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  • KBL
    KBL Member Posts: 2,521
    edited August 2021

    All right. I’m done sitting here being silent. I’m tired of you all getting to say how you feel while I feel I have to be a mouse in the background.

    You DON’T KNOW ME. I am a human being. I have feelings. I’m tired of hearing the bullying. Yes. That’s what this is. You don’t know the reasons for people not being vaccinated. You don’t know jack squat about anyone but yourselves. How dare you with your discrimination. I honestly can say I’ve never been discriminated against until now. You are all high and mighty, and I get that, but I’m no longer going to be silent. Go ahead, gang up on me if that’s what you need to do. I am done feeling shame for my decision. If there is going to be discussion here, it better to be able to be both sides or I want the moderators to put a stop to this.

    I am dying of cancer. Go ahead. Shove your fear and anxiety on me. I’m not afraid of your words. If you don’t like me, I won’t care on the other side.

    I am NOT anti vax or anti mask. You do what you want. I will continue what I know in my heart to be right for me no matter what the hell you say.

    I am usually one who sits in the background and takes the crap people put out. I’M DONE SITTING SILENT.

    If anyone else on this site is afraid to put your decision not to get vaccinated here, please feel free to PM me.

    For those who I’ve had great words with who feel they can no longer talk to me, so be it. I am here for support. You are the most unsupportive group of women I’ve ever met.

    Do you notice you’ve silenced women who don’t want to speak their truth?

    Yes, I can just stop looking at this particular forum, but why should I have to?

    May the bullying begin. It will bounce off me.

  • exbrnxgrl
    exbrnxgrl Member Posts: 12,424
    edited August 2021

    KBL,

    I was unaware of you being bullied nor am I aware of whether you mask/vaccinate or not. I am aware that there are a number of people who have legit medical reasons for not being vaccinated and that is to be respected. What most object to is those who choose not to be vaccinated due to misinformation orconspiracies. Those who choose to go unvaccinated without medical cause are not only making a choice for themselves but endangering the vulnerable. This is a public health crisis, period and IMO a good time to put aside how one feels as an individual and think of the greater good. That’s not bullying that’s just reality. Take care.

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited August 2021

    KBL - Who silenced you? I recall you wanted to silence others like me. Can't play the cancer card here. You're not the only one dying of cancer. No one asked you your reasons for what you're doing or not doing. When I considered not getting the second dose due to the severe reaction I had from the first, I didn't take it personally when people called for everyone to get vaccinated. In fact we've mentioned recently that there are people who can't get vaccinated for valid medical reasons. If you're trying to bully me, please know it won't work. I've had my fill of bullies for a lifetime. Take it easy.

  • KBL
    KBL Member Posts: 2,521
    edited August 2021

    You may not think it's bullying because you are vaccinated. I don't think it's anyone's business to know if I'm vaccinated or not or my reasons. It's absolutely no one's business.

    Saying that people who are not vaccinated shouldn't be able to leave their house, that's discrimination of the highest order as well as segregation. Saying doctors shouldn't treat unvaccinated? What the hell?

    Have you noticed the only person who said anything was Runor, and not one other unvaccinated person has felt they could put their feelings out? That's being silenced and bullied, period. My feelings are just as valid.

    I refuse to sit silent any longer. This is what happens. Who wants to be ganged up on? I truly don't care anymore. Bring it on.


  • ErenTo
    ErenTo Member Posts: 343
    edited August 2021

    This pandemic is probably one of the most unique events in human history, I don't think we've had anything like it before. Sure, we've had deadlier pandemics, but we didn't have mRNA vaccines in less than one year after an emerging disease, add to the that the internet, we're uniquely positioned for a major sh!tstorm that our collective brains didn't have enough time to adapt. We have live front row seat to changing scientific data that is fueling doubts, skepticism and wild conspiracy theories. I blame the education system for not teaching kids how scientific method works.

    My local conservative government (Ontario, Canada) has locked us down for a total of 10 months in the last 18 months and if the cases go up, we risk going into another lockdown. So from my perspective if the unvaxxed are fueling this latest wave, I am angry at them. I don't want to be locked up again, it infringes on my freedom. I'm done with that. I don't care how others prefer to conduct themselves as long as it doesn't impact me. I just don't want their actions to lead to another lockdown and delays in critical care. I'm long overdue for my pap test, but things are not normal and I kept telling myself why risk in the middle of this wave. So I wait for one wave to end only for the next one to start two weeks later. I bet there are millions like me who have postponed preventative care all this time.

