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Hi Stljoy, welcome! Sorry you are here. I am wondering if you have Restless Leg Syndrome. Iron deficiency, diabetes, and other chronic diseases can accompany RLS. Some meds can also worsen the condition. Was surgery complicated and you lost much blood? Maybe, have your doctor check your iron level since you recently had surgery. As far as the sensation of free falling and jerk awake......I have them when my stress level is high and feel like I am losing control. I like to be in control as am a control freak. Hah! Best wishes on finding relief soon.
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Morning folks. A bit of news Mags had her Pet scan and she's had progression. She starts Gemzar and zygeva next week. She will pop in sometime soon.
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Oh no! If you talk to her before she pops in here, please let her know I am thinking of her.
As if getting a foot of snow yesterday wasn't enough, I am getting snow showers tonight and we have the possibility of getting another storm early next week.
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sas. Thanks for letting us know about Mags
Mags. So very sorry. Progression sucks indeed
Mommy2. So jealous of the snow.
Loverly. Waving hi.
Junieb - I totally understand the no quality of life thing. It is a hard truth for me to face but when there are more bad days then good and then also been in hospital 4 times since Christmas prob 4 weeks all together for me. That means time to throw in the towel. Ouch hard hard decisions
Hootie hoo
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Hey Pattie, Love you. I hate this dieing stuff.
I tell Mags
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Hootie hoo Patty! We got to have plan b. What do you think of these wigs??
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JunieB, now why did you go and delete your post? It’s easy to feel defeated when we don’t feel well and are not getting reprieve from the troubles of life. They can drag us down physically and emotionally. Hope you were just having a bad day and today is a better day for you. Please don’t think about waving the white flag. The Enemy will win. Hugs
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Oh Mags!!
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Loverly. Wow. Now those wigs look good. My wig during round one of this fight was plain ugly and you could tell it was a wig from far away. Course that was in 2002. I guess wigs have improved.
Mags. U lurking. Prayers are with you.
Hootie hoo
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Loverly
Love those wigs. It's funny, when we thought I was going chemo, I got into that mindset, and actually started looking at wigs, and beautiful turbans. I even got my daughter to help me look. Well, due to my low reoccurance score from genomic testing, did not need chemo Of course that was great news, however, my crazy self still wanted to wear the wigs, and turbans. Lol.
Good lord, what is going on at these schools??!! My daughter went to Catholic school from pre-school to 8th grade. I wanted her to continue going in high school. Well, she did not want to have anything to do with private schools anymore. Her dad agreeded she would be fine at a public school, and save 45,000.00. Well, I agreeded to it. She only knew a few people who have gone to this school awhile. She went from a class of 30 people in her grade to a huge high school with the freshman class of more than 400 students!!!! 9th-12th grade is close to two thousand students. I was extremely overwhelmed, Well, she looooves it. The boyfriend goes there too. They've known each other since kindergarten. So, as I was starting to get used to this new enviorment, my daughter's 6s phone was stolen😬😬😬. She was in her locker room to change, stepped away for a minute, and the phone was nowhere to be found. That is the only room that does not have cameras. I was furious. Her dad had to payoff the phone, and well, she gets the 7Plus. Yep, gotta a newer phone.🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️ Two days later, some guy took her "new phone" out of her pocket playing around, then it went smashing into the cement. This time I went ballistic. To my surprise, the guy offered to pay for the damages. I started yelling at Reece, and Paul, my ex to please take her out, and go to our Catholic high school. Again, I got shut down. He said she's in "the real world" at her school. I took me awhile, but now I'm finally comfortable with this huge school. I know there are pros and cons at both public, and private schools.
Everyday when I pick her up, always in a good mood, and happy. She makes all A's. and has met many friends. She talks a lot like her momma. What I do like is the diversity of the school. We joke, and say she's been in a "lily white" school for too long. However, she does have a good foundation from her years at the Catholic school.
Well, two weeks ago, several of her friends got in our car to take them home. You get more info from several girls talking. So, Aye, one of her friends tells me their 48 year old coach had been having sex with a senior. They were both caught coming out of a dark closet. Apparently, this has been going on for years. The girls really liked this coach, so it was a shock to Reece. Never have heard of an adult messing around with minors. Why would a man want to take that risk?? Well, of course he was fired on the spot!!! Again, I wanted to take her out, my reasoning being this would not happen in smaller private school. Then I find out, yes shameful stuff happens anywhere. There was also a food fight in the lunchroom, and the guy got up, and was about to hit a female. What the hell??? A guy assaulting a girl. Unreal.
