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Sue you must take the time off if you need it. Otherwise you are going to end up back in hospital and off for ages!

Im sure they understand

They are very lucky to have you

XX

Hi Sweet Sue, what a lot of decisions to make. I wish you weren't so concientious! You get a lot from your work, I did too, but you need to go home when you get tired. I know this is hard, the work ethic is firmly established in your head, and I think work is good for you, BUT, when you are finished physically, you must go home. You will continue to catch things if you are too tired. So think of it this way, they are lucky to have our precious Sue at all. So you must put yourself first and when that overwhelming fatigue hits, go home.



You are turning into a wonder child, but you must watch out for yourself.

Take good care and they will understand, they love you just as we do.

Oh, I have 3 sons, one is 52 and grey, one is 49 and grey and the youngest, at 46, still has brown hair, but is losing it! And, oh, how I wish I had my little sweet boys back! BUT, grandchildren will be along and they are so much fun. You will love them even more.



Gentle hugs, Shirlann

Sue,

I am the same way you are.  I have a strong work ethic, and before I got bc was NEVER out of work. But I must tell you that staying home during bc was for ME, the best thing I ever did.  It made the journey that much easier.  No germs to worry about, when I was tired I slept and I did things at my own pace.  Thats not to say when I was feeling good I didn't go a little batty .  I did get bored sometimes but like you I was in treatment during the Holidays and I kept busy shopping & decorating.  I bet your boys would love to have you home during the Christmas season.  Just something to think about!!

Whatever you decide, you are still kicking that bootface right where he needs it!!!

Stay strong,

Valerie

Shirlann - LOVE the cruise pics - I am so jealous - DH & I cruised the Caribbean a few years ago - we had a great time. I would love to do it again.

Hi Sue,

My neighbour's rooster woke me up a while ago crowing his lungs out and I couldn't get back to sleep so here I am, 5am, thought I would see how you are. I really hope that you have at least one day off over the weekend because I am so concerned about you not having enough rest.

Your sore swollen arm really should be seen by someone with up to date knowledge of LE. I am no expert but I think lymphoedma can occur any time after surgery - especially when you have had a lot of nodes removed. It may be just a bit of post surgery edema but I think you should have it checked out. Overuse makes your lymph unable to drain efficiently. Lymphatic drainage can be done by a physiotherapist who specialises in LE and it is so gentle and brings wonderful relief. Also, kinesio taping can really help after the massage as it lifts the skin slightly, allowing the lymph to drain more freely. I don't know if you have private medical insurance to claim some of the cost. I was able to claim through my private fund and when I had used all that up I was able to get on a "plan" with Medicare which gave me 6 visits for which I was able to claim. Sometimes they bind your arm, from hand to armpit to stop the lymph from pooling in your lower limb. You might also get a compression sleeve fitted. I have seen quite a few women wearing these while they work.

In the LE topic there is a wonderful women (Binney) who knows a lot about LE so you may want to ask her opinion. I am not saying you have LE Sue but I am concerned and I would so hate to see you burdened with it.

I hope I haven't been too bossy and opinionated.

Love & hugs,

gb 

You all are an inspiration to me.  I read all your posts every day--and keep you in my thoughts and prayers. 

Sue,

I just read your latest posts..somehow I missed those.

I am glad your dad has made that offer too you.  I too come from a strong family with good work ethics.  I never called off work, unless I was very sick.  But through my chemo, like you I worked, but I did let them know ahead of time, that on days 3,4 or 5, I would not be in.  It helped so much to be down, in bed on those days..you need it!! When it comes to your dad's offer with money, take it. I know for me taking any kind of financial help or just help around the house was very difficult for me to do.  I have always been self sufficient and, can do things on my own.  But when it came to this....I learned to accept the help!! I am so glad that I did.  It has been very humbling, but very beneficial.

My family helped me financially, so did my job...they held a fund raiser in my name!! Take the help...it makes everyone who helps you feel soooo GOOD!

Get the rest you need....remember it's part of the healing process!

Love you!!

Lisa

I am good!  I was off of work on Thursday & Friday, and my girls were home...so I was not on the computer till I got back to work today..haha.

That would have annoyed me as well.  That is why I did not read!! haha!

Melody!

Hi...glad to see you too!  How was your Thanksgiving?  I read about  all the dishes you were busily making on Thursday.

My Thanksgiving was very nice.  All three girls together, at least for part of the day.  My middle daughter, she is always on the go...doesn't spend much time at home.  We all 4 went to a movie yesterday. We saw the new Disney film..."Enchanted"...very cute...I loved it!

That's what you need dear Sue....go see a movie or rent one...a feel good fun one...to make you laugh!

Hey Lisa , I had a great Thanksgiving too. My son was home , we watched movies and ate and ate and ate! He will be back on Tues. with his girlfriend. They are gonna put up the tree and help decorate. That will be so nice. He has been at college for the past four years , and I missed the fun of putting the tree up with him. I want to see Enchanted. It looks cute. Well , have a great evening.xxx Melody

Hey Sue! You know , one of the ladies on the chemo thread that I post on had the racing heart. They said it was from the chemo and that it would settle down. She is ok. I got headaches. Everytime. But they were dull "just there" headaches , not like migranes. And my ex-niece in law had the breathlessness. Boy , what a motly crew we arelol. Yes , definately tell them of all your SEs. Yes , write them down. It never failed , I always forgot to ask about something , because I didn't write it down. I go Tues. for blood work at the hospital then appt with my onc Wed. I think I am gonna get a cuppa too Sue!xxx

Melody,

Sorry if I asked before...chemo brain..haha.  Are you finished with your treatments?  Lumpectomy or Mastectomy?

I am feeling so good lately...and all everyone is saying...is Wow..you look good, your color etc.  Which means, I must have really looked bad before! haha!

I am done with all treatments.  I have my reconstruction left, and that will be hopefully early January.

I see my onc on Monday, to check my blood, etc.  I am on tamoxifin now.  I started it 1 month ago.  So far so good with that.  We will see what the blood work shows.