    In Canada at least, the vaxxed are the majority, so it may seem we are louder, but we just have the numbers (close to 74%). Of course unvaxxed should leave their house and go to essential places and emergency care and meet each other, but gyms, concerts and restaurants are not essential. And I honestly think, at least here, it's strongly in the interest of businesses to implement some kind of passport. I hear a lot from people that they avoid indoor places until there is a vaccine pass in place. Some private businesses even implemented it on their own initiative. Small business have suffered enough, dragging on this pandemic with wave after wave, variant after variant is the worst thing that can happen to business, jobs, etc.

  • wrenn
    wrenn Member Posts: 2,707
    edited August 2021

    Unvaxxed (for whatever reason) have caused the pandemic to linger and endanger lives. If someone is unable to be vaccinated they need do be aware that they can carry and transmit the disease and possibly kill people even if they don't get sick themselves.

    I think most vitriol has been directed at people who don't give a shit who they hurt since the number of those unable to be vaccinated is minute.

    I think your attack KBL is uncalled for here where we all have cancer and many with weak immune function.

  • Rosiecat
    Rosiecat Member Posts: 1,111
    edited August 2021

    KBL I'm sorry you feel that you are being bullied or ganged up on. Everyone has the right to an opinion. However, the science concerning Covid vaccination is very clear. At present it appears to be our only way out of the pandemic. I wish it were otherwise.


    Those who refuse to be vaccinated for anything other than medical reasons are putting themselves and others in danger. Hospitals are under pressure, doctors and nurses are risking their lives looking after Covid patients, resources are stretched to the limit and vital surgeries/treatments are being cancelled as the number of Covid infections rise again. Many of us have been vaccinated in order to protect not only ourselves, but to protect others.

    I hope you will reconsider your stance, cancer is bad enough without the additional misery of Covid to cope with.

    Please keep yourself safe.





  • ErenTo
    ErenTo Member Posts: 343
    edited August 2021

    Oh and speaking of bullying I've been called sheep on twitter multiple times by the hardcore anti-vax crowd! Fine by me :)

  • ShetlandPony
    ShetlandPony Member Posts: 4,924
    edited August 2021

    I feel it is something like discrimination to be told, "Stay home if you're scared" or "Stay home if you are high risk." I waited so many months for a vaccine that I thought would save us all from this mess, and am so disappointed that because so many people rejected it, we are all still in this mess. Higher-risk folks are still stuck at home, and it's not fair to be stuck at home just because one had the misfortune to get cancer or another condition. One can choose to get a vaccine or not, but one cannot choose whether to have a high-risk condition. And why can't people even wear a little mask to help their neighbor?

    For the record, I do not advocate denying anyone care, and I do not hate people like my own relative who thinks he does not need the vaccine. I worry about him, and I am frustrated when I see preventable illness and death, while here I am enduring so much to stay alive.

  • KBL
    KBL Member Posts: 2,521
    edited August 2021

    Okay. I will continue to live my life like I have from the beginning of this pandemic

    Wrenn, are you kidding? My attack. Wow! Okay.

    I am not scared. Cancer has made me who I am at this point in my life.

  • sbelizabeth
    sbelizabeth Member Posts: 2,889
    edited August 2021

    This is the introductory sentence to this thread, when Sas-Schatzi launched it in 2017:

    "This thread is meant to be for RANTS and RANTING. Then Rant again. We need a place to simply get rid of the anger. Write it here. Unleash it all. Get it out. This isn't meant for the Stupid comments(great thread). This is for the gut wrenching, tell them off anger."

    I've had my rant. It was directed at no one specifically, especially no one specifically on BCO.

    KBL, you're welcome to your rant as well. I don't share your opinions, but you're welcome to post them.

  • KBL
    KBL Member Posts: 2,521
    edited August 2021

    sbelizabeth, this rant page also says rant away about cancer.

    There are those that would not agree with you feeling I have a right to rant as well, so I appreciate you saying that.

  • KBL
    KBL Member Posts: 2,521
    edited August 2021

    While we're at it, let's talk about how there is now a booster because the vaccine doesn't last. Vaccinated have gotten COVID as well. They can also give it to other vaccinated and unvaccinated people. You can tell me the numbers are totally different, but if one vaccinated person gives it to your vaccinated teenager and your teenager dies, who do you blame then?

