Let's Talk about Sleep!
Hello friends,
I am a little obsessive over my sleep. I love to sleep and to me, sleep is an incredible healer.
I have gone through some sleep trials and tribulations with regards to insomnia due to all of the following issues (since being on cancer treatments): hot flashes, anxiety, pain, night sweats (are these the same as hot flashes?), etc.
One thing that is currently happening to me is that I am sleeping like CRAZY! For the past month, unless I have to get up for some reason, I have been sleeping until 11:00am.
My family tells me not to stress about it and that it is just what my body is needing. It is as if I have some entity pulling into sleep and I simply CANNOT get out of my bed until I fulfill the hours of sleep that I clearly am needing.
I am sleeping about 12 hours a night.
Is anyone else dealing with this?
I just wonder what is "normal?" What is "healthy?" My therapist thinks I need to force myself to wake up earlier. I tried to do this and what ends up happening is I hit snooze continuously for one hour and then finally turn off my alarm completely. I seriously can't stop sleeping!
I feel otherwise pretty well during the day, not fatigued during the day. Energy is good. Mindset is pretty good. Gears are a little slow to get started moving but a cup o joe helps the ol brain to start functioning. I exercise regularly and that helps me feel more "human" too.
Just curious if anyone else is sleeping as much as I am?
Also - for the record, I am on Lexapro, I take melatonin at night to combat the insomnia (I usually wake up almost once an hour), and use a little bit of medical marijuana before bed to help with the insomnia too. I fall asleep very easily usually and then wake up like I said about once an hour most nights. Perhaps this is part of why I am sleeping so late! UGH!
Thank you for your input and thoughts and responses,
Love and hugs,
Philly
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wow, philly. Im like kinda jealous. Its my guess its the lexapro. Cause the melatonin and marijuana would wear off long before 11 am.
I just stopped taking femara cause i could only sleep 3 to 4 hours a night. Dr was gonna stop the faslodex and i said "no please. Give me the pricey shots and drop the cheap pills." If i fall asleep before midnight then i wake every hour too. Very disturbed sleep. I hear its the lack of estrogen. But y can you sleep so long? How do you get to work? I wanted to try the medical marijuana. Sounds like its not working the best if you still need melatonin. Is lexapro working overtime cause of the marijuana? One often needs less prescription drugs with cbd. Sometimes even cbd/thc instead of antidepressants. Ask on the cbd page.
Gailmary
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Dear Philly,
I had similar sleep patterns during my first year on Ibrance. At the time I chalked it up to depression and the long Wisconsin winter. In retrospect I think it was just what my body needed as I was NEAD for several years afterward. Being as how it is spring and you don't sound depressed, I think/hope your body is insisting on what it needs just now and I wouldn't worry about it. For me it only lasted for a matter of months and I was back to "normal". ( still wake up many times during the night.)
With love from Wisco,
Jo
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philly, I think your body is telling you it needs to rest in order to fight off the boogeymen. Also, waking up a lot in the night also contributed to sleeping late, when you are finally in a deep sleep.
I don't think you should force yourself to wake up. You'll probably end up tired all day.
Sunset
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thanks friends! I appreciate the feedback of letting it roll and not fight it.
Today I had to get up to come treat folks out at my sisters office which I do once a month. It feels good to be up early (early meaning 8am 😂 ) and yes I am feeling a little sluggish!
Maybe if I get to sleep around 9pm then I could wake up much earlier and still get enough sleep! That would be nice.
I appreciate the idea that I am fighting off the boogeyman through sleeping. If this is the case, I’ll keep sleeping!!
Love to everyone
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I agree with others that your body is asking for more sleep and likely some combo of cancer and not getting restful sleep is what’s increasing the hours you need (or at least leading to a late wake up time).
You seem like someone who pays attention to sleep hygiene but I guess I’ll ask the question: what do you think you need to change in order to string together hours of sleep vs waking up every hour? Have you done a sleep study?
