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((((Lisa)))), I am so sorry to hear about your friend. It is so sad and very confronting for you - especially seeing as you are recovering from major surgery and feeling fragile. The day I was diagnosed, my s/o and I were invited out to dinner with his best mate and his sister. She had been battling bc for years and at that stage had mets to the brain. I just couldn't go to dinner that night - we just said that I was unwell.

Yes - I wholeheartedly agree - I want to live each day to the fullest, put as much love as I can into each relationship. 

Mel, Ulla, Tender, Sheila, Shirlann, Wren, Dawn, Angie, Karyll, Lucy, Barbie, Pearl, Valsul, Mia and everyone else - big hugs to all you wonderful women - thank you for being here - you are all precious. 

Love,

Jane xxxx 

What beautiful photos Sue! Your boys are so cute - I love the expression on David's face as he gets to the top of the hill - what an effort! You are gorgeous - what a beautiful, loving mother you are.

AE - I often ask myself that! It's been worse since my son has been staying with me - he is 6ft 3 and skinny - eats like a horse and I have been cooking up huge meals. I only eat half of what he eats and I still think I eat too much! Curves is having a "Biggest Loser" competition so I am going to try to lose weight but having a ravenous eating machine in the house isn't a great help!

I'm pathetic - I feel like such a blob - I HAVE NEVER WEIGHED THIS MUCH MY ENTIRE LIFE!!!!  I am hoping spring will lift my spirits and motivate me.

Sue - I just got back from walking the dogs, or should I say they just got back from walking me!!! Anytime you want to walk them - feel free!!!

AE 

Sue,

I going to watch the telly now,  so you can get some rest.

I'll let Delbert know you are his next victim!!! LOL.

AE 

Hello all you wonderful , beautiful ladies. Boy , miss a couple of days here , and reading the posts is like reading war and peace!lol

First of all , a big thank you to Ulla's husband. What a darling man to come and let us know Ulla is OK. I can't wait to hear from her tomorrow. Thanks again for all the kind words Ulla's husband.xxxx

Hi Sue! I'm so sorry bootface had you in the dark place again. But you got away from the SOB boilin bag filth. Good for you.xxxx I love the pics. The determination on David's face , is priceless. What sweethearts your boys are. They are so lucky to have a loving and caring mum.

Thinking back on the Wizard of Oz , I think I was comparing you and your journey to Dorothy and hers. And thats how it was started. You are our sweet Dorothy and Zippy is our Toto! How is the Zipster doin? Has he enjoyed any yogurt lids lately?lol Hes such a cutie.

Boy Sue , those steroids sure have you "up". I know its hard to rest , but please sleep when you can. I don't want you to come crashing down.

Oh how funny about the ex-boyfriend's daughter working for you. I would start asking questions to her about the "folks". Fine out all I could.Have a nice cuppa.xxxx

Hi Lisa , I'm so sorry to hear about your friends recurrence. Hopefully , they can get it under control. I will keep her in my prayers.xxxx

I know how you feel , so weepy. After my recon , I would just start crying. No real reason. But your body has gone through some trauma from surgery and it takes its toll. But it doesn't last long. Once you start feeling better physically , mentally you will too. You are in my daily prayers sweet sister.xxxx

Sheila , congrats on your tattoos! Let me know how you like them. I still have to have mine done. I hope it takes away from the scar area.You have a good weekend too.xxxx

Lucy (((((((((((Lucy)))))))))))))). Good luck to you. If you feel like a burden has been lifted off your shoulders , that tells me you are doing the right thing. But it is not an easy thing to do. I felt the same way when I left my ex. But he was totally distraught. Which made things "ugly" at times. But he is remarried now and we are friendly to one another. It just takes time. Hugs to you and your boys.xxxx

Hi gb , good luck to you on the biggest loser! Boy , I really need to do that. I have a curves just down the street from me. Why don't I go there? What is it like there? I picture all this "bonding" going on as you work out , and while thats nice , I don't like to enter-act while I am working out. Mentaly , I just want to do my thing. I don't mean to sound cold , but I just like to focus on my work out. Anyway , good luck , I hope you win!xxxx

Oh Auntie Em ,lol , don't ask me that , I'm right beside you eating all the pasta I can!lol That is definitely one of my weaknesses , the other bread. I know , lets make sense of it , you ate so much , due to lack of your dh not being there , it made you sad and lonely. And the pasta bowl comforted you. Sounds good to me , pass the pasta please...xxxx

Hi Shirlann , I am so worried about Walt. Have they found out anything yet? He is in my prayers. That has got to be scary and so frustrating for him.((((((((Walt))))))))))). God Bless you and your family Shirlann. I hope he is better soon.xxxx

Well Ladies , I am still having heart palpitations. Day three. Two weeks ago , this happened. I went to the doc , they did an ekg , blood work , all was well. Two days after that , they just stopped. Now Wed. they started again , and haven't stopped. They are so frustrating!! Alls the doc said , was quit caffeine. I did. Nope , not the problem. I'm wondering if it is the effexor. Thats what I am taking for my hotflashes. They finally are better , but now this. I'm wondering if it (effexor) is interfering with my Ziac I take for high blood pressure. They tried to take me off Ziac before , and it made my palpitations worse. And when I took it again , they stopped. So I am thinking maybe its interfering with it. But wouldn' t the doc know if thats it? OK , I will stop babbling.

