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  • honeygirl
    honeygirl Member Posts: 1,718
    edited January 2008

    Lisa , yea , I kinda thought it was , but I wanted you to say it , not me.lol Your grandson is going to be 3 right? I love Italian. Men , food , decor etc... Italy , take me away!!!

  • my3girls
    my3girls Member Posts: 3,766
    edited January 2008

    Yes he will be 3! He was actually due on my b'day, but he was "stubborn" lol..and came later!

    I want to go to Italy some day!! I like my men dark, skin, hair, eyes..haha..well right now..not liking men so much! lol

    See Mel...u knew I was stubborn...you could have said it..haha!

  • Shirlann
    Shirlann Member Posts: 3,302
    edited January 2008

    Hi all my dear sisters, and especially my precious Sue and lovely Ulla, who are in the middle of this nasty journey.

    I just got back from Las Vegas.  We don't gamble much, but I lost $40 anyway.  Stupid.  I know better, you look at those gorgeous chandeliers and think to your self, "Hey, you idiot, guess who paid for THOSE?"  hahaha

    Anyway, I saw your pix, Sue, of Zippy, and you will not believe this, but Cleo looks like a relative.  I will get Fumi to try and get a pix on.  I couldn't believe it! 

    Honey, can't they give you something for those aches and pains?  You'd think we were in the dark ages.  I can't believe that something will not work for you.  Although I suspect you are working to hard and your body is saying, STOP, GO TO BED, NOW.   haha haha

    It has no other way to talk to you, unless you step on a rake.  And whack your head. 

    Anyway, I love you all and now I have to unpack, took enough stuff for a year, and now I have to put it all away.  Stupid me.  The room was so dark, we had to ask for a lamp.  I don't know what that was all about.

    Anyway, I love you all and will be on tomorrow for a cuppa and a chat.  Hugs, Shirlann 

  • my3girls
    my3girls Member Posts: 3,766
    edited January 2008

    Welcome back Shirlann!  I don't gamble either. $40.00 is not bad though. Allot of my co-workers go to Vegas often to gamble, esp. since they fly for free!

    Funny how we overpack!  Guilty!

    Hopefully talk to you and everyone tomorrow.  I still have to take down all of my christmas deco's and tree!! I have had no time! So that is my project tomorrow!

    xoxo

    Lisa

  • mickey301
    mickey301 Member Posts: 1
    edited January 2008
    Hello,  i was dx on 11-28-o7 an  i had a lumpectomy  my tumor was 6mm and i am triple neg the ongonist want me to go thru chem  my cancer is aggressive I had a second app the doctor said the same i not sure if i should go thru it being so small but please help. MIckey301
  • Ulla
    Ulla Member Posts: 840
    edited January 2008

    DEAR MCKEY ,,I CAN FEEL ALL UR FEARS ,,BUT PLZ DO ALL WAT U CAN TO AVOID RECURRENCY OF THE SICKNESS,DONT BE HESITATED TO AHVE EVERY CHANCE THAT U CAN GET ALL THE TRAETMENST AVAILABLE ,,DO IT TILL THE FAR END,,IT WILL BE BETTER FOR UR OUT COMS INSPITE OF ALL THE DIFFICUILTIES ,,,

    MY HEART GOES FOR U....

  • Wren
    Wren Member Posts: 324
    edited January 2008

    Regarding that lymphedema, I think I get it when I do repetitive motion things with my arms, or too much lifting.  I got a sleeve and glove for my left arm and it does help.  I also had a lymphedema massage a couple weeks ago that really helped too.  My hubby and I both learned how to do it.  It is just about like that website posted here back a few posts, and it does help.  I'm amazed something so simple like a gentle massage and drinking enough water can help it--and that something so simple as a hangnail or needle stick can bring it on.  I think I hate this the most about this Bootface... It just affects us all over the place doesn't it?

    Also, my husband is a Capricorn and part Italian--and stubborn, LOL, so I can relate... hahaha

    Shirlann, glad you didn't lose too much in Las Vegas.  I like to play slot machines but I never win much...  good thing I don't live in Nevada.