I’m an advocate for an earlier bedtime. I not get in bed sometime between 9 and 9:30 and get up between 6:30 and 7, and it’s been a game changer in terms of how I feel. I wake up one or two times during that time. When I was going to bed later (like 11 or 12) I’d wake up more often and would be more tired overall
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Going to bed at night is an ordeal. I rarely get 2 hours straight sleep, mainly due to hot flashes. I throw the covers offpull them back on every 45 mins or so. Im often awake for half an hour or so at a time. 3 weeks ago my onc said I should stop Tamoxifen, have 3 weeks wash out then start femara. I expected the flashes to ease, but they haven’t. I started femara today. She gave me a script for I box of temaz and said I just needed to get back into a good sleep pattern and I’d be right - I could have them 2-3 consecutive nights a week. Well on the nights I’ve had them I’m still waking almost as frequently with hot flashes, but I must say I go back to sleep almost immediately and although I NEVER feel refreshed in the morning, I actually feel calm, which is good. The nights I don’t take them r still hopeless. Im dreading the end of the box because she has no intention of another script. I’m jealous of the people who sleep Orr prescribed ongoing sedation. I’ve tried going to bed earlier but it just makes the night longer and is unbearable!
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JGT i agree that an earlier bed time is something that could be helpful.
Last night I was in bed at 10pm and out by 11pm slept till 10am this morning. I am so lucky I am able to sleep in and take care of myself.
In my perfect world for myself, and what I aspire to do (once I get all the sleep I clearly need) is to get up early and get to the gym and workout earlier. Right now I am making it to 12:30pm exercise classes and early evening classes. I’d prefer to do it in the morning before work and so that the rest of my day is free. I think I need to simply go through a little sleep rough patch and force myself up for a week to get myself into this pattern of behavior.
I haven’t don’t a sleep study - I honestly am not too crazy about the idea, it sounds like a lot of wires hooked up to you and then you’re told to sleep in an artificial environment. I’m not sure how well that would replicate my natural sleep cycle. Have you done one? And if so, how did it go? I feel like it is easy to go down the Alice in Wonderland whirlpool of doctors visits, and I also get overwhelmed with each specialist telling me a different idea about what I should and shouldn’t be doing. Often there’s a lot of conflicting information as one specialist knows all about one area yet doesn’t have a clue about another. Road blocks, I know! But I’m kinda over going to the doctor right now 😂 I feel like I spend so many days of my life at doctors offices now, I’m so over it!!
Bella - yes that is how it was for me too with the hot flashes. Are you pre or post menopausal? I am pre, so I am on Lupron to suppress my ovaries so I am in medical menopause. The one thing that has helped quite a bit for me (and my sleep is better because of it) is an antidepressant. I am on Lexapro which has the off label use of calming hot flashes and mine have gone down by 75%!! I still have them and wake up at night, but not nearly as frequently. A bonus of the medication is that I’m incredibly less anxious and depressed. I wish I’d started this drug sooner!
JGT - thank you for the reminder to try and get to bed more early. I don’t have the best sleep hygiene practices right now. Another thing on my list of things I’d like to shift is to start reading again before bed rather than watching tv, which has become quite my companion.
Hugs and wishes for sleep-filled nights,
Philly
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Bella, If hot flashes are what's wrecking your sleep, maybe you get an rx to help with flashes. I started taking venlafaxine (Effexor) shortly after starting Faslodex and it helped a lot. There are other drugs that help with hot flashes too, ask your mo.
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Jobur, I’m on 37.5mg of Effexor, which I started when diagnosed with Mets. I’ve recently stopped Lyrica because I really need to lose weight (BMI 32) as I’m so uncomfortable. I really dont want to increase medication but my onc said I could go up to 75mg. Perhaps I’ll try that, but I know it will make weight loss that much harder. I guess I have to weigh up what is worse. I might wait a few months to see what side effects I get from femara before deciding. What dose r u on?
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IChangedMyName, it could be the Lexapro or the combo of Lexapro with melatonin causing your issues. I had "somnolence" (ie extreme sleepiness) when I tried Lexapro for hot flashes years ago and had to get off it for that reason. I also take melatonin and the combo may have made that issue worse. They both impact serotonin levels. I never had the option of sleeping 12 hours with work but probably could have easily done that every night.
Jensgotthis, how did you move your bed time down from 11-12 to 9-930? I know that would improve the quality of my life drastically but I have been a night owl from birth and I struggle with that and am having a tough time making changes despite efforts. It brings me a great deal of anxiety and guilt. My supposed bedtime is 11 to awake at 7am but I rarely make it to bed at that time. I consider anything 12am or earlier a success for me personally and even that is rare. I need time to do a few things after my DH and son go to bed. Work plays a part too because I know I only have a few hours at night to get done whatever personal matters I need to get done until the next night after my son is asleep.
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Hi. I was also sleeping 12 hours a night. Then I weaned off Celexa (antidepressant) and now I sleep 7-8 hours and wake up periodically. I miss the 12 hour nights..
