STEAM ROOM FOR ANGER

WC3, I bought the Plantronics Bluetooth earbuds. I think I found them at Best Buy. What I like about them is that I can wear them around my neck on the connected cord. The earbuds attach themselves to each other with a magnet when they're not in my ears, so they don't use any battery when they're not connected to Bluetooth. I'd be afraid of losing the other earbuds. The noise cancelling feature works pretty well.

The Bose ear buds look pretty nice. I got the noise cancelling headphones for my husband at Costco (Quiet Comfort) after an old pair I had wore out. They're definitely more expensive, but might be worth it. He puts them on to listen to his computer and he can't hear me (or pretends not to - haha) when he is wearing them.

Good luck with whatever you decide to get.

Carol

Oops, I think I hit "Preview" but not "Send".

BC, that's a good suggestion. Although I like my earbuds, I'm not sure I'd want to try to sleep with them.

My 14yo grandson uses the headband. He really likes it. Got it on Amazon for him. I use the loudest fan I can find to sleep. A window a/c unit in summer is great too.

Got word this morning that my good friend's husband is not going to make it. They called her and their daughter into the hospital last night so I assume they will be taking him off the ventilator today. So sad. My friend is going to be inconsolable. While I will be here for her, I will admit I'm a little worried about it being too much for me. I've come a long way, I don't need a regression, right when I'm gearing up for the holidays. Had a wonderful weekend with my daughter. It's going to be really really hard for my friend. I did already tell her that she is stronger than she thinks, because you are. As many times as I cried in hysterics that I can't do it, turns out I could, and doing my best to keep going.

ctmbsikia, That's so sad. But don't over-give; she has other people in her life to console her, too

Back again. Just got off the phone with the GI doc. She called regarding my labs which I thought were great! Everything in range except for the ALK Phos. I'll be seeing her after the holiday, I agreed to repeat labs and 1 month, and she also referring me to the endo group. WTF? I did not agree to a liver biopsy that she also mentions would tell us. Jesus. What about my endoscopy? Should I find it strange she seems fixated on this number and not fixing my esophagus? That's how we met in the first place.

I challenged her on the bone theory I have that this is why it is elevated.

ctm, I’m sorry for your friend. You can be there for her but it is also okay to have boundaries and still be her friend. It’s not your entire burden to carry her sadness.

Here’s what’s fuming me. My two sisters do stuff I don’t even think they see as wrong. They, along with one sister’s husband, are flying to the Domincan Republic the Sunday after Thanksgiving meeting the other sister’s daughter, her husband and their small child for a week of fun in the sun.

A few days ago, one of the sisters texted me telling me the three of us should meet up to get a pedicure “to catch up” and the treat would be on her. I told her I could not since the medicine I currently take gives me hand and foot syndrome (red and cracked) side effects so a pedicure was out.

But I just think it’s shitty that they would be getting a pedicure because they’re taking a tropical vacation but I guess the treat of a pedicure would be my consolation prize since I wasn’t asked to go. Were they going to sit there and plan their vacation itinerary while we got our toenails painted? They seem to get off treating me this way, acting like they’re doing something nice with the ulterior motive of enjoying the thrill of excluding me and hurting my feelings. Very passive aggressive.

Divine, I think flat-out rudeness would be preferable to that token treat crap.

lalbo, you have every right to feel anger and you can let rip here .You are in a situation no one wants to be. I wish I could say it will all go away, but all I can say is here we understand and send you best wishes.

Lalbo, allow yourself to feel what you feel for as long as you need to. It is really so recent that you got a bc diagnosis. Don’t worry that you haven’t “gotten past it” by now. A mastectomy and reconstruction is a hell of a lot to adjust to. Give yourself the time you need to work through all of your feelings. Don’t worry about not wanting to exercise. Instead, give yourself permission to go home after work and take care of yourself, find ways to get comfortable and treat yourself to some loving kindness every. single. day. and don’t feel guilt about it. I remember the year I was diagnosed. After having chemo in the spring, a lumpectomy in the summer and starting radiation in the fall, I went out and bought a big screen tv because I knew my body was going to need months to recover and recuperate and I figured I might as well have fun resting and watching tv, which I did all winter. Also, it’s okay to not want to socialize when you feel like you have to make others feel better. That’s on them to deal with their own feelings. Best wishes to you!

Hope all of you have a peaceful, safe, delicious and enjoyable Thanksgiving. I woke up to a crash in the kitchen while my husband was making coffee. Something fell to the floor and shattered. All I could think was I hope it wasn't a measuring cup which will be needed today. Then, I got up and went into the bathroom where I noticed a dark smear on the hand towel by the sink. Turned on the light, BLOOD!! Wandered into the kitchen - still don't know what fell, but whatever slipped through a hole in our new dishrack/drain board. Will discover when I vacuum shards husband missed. He was as confused as I was when I told him about the blood, but he may have had had a bloody nose in the night - though that would be a first. Not how we wanted to start Thanksgiving when hosting a gathering of 12. Hope all weird bad stuff is out of the way and this wasn't an omen.......

bcincolorado, we do a small Friendsgiving. No family = no drama, lol

May you all have a lovely day and stretchy pants.

Too funny with the lab. My 2 dogs and 1 cats are currently chasing each other around the house, barking and meowing. No quiet here now.

DD , the grands 16 and 14 and I went out. 14 ate the soup, and that was it. I wanted to bop him.

The year of firsts can be hard after your spouse passes. I’ve made it through all mostly ok. Today was different. I guess I was just missing all who are gone. I’m ok now, tomorrow will be back to whatever normal is

Had 2 dear friends email me their plans did not go well yesterday. One was a lot of family drama. They have the grandson living with them right now because mom is bi polar and went off her meds and he wanted to live at grandma's. He is in high school. Her husband has a lot of health issues as well so not sure who had the issue yet and she just said she'd email me later and wanted to wish me a happy Thanksgiving. Makes my day seem not so bad.

Other friend planed on going to DIL and son's who are living with her mom a few miles from their house. Got a call that morning that they pneumonia!! So no one was cooking dinner!!! Of course meanwhile my friend was planning on fixing a side to take so she and her DH at that and whatever else they found the fridge for their Thanksgiving dinner alone.

Normally I would be hauling out Christmas stuff right now as well. Did take down the fall table cloth to put away. Decided will not attempt it until next week after visiting dogs are gone. Of course by then there are medical appointments for ether me or DH to deal with at that point too......I guess the tree will get up at some point.

Lalbo - your post resonated with me. I am angry. I had a lumpectomy, along with a "reduction and lift" to even me out and improve the appearance of my breasts. 3 months later, I'm still in pain. I was not expecting that my boobs would hurt this much for this long. If I don't wear a bra, the "bouncing" is painful.. Every bra I have, the band irritates the incisions. I know I should exercise, but it just seems like too much. The letrozole seems to be making everything worse.

Overall, I really just want to not be reminded every day that I have/had cancer. I want to be back to normal.

I have been watching a show - Holiday baking contest - which is oddly comforting to me. Nice people who like to bake cakes and cookies and stuff, being creative and having fun competing. I recommend it to anyone who needs a distraction.