  • exbrnxgrl
    exbrnxgrl Member Posts: 12,424
    edited August 2021

    The reality is that the unvaccinated are driving up COVID infections, hospitalizations ,and deaths. This is a communal issue and those of us who have taken the communal responsibility seriously are more than a wee bit frustrated by those who choose not to mask and/or vaccinate if they lack a medical reason to refuse. I also am stage IV and have been for a long time and everyone else here has bc too. Many of us have all kinds of other stuff going on in our lives as well. In a world wide pandemic we all need to think beyond ourselves. I have had some less than kind thoughts about those who refuse the vaccine yet later fill our hospitals and consume huge medical resources at the expense of those who have been responsible. I don't wish illupon them but they are selfish as far as I'm concerned.

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited August 2021

    We're in a pandemic. It's not my business to know, but there are businesses who will need to know one's vaccination status. Airlines, employers, concert venues, ...

    Vaccinated people are tired of the anti-vaxxers/anti-maskers prolonging the pandemic. That's frustration with wishful thinking to want them to stay home. Nobody thinks that will happen. But limiting access to vaccinated for non-essential services limits the spread.

    When medical resources are limited, triage occurs. The data show that the unvaccinated have a worse outcome than the vaccinated. They consume more resources, but vaccination status will only be one of the factors. Cancer hasn't listened when I told it to shove off, but I was able to get vaccinated and I still wear a mask.

    "You are the most unsupportive group of women I've ever met." - KBL

    ☝️That's not nice.

    The majority of people support all public health measures to end the pandemic.

    And this represents "discrimination of the highest order and segregation".

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  • ErenTo
    ErenTo Member Posts: 343
    edited August 2021

    Of course you can rant away KBL! This pandemic is a very unfortunate situation we're all in with no end in sight and we're all angry in one way or another.

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited August 2021

    Needing multiple doses is not new in the vaccine world.

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  • Beesie
    Beesie Member Posts: 12,240
    edited August 2021

    KBL, I haven't been posting here but I've been reading. I don't recall you being mentioned - maybe I missed it - and I had no idea about your vaccination status.

    What I've been reading are posts in which people are venting about a situation that frustrates, angers and scares them. All of our lives have been drastically changed by this pandemic; it's been difficult for everyone and brutally & cruelly hard on some people. Rightly or wrongly, the current understanding is that those who are unvaccinated are worsening and extending this pandemic for everyone. That seems like a legitimate reason to vent.

    But bullying? And silenced? Since you haven't been mentioned, I think if you feel bullied and silenced, you are projecting that on yourself. It is true that only one side of the story is being written about here, but as far as I can see, no one is stopping anyone from posting the other side (as runor did). I think a more broad-based discussion could be interesting and possibly informative. Of course anyone who posts the other side should do so knowing that the vast majority may disagree and may respond. That's what will happen anytime someone holds and voices a minority or unpopular opinion. I don't think I'd define that as bullying though.

    Re the vaccine. Needing multiple doses and needing boosters is standard with many if not most vaccines. In the case of a virus that mutates and changes, that is to be expected. This is why there is a different flu vaccine every year. Having been vaccinated against the flu last year won't do anything for you this year.


  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited August 2021

    Vaccines aren't 100% effective, so people fully vaccinated have become infected. But they are much less likely to experience severe symptoms including death. They are also faster at clearing the virus which slows spread.

    If those teens die, I'll blame the people who ignored implementing and following the public health measures to beat the pandemic. Seems to be a lot of people.



  • KBL
    KBL Member Posts: 2,521
    edited August 2021

    SerenityStat, May I suggest you go back and read some of your posts. You think my saying this group of women has been unsupportive isn't nice? I can say the same.

    Be frustrated with those of us who have not been vaccinated. I'm frustrated that there is supposed to be only one narrative to this whole pandemic and it's one way only. We're all frustrated.

    I have researched both sides of the aisle. I don't look on one website and think what they say is gospel. I'm willing to listen to both sides. You post something, I watch it.

    I don't agree with any discrimination. I was not grown when there was the type of segregation you posted a picture about. I mean, really? I never said there was no other discrimination in the universe.

    Here is the difference. I like you whether you're Republican or Democrat. I like you whether you're vaccinated or unvaccinated. I like you whatever race, creed, nationality, sexual orientation yo are. Trust me, there are many who don't think this way.

  • exbrnxgrl
    exbrnxgrl Member Posts: 12,424
    edited August 2021

    KBL,

    It’s no secret that the vaccines are not perfect. There was no expectation it would be as we understand this from the flu vaccine for example. This is simply a matter of the greater good. The numbers are quite different but that’s why you need to understand why the numbers matter. They speak to how we’re doing as a country not how individuals are affected. It is also not a blame game but those cold hard figures point to a common source who are undeniably unvaccinated. That doesn’t mean the scenario you outlined can’t happen but reality is that those cases are exceptions. Most of us are quite aware of that and we accept that there is no iron clad guarantee. We are simply doing the best we can to slow this thing down not only for ourselves but for the greater good. As a famous doctor once said, “I can’t explain to you why it’s important to care about other people.” It’s about caring beyond yourself.

