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  • saluki
    saluki Member Posts: 2,287
    edited July 2007
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    I wasn't going to get into this conversation. Wow, how things are said and get so screwed up is amazing.

    I don't think Jaybird REALLY meant she hated cats. I think she was making a point.

    Donna, you are a dear and no one wants to see you leave. We ALL have very different opinions on different topics. I think it's up to us to keep it "nice." We're grown, mature adults (well, sometimes LOL). I think if we are offended by a post we need to step back and think about it before we post something we may regret. Or in some cases, just don't repond.

    My opinion on abortion is quite different from many on this board, but I think we handled that subject quite well without getting ugly.

    If we all agreed on everything this would be a boring site.

    Don't you DARE leave.
    Shirley



    I thought I was really not speaking the same language as the rest of you. Because I thought Jaybirds comments too- were tongue in cheek ---really having nothing to do with cats at all but just pointing out the absurdity of the whole situation. Glad I'm not alone.
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  • Blundin2005
    Blundin2005 Member Posts: 1,167
    edited July 2007
    Hi Nicki!!!

    How the heck are you doing?

    What a great post! I enjoyed it so much.....what a voice!!! and a beautiful song....

    It took me way back ... and when I saw the words "soul train" float behind her it was an .... "OMG I remember watching that show!"

    great stuff .... thanks again.
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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited July 2007
    Sherloc: Belief by John Mayer - this oe is for you.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8ukitbLI2C4

    Nicki
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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited July 2007
    Marilyn: Good to see you. Yes - it was a great song. Sorta brings things back into perspective.

    Nicki
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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited July 2007
    Ah yes, just one more reminder. We all really do care about each other. Thats why we are here.

    Tribute to Linda McCartney - another great person who we lost to breast cancer.


    http://youtube.com/watch?v=GRHnaIL9U_g

    Nicki
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  • Emelee26
    Emelee26 Member Posts: 569
    edited July 2007
    hahaha...sorry Jaybird...I did not get the tongue in cheek part..hehe
    Now I'll continue to post cat pics
    Love always,
    Marisa
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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited July 2007
    image

    How about a funny puppy?

    Nicki
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  • LiveForToday
    LiveForToday Member Posts: 311
    edited July 2007
    Nicki, such a beautiful tribute! Thanks for sharing, I had not viewed it before. Brought tears to my eyes, she is one of thousands this tribute could be sung about....

    huggs, Sherry
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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited July 2007
    Sherry: This one is even better. Just hope we have only love and peace here on the discussion boards.

    This one made me cry.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MvoLo3OekLM

    Nicki

    PS: To all my bc.org buddies. It musta been magic, the day that we met.
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  • sherloc
    sherloc Member Posts: 1,047
    edited July 2007

    awwww thanks Nicki, I think John Mayer is fabulous.

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited July 2007
    Sherloc: Glad you enjoyed it.

    Nicki
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  • karen1956
    karen1956 Member Posts: 6,503
    edited July 2007

    Good morning girls - I guess I just don't understand all the strief (sp) that has been on the CG and here the past couple days. I don't remember when I joined the CG - but it was sometime last fall. Yes it is a "clique" - but that is not bad. A "clique" is just a group of friends/people within a larger group. It does not mean it is exclusive. It is a wonderful group of women/men who come together to try to support each other. For me personally it has been my support group. I went to a live support group here in denver and it did not fit my needs. I love BC.org - it offers to much. One of the things I like most is that I CAN TAKE WHAT I WANT AND LEAVE WHAT I DON'T WANT. For me, that means that I don't have to read posts or threads that are not of interest to me or that I don't like the topic. We are all adults and its time to act like adults. I work in an elementary school and part of our pledge is "I will be safe, caring, respectful and responsible so that teachers can teach.... I think we can all use this pledge of safe, caring respectful and responsible. There is no reason for us to be rude or disrespectful to anyone here whether we agree or disagree. Maybe sometimes its just best to agree to disagree. I apologize if I have hurt anyone feelings, but its time for everyone to remember why we are here and to remember that we are all different, all have our own journies, our own way of handling things and of course our own issues in life that are beyond BC. Hugs from Denver and hopiong that people will be safe, caring, respectful and responsible so that people can post and people can read the posts in a safe, loving matter.

