My Brother Passed Away

Dear Pepper,

I am so very sorry for everything you  have gone through this year.

I lost my brother 6 years ago and it feels like it was yesterday.

I hope that maybe you will come back here more often and let us be here for you the way you were always here for us.

We may not have all the answers, but we understand.

And we CARE about you- a lot.

Love and hugs to you,

g 

Pepper,

I'm sorry for your loss.  You will be in my prayers.

Kari

Pepper  my heart goes out to you    I know what it's like to llose a sibling   I lost my own brother 2 years ago Thanksgiving  and i lost a sister a year ago September    bothe from lung cancer.     I wish for you peace in the near future and lots of prayers and support. 

Hugs

Pepper:

I too have no great words of wisdom for you - just want you to know how very sorry I am for your pain and I hope and pray that it will lessen each and everyday.  Sending prayers and hugs to you and hoping you can feel the support and love of everyone here.

Blessings,

Pat

Hi Pepper,

I'm not sure there are any words that can take away the pain and heartache when we lose someone we love.   My heart goes out to you and I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.  I'm hoping that happy memories of your brother will soon take the place of your grief.

I too miss Stacey so much!  It just doesn't seem right to come to these boards and not see a post from her.  I wish they could find a cure for this damn disease!

Hugs,

Debbie

Pepper, I think you need to think hard about what you learned from the ones you loved who were taken too soon.  I truly believe those people would not want you to be so lost.  They gave you love, and I'm sure they'd want you to give love to others.  One day at a time isn't just for addicts, it's for grief also.  Try to be less sad today than yesterday.  If that goes on for tomorrow too, it truly will get easier to put the pain in another place.  It won't go away, not totally, but it's okay to start to feel a little better.  That doesn't mean you loved Stacey or your brother any less.

(((((((((((  hugs  ))))))))))

marlegal

Pepper, it can take a long time to heal from a loss like this. I know it was years (maybe a decade) before I could bear to look at pictures of my dad after he passed away. Even now, 13 years later, things can happen - a scent, a song, someone whistling... and it hits me that he is gone. I don't know that the sadness and empty space ever goes away, but in time it will lessen and your memories of him will turn to happy ones. For now, (in my opinion anyway!) it's completely normal to feel the loss and grief from his passing. I hope the new year will bring you some peace and that those happy memories will start coming to you. And yes, those can make you cry too! I still dream about my dad quite often. Sometimes he shows up as if nothing has happened even though he was dead and life goes on. Those dreams are always the best and waking up can suck. It doesn't help that it's the holiday season and I'm sure you have memories as far back as you can remember that are of your brother and this time of year. Just do whatever - feel whatever - you want to during this time. Maybe a New Year's resolution could be to think of one happy story or something you remember about him, every day. You could even write them down in a journal. Whenever you feel sad, you could look at those things and hopefully you will get a smile through the tears.

I am sending the most ginormous hugs your way tonight. Hang in there and you know we're always here for you.

Love

Erica

Pepper,

It does take a lot of time for the grief and shock to subside a bit.  I am sorry to hear that you are feeling this way.  I don't know if this will help you or not, but perhaps doing something in your brother's memory would give you something very positive to hold on to.  I am thinking of something like donating books (about his favorite subject or hobby) to the local library in his name, or starting a small scholarship in your brother's name for a sports activity or a summer camp opportunity for a deserving boy, or doing a creative project like a scrapbook about your brother or a book of poems with photos of him.  Since i am a creative person, i have always done some kind of creative tribute to a person that i have lost in my life, and it helps me to stay positive about the loss and allows me to honor my loved one.

I wish for you good thoughts and a peaceful feeling about your brother.

hugs to you,

celia 

Im so sorry to hear about the passing of your brother. You must have been very close to him. My sister passed away recently so I know how it feels. My heart goes out to you. You are a good person. You have given me support and yet you are going through your own grief. if you ever need to talk im here for you. You are not alone.

Oh Pepper,

I just saw this. I am so sorry for the loss of your brother. I know it is grief right to the bone. Know that you and your son now have a very special angel to help you through life. Prayers for your peace and healing.

XX

Joy

Hi Pepper -- missed this thread in November, too.

I'm so sorry you lost your brother -- hope he and Stacey really are holding hands --

Hugs to you,

Ann