my heartfelt goodbye

i had no idea that someone contacted beths boss and all her posts were read by them!  that is such an infringment on all of our privacy rights here on the board- SOMETHING has to be done by the moderators here to make sure that never happens again  what protection do we have that someone wont make all our posts public ABSOLUTELY NONE!!!  I for one will think twice before i go communicating any of my personal information here again

THIS is so sad for all of us here on the board and we should figure out what we can do about it going forward-  this does not only affect beth but everyone one of us and i will be contacting the site to voice my opinion and concerns

Beth,

I just found this thread--I'm so sorry you're leaving the boards and even more sorry to hear the reason. You're a true sister in our struggle to fight this horrible disease and you've touched so many of us who are trying make the most of our lives once we've had the dreaded diagnosis.

I'm still hoping to see you back here in some screen name or another!

Barbara 

Beth,

I am appalled that the reason you are leaving is because of some one "ratting you out" to your bosses.  Unfortunately, it is becoming clearer & clearer that this is no longer the safe haven it once was.  I can't believe how evil some folks can be.  I am very sorry to see you leave as I previously stated, but now I am also mad because of the reason.

Wishing you the best with your bright future

(((Beth)))

I hate to see you delete your posts for the sake of the women here, and the unlucky ones who will find themselves here in the future. Your words are wise, warm, funny, and give hope.

It breaks my heart to think about you having to sit there and delete your heartfelt words, even the "impassioned" ones, as if you had done something wrong, or had ill intent when you wrote them.

Is it possible to look at it this way - your employers have already seen your posts, and although they have requested that you no longer participate in this site, there is nothing you have already written that is damaging to you or them in any way, so it is OK to leave them?

Beth, Before you leave for good I just wanted to say thank you for all you've done for me and the rest of the girls.  You were really very helpful and supportive during one of the scariest and most trying times of my life and for that I am very grateful.  I know that you will go on to help and support so many more woman out there.  Your amazing and we are so lucky to have had you on this site!

Gwen

Beth, I love you and adore you and respect the snot out of you. 

You really have inspired and influenced myself and probably thousands of other women. 

You are a hero.  

Can I still email you to keep in touch?  You've got one heck of a mojo streak in you, as well as lots of Target tips.  
Love and prayers, Deb

Beth,

I too am very saddened by the reason you are leaving BCO.  The person or persons responsible for "tipping" off your bosses are in essence, garnering pleasure by inflicting pain on you.  I believe the technical term is "Schadenfreude."

Obviously, he/she/they, to say the least, are not living a happy and contented life, thus the only happiness they can muster is to (secretely) deliver pain to you. 

For anyone who prays and chooses to pray for the culprit(s), let's pray that this person or persons can find happiness by contributing to the greater good, as opposed to the greater bad.  Jealousy is a monster and it's at work here.

You certainly will be missed here.  And again, all the very best to you and your SO.

Jelly

Beth, I am so saddened that your participation here has somehow caused you grief in your workplace.  You've been so open with your life here.  It should be cause for celebration, even for those who hold opinions contrary to yours.  I think anyone who tries to cast you in a negative light to your employers is just a person who is herself steeped in negativity.  You could've been posting anonymously all this time, and I think it's a gross violation of your generous support that someone has taken unscrupulous advantage of your open honesty. 

I'm glad to have a better understanding of your circumstances.  While I'm sorry to see you go, I understand now and cannot disagree with your decision.  I can't even second the notion that you come back with a different user name.  True colors shine through any username, and you would be easy to spot with all your vibrance.   You go girl and look out world.  I am so glad you were here when I was facing my surgery.  I achieved a much better outcome by travelling to get a diep than I ever would have received locally.  For that, I am forever grateful to you and others who have helped.  

Beth, I've really enjoyed reading your posts. You've been an inspiration to most of us here, and it is our loss that you're leaving. So sad that this has to happen to you. I just don't understand the motives of some people sometimes. Suxx.

Thank you for everything!!!!

Praying that you'll stay healthy, happy and cancer-free!

God bless you,

Aurora

I am so sorry you must delete your posts and the mods have not even responded.

It was well said above that this is such a different site from, for me, 5 years ago.  I've seen some rough times here and been disgusted with the trash that was spoken to others but I would have never imagined that someone from here, even the trouble makers, would stoop so low as to contact a workplace about one of us.  Can hardly wait for Karma to catch up with the one who did it.

I wish you well, will miss your wisdom and joy.

Blessings.

OH, yeah...she "heard" from the mods by way of having all of her posts removed....ten days after requesting it and after she had decided to let them stand.  UGH

Sorry to see you go! Thanks for being in our "club".

Good luck!

Lynne

Beth: I understand and appreciate your decision. This is an upstanding way to deal with a "life lesson" situation. Hopefully you will find another way to be a supportive sister and find the support you need as well.