nurse friend said, not the same as an in-person visit but it may help something here. No call for hospice yet, but feel its coming. My sister texted she is sick with a fever and may have the flu, so when she is feeling better. Not going to poke the bear.......
Genny- oh a 3 a.m. rise and shine for an early morning trip to the airport. Ugh, that is when we like the Uber or Lyft service. Maybe the time with DS will be good for your husband to have someone to talk through what is going on now that the news has sunk in. I know men don't usually talk to each other about things like this, but probably would be good so your son can be aware of things to better support the whole family.
Mistyeyes- sounds like you are cleaning things out too. Working is hard for us as we get older, I had a hard time doing much on the purge front when I am on contract. I sometimes just do a drawer, a pile, a surface to make some progress. And maybe you can make an adventure of the wedding trip, lots of driving for a day though. Any way you can spend the night there and make it in to a mini-vaca? I hope the wedding is fun.
Chi- I love that your music piece was so well received. I love Mumm champagne, their sparkling rose is a fav.
NM- so where are things with that electrician dude? The challenge with contractors, been there. Any luck finding another person to help? My cleaning company knocked over a small fold-able antique table last month and one of the legs broke at the joint. I am working on quotes and the first one was exorbitant (I think I made the mistake of saying it was going to get paid by their insurance) but working on a second one. I have had things be damaged in the past with moves and used companies here, but trying a few new ones. Never a dull moment with ones home, right?
Hope everyone has a good evening!
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Tonights sunset walk
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We have dentist appts. in the morning, have to be out of here by 9 at the latest. I'll pop in if I have time. We forgot about the appts...oops. But still going to town on Friday as well, to see Harrison Ford in The Call of Wild.
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Good Morning, Loungettes!Happy Thirsty Thursday! Well, the snow stopped and the temp dropped. Currently 1 degree above the donut with just enough breeze to make the wind chill 5 below the donut. Brrr. I'm taking some time off work this afternoon and going to Mom & Dick's for a visit/dinner. I think I did pretty well getting out of bed on the first alarm even though I was so warm cuddled up to Silly Sadie. She was snoring away, and seemed pretty comfy herself.
Goldie--sounds like the hauling is getting stuff cleaned out, that's always a good thing! Mom moved in with Dick many years ago, the home (year round camp, actually) is his. He set her up with life tenancy if he dies first, but Mom thinks it will be too expensive to stay there, and that his kids and grandkids want to use it as a camp. And it's not completely finished on the inside. I don't blame her for not wanting to rent or buy a condo or a retirement place where there will be a lot of rules, but I think she's overestimating her physical ability to rototill and plant a big garden,painting,cabinet building, etc that she keeps talking about doing. Not to mention snow shoveling, grass mowing, and all the other bigger jobs. BUT, not my decision to make. The extra light in the shower does make shaving the legs easier and leaves fewer missed spots, but the grime--yuck! So glad it cleaned up easily.
Oooh, poor pupper!So like a cat!
Genny--uggh, indeed, to getting up at 3 ayem! It is good that Mom is so vital at her age and able to do as much as she does, but I have noticed her slowing down recently. And you are exactly right, she, and I,need to do what makes us happy now, and let tomorrow take care of itself. It occurred to me in the middle of the night last night that I'm choosing to worry about Mom being able to cope with managing a house to avoid thinking about the fact that she is not going to live forever. A bit of denial, maybe.
Cammy Cat--that post stealing gremlin seems to have moved into your computer!Time for an exocism!
Misty--I hope the GPS doesn't lead you astray this weekend!
Jazzy--fig jam is very good, especially with cheese! I've had it on cheese boards before and now look forward to it when a cheese board is ordered. A Hospice social work I used to work with regularly set up facetime or video with family member who couldn't travel for various reasons, or when time wouldn't allow. Not the same as in person, but better than just a phone call. It's amazing how many ways that can be done now. Fb Messenger, FaceTime, some phone messaging aps will also do video, just amazing the tech these days. I haven't found anyone else for the electrical work yet. Home ownership is a never ending parade of things to be done!
Goldie-- I saw a trailer for Harrison Ford in Call of the Wild. He looks soooo old!
Gremlin
6 oz of Crown Royal canadian whisky
3 oz of Rose's lime juice
2 cup of ice
Into a mason jar filled with cracked ice, pour 6 oz Canadian Whisky and 3 oz Sweetened lime juice. Stir with a fork.
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