Hope you all have a good weekend. Love you all.xxxx Melody

Lucy, just wanted to send you some warm wishes. If you are feeling a sense of relief after your breakup then it is for the best. My grown kids are unanimous is saying that they are glad that I left their father and that they still remember the relief of living without the constant tension. It would be great if all relationships could be worked out but that is often just not possible. I am so glad you are close to your mother - it's so great to have at least one close family member to support you at a time like this.

Karen, am thinking of you and wondering how you are doing. I hope we hear from you soon. I think you are probably having a rough time at the moment. My love to you.

Jane xxx 

Well, it looks like I'm too late again.  Just wanted to shout out to a couple of my dear friends.

Lisa, I'm so sorry about your friend.  It hurts my heart to hear stories like Jill's.  I'm sure that quitting chemo before she was done didn't help her, but I hope she's not kicking herself now.  There are plenty of women who did everything exactly as they were supposed to, and it still came back.  What an evil, unpredictable disease this is.  I'll pray for Jill and her family.  Tell Olivia that I'm proud of her for quitting her job and congratulations on the new one!

Lucy, good for you for getting out of an unhappy situation.  I'm sure it's still tough though.  No matter the circumstances, breakups are always hard.  {{{{{{{{Lucy}}}}}}}}.  Hang in there!

AE, are they sending you for a biopsy?  Who's the one to decide?  Your onc?  Thanks for posting the Wizard of Oz dialog. It made me smile.  Gosh, I love that movie.  Rememeber back before videos and dvd's when you had to wait for it to come on tv, and it was only on once a year?  Those were the good ol' days!!

Sue, thank you for posting the gorgeous pictures.  Your boys are just adorable and you are obviously such a wonderful mother.  Are your boys snugglers?  Chase crawled up into my onc's lap today after she invited him to do so!  I didn't think he'd do it, but he did!  I took him along to my appt because my regular babysitter (my mom) wasn't available to watch him.  He was a big hit with everyone.  The other patients in the waiting room got a big kick out of him and the nurses in the infusion room wanted to keep him for the day.  He just loves everyone.  Boys are so much fun!!

Mel, it was so good to hear from you!  Were you out of town?  We miss you so much when you're not around.  I sure hope you can figure out what's causing your heart palpitations.  I had them a couple of times after my first round of chemo, and they're so scary!

Take care everyone--Sheila, Tender, Jane, Shirlann, Wren, Mia, Valsul, Ulla, Dawn, and everyone else.  Love you all!

Love and hugs,

Karen

Lisa, I am so glad that Olivia quit her job at Subway and, by the sound of it, she will be so much happier working in the dr's office. Also, she seems to be a empathic, warm, type of girl (just like her mom!) so she will be such an asset in a place like that. In the past, if the people in the doctor's office were not nice, I used to find another doctor. You need kind and friendly people in places where people may be frightened and sad. Good for Olivia!

Shirlann - so great to hear the good news about your husband! I'm so glad the two "biggies" have been ruled out and he is gradually getting better. It must be a huge relief to both of you. My prayers are with you both.

Karen, I am praying for your father and that he might be around for a few years yet and also that his quality of life will be ok. You both need each other. 

Jane xxx 

Sue! The pictures you shared are so lovely.  You and your boys look so happy and healthy.  I love the photo of you on the beach. It looks relaxing.

Shirlann, I'm glad Walt is OK. I've had an inner-ear thing in the 90's called "labrynthitis"... It took me six months of taking seasickness meds until I could walk normally again--and I still get dizzy once in a while when I turn my head to quickly... I think the inner-ear can get permanently scarred and do this. I never knew this could happen, but it can come on from a virus or stress or???  Since then, I've heard of many people who have this. Darn it.

I found out my surgery to exchange implants will probably be the end of May or beginning of June--so I'm nervous and excited.  I also got a referral to a lymphedema therapist--and that just made my day! I go on March 11th and I'm so happy to finally have help in sight. Whenever I do any repetitive motion my upper arms and torso swell up. I haven't been able to wear any blouses; just stretchy shirts, because my upper arms are swollen. I got a book about what to do; I do massage; and I am working on losing the weight I gained after surgery so I am hopeful I'll get my arms back to normal (or close to it).

I'm going to have a relaxing weekend just resting from last week's fill and getting ready for the next one.

Hugs to you all.

Sue!  You naughty, naughty girl!!  You go back to bed this instant!!

Love you!

Karen

XOXOXO....AND MANY MORE!

LISA