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  • PerAngusta
    PerAngusta Member Posts: 112
    edited December 2018

    It was just a song....we went to Disney last year for Christmas. We BOTH LOVE LION KING. I thought the song and the words were beautiful and pure and raw. I hoped that she would love it too. I'm sorry that you didn't care for it. It's art...I can't be responsible for your interpretation of it. Fortunately for me.....my child did not share your interpretation.

    It isn't Irene Cara's "You Took My Life AWAY'....not the same song or lyrics at all.

    I sent it to her on her phone....instead of a call or a text....in an effort to open a door between us! The song touched her and for the first time in weeks....we commincated. For the first yime in weeks, I got to talk to my little girl.

    So ladies please....let it go! Let's move on. Please

  • MaddieBrie1
    MaddieBrie1 Member Posts: 122
    edited December 2018

    Hi PerAngusta,

    I noticed that you posted that your job was really black white decision fact based but that you are creative and artistic? You mentioned painting in another response - does this bring you joy and exercise that part of your brain that separates you mentally from the out of control things that you are experiencing now?

    If it does, take more time to do it, please. There is another thread on BCO about finding 'thin slices of joy'. It doesn't have to be pretty, it doesn't have to be hours long absorption in the art - it can be as simple as the routine of cleaning your brushes anticipating the painting or mixing the shade of red or blue that suits your mood in that moment. But please try to take that moment and BE in that moment and savor it.

    I hope this helped. MB1

  • PerAngusta
    PerAngusta Member Posts: 112
    edited December 2018

    Actually...i'll just move on. I'm far too fragile and nervous right now. No more posts of harikari or sayonaras! My thanks to those who sent PM's, to the mods and the empathetic others. Obviously.....I will be the one to resolve this, with the help of professionals. I just wanted someone to speak kindly to me....and to remind me that I was not alone.

  • Artista964
    Artista964 Member Posts: 530
    edited December 2018

    You are definitely not alone. Best wishes to you. You need to take care of you.

  • ceanna
    ceanna Member Posts: 5,270
    edited December 2018

    I'm sorry PA, I had wanted to read the words and when I found your posted video link on YouTube, it said it was from Irene Cara. Please forgive me. I only intended to clarify for others, but I can see it upset you. I'm glad your daughter knew what you sent her and you were able to share a special memory. All the best to you. Please don't stop reaching out. Ceanna

  • TB90
    TB90 Member Posts: 992
    edited December 2018

    There are threads here that are entering very risky regions of mental health. Just like BCO cannot provide medical advise, nor should it mental health. Too many persons without credentials feel it is ok to give mental health advise. That is ok as long as it is support only, but when people are at risk of serious harm, then support is no longer responsible. We do not support people through surgery and nor should we through suicide ideation. Expecting this from BCO is not reasonable. They are very clear about medical advise. Mental health requires equivalent expertise and anything else is very risky if not unethical. Support is ok as long as it refers persons to professionals as we do for all medical issues. Lets ensure we do no harm. And having shared experiences does not qualify one for providing mental health advise. Good intentions are not enough. This is life at risk issues. When professionals are not sought, be very careful to become the surgeon.

  • TB90
    TB90 Member Posts: 992
    edited December 2018
  • oxygen18
    oxygen18 Member Posts: 164
    edited December 2018

    You are right TB90, I had intended to eschew those threads as too hazardous, but the story so broke my heart....

    Good advice.

  • Artista964
    Artista964 Member Posts: 530
    edited December 2018

    personally i see nothing wrong with sharing what's helped you. Otherwise why have a board, to just get hugs? If that's all someone wants is to be heard then cool, and that should be stated so no bitter posts ensue, but it seems odd to me having been in many groups that no one wants to hear what helped them. There really is no fix for many of us, just doing what it takes to get through the day, one day or even a moment at a time. I too find my pet a great support. There is research that shows how important hugs are to your health. I hug my guinea pig a lot and it makes things easier. There would be many days I wouldn't get up but I have to because I provide the best possible care for her. I love animals more than most humans. Do whatever is right and good for you. Ultimately only you can take care of yourself. Xxx

  • TB90
    TB90 Member Posts: 992
    edited December 2018

    Rosabella, provide support and suggestions. Hugging a pet is very therapeutic and saves lives. Just do not make your support about you. When threads create conflict and chaos, we are causing harm. The Op threatens to flee several times. That is not helpful. No one appreciates informal supports more than me. I am a suicide prevention worker and recognize the value of informal supports. Keep providing support. But limit this to support and then advocate for professional help so that a leading cause of death is no longer left to to sheer support. No other life threatening illness is given so little respect. And you and others should not be given the responsibility of saving or losing. a life.

  • DearLife
    DearLife Member Posts: 1,183
    edited December 2018

    TB90 thank you for your advice. I am glad to hear from a mental health professional. We need guidance in how to be most helpful to others dealing with emotional pain. I wish we had more input on this thread from people trained in the field.

    I feel so much empathy for those who are suffering and those who bare their souls to tell their stories. But I also feel out of my depth to provide the right kind of support. It is especially hard for all of us at this time of year.

    To all seeking support, you are loved. We care about you ❤️.

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