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Sounds to me like you are getting a handle on things.  Now that work is through for now you must focus your energy on yourself.  It helps so much in the healing process to be a bit selfish to realize YOU come first.

Will you have someone with you next week that can help you take care of things? I hope so.

You can do this, I know you can.

Hugs,

Valerie

Hello Sue ,  I'm sending you positive thoughts,hugs of endurance,and a never-ending calm. "You truly need to do this Sue , you have no choice". Thats what I thought too. And thats what would make me sooo angry. I had no choice. But in looking back , now , it was a choice , and the right one. I tell you from my heart Sue , the fear in me made it so much worse now that I have gone through the part that you are about to face. Chin up girl , keep looking straight ahead and stay focused on the fact that soon , the ca$$$r will be out of you and in a jar! And thus starts your healing process. Sue , we will all be with you in thoughts and prayers. I really can't wait to hear from you when you get home after your surgery. My thoughts will be on you everyday. I will pray for you , your dad and your boys. I hope you figure out how to post a pic of your sons, that would be great. And I will try to figure it out too , and post a pic of me and my son.

Oh , I know what its like to face surgery with a period. I laugh now. When I woke up the next morning , I told my nurse " I think my catheter is leaking(never had one before) she looked puzzled and said "why do you say that?" and I said I feel its leaking on me , she lifted the covers and said "honey , could it be time for your period?" lol It wasn't due for another week , but my bs nurse said sometimes surgery can do that! And you know what , I really didn't care!!! No cramps , thanks to the drugs I was on!

Hang tight , much love to you and your boys. Melody

Sue,

Please do something for yourself, even if it is just a long bath. You get to start on the next phase now...just think how far you've gotten. This is doable. So hard, but doable.

Funny. I can sit in front of a (male) doctor I've never seen before, boobs hanging out for the world to see, discussing the percentage of women with two different sized breasts, yet I lived in terror that my period would start while I was under the knife (it held off for 24 hours).  You have to laugh. Last night I was trying to figure out what pills to take before bed. There's the anti-depressant, the antibiotic for my skin, both givens, the Darvoset, the Xanax, the Ambien, Motrin, Oxycodone, we could finance our kids' education on the drug cabinet alone.

Take care - big hugs to you!

Put your troubles in a box and take them out on Monday.

Pam

Softly holding your hand,

knowing first hand the fear

Soon this part behind you

and those who love you near.

Strength comes in strange packaging

A tear, a fist, a sob

but its all there within you

straining to do its job.

Take the power of yourself

There is no greater feat

You can do this all the way

To triumph over the beast!

Love and Hugs Sue - you will be OKAY.

Karyll

I'm so glad to read your and others posts, Sue. Turning the corner towards Tuesday is finally here for you! Funny, I can't see you much staying in that sick bed; not much glimmer of that from what I can see.



Glad you got the MP3 player; music is so soothing in all aspects of life. I bought my breast surgeon a classical disc which I knew he'd like, and another surgeon, later a popular singer cd. For the nurses, I brought in some flowers, and I had a little collection of chocolates in my room for the staff. It made me feel better to give people I valued something, even as they so attended to me.



You've made some wonderful friends here, geebung, Karyll, honeygirl, livestrong, towhee and all those whom I didn't mention. It's a testament to all that the willingness to surround a sister or brother is publicly made and lovingly showed.



Tomorrow, tomorrow, tomorrow, soon it will be here. Sleep well, Sue.



Tender

Well, your wait is almost over Sue.  I'm so happy for you.  I know how difficult the past month has been.  You've been such a trooper and I'm so impressed with your strength and courage.

Say "bye, bye", Mr. C%N$#R!!  You'll be sliced and diced a couple days from now!!  That's what you get for messing with our dear, sweet friend, Sue!

Take care and post as often as you need tomorrow.  We're here for you!!

Love and hugs,

Karen

Sue, I knew you were one tough broad!!! lol.  Let us know how you make out tomorrow. In the meantime i will think of some songs you can download. Although there is quite an age difference between us i think I can come up something you'll like!!

Enjoy your bath and don't forget Valsul is there for you if you need her. 

Hugs,

Valerie

I forgot. my choice of song that helped me was Bring on the rain , by Jo Dee Messina.

Shhhhh.....she's sleeping. Keep your angel voices soft and sweet for a few hours.

Then, while we're in the waiting room during surgery and recovery, I vote for Melody's pub. Make mine a Pink Lady. Poker, anyone?

Towhee 

My prayers are with you right now Sue. I listen to soothing sounds of guitar and ocean waves, or classic piano to send me to a deep sleep.

We all still have our moments. I was talking with my husband last night and said 'I hate this c****r and what it did to my body!' He reassured me that he loves me despite the scars and treatments. We are all survivors and the will to live is strong in all of us.

I also think that I was upset because my b-day is the end of this week and I hate the idea of getting older - - but then I consider what happens when I stop getting older! and I am not going to let the bootface beast get in my way!

Sheila

One foot in front of the other Sue, that's how you get there. It may feel as if you are walking through death row but you know what? You are just taking the beast there so that you can be well! And you will be happy to stay another night in the hospital that first day - They will tend to you and teach you how to look after yourself in a new way that is Cancer Free. That painful lump you have now will be gone and that is a blessing in itself.

You can do it - Look at all the folks that are with you here. Cheering you on!!!! And besides, you have this amazing woman inside that knows what has to be done......We will be waiting here, and embracing your words when you are home to type them. (you will be able to type right away)

Love, Hugs, Light, Peace, Courage and Strength...

Karyll

Oooh, Sheila, ocean waves are such a soothing sound.  It's funny--I always stop and listen to the relaxation tapes at Target, but I've never purchased one.  Another relaxing sound is a rushing river.  I love camping and waking up in the tent to the sound of the river.  So relaxing!  These ladies have such wonderful ideas, Sue! 

The wait is almost over, Sue.  Of course you're nervous!  It's so scary.  I don't think anyone on these boards has gone into surgery feeling calm and collected.  I thought I was holding it together really well until they took my blood pressure.  It was just a LITTLE high!  This time tomorrow it will be all over and you'll be resting in a nice hospital bed with people fussing over you.  You'll feel SOOOO much better!  Be thankful that they're not sending you home right away.  Here in the States, everyone is up in arms over "drive thru mastectomies".  It's awful.  You let them keep you for as long as they want you there. 

You take care and call Valsul.  I think it would help so much.  I spoke to a friend and fellow bc survivor the night before my surgery and it really made me feel so much better.  We all love you and we'll have you in our thoughts and prayers tomorrow. 

Hugs,

Karen