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Hi to all my special friends!!

I haven't been on for a day or so...busy, busy with the Holiday preperations!  Also, I got my hair colored!! I love it!! It really looks great..very sexy, if I do say so myself!!  I am at work right now, and it was the first day to come in w/out the wig...everyone here loves it!

See...ladies...for those of you that are going through your tx's now....there is light at the end of the tunnel!  I PROMISE YOU! I too was right were you are, just months ago.  Hang in there, Ulla, Sue and Karen, Mia...I prayed for all of you this morning on my dark cold ride into work.  You are strong beautiful women and you will get through this difficult journey. I know how you all feel...and my heart goes out to all of you!  I am here for support, love..whatever you need.  I just wish that we were all closer and could get together!  I would have you all over for some Christmas cheer...to help brighten your day!

Please rest...I say this allot, but you need too...so very important!

Anyone having Taxotere as a tx....you can ask away with any questions.  I had 4 rounds of that, as the last part of my 8 tx's.

Love and hugs to all!!!!!!!!

....where is our Melody??....hopefully just a busy lady!  We miss you miss Melody!

xoxo

Lisa

Ulla,

Boy, your onc is one tough cookie as we say here in the states.  I might consider taking more then one pill at a time when necessary.

I think its great that you are going to feeling well enough to pamper yourself today.  Instead of a shower, how about a nice hot bath.  It always made me feel good to take a bath when I was going thru treatment. Add a little bath oil............AAHH!!!

Enjoy your lunch!!!

Valerie

Ulla, I'm so glad to hear that you're feeling a bit better today.  Pamper yourself and get all dolled up--it will be good for you!  As for your onc refusing to give you sleeping pills, I guess I can understand her thinking.  The increased activity during the day will probably help you rest better at night.  My chemo nurse told me that the people who push themselves to stay active do the best through chemo.  I've found that to be true.  I drag myself onto the treadmill every day and try to get out of the house for a while every day.  It's really helping.

Take care and have a wonderful day, Ulla!

Love and hugs,

Karen

OMG, Karen, those top ten from the UK are hysterical.

Valsul - somehow I imagine you working at a tropical fish store at some point - come on, fess up!!!

Someone better put the mince pies away, or our Sue will devour them in a steroid haze!!!

Valerie

Well, Poppy, what a silly law, only TWO dildoes? Shameful!! hahahaha



This is a merry bunch, anyone want to get up to their armpits in bleach? I have cleaned more stuff in the last 3 days than I realized I owned. I eill tell you one thing, that is my LAST rescue cat!



Of course, they said they would take her back, but I love her now, and she has already infected us all, so what the heck, might as well just keep on keeping on. Two sulphur bathes later, she runs from me, not to mention the two doses of medicine each day. Poor little thing.



SUE DEAR, are you okay???? Now remember, this is a rollercoaster. Nothing goes as you think. You just bounce from one end of this fun house to the other until you get out.



NO ONE will take your boys. I will come over and shoot your MIL, if she has any thoughts like that. Can't happen. Call the papers if she even tries anything, weep copiously, scream about poor me with breast cancer, they will love it, and she will run for cover.



Anyway, back to the scrubbing, dusting, trying to stay positive, my hubby won't kiss me. Can you blame him.



Love you all, Shirlann

Sue, You will realize that you will have these same feelings after each treatment. Please see if you can take a day or two off after treatments so you can rest and watch a funny movie.

Sheila

hi..all specially dear sweet sue..

i can say that i feel better than afternoon,,the pain and swelling of my arm and axilla is lesser now as i took a hot bath and kept massaging the whole area till my leg..i think i moved all that accumulated lymph all around my body..lets hope that i found the right way to ease this horrible painfull swelling...

hubby destroyed all the left nerves of mine by his talikng so loud on mobile and phone and net skype and messenger since 5 pm till now continiously,,

it all was bussiness calls but i really on the edge of craziness now,,i know that this work keeps us alive in a good level in such expensive country away from our home but i still feel so tired of his loud voice and all that bussiness deals ,,oooh ,,,god why everything seems to be so hard like that,,i never complained of my hubby before now ,,,why i cant even hear his voice now,,i covered my head with a pellow putting those rubbers in my ears ,,when he finished his all calls he looked at me with this guilty look and jut kissed me on the cheek ,,i didnt know what to say,,i just cried with so much tears ,,then i said ..u r destroying me without u know that ..

he kept trying to appologize in so many ways ,,i know that he cant give up those calls and i cant deny that i feel so bad when he stay outside the home to do all these calls away from me ,,,i need him here and i need him to keep on working and i need quitness also,,but i cant have them all togeather,,it is a very hard choice ,,quitness with my hubby without his very important work that we depend on for living,,,or quitness without my hubby for so long time out of home,,,or my hubby with his work and all these loud calls and all that stress due to bussiness????????????????

difficult huh??what will u choose????

daer poppy ,,i am iraqi in origin who lives permenantly in sweden since 5 mounths only ...i am away from my mother and my family who dont know about my BC anything till now as i prefered not to tell my mom due to her high bood pressure and some heart problems,,,

my sister and her husband with thier lil girl are living in UK since 2004,,

i have another 2 sisters living in UAE-DUBAI,,

and my lil 2 sisters re still with my parents in iraq,,while my brother is studying to have his USMLE in CAIRO then to marry his AMERICAN girlfriend from NG in the next few moths,,

as u can c we r very international family who r ditributed all around the wourld but no one knows about my illness,,,

u r my real sisters that i feel happy to share u all my feelings really..u all cant imagine howmuch i do love u and care about u...

much much love .....