    Sue and Ulla, Lisa honeygirl, and everyone; it's good to read your posts--and it sounds like you are all doing OK.

    I had a Subway sandwich for lunch last week, Sue, and I thought of you.  I like turkey on either roasted garlic bread or honey oat...

    :)

    Oh, and Welcome Mickey! We're here to support you, no matter what you choose to do to fight this.  My plastic surgeon is a BC survivor and she was the one who told me to "just do it and don't look back"... She was referring to getting a bilateral mastectomy with reconstruction.  So that is what I did. Take care!

  • sueps
    sueps Member Posts: 2,266
    edited January 2008

    Hello Everyone xxx

    I know its late...its 10 30pm UK ...but I cant go to bed without popping on to let you know you are ALL in my thoughts ....as you are every day xxx

    I hope you are all having a relatively normal day and some nice relaxing moments.

    I have been busy today...stayed in bed til 12 Surprised...then I got all tarted up and went shopping ...lol....food shopping Yell xx

    I made a huge roast dinner and load of nice cakes ...I cant stop eating!! I am just about to cut my O/H hair....

    Stiil got the damn pain in my rib..all under my arm ....everywhere...it must be chemo/scars/damage.....

    Wren the way you describe lymphedea is exactly how I feel...I couldnt have put it better.....xxx

    Tomorrow after work I am going to download a map of America...and have it as my desktop...I will put virtual name tags all over it....so I know where you all are etc....

    Well best get the sheep shears...he is calling me .....

    Much love xxx

  • sueps
    sueps Member Posts: 2,266
    edited January 2008

    BTW ....has anyone heard from Valsul...I havent since the start of December...I hope she is doing well ...... I sent her a PM so hopefully will hear xxx

  • Ulla
    Ulla Member Posts: 840
    edited January 2008

    hi ..very quite ,,day,,

    all in bed..and eaing like a crazy,,,

    sweets..chockolad..nestle,,densed sweetend milk,,cake,,then another craziness about citruse annd salts withen 3 hrs...

    salty yoghart with cucmber,,and garlic,,salty sosages,,salty botatos,,saltyyyy.

    i feel like crazy,,

    i kept comming here every 15 min,and find that no one here since yesterday,,,i will go slep again as i now fel better to see that the dearest sweety sue is doing well...

    u r all in my mind....

    love u ..

    r u hungry al the time like i am???????

  • sueps
    sueps Member Posts: 2,266
    edited January 2008

    Ulla ...lol ....hungry!!! I could eat a house!!!! I have been eating non stop....the last hour...2 oranges 1 apple 3pckts of cheese onion crisp...2 pkts ready salted....3 bars of choc...5 cakes.... and some honey nut crunchy cornflakes...this is after a roast dinner ....and it was the same last night!!!

    FOOD GLORIOUS FOOD....lol...xxxxxx

  • sueps
    sueps Member Posts: 2,266
    edited January 2008

    ..and I could still eat a ten course dinner....OMG

  • sueps
    sueps Member Posts: 2,266
    edited January 2008

    Shirlann...I would love to go to Las Vegas!! I am glad you had a nice time and I am also happy you are back xxxx

    I cant wait to see a pic of Cleo...I love that name Cleo....we had a deaf Dalmation called Cleo when I was a small girl xxx

    I love you xxx

  • honeygirl
    honeygirl Member Posts: 1,718
    edited January 2008

    Hi SueSmile! Hey , do you want to end up looking as big as me!?!lol Just kidding , It was so weird on chemo , it sometimes reminded me of being pregnant. The mood swings , aches , and most of all the cravings! Ulla , I craved the salt too. I thought maybe it was because my taste-buds were so out of whack , that I could taste the salt , the more the better! You two , just indulge. This is not a time to worry about anything but getting better. If you are hungry , Eat!

