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BethNY
BethNY Member Posts: 2,710
edited June 2014 in Life After Breast Cancer
my heartfelt goodbye
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  • BethNY
    BethNY Member Posts: 2,710
    edited March 2008

    To my sisters at breastcancer.org,

    It is with a heavy heart, that I must bid goodbye to the community.  Unfortunately, my participation in this community and everything I say directly reflects upon the organization I now work for, and the conflict has become to great to continue to post here.

    I want to thank each and every one of you, for the lasting impact you have left deep in my soul.  Never in my wildest dreams did I think I would get breast cancer, but somehow, going through it with all of you by my side made getting up every day and fighting a little bit easier.

    I wish only the best to all of you.  I am honored that I had the opportunity to exist  and thrive in this elite sisterhood.  Part of who I am today, is because of the wealth of support, knowledge, and friendship I have received from all of you.

    At the end of this week, I will ask the moderators to remove every post ever created under my screen name.  It is in the best interest for what my life represents now, and while it may not sound like the best option, right now, it's the only solution I can come up with.

    I will miss you terribly...and I expect the makeup, fashion, mojo, and of course, reconstruction topics to continue to thrive in my absence.

    I love you all so very much, and I will miss you more than you know.

    Thank you, just doesn't seem like it could ever be enough.

    xoxoxo-from the girl who only plays to win.

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  • althea
    althea Member Posts: 1,595
    edited March 2008

    Oh, Beth, I am so sorry to hear of this.  I wonder if you could elaborate a bit on why there is a conflict between being part of your organization and posting here?  More specifically, is it something you feel on a personal level or does it have to do with the rules of conduct here at bc.org? 

    And fwiw, I hope you get a big fat no from the mods when you ask them to delete all your posts.  We all have enough rips in the fabric of our lives in dealing with cancer.  Losing all that you've added here would be just another unfortunate loss.   Love you girlfriend. 

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  • dash
    dash Member Posts: 766
    edited March 2008

    Aw, Beth, you'll be missed! I really don't understand the conflict but if you feel you must leave(and I hope you don't!) I just want to send you a virtual hug. You gave me such inspiration in the beginning of my journey. You emailed me the 'infamous' photo of your beautiful reconstructed breasts and it gave me a shot of much needed hope that I could still be a sexy woman after BC. So thank you....! Love ya!!

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  • roseg
    roseg Member Posts: 3,133
    edited March 2008

    I'm sorry to hear you're leaving, but I can understand that it's important for your integrity to do so.

    Take care!  

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  • 2up
    2up Member Posts: 1,358
    edited October 2008

    beth ......... this has to be tough .......... 'godspeed' .......... cancer sucks!  no matter the age, creed, sex, etc ............. best wishes on your endeavours ....... inspiring other BC  sufferors  has got to be fulfilling beyond comprehension .......... best of luck to you in realizing your potential post BC ...... congrats!

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited March 2008
    Beth - Best wishes to you...I hope the very best for you. You are a bright girl...you will do just FAB with whatever comes your way. I will miss you at our Make-Up thread, but I am confident you will have a beautiful, glamorous, colorful and gorgeous life! Rock On!
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  • Jellydonut
    Jellydonut Member Posts: 1,043
    edited March 2008

    Beth,

    I always read and enjoyed your posts and certainly will miss you.  You gave a lot of yourself here and helped many.  So sorry you've decided to leave us, but do understand your reason.

    The very best to you with your wedding and in your future.

    Jelly

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  • gracejon
    gracejon Member Posts: 972
    edited March 2008

    Beth, I recently pm'd.  I hope you share email/address so we can keep in touch.  I do look at you as one of my angels when it came to sticking to my desire for DIEP.  I do remember not having an ounce of fight left for insurance issue and you came by on the reconstruction board with your cheerleading pom poms and gave me the boost I really really needed.   I don't have yhr right words to say how much I thank you.  I do wish you would just drop a note once in a while.  How will we know what's going on with you?

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  • AnneW
    AnneW Member Posts: 4,050
    edited March 2008

    You'll be missed, Beth.

    But I think it's wrong for your posts to disappear. There's a lot of great information in them. Someone should be able to do a search, and find your advice because it is so sound, and she may not be able to get that piece anywhere else.

    Best of luck in your life, Beth. Be well.

    Anne

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  • livesstrong
    livesstrong Member Posts: 1,799
    edited March 2008

    Beth,

    I wish you nothing but the best.  You will be missed.

    Valerie 

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  • candie1971
    candie1971 Member Posts: 4,820
    edited March 2008

    Beth,

    I don't understand why you are leaving but I wanted to wish you the best of everything. May your life be filled with hope,love,happiness,peace. We will miss your posts.

    Hugs and prayers,

    Candie

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  • jdash
    jdash Member Posts: 754
    edited March 2008

    beth 

    with tears in my eyes i understand -  you were one of the first women that i had connected with here at bc.org and i have the utmost respect for you and for everything you represent

    i know we will still be connected Kiss

    you have been an amazing inspiration to everyone here and i know you will continue to be so to many other bc survivors......

    i brag about you often - all that you have accomplished for our cause in the last several years and all that i am sure you will in many years to come

    cant wait to see you sunday

    with love and much admiration

    julia  aka jdash

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited March 2008

    You will be missed by many!!!!

