What is your advice for parents diagnosed stage IV

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Fish_Child
Fish_Child Member Posts: 6
edited February 2018 in Stage IV/Metastatic Breast Cancer ONLY

Hi!

I am pretty new here. I apologize if there is a topic on this already. I was recently diagnosed with de novo stage IV breast cancer. While I have come to acceptance with my diagnosis, I struggle with how this changes my children's lives. I have 4 between 15 and 8. Three boys and 1 girl. I know my time with them wont be as long as I had hoped. I am trying to spend as much time with them. I am sure my oldest understands what is going on, though he doesn't want to. The middle two know I am sick but I don't think it is real to them as I look healthy. My youngest pretty much doesn't understand.

I am truthful with them when they ask questions. I just am not sure how up front I should be.

I have a plan to each month I can to take one of them on an overnight trip to do things that interest them and get personal time away from their siblings. Other than that I don't if I should try to keep life a close to what they have known up until now, or push more for quality experiences.

I realize what I do depends on the dynamics of my family and my kids personalities, but I am very interested in how other deal with these issues.



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  • PrincessPincushion
    PrincessPincushion Member Posts: 74
    edited February 2018

    Hi, Fish!

    I'm a mom of two girls, 15 and almost 18, so I'm with you in this struggle. For us, we're trying to keep life as normal as possible, but I do find myself seeking out my kids and my husband more for quality time. I think your plan sounds like a very wise one. It's like... Normal Plus. Normal, plus one on one time. I think it will be good for all of you. It's so important to store up as many good memories as possible now, while we can.

    Best of luck to you in your fight, and don't give up on yourself! I tell everyone I'm going to live until I'm 90, cancer or no cancer!

    Blessings!

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