Hi Karen , I just want to say , I understand not wanting to talk to "family" about your husband. You may get over being mad , but they will remember!lol  But some men , not all , don't know how to respond to what we are going through. Men are more physical , they fix things that way. He can't fix you and he doesn't know what to do. Sometimes they ignore , or go on as if nothing is wrong. They seem to lack the emotional understanding , that we thrive on. Its like my son. Its like "pulling teeth" to get info out of him. But my two lovely nieces , I know everything about them. Ulla , you too. Your husband is doing , and probably working harder than ever , because that is how he "thinks" he is helping you. They do love you , they may just not know how to help you. Or not a way that is comfortable for them.xxxx

Shirlann , A friend of mine had a kitty that had ringworm. No one caught it. I was around her too. Her name was foofie , loved that name! And we just kept putting meds on her and she got well. And we were all fine. God Bless you Shirlann. Adopting a rescue kitty is a wonderful thing to do. Please give her sometime to heal. Even with her sleeping at your head , doesn't mean you will get it. I was always petting foofie. All of us did. And no one caught it. One month quarintine , I'm sure is precautionary.Which is a good thing. But know that we all were around it and were fine.xxxx

Sue! I'm so sorry that tx two got ahold of you sooner than before. You just don't know with each tx. Thats why it is good to take off the few days after tx. My "normal" breast hurt somewhat on the chemo. But after it was over it hasn't hurt. Yes , please ask your gp about it.xxxx

Hi Lisa! Wow , I bet your hair looks fabulous! I'm so glad for you. I am going to dye mine when I go on Christmas break from work."Pomagrante Red" Ohhh yeaaaa! I will e-mail you this weekend. I just haven't had time. xxxx

Ulla , you are in my daily prayers. Taking a break from school right now , is the right thing to do. You want to "be all you can be" when you are there , and right now you are going through sooooo much , that you need sometime before you give it all you can in school. You need to take care of you right now. And that is all you should be focusing on.

Your family sounds beautiful. I hope soon , you can tell them. I think they would want to be there for you. I will keep your mom in my prayers. I hope she is feeling better.xxxx

gb , so good to hear from you. Isn't the falls "frozen" awesome! I hope your having a wonderful time with you family.xxxx

Hey , I have a question for all you Canada ladies , what is "boxing day" !?!

Karyll , Mia , Sheila , Wreyn , Sunnydazee , Valsul , Valerie , and anyone I forgot , hugs to you all! xxxx Melody

OHHHHHH Honeygirl, that is just what I needed to hear! An encouraging word! You are a love.



Ahhhh, Sweet Sue, you are such a sweetie, you are not going to die, and your MIL will NOT take your boys, or, if she does, she will bring them back mighty quick when they are 16 and 19! hahaha, that comment is from an OLD mother, me. Just kidding of course.



Now, SUE, you work at home all night, go to work all day, have chemo treatments, and gee, I wonder why you are tired????????? Silly Goose, you are burning your candle at both it's ends, Ya THINK????



Take it easy honey, you are NOT going to die, it is not permitted when you are in the inner circle. You are in the inner circle.



So honey, take care of yourself, you are loved and treasured, try not to work all night on the house, it will not fall down, I promise.



Love, ShirlannXXXXOOOOOO

Linking up with you all too..... joining the light, love and even laughter.

My man was very withdrawn, it was a new relationship, I thought it was over - he was backing off, trying to cope with his own fears without burdening my own. He couldn't fix it as ya said up there, he didn't know how to be there FOR me, he just knew he didn't want to add to it. He has stuck it out though - and just attended my staff christmas party with me - and here we are.

 The taxotere has been much better for me so far, even only the second day. I don't have that naggy gaunty feeling I always had with the FEC. Of course I am still on steroids, will see what tomorrow brings - am done with them as of this evening...but honestly I feel good right now. There is hope - I didn't feel bad after the FEC I thought.. until now I know the difference.. lol. Funny how we cope.

Karyll

I was wondering that too, Lisa.  The chips in fish and chips are fries, right?  So maybe chips and gravy is fries with a gravy over the top?  Sounds sort of good.  Am I right, Sue?

Hugs,

Karen

I'm sorry you're feeling "blechy" today.  I always feel more poorly around days 4-6.  I can't believe you're working such an exhausting job during these days.  You are truly a wonder!!  Hope you're eating your yummy chips and gravy right now!  Enjoy!!!

Love you!

Karen

Hi Sue! You liked the group hug!?! Well , thats nothin'. When you have finished your chemo , we will have the longest , continuing high five you ever saw! And it was nice of Mrs. ex-MIL to take her grandchildren to the show. But tell her that Aunt Melly from the USA , thats right , USA will be on her like white on rice if she even thinks about doing something like that. Oh , tell her to have a nice day!

Oh Sue , did you mean french fries and gravy? When I was young-er , me and my friends use to go to a local hang out for that in the wee hours of the morning. Yum-yum! I hope you and your O/H have a nice evening together.xxxx

Hi Lisa , I would of come on earlier but I am trying to clean and get my diningroom decorations up. Hope work is going good.xxxx

Karen , you should of told him no , men have "aquaitances , women have friends!lolxxxx