I just can't quit you...
I have been thinking about taking a break from the boards. But for some reason I just can't.
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I hear ya, Fitztwins. I've tried to make the break a few times, thinking that, surely, I must have other interests worth connecting about than BC. So I've joined some other boards, mainly iVillage groups and, most recently, Eons in order to see what 50+ people are like. I'm just not getting the vibes on these boards that I get here and don't feel that connection. Huh? So, for now, I guess I'll stay. It's so rewarding to me to feel like I'm lending support to other women here, whether it be a frightened newbie or one of us oldsters (what did we used to be named....'carpal tunnelers' or something?) who needs to vent about her husband or a child or whatever. And then there's the awesome support that I get when something's bothering me or I have a small success. Can't beat it.
I guess I just love you guys! So me too, Fitztwins....just can't quit y'all...
~Marin
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I won't quit these boards while I still need information. It's true, though, that I'm starting to recognize some of the "personalities" here and am feeling like they are kind of friends. It's hard to part with friends........
Tina
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Hi Marin, I have recieved many messages from you Marin, and they help so much. These boards are great. Your one of them that makes it so special for us. I hope to keep you around some on here. You do make a difference.
God Bless,
Kaloni
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Man oh man I understand how you feel. I lurk more than I write these days.
I think I should move on from the boards too. But I get sustenance here like nowhere else.
So I will stay.
I hope you stay for a while too Marin.
Wendy A
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I hardly post anymore, as it seems to be the only way to avoid drama. But I don't let a day go by without popping in to check on my friends.
It's so sad that we lost another beautiful sister this week.
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I can't leave either. I have formed a bound with some woman here that could never be duplicated. I have very little in terms of family members and I will always feel that all of you have filled that void in some way.
Looks like I'll be hanging around for a bit!!!
Valerie
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I had been slowing down a bit and just checking in once in a while then all of a sudden I discovered the Humor board with word and song games. I have to play every day in the morning and at night.
So I am playing games and checking in on people I have been following and looking for interesting topics. Love this place. I have checked out other BC boards and this is by far the best and I really do not have time for any other kind of board. Once in a while I try to read a book or watch a movie.
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I think it's good to take a break if you can. For me, the farther I got from my original diagnosis, the easier it was. It's a habit, in some respects, that takes a few days to overcome.
That said, I have found that you can pop in and out once in a while and still get support or make an impact on someone else. And if you have to come back for more prolonged support, it's like you never left.
There's no right answer. But if you FEEL like you need a break, you probably do. Give yourself permission to take some time off and see how it feels.
Anne
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I agree, just can't forget y'all. I might not visit every day like I used to, but I do catch up eventually.
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Hi everyone:
I pop in and out as well
just depends what is going on
at home.. sometimes more than others
It is nice to touch base
and I do get PM's and exchange
cards and phone nos. with several gals
here and other boards, BC and otherwise
I like to help newly dx and
the word games are fun as well
Best to all here
ps.. Donna. It is good to see
the pictures of Sybil..)
will write soon
Sierra -
Hello all,
I just discovered that you have to log in in order to see the avatars!
I've been here almost as long as you, Janis (probably just as long if you include lurking before I officially joined) and even though I feel as if I am finally in a much better place (mentally and physically), I still need to check in here. I do not think I will ever "quit", although I may not post often. I feel comfort in connecting with my bc sisters all around the country and world!
Rosie
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I have stopped reading the OT and political threads and I have considered a break as well, but then I learn something -- like about the new studies concerning the ability to metabolize tamoxifen -- or I witness something -- like shelliks incredible grace and courage in facing death -- and I find a reason to stay.
I can't imagine these boards withou you Janis. We went through treatment about the same time. -
I met a lady at the onc's office Friday. She was there to see the same doctor I do for a second opinion. I told her about this board. I hope she comes here. She and her friend were going over the questions she wanted to asked. I looked around and saw a couple of gals wearing scarfs or wigs and thought, I'm sure glad I'm not in their place. And I thought about the gal sitting next to me just getting ready to go on this journey.
This is a wonderful place, not perfect. We have our disputes and sometimes we ignore a post that we do not agree with. This forum and website has a wealth of information. It's really nice "meeting" some people and talking on the phone with them. We just have that "connection."
Janis, I betcha can't leave.
Shirley
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When you know you can make a difference and you do that by offering widsom, insight, experience and a shared journey being here is important.
There are times when it weighs heavily. Losing a sister, witnessing strife and discord and if we are low ourselves because of that, or our own every day life, it is hard to offer support and strength.
Sometimes a question or a post just resonates and you know you have to respond because you have something to share.
Just like in "real time" life. There are days you are chatty and interconnective and other days when you need your own "space" and "peace".
Follow your heart on this one Janis (and anyone else having doubts/second guessing, feeling low). It always knows best.
The loss of such a wonderful woman as Shelli last week hit everyone hard, but it will have hit many of you very hard. Those who were diagnosed around the same time, those with the same dx, those who were friends with her, those of you who were far too young to have been diagnosed in the first place, those of you with young families. The connection is there. Recognize it, grieve for Shelli and for yourselves and take the time you need. You are as vital to yourself as to all the rest of this sisterhood.
The fact that you can't quit? You're still really attached to being the helping friend that you are.
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