I guess my head has been in the sand from reality🙄🙄. Well, Reece will continue to go to this school, and I'm on pins and needles everyday worried what the hell will happen next? I'm sure drugs are a problem, although German Shepherds are brought in to smell for evidence. Already been a fatal car crash, all died but the drunk driver. At least I can say Reece has a good head on her shoulders, and chooses friends that share the same interests. Sighhhhh.
I also hate what happened at your daughter's school. This boy could have died. What is wrong with kids like this? I understand the shock, and I wonder if another school is going to have any shootings? Stealing, fights, and teachers having sex with students, what is next??? Sorry I wrote an essay, I just text what I think, and get carried away. Well, getting loopy. Have to be up in three hours. Gotta love this 24-7 thread.👍👍👍
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Hi Patty
If I sound loopy, or weird, I'm on ambien. I wish I would have joined this forum much sooner. I don't know you that well, but I've been keeping up with your posts, and what a great friend you have that keeps us informed on your condition. Earlier today, you seem to be feeling better, and it was great for us to hear from you. These ladies really love you, and I'm trying to read some of your earlier posts. You have such a positive attitude, and great sense of humor. We know how much you love your boys. You will always be with them. I do agree hospice is great. My father was in hospice for a month before he passed. They do everything, and are very compassionate. They make sure you are comfortable, and also a great support to your family, and loved ones. How are you feeling right now? Did you get your Ativan? I hope you're having a peaceful sleep. Love your ending Hootie hoo😀😀
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Mags - wonderful choice for your new home! You must have fallen hard for it. I know I would have. Glad your cousin will be living there with you. I always wanted in old age - not that you are old - to live in a full house w some other women. Like Golden Girls. Except we would gte along better.
Junie - when I was last here I read about the accident and forgot to mention it. So happy to hear you were not badly injured. Darn hospital staff for not taking better concerns of your condition though. We're always told to say this and that and then it's like, shrug, oh well, when they are told.
Been sleeping at night except night before last had to get up at 4 for food and 4 x strength tylenol which did not help.
Thank you Belle.
Diane
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Patty, glad to see you posting here and on your page. You are a shining example of grace, strength and courage.
Jaymeb, what you describe happens in the Catholic high schools as well. DS was in our parish grade school and started at an all boys school in 7th grade. They had their problems. The school went co-ed his junior year. I would hear stories of the food fights the boys would have at lunch time. I told son his junior year if he heard a low rumble that eventually got louder to hit the deck because the girls were about to get into a fight. First time it happened he came home and told me I described it to a T. Between junior and senior year, DS had a summer job and didn't go on vacation with us. Some boys showed up at a house and barged in on him. Yup, they brought alcohol with them. I had this funny feeling come over me and called home. I was assured nothing went on. Arrived home a few days later and the minute I walked into the house I knew something wasn't right. Living room was ok, dining room was ok but something seemed different. Kitchen had the cup missing from a milkshake maker and I was missing the utensil holder to my dish rack. Ah ha, that's what was different in the dining room. On of the idiots melted the holder onto something that was in the dining room. Wasn't a lot but it's what caught my eye. Went to the basement and the fire extinguisher had been set off at the ceiling. Old tiles that are no longer made. I had to get very creative in replacing them. Well we had a nice talk and he got grounded. I would refer to them as "your friends" and by the end of summer he asked me not to say that because they weren't his friends anymore. It was a hard learned lesson for him, that he should have called the neighbors or the police to help him get them out of the house. DDs went to an all girls Catholic high school. Plenty of drinking went on there. One girl had to be taken to the hospital for alcohol poisoning. Some of the private high schools here whether denominational or not have plenty of problems. There were other problems as well. Never fails that at the beginning or end of a school year or at prom time that a carload of students has had a fatal car crash where alcohol or drugs weren't involved. Hope this makes you feel better in the sense that it can happen in any type of school be it public or private. Just keep your antenna on high alert.
Mags, love the new house. I drooled and almost shorted out my keyboard, LOL. First thing I noticed on the outside shot of the house was the wood between the windows making a cross. Had a fleeting thought that it was a parsonage. Hope all is going smoothly for you.
Sensi, so sorry to hear about Chance. I cried my eyes red the day we lost our last dog when I lived at home. Went into work the next day with them swollen and pink. One of the bosses asked me what happened. I was embarrassed to tell him but he got it out of me. Told me there was nothing wrong to cry over a pet because they were just as much a part of my family as any human being was. That put things in a new perspective for me.
Wrenn, how did your daffodils hold up in the snow storm you had?
Junie, wish I lived closer to you so I could come over with my pruning and loping shears to take care of that hydrangea for you. Hope you are feeling better. If you complained to the state, would they come take a look at that hospital in your town and get them to shape up? No one should have to put up with that.