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JFL, I do miss those precious hours after my son has gone to sleep and I can get things done (like dishes) or have some chill time. I don't get home from work/picking him up from aftercare until 6:30 or 7. I've had to be okay with slacking off of chores a bit but feel okay with it as I know they'll still get done. To make the actual transition, what I have found helpful is to listen to an audio book for about ten min once I'm ready for sleep. I have a few things I use once my eyes are closed that range from a relaxation exercise (my toes are heavy and warm etc) or if my mind is spinning I do (really) long division problem in my head. On the rare nights I don't fall asleep quickly, then I read in bed. I have a kindle and use the nightshade setting and sometimes I'll fall asleep mid sentence. (Kindle has fallen on my face only a couple of times 🤦♀️
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does anyone have a pillow they love and can recommend
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i am currently using the Saatva pillow and I love it. My parents have it too and they love it. Incredibly comfortable!! Game changer for me with my neck pain!!
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ooh! I have a Saatva mattress and forgot they had a pillow. Thank you for that recommendation! Ordering no
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yes the mattress is awesome too!!! :-)
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and oh yes I was wondering about the melatonin and the Lexapro.
I am not so sure about melatonins effect on serotonin but I do know that it is effecting melatonin - both are hormones...so there could be something to it.
As far as I understand, Lexapro is known to be a bit “uplifting” or energizing for folks so it is recommended to take in the morning, since it can induce insomnia for some people.
I take Lexapro in the a.m. and then the melatonin in the p.m. before bed. I do know that if I mix melatonin with an anti anxiety medication like Valium, then I get really drugged. I stay away from those two together.
I haven’t heard about issues with mixing melatonin with Lexapro but I’m all ears 👂
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I think my reaction to Lexapro is not the most common although somnolence is listed as a side effect on the label and is a known reaction in some people. More technically, serotonin is the precursor to melatonin. Most people with low melatonin levels have a serotonin deficiency. When serotonin levels are increased, one’s body may as a result produce more melatonin. The higher levels of melatonin plus the melatonin supplement combined may be too much in some people and require a melatonin dose adjustment
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JFL - very interesting about serotonin being the precursor to melatonin! I think I must’ve learned that somewhere along the line in my studies and completely forgot it!
I found this interesting article about serotonin and melatonin: https://atlasofscience.org/melatonin-and-serotonin-in-psychiatric-and-brain-disorders/
Looks like melatonin also has protective properties again brain cancers as well. I have been taking it not for sleep but actually prescribed to me as a good anti-estrogenic breast cancer supplement. It helps me pass out but I still wake up quite a bit in the night.
I love the idea that I simply may just need the sleep right now to help fight off the boogeyman. It feels like it allows me to take pressure off myself and guilt off myself about my need for sleep at this time. I am choosing to roll with the belief that my body clearly needs the sleep right now and that once it has finished (maybe it will take a whole year!) then I will stop sleeping so much.
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High Dose Melatonin Therapy - An Ideal Adjuvant Anti-Cancer Therapy
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Roh4lQXneQg&list=PLIQ39sMYH78ur5o-FDFfd4aNJo36NFWAV&index=2&t=0s
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IChangedMyName ~ I am also on Ibrance/Femara & Ovarian Suppression. Before starting treatment, I always slept soundly throughout the night. Now I wake up more often. 6 months into my Stage 4 dx, I started 10mg of Lexapro, my first antidepressant ever. I liked how calm it made me feel, but it also made me so sleepy! I started sleeping an extra 1-2 hours each night. Plus, I needed to take short naps during the day. After 3 weeks, I reduced the dosage to 5mg. That make all the difference. I still felt calmer, but I didn't need all that extra sleep. It's nearly impossible for us to determine which medications cause our side effects. We are all different, so maybe your body needs the extra rest now. ~Kar
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I agree, just roll with the idea you need extra sleep right now! It is true, never will you have the opportunity to sleep guilt-free for 12 hours a night. Sounds amazing right now thinking about it. I started taking melatonin years ago as I have had night owl insomnia my whole life. When I heard it may help with breast cancer, either by reducing estrogen or through some other mechanism, I jumped up to a relatively high dose and have remained there - 5mg. Were it not for the potential cancer benefit, I would be taking 1 - 3 mg max.
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loving the permission to sleep 😂 I’ll roll with it!!
JFL - I have been taking 20mg of melatonin each night from the onset of my diagnosis. I kinda giggled when I read your post about being on a high dose and then saying 5mg - because I’m on 75% higher of a dose than that! I often prescribe melatonin to patients and 5mg is not what I would consider high, but if it is for you, then that works cause it is your body and how your body responds!
