Why do husbands make a woman crazy sometimes?!?!

My husband says, "Sure, I'll go pick up our son from Gramma 'Nita's house an hour away after I get off of work which is usually late when I'm tired," after I asked him repeatedly if he was ok with doing that (I have company here and wanted Daniel to be somewhere where he would have fun and not be bored).  He said, "YES!" 

The company I have over here is a professional organizer.   We had her organize our house after my tx. and she did a phenomenal job, staged our house so well it sold with the first showing, and is just an excellent person.  

My hubby is jealous of how much I applaud her efforts and skills.  He doesn't like that she just swooped in and fixed 2.5 years of mess in just a few days time (it was probably a total of 10 days work).  He felt like he should have been superman and did it ALL himself while I was an invalid in recovery.  

He says he doesn't like her (but admits that jealousy is the reason why). 

So he came home last night, I was all excited to show him what we did all day, and he just scowled, and said, "What, all you did was re-arrange some stuff," and looked at me waiting for my angry reaction.  

Well, of course he got it.  I didn't deserve that!  He also yelled all night long about how he didn't expect that he would have to sit in the car for 3 hours to get Daniel.  I was like, "Did you forget where Gramma 'Nita lives?!?!"  He just held a grudge and pouted all night.  

So, he leaves this morning, and STILL isn't talking to me, because he is mad that he AGREED to have Organizer come her, despite my repeated, "Are you SURE??" He is mad that he AGREED to pick up our son, despite my repeated, "Are you SURE???" 

Why do hubbies have to be so wonderful one day, then kinda suck all the life out of you the next??!?!?!?!?!?!?  

PS-We have our 6 year anniversary of being together coming up next week.  Our 5 year anniversary of marriage is in April.   It's not like we've been married 40 years.  

LOL

Thanks for making me feel better-

Update, he still isn't talking to me.   He needs to go on an anti-depressant.  I think he may be bipolar. 

He is acting so bizarre.  I felt embarrassed for my organizer friend.  She totally knew that dh was avoiding the house.  He was refusing to come home until she left.  I kept saying that she wasn't leaving for hours.  I said that our son needed to sleep. 

Usually, dh is a nap NAZI, and has a fit if Daniel isn't going to get his nap (usually, when Daddy makes sure that Daniel naps, it suits Daddy's needs). 

This time, NO nap suited Daddy's needs.  
Whatever. 

I hate it when he gives me the silent treatment.   I did nothing wrong!   I talked to him about it, he knew Kristie was coming, he knew he agreed to get Daniel!  

AAARRRRGGGHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  

#$@# $%%$^  ^%&$@# ?":@!!$   $^%&#%& 

Oh that felt better. 

Now, to get some ice cream and eat my emotions.  

Please keep the giggles coming.  They tell me I'm not alone!  
Love and prayers, Deb

Thanks, Shirley and ML.  

This argument is getting worse and worse and worse and worse........

 I told him I am taking Daniel elsewhere so that our child doesn't have to spend any more time hearing and watching his Mommy and Daddy fight this way.   

Then, I just told him a second ago that it would just be easier for Daniel and I if he was just the one to leave.  

I know, I know.  It just gets worse and worse.  

I know, I know, Shirley! 

I told him the same thing-he was teaching Daniel to grow up thinking that it is OK to treat his spouse in such a manner, OK to avoid all conflict by giving a person a silent treatment, OK to argue in the manner he was arguing with me. 

I also took responsibility, because I know that I could easily (ha, easier said than done) walk away from it rather than make Daniel hear that. 

That was why I said I was going to take Daniel elsewhere until Greg decided to stop the silent tx.  Poor Daniel's entire day was a waste because Mommy and Daddy were fighting.  

The sweet and precious boy-I was crying in the other room because I didn't want Daniel to see.  Well, of course, my little angel comes up and wraps his arms around me and says, "Mommy, why are you upset?  I cry sometimes, too."   Then he scurries off, and returns with a stuffed SpongeBob SquarePants and says, "Here Mommy, you can cuddle with him so you feel better."  

What an angel.  I raised my boy RIGHT!  

Good news is, something in me cracked a few minutes after my last post, and I just ran to Greg and made him hug me.   Greg's ice finally melted, and he apologized for his actions and behavior.  He did agree that we need to get some counseling-not because we do this sort of thing all the time, but so we can STOP IT before it STARTS if there is a NEXT TIME.  

I want him to learn to communicate with me, and I need to understand just how he communicates (or doesn't, for that matter!). 

Aarrggghhh.   I'm still irked, but at least he is talking to me.  

I love you ladies-you are here for not just bc issues, but marital counseling, too!  
Love and prayers, Deb

Ok, now that I am not ready to go to a hotel until my husband gets a clue, I'm ready to make this fun again.  

Bring the laughs back, dear sisters! 

Thank you all once again for being who you are.  
I love the dh meaning d*** husband, by the way.  

You did all make me laugh-sorry I was such a Debbie Downer......

Thank you all-

Love and prayers, Deb

Ha ha!!!!  You crack me up!  

Janis,

I think that a lot of dh's issues with communication is that his Dad and sister are both freaky freakazoids, and his mom (RIP-she passed away a few weeks before Daniel's birth) was the "normal" one of the group, but she put up with that crap.  

They all give the silent treatment in that house.  Greg has told me stories of how his mom and dad would not speak to  each other for as many as 3 weeks, until the fight sort of dissolved.  

I REFUSE to deal with that crap, and that is why I put up such a stink. 

Besides, I am pretty perfect myself, so who in their right mind would do that to me?! 

So, I think that what is the deeper issue is his upbringing, and he is acting towards me just as his nutso dad acted towards his mom.  He also deals with a lot of depression.  He has been advised not to take anti-depressants because he has elevated liver function (for no apparent reason, mind you.  He doesn't drink, he doesn't swear, he doesn't rat his hair, he gets ill from one cigarrette.....oops...that's Sandra Dee from Grease....anyway, he has perfect health except for his fatty liver).  

Amy-I think you missed me asking you this before-Did you really meet Rosie O'Donnell?!?!?  I named my cat after her-I LOVED the Rosie O'Donnell show!    I totally miss it. 

Here's one that makes me crazy about dh.  He leaves receipts everywhere.  He takes the receipt out of the bag from the store as he is emptying it, and leaves the receipt sitting by the item.  When we got married, I found receipts from 5 years prior to meeting him!!!!!  I am yelling about this because I just found a stack more in my car (which he used this weekend).  

Argh.  Men.  

Love and prayers, Deb