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited August 2021

    I've written over 4000 posts. I've never written a blanket statement against anyone here. You specifically were writing about the group of us posting on this thread.

    What did I lose?

    That picture was from an article written in 2014 about rescinding that ordinance. I assume you were alive then? Besides I didn't know that claiming discrimination of the highest order had a built-in time frame.


  • moth
    moth Member Posts: 4,800
    edited August 2021

    In BC unvaccinated individuals are hospitalized at 17 times higher the rate of vaccinated. Most vaccinated people, if they do catch Covid, even the new delta variant, have a more mild course of disease & do not need hospitalization.

    Taking up hospital space, bumping surgeries, cancelling heart procedures, clogging up the CT scanners...it's all irresponsible when it's preventable.

    BC is soon going to require vaccine passports to enter non essential indoor public spaces & I think that's great.

    I still say take the vaccine or elect to seclude yourself from putting members of society at risk, or putting yourself at risk and potentially taking up hospital space. That's your choice.

    Typhoid Mary was real ; just like her, covid spreaders should not be allowed go around infecting people.

    As an immunocompromised person, even though I'm vaccinated, it's possible that I have little to no immunity as my immune system is not working properly. I signed a DNR/DNI at the outbreak of covid because with my lung met, a severe lung infection would likely be hopeless. I have no problem saying unvaccinated people should stay tf away from me. Take your own risk but don't put others at risk.

    And nothing about this is bullying or discrimination. This is public health and safety.

    I get it is hard when your opinion is not widely supported in a group. It's tough, but it's not bullying when others express their opinion. Yours if just different. I think we need to not take everything personally.


  • KBL
    KBL Member Posts: 2,521
    edited August 2021

    I hear you. I do. Please come back and post when the next variant happens, which there will be the next variant, that the vaccines will not cover. Then what? Can anyone here site the rate of survival of COVID without being vaccinated? How about the rate of adverse events and deaths from the vaccine?

    The media is hot to post people who regret not being vaccinated and dying. I want them to put stories of people who got it and survived. I don't see those. They are trying to scare the shit out of people and it's working.

    I challenge you all to be open-minded and watch the unvaccinated stories on the internet and not just the scare tactic videos.

    I just pulled this up at a major hospital in my area.

    Please look at it I couldn't get the whole picture. Please tell me if it looks like it's overrun with COVID patients. This is 490 beds.






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  • exbrnxgrl
    exbrnxgrl Member Posts: 12,424
    edited August 2021

    I think I need an ivermectin, hydroxychloroqine, oleandrin, bleach cocktail! Just kidding of course 😉 but I think many of us are following the science and the stats that are reported daily. I find it hard to argue with that.

  • Melbo
    Melbo Member Posts: 346
    edited August 2021

    I have mostly avoided arguments about the vaccine because it’s too frustrating, and luckily almost everyone I am close to is vaccinated. Yesterday though I got into an argument with my brother after his unvaccinated wife spent five days in the hospital and then posted an ode to the O2 monitor she credited with saving her life. I was so angry I could hardly hold it in. And then my brother said to me that it was all “opinions.” These are not opinions. For some people vaccines are literally life and death and I simply cannot wrap my head around anyone who doesn’t understand that. Especially considering the number of people who cannot get vaccinated and who are relying on herd immunity to help protect them. Their lives are in the hands of their fellow man. And this situation has shown us that a disturbingly lastige number of people do not care about their fellow man at all

    my blood boils when I think about it too much.

  • KBL
    KBL Member Posts: 2,521
    edited August 2021

    To say I don’t care says that you know me. Once again, no one knows me or my situation.

  • KBL
    KBL Member Posts: 2,521
    edited August 2021

    I’m now going to go enjoy my dinner wit my awesome husband and take a much-needed break from this. I’ve had my rant. Bye for now.

  • exbrnxgrl
    exbrnxgrl Member Posts: 12,424
    edited August 2021

    KBL,

    Get the vaccine or don’t get it but don’t call it discriminatory if you don’t. You will simply have to understand that most here do not share your opinion. If public institutions and private businesses make rules that prevent the unvaccinated from doing certain things for the greater good then those who are unvaccinated have to live with the consequences of that decision. Science based reality based on what is presently known. Nothing discriminatory about it!


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