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massiveinductalcarcanoma
massiveinductalcarcanoma Member Posts: 3
edited June 2014 in Life After Breast Cancer
my breast are gone and I am monitored for spots.Husband dont understand heart giving out I feel screwed.  kids are older but they dont see mom has I was.one daughter dont ignores me,other causes life to be in term oil.  PJackson18@insightbb.com  through all this I have a son in college
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  • massiveinductalcarcanoma
    massiveinductalcarcanoma Member Posts: 3
    edited September 2007

    anyone care

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  • massiveinductalcarcanoma
    massiveinductalcarcanoma Member Posts: 3
    edited September 2007
    Frownvery sad,guess not
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  • Beesie
    Beesie Member Posts: 12,240
    edited September 2007

    I'm sorry you are going through a hard time.  You'll find lots of women here who do understand and who do care.  It's not unusual that your husband and family don't understand how you feel or what you are going through - so many of us have found that.  It seems that only someone who has been through the same thing really understands.  Know that you're not alone.  There are lots of women just like you here.   

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  • iodine
    iodine Member Posts: 4,289
    edited September 2007

    Hi Sweetie, I'm so sorry we didn't get to you faster, the boards have changed lately and we're all pretty confused.  I do so hope you come back to see this.  I'm going to email you so you will see that we do care. 

    I know you are feeling really low right now.  I know we all remember how we felt when we were first diagnosed.  It's just awful.  My own daughter didn't even ask how I was doing.  She even asked that if I had to take chemo, that I put it off till after Christmas so as not to "mess up the holidays".  Family can really seem awful!  And Husbands!  Let's not even go there!

    Hugs!

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  • fire
    fire Member Posts: 153
    edited September 2007

    Dear friend, we all with you!

    I totally understand you!

    I was so upset with my family I was complaining  about them, to.

    It is hard on husband, I understand it now, and children try to pretend it is not happen.

    They think if they act like this the problem will go away.

    Be strong, come here, talk to us, it will help.

    And may be will be good to change your Nick for something

    different.

    You will be good.

    Hugs.

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  • NoH8
    NoH8 Member Posts: 2,726
    edited September 2007

    You don't give us a lot of time to respond do ya?

    Are you seeing a therapist? It sounds like you could use some extra support. A support group might also help.

    I hope today is better for you.

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited September 2007

    You are definitely far from alone and will find women on this board who have had experiences just like yours and some who have gone through, and are still going through, much worse. Some desperately want to live and know that they won't. So please join us for support and any help we can give you. You may find yourself eventually feeling grateful that you don't have any more signs of cancer in your body.

    Hang in there....and keep posting if it helps.

    ~Marin

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  • Member_of_the_Club
    Member_of_the_Club Member Posts: 3,646
    edited September 2007

    Many of us have had a tough time dealing with the emotional aspects of this disease. And many of us have also dealt with the fact that we don't get a pass on life's other challenges just because we have bc.



    Please try to get help. Most cancer centers have oncology social workers on staff who will work with cancer patients, often for no charge, on precisely the issues you are facing. And please keep us posted.

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  • LuAnnH
    LuAnnH Member Posts: 8,847
    edited September 2007

    You will find lots of caring and support here, we all have gone through or are going through the same type of stuff.  I am sorry you are having such a tough time.  Can you share anything else with us, like where you are from.  Maybe someone is close enough to personally help you out.  Also, by knowing what city & state we can offer suggestions of placing that can offer help for you.  Also, by sharing it sometimes is healing.  Typing the words sometimes is alot easier than saying them.  The nice thing about the internet is that you are anonymous.  I hope you are having a better day today.

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  • althea
    althea Member Posts: 1,595
    edited September 2007

    This is a forum filled with people who care.  Just like real life, however, it can take some time to build up familiarity and friendship.  Tell us more about yourself, your diagnosis, your treatments.  Have you told your oncologist about the way you feel?  Are you taking hormone therapy?  I'm taking tamoxifen, and I was stunned to learn in the 'hormone therapy' section how many side effects people experience that are not listed on the literature.  There is just so much to learn and know about this awful disease. 

    If your community has a bc support group, please consider joining it.  Cyber support is great, but it's no substitute for face-to-face support.   

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited September 2007

    Many family members and friends don't understand what you are and have been going through.  That's not unusual although it can be very hurtful.

    Also, you sound depressed, and rightly so.  Many of us are on andidepressants.  You may want to talk to your doctor about this.  And talking to a therapist may be a very good idea.

    Please let us know how you are doing. 

    Shirley

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited September 2007

    Also, you say you are being monitored for spots.  What does that mean?  Are they looking at your bones, or other parts of your body?

    Has it metastisized?

    Thanks for the information.

    Shirley

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