    Well , I have spent all day taking down the Christmas decorations. It has taken me all day , and I still have some clean up to do. tomorrow is back to work for me after being off for two weeks. I can't say I am really looking forward to it. But , I have to make a living and pay the insurance. Still hoping to win the lotto someday!lol

    Wren , me and my O/H have Subway salads every Tues. They are good aren't they. I love their breads. Bread is my weakness.Roasted garlic bread , yummy.

    Sue , I was wondering the other night about Valsul. Its been awhile since she has been here. I hope all is well.

    Valsul , if you can , please stop by and let us know how you are. We miss you!xxxx

    Welcome back Shirlann!!! We missed you. Sorry you lost 40.00. But thats really not to bad. Cleo looks like Zippy! Awwww. Yes , get Timtam to post a pic for us. Is she back in the house yet? I hope she is all better and her and Dusty are becoming friends. Lilly , my kitty is going in to get her "tubes tied" and de-clawed. The doc said she doesn't remove the hole nail bed , that , that is to painful. And sometimes the way she does it , they might grow back , but they usually don't and if they do , she won't charge to do it again. She has to stay there three days!Frown I will miss her.

    OK ladies , I still have to clean up. Sue , cut the hair and go to bed. Kiss You have work tomorrow young lady.xxxx

    Hugs and much love to you all.

  • portiasproudmom
    portiasproudmom Member Posts: 2,125
    edited January 2008

    I'm glad I'm not the only one eating like a pig while on chemo.  The PA at my onc's office looked at me like I was weird or something when I complained about the non-stop appetite.  I've never been much for sweets (I'm more of a salt person), but I've been eating things like chocolate, cake, pie, cookies....you name it!  I've gained 11 pound already since starting chemo Surprised.  Can you believe that??  I feel like a big, bloated tub of goo! 

    Hope you all had a wonderful weekend.  I've had better ones--a policeman pulled me over today for having expired license tabs on my car.  I was shocked!  I was never sent a reminder and have been driving around for a year with expired tabs.  Yikes!!!  He was very nice about it, but he still gave me a ticket for $216.  I really don't need this aggrevation.  My DH (it has an entirely different meaning for me when it's in all caps--use your imaginations) yelled at me when all I wanted was to vent my frustrations to him.  He's certain that our insurance rates will go up.  I don't know why they would.  It's considered a traffic violation, but it's not like I was speeding or driving recklessly.  Anyway, I know that it was my responsibility to remember to renew them, but I'm still ticked off.  Plus, I've come down with another cold.  I had one just before my last treatment too.  Hopefully, I'll be fine to have my chemo on Wednesday.

    Thanks for letting me rant.  Hope you're all having a great evening.  Love you all!

    Hugs,

    Karen

  • Wren
    Wren Member Posts: 324
    edited January 2008

    Oh no! I hope you aren't catching a cold, Karen. That's crappy about the expired tabs too... as if you need another thing on your plate...

    I know that things like parking tickets, expired tabs, and those photo camera tickets don't usually make your insurance go up. Things like speeding, reckless driving, and accidents make the insurance go up.  I think you are just stuck with a ticket--that you could probably contest and get lowered--as if you had the energy to do that... If your DH is on the registration, then he can go contest it if he's all that concerned.  I think they'd lower the amount if you went in and told them (or your DH did) about your situation and that you haven't ever missed a license tab before. Heck, I'd lower the fine for ya if I were the judge!

    Anyway, I'm sorry that happened. 

  • Lucy1234
    Lucy1234 Member Posts: 289
    edited January 2008

    Micky you are in the right place thats for sure! Karen why do men do that? If it was them that did it they  would be moaning about the country today and how it was everyone elses fault (never theirs!) LOL

    Shirlann please post some pics of Vegas. I would love to see the shows, I am one for gamling myself. I play online Poker somtimes..

    What I wanted to show you is this great video recently put together by the British RAF in aid of cancer research. This is just like us crazy ass brits!
    Have a look I was crying with laughter!

     http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z3f0YbQDxp0

  • geebung
    geebung Member Posts: 1,851
    edited January 2008

    Poppy - just watched that video and it did make me laugh!

