Cat help question?
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I'm a relatively new cat owner--Over the past two years adopted my first two--they are 1 and two years male and female. I also have a tem year old bichon.
Here is the quandry--I live alone and I was recently apprised of a situation of which I could be of great help.
13 year old male cat terribly attached to his owner--owner died and they found the cat cuddling with him---he's in the hous alone and lays with his master's artificial leg or any other possessions.
The owner left money for the care of the cat in his estate but the family is trying to put the cat down---(cat now has its own lawyer).
So far there is a neighbor going into the house to feed him and spend some time but this can't go on. The person who was supposed to take him has backed out.
Do you think 3 cats and a dog are too much to take on for a single older 58 woman with some physical limitations?
Would I have problems with two males with such an age variance?
How would I introduce them?
What can I expect taking care of an older cat?
I don't even know all the considerations and what to ask?
Any advise would be appreciated---He is supposed to be very sweet and I would like to help.
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Aww I would totally do the same thing if I were you. So nice of you to even consider. I have had cats my whole life and find them very easy to take care of. I have 2 cats and a dog and they all get along very well and they were all adopted from shelters at various ages and times.
I am sure the older cat would have an adjustment period but would not worry about having 2 males. I have 2 males and they are 8 and less than one year old and the young cat has really livened up the older one.
I think the one thing you need to make sure of is that the older cat has its shots and does not have any diseases that your other cats could get. You might consider a vet visit for the older cat before you make your final decision.
If you decide to take him, when you bring him to your house, just keep them all separated for a few days to give them time to adjust to each other. Trust me the other 2 will know when you bring him in the door and then slowly introduce them to each other.
I hope it all works out for the older kitty. Good luck and keep us posted.
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Susie: Well theres no doubt about it, I would be bringing that cat home to my dog, and 2 cats. 13 isnt that old. Some cats cat live up to 18 y/o. I think introducing them would be the hardest part. Bringing each animal home from a save a pet situation, I had to introduce each. Started with a male cat, then got a female cat - it took about 5 days to get used to each other. Kept them separate for the first couple of days. Then my dog Mister had to be introduced to 2 cats. Im 58 also. Its harder now, but my animals are my family and give me alot of please in my life.
Good luck with your decision.
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Well, if you don't take him or find someone to take him, it's the big needle for sure. I'd give it a try.
Tina
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Nicki--That exactly how I feel ---My animals are my family.
I'm concerned though since I have RSD and as a result of coping with that-limited stamina.
I'm concerned about incontinence issues in an older animal that I may not have the stamina to keep up with---To my knowledge no one has mentioned that this is an issue with him.
Can any of you enlighten me on older cats and spraying or incontinence?
Tooyoung---Very good advise about the Vet---Hadn't occurred to me since he's been an indoor cat with one owner.---but yes definitely a feline leukemia test is one I'd want before I brought him near my other ones.---don't know what else?
Tina--I'm awaiting a call back for the next step---
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Susie,
I would recommend taking the cat on a "trial basis". Reason being is that male cats, especially ones set in their ways, can go a little bonkers when their "eco-system" is out of balance. In addition to potentially becoming aggressive, they may also start "marking". Either of those outcomes would be a deal-breaker for me.
If you do take the cat in, the process of introducing needs to be methodical and well-planned. If they take to eachother, great. If not, you would not be doing any of your babies a favor by trying to make it work.
I know this from personal experience when we brought a kitten into a household with 2 adult male cats. It was literally a 6-month long nightmare that ended with us giving the adult Siamese to a single relative with no pets. It was a happy ending to a horrible journey!
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I've had cats my entire life. I can't imagine living without at least one or two in the house. Right now I have three spayed females (and two bullmastiffs). I've had male cats in the past as well and would suggest that you would want to have them both neutered otherwise they can get into marking their territory obsessively. In one case, I had two male litter mates... one drove the other out permanently. It's difficult (read impossible) to correct spraying behavior. I've had neutered and intact cats do that. Once a sprayer, always a sprayer.... I think neutering young helps prevent / avoid that behavior.
Cats tend to adapt quite readily if you take it slow. Keep the cats in different parts of the house for a few days, then gradually introduce them to each other (i.e. keep the new house guest in a spare bedroom with the door closed). There's likely to be a little hissing and posturing but they generally regain their composure.
As for age, my girlfriend's, siamese lived 'til 22. She (the cat) was incontinent toward the end of her life but that was way older than 13.
I agree with tooyoung, a good once over by a vet, updated shots, and he should be good to go and very lucky to have crossed your path.
t
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Tink --thanks for the hints on introductions. I have a room with a separate entrance to the house, so if I move the litterbox elsewhere that may work.
Donna--Very good suggestion about the "trial basis"----
I haven't even considered my queen of the house--my bichon-
my cats are in love with her-but she is jealous of their cuddle time-
Another furbaby added to my bathroom's traffic jam----It will be quite a site!
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Awwww, Susie, you are the sweetest.
Let me try and remember. LOL I had a pom and a male cat. My daughter's female cat lived with us also. After she moved I wanted my male cat, Gizmo, to have a friend. I found Mitzi. They got along beautifully..snuggled, cleaned each other, and sometimes fought..LOL Siblings..you know? Well, Gizzy was put to sleep..cancer. Tasha my pom was also put to sleep while I was doing rads. Okay, I'm gonna start crying. Anyway, Tasha was a very sick girl and she was 16. Then, as I've told this story over and over, I didn't want Mitzi to be all alone. I brought in a feral who we had been feeding. She was quite shy and also had another cat she hung with. The other one was friendly, but I felt sorry for the shy one and decided to bring her in AFTER a vet's visit. Well, that didn't work out, sooooo, I adopted a kitten. That worked for Mitzi. Well, Prissy (the feral) was all alone, sooooooooo we brought in her friend she USED to hang with. Prissy always loved Cleo (the new cat that we brought in..the friendly one), and it has worked out. So, two cats upstairs and two cats downstairs unless I'm upstairs. Kinda confusing, huh?
I think the suggestion of a trial "visit" would be good. Seems if the man cared so much for his kitty that he would have had him neutered, but you can tell pretty much if he was or wasn't. Also, seems like he would have had him to the vets for checkups. Hope you can find the vet he took him to so you'll know what kind of care he had. And, I would suggest you bring something in your house that has the scent of the man. That would comfort the cat.
I hope it works out. I'm a huge fan of animals! They're so much nicer than people.
Good luck to the kitty and your cats and your doggy and you!
Shirley
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You are very sweet and I understand how you feel..I don't think it will be a problem..they will hiss at each other but try not to get too upset..it will pass..keep them separate - let the newbie have his own things in one room and get used to you and the new smells..it might take longer since he was a single cat...you can always PM me if you need help..I have 3 cats and each was introduced separately. I've never had a prob with litter issues - I doubt that will happen
Oh and 1 girl and 2 males is what I have and it's a great mix!
Love Marisa
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http://www.petfinder.com/journal/index.cgi?article=61
This is an info peice about introducing a new cat into the household.
I hope it helps.
I keep it on my favs list hoping someday to have a new baby of my own when dh agrees to keep indoor cats only.
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