    The only thing I can really say is that there is a bright spot in such sad news:

    Beth, there have been many, many hard hits to the ladies on this board with recurrence and loss of loved ones here recently......and it is NICE to see someone leaving here in a happier way!!!!!!!!(not that we want to see you go, but I think you all get my meaning)

    Best Wishes to you for the most wonderful life!!!!!!

    Hugs

    Jule

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  • sam408
    sam408 Member Posts: 1,099
    edited March 2008

    Beth, I just want to add to these many posts that you will be missed. Although we've never connected personally, I've read so many of your posts and they have always been so full of good information and inspiration. Good luck with your future endeavors.

    You will be missed.

    Hugs,

    Sheila

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  • celia088
    celia088 Member Posts: 2,570
    edited March 2008

    Beth, I really don't understand your need to totally leave this site and i don't understand this "conflict" that seems to exist between your participation on this website and your job on the website you now work for.  Is there some way you can dismiss the past conflict that happened on two threads, move forward, and be able to stay here at bco? 

    You have been an incredibly  helpful, valued participant here and there seems to be a natural connection from the bco site to the website where you now work.  I find the situation of you feeling the need to leave to be a huge step backward for everyone concerned.

    I would love to see you stay here and enlighten us about reconstruction, and the many other things that you have experienced and are willing to share.  I will hate to see you leave, especially for the reasons stated.  I have always enjoyed chatting with you and learning from you.  I always wish you the best of luck in your life, and thank you for everything.  Please reconsider your decision.

    hugs, celia 

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  • Beesie
    Beesie Member Posts: 12,240
    edited March 2008

    Beth,

    All the best.  You will be missed around here.

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  • AnnNYC
    AnnNYC Member Posts: 4,484
    edited March 2008

    Beth, I'm so glad we'll meet on Sunday!  In the meantime, I sent you a PM,

    Hugs,

    Ann

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  • iodine
    iodine Member Posts: 4,289
    edited March 2008

    Beth, you must do what you feel is necessary, of course, but please don't have your posts removed.

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  • zarowny9
    zarowny9 Member Posts: 328
    edited March 2008

    Listen here young lady,you are not leaving me behind!! Not that easy!!Phone me please........Dawn

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited March 2008

    Best Wishes!

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  • jdash
    jdash Member Posts: 754
    edited March 2008

    actually i agree with celia  there must be some way for you to continue some level of participation here with us on bc.org

    please reconsider Frown  lets talk about it.....

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  • Raye99
    Raye99 Member Posts: 1,350
    edited March 2008

    Beth - You will be greatly missed, but again I respect your position. Thanks so much for all of your tips, lessons, advice and, of course, your humor - which is simply spectacular!!! You are something special!

    Love ya Girl!

    Raye

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited March 2008

    Awwww, Bethany (lol)!!!

    I'll miss ya - as will we all - but I understand...

    Keep spreading the love and the knowledge, my friend Wink...

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  • ravdeb
    ravdeb Member Posts: 3,116
    edited March 2008

    Beth..you'll be missed. You have much to offer. I don't really know why you feel you need to leave..but I wish you the best in all that you do.

    Be well..

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  • ADK
    ADK Member Posts: 2,259
    edited March 2008

    Beth,

    I wish you didn't feel you needed to leave, but if you feel there is a conflict of interest, then you must do what you have to.  It would be best for all of us if we could keep your posts, you have been so helpful to so many, I know many more women will still be able to benefit from you posts.

    Wishing you only the best.

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  • TRyan
    TRyan Member Posts: 10
    edited March 2008

    Beth - we have never actually commented back and forth but since you are leaving I have to say thank you and let you know what an impact you have had on me.  I am more of a lurker than an active presence here at BC.org although I did register at one point.  I am an almost 4 year survivor  (yeah!) but have to tell you that you (and 3-4 others here) are the reason I was able to do it!  Your advice, encouragment and knowledge even though I hadn't posted got me through the worst times of my life and gave me the will, inspiration and ability to fight my cancer and not let my marriage disintigrate during that time!  Thank you so much and I will miss reading your posts.  I wish you all the success and happiness in the world!

    Tracy R

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  • abbadoodles
    abbadoodles Member Posts: 2,618
    edited March 2008

    OH, crap. Frown

    Tina

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  • gsg
    gsg Member Posts: 3,386
    edited March 2008

    this makes me very sad.  you are such an asset here.  best of luck to you, beth. 

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  • cmb35
    cmb35 Member Posts: 1,106
    edited March 2008

    Beth - Best of luck to you, in all you do!  Colleen

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  • Emelee26
    Emelee26 Member Posts: 569
    edited March 2008

    I don't want you to leave :(

    Maybe I will see you in Roosevelt Field??

    I'll be in LI for Passover...

    I'm very sad...but PM me if you want..I'd love to stay in touch by email..and shop for makeup together :)

    Love Marisa

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