    Well, it's nearly midnight here and I have spent the afternoon and evening trying to be objective and not give advice to my sons on some rather important issues to do with employment, travelling and girlfriends - all very complicated but I think I will be awake a lot tonight, thinking about these problems!

    Karen, I wish we could all argue your case to the police and get you off that fine! I think it's so unfair - you've had so much to worry about and now this - AND your DH being like that about it...hmmm - I'd better not say what I think about HIS reaction...I hope your cold is a mild one - your body is telling you to rest - is that at all possible?

    Yes, I second a call for Vasul to post again - we don't want to lose anyone.

    Mel, when does your sister have her tests? I am having difficulty scrolling back to your post about that. Will continue to send my best wishes and prayers for a totally b9 result.

    Great to have you back, Shirlann - Vegus' loss and our gain!

    Sue and Ulla - good advice from Lisa - enjoy your food - there's plenty of time for getting fit and losing a few kg after you've finished your treatments. You've got to have some pleasure in life and if food is comforting then consume away! 

    I think I am starting to fall asleep over my laptop.

    hugs to all,

    gb 

  • my3girls
    my3girls Member Posts: 3,766
    edited January 2008

    Just a quick check in on my dear friends!  I am off to the vet to take Oliver for his check-upSurprised

    Mel, I too spent most of yesterday taking down all my decos.  I have some of the tree left to do. and then clean up!! I hate spending my day's off, "working"!! haha.

    Karen, so sorry about your ticket! Geeze..you think the cop would have shown you some mercy! I have to go get my driver's license renewed today.  My b'day is Thursday, and it has to be renewed by then.  I learned the hard way years ago, that in Ohio, if you let it go even 1 day past your b'day, they can ticket you! It cost me over 100.00 for that one!  So I will take care of that today, while I am off work.

    I just checked over all the pics posted over the last few weeks!  Oh my gosh...Poppy..your little guy...what a doll!! Showing some attitude in that pic...I love it!

    Sue...your boys are dolls...I have seen pics before...but love the one of David as a baby!  Gosh how I wish they were little again. (sometimes..haha).  And zippy...what a beautiful cat.  I have always been a dog person, but I love animals of all kinds...and zippy...very pretty cat..I can see why he is your b/f.

    Ok...I will check in with you all later..have a great day!

    xoxo

    Lisa

  • lvtwoqlt
    lvtwoqlt Member Posts: 6,162
    edited January 2008

    I am back on the boards today. The reason I don't post much is I am at work and can only read up and post when I have all the orders entered for the day, but I could not resist looking when I got to work this morning. I don't have internet at home Frown, we were cutting expenses several years ago when my husband was laid off from work and the internet was one that was deemed as nonessential.

    I almost let my tags expire last year, I forgot to pay the taxes and if you are behind on the taxes, they don't send reminders for the registration and you cannot renew until taxes are paid up. All for a tax bill of $12.00 on my 1994 oldsmobile. I have to get my car inspected this month and my son's car.

    Speaking of my son, keep him in your prayers. The incident reported this morning with US ships vs Iranian gunboats on Sunday, involved my son's ship. He sent a text yesterday saying that it was a sticky situation but all was ok.

  • portiasproudmom
    portiasproudmom Member Posts: 2,125
    edited January 2008

    Thanks for the supportive words, girls.  It's really such a trivial thing when you think about my troubles as a whole, but it really upset me for some reason.  I think I'm mad at bootface more than anything.  I feel like my life (and mind) is so consumed by it that I can't remember much else.  Stupid to think that way because my tabs were expired before I was ever diagnosed.  Was the growing cancer effecting my brain though?  I know, I'm being irrational.  Sigh.....

    My mom was getting on my case too.  She thought I should have played my "cancer" card!  Can you imagine--trying to get out of a ticket by telling the cop you have cancer??  How pathetic!