Shep, how is Miss Ellie doing? She looked so peaceful in the picture where she on the couch. I know, looks can be deceiving.
Sas, time to buckle down and do some serious research for a new computer.
Lover I think it's wonderful you get together with the Sacramento ladies. How's your dad? School going well for your DDs.
Hi to all I've missed.
Ok, I've done it again and have written a novella.
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Oh Patty ~
Weren't you the Ambassador of Essex? I vaguely remember having been there once or twice..... Still waiting for you to share those travel pics of all the tours you bragged about. 😜
I saw on your thread the nurse was holding back on the meds you needed. Grrrrr... I've learned the hard way to stash my meds in my purse, phone case, computer bag and toiletry case and take 'em on the sly. If it's on your chart, it's on your chart! Only your doc can make decisions to make changes Glad your MO has your back and stepped in!
Sensi ~
I haven't been brave enough to watch Chance's Tribute. I will and I will shed more than a few tears; tears of happiness for the bond you shared and tears of sorrow for loss I know you feel. Ah, our pups were both year round shedders. They will always be with us. 💗 (don't tell anyone - I found a perfect tuft of blonde Marti tail fur hidden in the shoe closet. It is sealed away with her other mementos now) No other dogs could ever compete with our true loves..... especially a gd incontinent Bloodhound.
Mags ~ Chit. Your MO has done good by you. Prayers for him to have the wisdom to "fix" you again.
Miss Blue ~ I am eagerly awaiting a delivery from Amazon. It's a book you'd surely enjoy....stories about a lady and her pet skunks and her giant sad eyed black pup 😊
Yay! Sassy is online again!
Loverly is being good......hmmmmm.
Junie stop getting run over!
M0mmy ~ Stay nice n' snuggly warm with your very dear DH 🔥 (fireplace NOT house fire!)
Love to all and fervent prayers for us each to be free of pain and fear so we can live, love, and laugh until we are so very, very old that folks will laugh with us for being so full of joy (and mischief!)
JayNC ~ You asked awhile back where in SC I am....look below! Sorry didn't get back sooner. Ooooh the Owlies are slacking. Can't believe no one changed your name yet!
My BFF was here in Myrtle Beach for almost an entire week! Here's some pics he took....The amusement park is across from the ocean with foot bridges crossing the swash
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Shep. How beautiful. Wow. Can’t show my Essex trip pics on line. Might get me in trouble. 😜
Yes yay sas. Our expert leader. No sarcasm.
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Patty - maybe you could share some travel brochures you picked up on one of your many visits? Or at least some advice on what to pack should one of us be ever so lucky to actually visit Essex? You know, helpful things like a toothbrush, bottled water, comfortable shoes, duct tape - I prefer electrical tape, less sticky residue ....all those things you might need but might forget. Sassy brought a walker once. Or was it after she got back?
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Shep~ Well one of us has to be good. Who in the world brings those to.....oh never mind. I forgot how much you packed on the 3-day mini vacation. This very much reminds me of that day.
Ok. Maybe, minus a few packages. I am not exaggerating, ladies. Ms. Sas, can testify. Junie was almost as bad. I think I remember seeing a ceiling fan or was it a space heater in one of her luggages.
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We had a high school party one time. DS was a sophmore. It was interesting. DH and I were on the premises, but out of site. Many parties that night. Apparently, some parties had boose/ beer. We didn't. The HS Quaterback choose to stay to DS's party as did others. Others left because of no boose. Ds was very happy about that outcome, as it gave him some status that the QB stayed at his house..............long ago memory lost till this writing. I wonder now what happened to that QB. I know what happened to DS. I do remember being immensely happy that the choice of those that stayed was based on the fact that no boose was available.
One story DS told me many years later was he was at a party in the local community, and there was drugs----he told me that the person that was the GUY that was in charge said something to the effect-"Leave him alone , he's going to make something of himself."., I wonder now what happened to him. .
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sas. And wow Your son surely made something of his self. What mom wouldn’t want their son to be an atty.
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Only email to check the story was to the sons law firm, not a good story to send to him to check things
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JayNC, I like that! Maybe JNC to save space?
DD2's school and the adjacent middle school (public) had a lock down on Wednesday for nearly 2 hours. Apparently, a girl overheard a boy telling another boy that he has a gun he brought a gun to school that day. The girl immediately went to the security guard and told him. Teachers were alerted and the police were called in. DD said that there were many officers on campus searching bag packs of students who fit the description. No gun was found. Thank God. Hope it was just a prank as it was finals week, but you never know. We have 2000+ kids at these 2 schools.
Kath, I think that's the first time I see you wrote a novel. Hah! Oh the things that kids do. Your poor boy. We thought about sending our kids to private school when they were younger too, but glad we didn't. The school that was built near our home is a pretty good school. One of the top in our area. We saved $$ instead to help the girls with college.