As far as my medical knowledge goes, 20mg is the therapeutic dose for anti-neoplastic supplementation. I do work with an naturopathic oncology doctor who has prescribed my supplements to me. I am not a big fan of self-supplementation, as many patients I work with do this, without the proper knowledge/education about the supplements and drug interactions and if they actually need the supplements or not. So I prefer to work with someone who can guide me, instead of me guiding myself - and I am medically licensed to prescribe supplements...but I know I need to allow myself to be cared for by others instead of doing this on my own. (Okay stepping down from soap box regarding supplements now...sorry folks...I get really passionate about this topic!!)
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This is so interesting. I recall reading about an MBC trial where patients took 10mg but haven't heard of more than that. I am curious to learn more about this . . . . Did you notice a difference in your sleep, feel groggy or have other side effects when your first started that amount? Did you phase into 20mg? What time do you take the melatonin?
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Just wonderful. I have found that melatonin gives me restless legs as well as keeps me awake. Or at least that was the case while I was on letrezole. Me thinks I should give it another trial now that I'm on just faslodex. A tylenol will calm the restless legs and if I have pain anyways i wouldn't mind taking the tylenol too. Sleep sounds so inviting. But then to ward off cancer. That is golden.
Gailmary
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I'm so glad you brought this topic up, IchangedMyName! I have been wondering about the same thing for the last week or so... I get into bed at about 10pm, fall asleep by 10h30, and unless a kid or a dog disturbs my sleeping I open my eyes at about 7am, but will sleep until 8h30 (I homeschool, so our days are later and slower anyways), which means I sleep about ten hours a night. Before cancer and treatments I would average about 7-8 hours, so it seems my body definitely needs more rest, even though I don't have active cancer at the moment. I think listen to your body, and enjoy the goodness of sleep!
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It is quite interesting!
JFL - so i immediately started on 20mg. I was in such a shock/fog when initially diagnosed that I didn’t even think about titrating the dose up gently. I just went for it. Initially, it completely knocked me out where I’d have to crawl under the covers quickly because I was going down fast into sleepville. Eventually I think I’ve gained a little bit of tolerance to it but not much. I take it around 9pm if I can (and not out and about) and I typically pass out about an hour or so later. I don’t feel too badly when I wake up. I’ve never been a morning person so I don’t know what it feels like to be energized upon waking. I’ve always been a little spacy and tired in the morning until I get some food and movement and coffee in me.
Gailmary- interesting about it waking you up! Some people do have the paradoxical response to meds where they go the opposite way from the way the general population responds to a drug. Maybe it will be diff for you since you’re on a diff medication? I’m on letrozole and it def gives me insomnia.
Daywalker (love your name!) - i am feeling so much more relaxed about my sleep now that I have fully allowed myself forgiveness around all this sleep! Interestingly enough - now that I’ve calmed down from worrying, I have been waking up all week at 9am instead of 11am. Who knows what the heck is happening and why???!
Wishing everyone peaceful, satisfying, uninterrupted sleep!
With love,
Philly
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I take 20mg of melatonin every night too. I think the brand is Pure Encasulations. I’ve taken it for the past 5 plus years.
I’ve always had insomnia but now it is worse with hot flashes and coughing.
It used to knock me out cold taking it an hour before bed but now I’m use to it but I still take it for the anti cancer benefits.
I take 25mg of ttazodone with it to help with hot flashes.
I have a prescription for lexapro but I’m too afraid of additional side effects so I haven’t take it.
I go to bed early but wake up through out the night. My first awakening is at 1 am. Then I’m done sleeping by 4 am. I feel so tired during the day but just drink coffee. Most days I can manage however some days on Ibrance/letrozole I’m not able to get by with coffee and I struggle with my day and functioning.
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Daywalker and others: Re: Melatonin. I used to do 5 - rarely 10 mg - of melatonin at night for years. Since DX and real insomnia I went to 20 mg. It allows me to drift off quite nicely. It has never given me any kind of "hang over" . Bonus if it has other benefits.
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Novagirl because I sleep so poorly I try to stay up as late as possible as I cannot bear to be awake from 4 am or so. My theory goes that the earlier I go to bed the earlier I’ll wake up - I’d rather be awake from 6am than 4am! But some mornings 4am is still it, I just watch my iPad until a decent hour to arise. I’m not a coffee drinker so I drink a LOT of tea before midday trying to become more alert, but alas it doesn’t work. I switch to herbal tea after midday, but this doesn’t help sleep either! I’d love to have a sharp brain again ...
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