    Thanks for the advice, Wren.  The officer really was so nice--he actually advised me not to pay the ticket.  He told me to ask for a court date and to go in and explain my situation.  He said that I could get the ticket reduced dramatically.  Should I play the cancer card Laughing lol????

    Have a great day ladies!  Love you all!

    Hugs,

    Karen

  • livesstrong
    livesstrong Member Posts: 1,799
    edited January 2008

    Sheila - my prayers are with your son.  How worried you must be.

    Karen - I feel so bad for you.  Seems DH should have been more sympathetic. Sorry, I'll shut up now. Sealed 

    Gotta get back to work.

    Valerie

  • my3girls
    my3girls Member Posts: 3,766
    edited January 2008
     

    Karen,  I would take the officer's advice.  You have had allot on your mind, if you can reduce the amount of your fine...I would play the cancer card!  It's not a bad thing, even if I did not have cancer, I would definately try and fight that amount.  Having had a terrible year due to cancer, can only help.  That is what I think.

    Sheila...I will most definately keep your son in my prayers!

    I went to get my Drivers License renewed, and there system was down!! I said, well I am off today and it expires on Thursday, can you at least put it in writing that I was here?  She said, we can only do that if you are expired! So...let me get this straight....I go in before I am due, trying to be responsible, and THEY can't give me what I need, and if I were to get pulled over after Thursday...I AM SCREWED?! That is BS!  Ok...enough on that.  I took the tree apart, my thousands of ornaments away, and I am not feeling well at all. Stomach is upset, head hurts, tired...again...4th day of that.  I think I will lie down for an hour nap.  Continue after that, trying to get it all done on my day off.

    And...about eating...when I was on A/C...I did not have much of an appetite.  But on Taxotere...I ate like a pig too!  I esp liked salty stuff...but I always have.  I gained about 10 lbs...and yes..you ladies will lose it!  I am not sure if I have lost it all, but I am fitting back into my old clothes.  Just a matter of time...but you will be there.  So...while you need it and feel hungry...go for it!! Manga! Manga!

    xoxo

    Lisa

     
  • sueps
    sueps Member Posts: 2,266
    edited January 2008

    Hello Everyone xxx

    Sheila, I am praying for you and  your son during this difficult time and hoping it will pass .... love to you both xxx

    Well Karen, I HATE CAR FINES  ...GRRRR .... I have had to pay a whopping 180 pounds in parking tickets these last 12 months...I park on the same car park every single time I work...them ticket officers just swoop ...the last ticket I got was because I had stuck my parking ticket on the window and a litte speck of dirt was covering a digit...but it was still obvious that it was legal!!! Well I went on the hunt for him and tore an absolute strip  off him....told him to get back to school and get an education...and then I went back the next day and tore a strip off another...MAKES MY BLOOD BOIL ....you have my fullest sympathy as for D/H ...what do men know....men dont know nothing!!! So forget .... you have our sympathy...and I truly hope your week gets better.... (((Karen)))

      

    Poppy....I cant get that link to work....and I want to see it Frown I love the videos you find..they make me laugh xxx

    Lisa I hope Oliver is right as rain...what a lovely name for him ....lol...I love that name xxx

    gb ...I am dreading my boys getting to an age where they become independant....I will be trying to make sure they do everything right....it is so difficult to let go and have them learn.....one minute we're responsible for everything they do ....and the next they are able to do anything!!!  Scarey and stressful....I hope you are managing a nice sleep xxx

    I hope you are all having a good day .....I have been to work but finished at 3 pm....it is nice and I could get used to it !!

    Melody I hope you are having an easy time back after your holidays

    Much Love xxx

  • Ulla
    Ulla Member Posts: 840
    edited January 2008

    HI ALL

    JUST CAME BAK WITH DH ,WE HAD A LUNCH OUTSIDE,,I DIDNT FEEL THE TESTE AS ALL MY BUDS R ,,,,,,,lol,,BUT I KEPT EATING LIKE A PIG,,,

    DEAR ALL,,I LOVE U..