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  • cmb35
    cmb35 Member Posts: 1,106
    edited July 2007

    Just a thought... when I was just finished treatment and starting to try to "re-enter" my normal life, I found the Moving Beyond section. At that time, the topics were more frequently about just that - trying to gain strength and energy, go back to work, re-connect with a partner, etc. The posts labelled "O/T" were not as common. I do think that many of us that post regularly have moved beyond to the extent that we're not as focused on those immediate issues. And I think it's admirable and very telling that we're concerned that those "newbies" to Moving Beyond might be somewhat confused/intimidated by some of the negativity and the time spent "arguing" about issues (for lack of a better term.) BTW, I say "telling" because I do think it speaks to the wonderful women on these boards, and the compassion and desire they have to share their experiences to help other women who have just finished treatment.

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  • cmb35
    cmb35 Member Posts: 1,106
    edited July 2007
    Sorry - afraid I was going to lose the post...

    Anyway, I'm not sure what to do about that. Is there a "Just Finished Treatment" thread beside this one? Should there be? I don't know (and questions like this make me glad I don't have Melissa/Tami's job!! LOL)

    I guess what we can all do on a personal level to keep this section of the boards what it seems like it was originally intended to be, is to "look out" for women who are in the beginning stages of Moving Beyond, and offer them support, advice and encouragement when needed/appropriate. I don't participate in any other kind of online forum, but my guess is it's pretty typical for a discussion board like this to grow and evolve. I think there is such a strong connection between bc survivors (anyone who has ever attended a Making Strides or other bc event would probably agree) that for an online discussion board, we're probably pretty tight.

    So, no answers or solutions, but like so many have said, I think if we all keep the Golden Rule in mind, we'll be OK...
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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited July 2007
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    Colleen: Nicely said. One of my biggest concerns is that new people, or those just finishing treatment might not be getting the support they need. I think its important we all stick to one of those golden rules. "Love Thy Neighbor."

    Nicki
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  • LuAnnH
    LuAnnH Member Posts: 8,847
    edited July 2007
    ok, it's official, we need an O/T forum

    LuAnn
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  • marshakb
    marshakb Member Posts: 1,664
    edited July 2007

    Oh LuAnn I'm gonna miss your doggie pic but look at that sweet little baby. Ahhhhhhhh

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  • jasmine
    jasmine Member Posts: 1,286
    edited May 2008

    Actually, It was my impression that that was why the 'Growing Our Friendships' forum was created.

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  • LuAnnH
    LuAnnH Member Posts: 8,847
    edited July 2007
    I will switch back and forth, keep everyone on their toes LOL

    LuAnn
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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited July 2007
    OK! I still see the doggy! LuAnn where is that new grandbabies picture.

    Jasmine - good suggestion. Growing our friendships would be a great place for the OT posts. Im like LuAnn. Im flexible.

    Nicki
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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited July 2007

    I also agree about the Growing our Friendships forum being a good place for the O/T threads. The forum has plenty of room and the threads fall under that category...or at least they should.

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  • LuAnnH
    LuAnnH Member Posts: 8,847
    edited July 2007
    I don't know Nicki, I see the baby. Maybe you need to clear out your temp internet files. Perhaps refreshing your browser would help.

    LuAnn
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  • Member_of_the_Club
    Member_of_the_Club Member Posts: 3,646
    edited July 2007

    Yes, I think we already have an O/T forum. If you look over the moving on section there is very little that has to do with breast cancer. There are so many issues that come up with the end of active treatment. i really think it is important to keep ourselves open to the women just joining us on this side of treatment. I know how difficult I found that transition and I fear this section has lost something since those days when I found it so helpful.

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited July 2007
    LuAnn: I see the baby now. Just adorable.

    Nicki
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  • LuAnnH
    LuAnnH Member Posts: 8,847
    edited July 2007
    Thanks Nicki, I kind of like the little guy!

    LuAnn
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  • Jorf
    Jorf Member Posts: 498
    edited July 2007
    I guess I tend to focus on the "beyond" and the "rest of your life" parts of this description:

    Moving beyond cancer (12 viewing)
    Getting on with the rest of your life, from rediscovering intimacy to coping with hot flashes.

    That's why I come to this section of the boards primarily. I like the camaraderie of other women who have had similar experiences to mine in the discussion of several topics. I expect this section to be mostly off topic. If I wanted to only discuss breast cancer I'd be in other places. I want to read about and talk about other aspects of life through a "survivor" of breast cancer lens.

    Anyway, that's my two cents.

    Regarding the Wagon thing. It's always confused me as to why there is a thread about it on the Moving Beyond section AND a whole wagon section.... Why isn't there just the wagon section and not one that's called a "click" which, for any woman who was once in junior high school, always raises hackles and more PTSD than cancer treatment does!

    Jorf
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