Dad had his post-op follow up appointment two weeks ago. I really like the urologist. Very thorough and took time to explain the pathology report. Feline is right, the way they stage prostate cancer is different from BC. He is stage 3. He did have a few cancer cells on the capsule of the prostate. The urologist took extra surrounding tissues and quite a few lymph nodes and they were all clean. PSA went down from 10.3 to .05 four weeks post-op. So....no radiation or hormone therapy. I hope the PSA continues to go undetectable. Dad is recovering quite well. Minor leaking which is to be expected with prostatectomy. His doctor is happy with Dad's quick recovery. Thank you for asking about Dad
Ms. Sas, you did a great job with DS.
DH is flying out to Nepal shortly for a medical mission for 3 weeks. They lost 2 doctors and a nurse from the team, but gain 1 new young doctor and a nurse. Rough trip last time. Hopefully, not as bad this time.
Getting drowsy and I still need a shower before I can hit the sack. Night nigh
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Loverly what does that mean "They lost 2 doctors and a nurse from the team, but gain 1 new young doctor and a nurse. Rough trip last time" ?
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The two doctors and the nurse decided not to join the team this time. Trips to Nepal is never easy on folks from affluent countries. Can’t carry the comforts of life with you.Rough and dangerous terrain plus possible dysentery issues are not easy to deal with. Also, carving out 3weeks from job is a challenge.
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Lover, was thinking about your DH and that he should be due for another one of his trips. Your are married to a very special man. Not many would do those trips. Will keep his safety in my prayers.
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Oh before I forget, has anyone had cataract surgery? Got my prescriptions in the mail today and noticed that I have to use the antibiotic drops for two weeks, which I can see (no pun intended), but the drops for pain and inflammation for six weeks, which I think is overkill. On top of that the two usually aren't used together unless your doctor thinks otherwise, hmm. I've been through some perfect storms with some medications lately causing some very bad swelling in my lower legs and feet and looking back over the past year I think it had been brewing since November, 2017. Worried that this could happen between these two eye drops and don't want to take a chance with my eyes. Have mild retinopathy in my right eye that required a shot prior to the cataract surgery to keep it from getting worse because surgery to the eye can cause that to happen. Did you have to use the drops for pain and inflammation for that length of time. (Kicker is that it can cause eye pain. Go figure. I know not everyone gets the SEs but I don't like what I see that can happen. Can we say I've become gun shy about trying new meds.)
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Loverly, thanks for the thought that I did a great job with Stephen, I was the truly the rock which isn't necessarially(sic) good., His father was the master of all good things. I was intense on all things. Greg was an amazing personable guy. My standard description of Greg was he could learn a persons life history on an elevator ride. Greg was a nice guy. Lacked intensity. Not saying that was a negative at all. I always was amazed. I guess that helped Steve in both ways. He has intensity in his work, but his fathers socialable nature. Plus, we had my Mom live with us for 13 years. Gertie was also, unique.
She died at 89, but whenever there was a gathering of family, she was always surrounded by the young teens and young adults. She was so sharp at cards. It was a hoot. Trivial Pursuit, we'd all fight for her as a team member when we played it in the 80'-90's. Gertie was special. Everyone wanted to be around her didn't matter the setting. The term "Irish eyes are smiling" was Gert. But mess with her kids, she'd get her ire up.
Really, Stephen grew up with three parents, in the sense that Gertie lived with us for 13 years. So, he gathered from 3 people. Plus, his amazing childcare mom in the first six years was Cheryl. She was a beyond belief a good woman. I could write paragraphs about Cheryl
Stephen will never know how exceptional his life was, until he tries to recreate for his own kids---if they come.
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Loverly-----------okay got the message about nepal
I cab;'t do split screen at the moment --------ergo many messages vs one----------but I have touchscreen YAY after 50 plus hours of tech work Didn't know I couldn't do splitt screen till now-------------but my tech peiople will fix it-------
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Kath, I had cataract surgery on one eye. I had one eye drop for a couple of days and another for about 10 days. I would question the doctor and mention your concern that they aren't usually used together. If he had reasons that's one thing. If it's a slip up, you've caught it.
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Thanks Wrenn. Appreciate your input and glad for a second opinion on the two drops being used together. When I read that about the two, I thought WTHeck! Will call his office Monday and ask about that and why so long on the one for pain and inflammation. That last one makes me question having my other eye done. if it weren’t for the fact I like driving I wouldn’t have scheduled this but the glare is very bothersome. I’ve taken to finding routes with one way streets for night driving to cut down on the amount of time I have to deal with oncoming cars, LOL.
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