    KAREN ,,WAT CAN I SAY???I HOPE UR WEEK WILL GET BETTER,,IT IS NOT SO BAD TO PLAY THE CANCER CARD ,,I GUESS...

    SUE HAPPY THAT U FEEL GOOD WITH WORK TODAY,,I AM STILL EATING ,,,SMILES

    POPPY ,,,THE VEDIO IS NOT OPENNING ,,I WANT TO C IT ,,,WAT TO DO????

    SHEILA..HOPE THAT UR SON IS OK,,ALL PREAYRS FROM MY HEART...

    LISA..WAT U WILL DO WITH THEM ABOUT UR LICENCE???IT IS SO CONFUSING....GRRRRRRRRR

    GB IT SEEEMS U R SLEEPING NOW,,NICE DREAMS..IT IS JUST 7:41 PM HERE IN SWEDEN..

    MEL..THANK U SO MUCH FOR THE SUPPORTING WORDS,,NOW I CAN GO BAK TO EATING??????lol

    KISSES

  • sueps
    sueps Member Posts: 2,266
    edited January 2008

    LOL Ulla...munchy munchy..I cant stop eating still...I had 4 subways to day!!! oh god I could eat another...and I just had my tea and 3 pkts of crisps....I am going to go down to the kitchen again ...LOL...I am ravaged!!

    Lisa...I have just re read your post ...I hope your sleep did you good...you must have picked up a bug or something ....or maybe you are just very worn out...I hope you feel better soon xxx Please rest up...we will have our day off soon ...I am going to sleep sleep sleep on Thursday...xxx  My ribs are still causing me a lot of pain xxx

    Have a lovely evening xxx

  • lvtwoqlt
    lvtwoqlt Member Posts: 6,162
    edited January 2008

    I did not start worring about my son until I read the reports on Fox news today. As I said earlier, in the text message sent to my dh yesterday just said that they were involved in a 'sticky situation' with an iranian gunboat. After my dh called me this morning and said that they were talking about it on Fox news (he listens to it on his satellite radio), I pulled up foxnews.com and saw the reports that said that the incident lasted about 20 minutes and 5 iranian boats and 3 US ships. the US ships actually were prepared to fire on the gun boats but they backed down before any shots were fired from either side. So much for being safe on a ship. My son does have a habit of calling me to tell me he loves me and he is OK, then goes into detail about some mishap that occured on the ship that was dangerious for him.

    I am not taking chemo so what is my excuse for wanting to eat all the time! I weighed myself today and I am up 10 lbs since my surgery in June.

    Sheila

  • livesstrong
    livesstrong Member Posts: 1,799
    edited January 2008

    Ulla & Sue - so glad to hear you both sounding better.  Don't worry about eating, you ladies are young - IF you gain weight you will lose it quickly.  Now someone my age - that's a different story all together- I think its here to stay!!! Frown

    Hugs,

    Aunty Em

  • Lucy1234
    Lucy1234 Member Posts: 289
    edited January 2008

    Sue I'll put that video on facebook have a look there.

    Ulla, Sue stuff away! I have put on over a stone since the op. I have been dieting like mad, Iv lost about 6lb but I can't exersise really so its like 2 steps forward 4 steps back.

    Ulla at least you are in the best place for chocolate, Isn't Swis chocolate the best!

  • sueps
    sueps Member Posts: 2,266
    edited January 2008

    oooooohhhhhh Swis Chocolate...Ulla you lucky girl .... I have just eaten a meal for 4 ...hahaha...who cares about weight...I am going over to watch that video xxxx

    Yes Sheila...you're right...I would have thought ships were a little safer....how frightening ...to be almost attacked and at sea....

    I love the sea....and although to me it is scarey.....I think it is one of the most beautiful things .....aside Zippy of course ....

    I am lay on my bed again...third night on the run....and its oh so lovely!

    Aunty Em...you not old!!! stop it!!! you're amazing and I love you!

    Ulla has gone quiet .... I can hear her eating hahaha xxx

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