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I'm curious to know, what are good "sleepy teas"?
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Sas
Sorry, you don't have to answer the tramadol question, reading the post as we speak. -
The nurse from palliative care at Dunes will be here in a few minutes. I have washed my hair like an adult. And organized pillows, all is well. Except the dog. maybe cologne?
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Good luck Bluebird. Hopefully the nurse is giving lots of TLC, take all you can get. XXX
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Woke in a bad mood. Am over it now. Mostly I was ticked I was not done w my end of life paperwork and organization (from her out called my project) and I had wanted that done yesterday at 5 so I could stop and read a book or paint. Too much pressing to take more tome than I do, and I do take a lot of time now for pleasurable activities too, movies, brunch, sleeping, all that good stuff.
Palliative care nurse came this afternoon for three hours. Only she was actually what will be my hospice nurse. Wendy.
I just love her. Wonderful camaraderie. Perfect communication partnership. She won't be my palliative which is the program I will be in now, but she is the fill in for Theresa, the palliative when needed. And she (Wendy) will be my hospice nurse later. So THAT takes the worry out of the future. I was concerned about the transition from palliative nurse to hospice nurse because I do not do well with medical professionals, I am a hard core do-it-yourselfer and now I need help........ and now I know it will be just fine.
Said okay to the social worker coming out and the non-denominational chaplain. My friend who will officiate my end of life celebration is non-denominational. We will see how this goes. I have my beliefs and do not like any attempt to sway me from them, that would not go well.
I want Hubby to be okay, as okay as a Hubby can be okay in this situation though I have no control over his okayedness. I see strong denial coming at him if he doesn't begin talking or something. He keeps saying he believes I can beat this. Inspirational for me, and I am working on that but I also know more than he does and I can feel what is happening in my body. I have said it is like he will in the end be on shore as everyone has gone off surfing and he is scratching his head and wondering what the frick happened. Some denial can go a long way but too much can be a shock.
Sas - Hubby is hearing impaired. We can be watching Wheel of Fortune w TV loud enough for him to hear w his hearing aids in and ON. I will say the letters or the answer. Soooooon he will say the letters or answer. IT is like he is in a world of his own so much of the time. He watches TV w the volume off so it doesn't disturb me and he says he is able to lip read a lot. Which would help if he would look at me when I am talking but he is not that careful. This is his 3rd pr of aids. They have all be pd in full by ins, no copay and the hearing aid co sends batteries whenever he calls, no fee. The first was dynamic. I want another pair lik those, he can get the next paid in March and I am going w and making sure we do not get talked into another upgrade that does not work. Wireless headphones sound like a good idea too. Except not during Wheel of Fortune.
Having comfort food for dinner. Mashed potatoes w onion cooked in the water. Hamburger milk gravy with diced onions on top. Green beans.
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I realized this weekend that DH can only hear a fraction of what I'm saying. I think he just fakes it. Common response, I believe. We're both going to need aids, but he may need his first. I have problems understanding him, but he does mumble (he admits this and has always done it). The other problem is the phone. I ask people to spell their names and I'm not even close with what I heard. One of the reasons I'm giving up the receptionist at the senior center.
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Quick drop in to say hi. Thank you Ms. Sas for the prayers. Dad had the prostatectomy surgery last Tuesday. Surgery went well and will find out results tomorrow when I take Dad in to see the surgeon for follow up and to have the Foley catheter removed. Dad is hearing impaired and I have some silly stories of his post-op hospital stay to share, but it’s late and I need to shower and hit the sack. Long day tomorrow. Oh and I got the mail from you. You didn’t have to, but thank you.
Blue, hope you have a more productive day tomorrow. Thanks for the pictures
Waving hi to everyone.
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Best wishes for your Dad's healing and recovery. XXX
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Super Blue Blood Moon. The first in 150 years. This link has a fairly good explanation. Plus it has a chart where it can be seen in the different times.
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Another link re: the eclipse. With this link you can plug in your zip code and it will give window of time.
https://www.timeanddate.com/eclipse/map/2018-january-31#
BTW the other link, I think crashed. I went back in on it and it wouldn't work
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Sas - thanks for the eclipse link. Will be taking glimpses as I get ready for the office. Happy moon watching!
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oh I know, the stories of what he heard and what I really said. But typing on iPad is rough with mistakes and correcting so I will type stories on keyboard sometime.
Wren, I couldn't imagine if both of us were hearing challenged!
Another day with the attorney. Four hours. Ack. And now to memorize the original deposition and to have Hubby rehearse q and a as I give one and two word answers. He has permission to flick my nose if I editorialize. Or answer a question before it has been asked. I do that. Intuitiveness maybe? Not good for a courtroom. Oh my.
Added sauteed mushrooms to leftover comfort food and made Shepherd's pie.
Tomorrow we shop for grocery deals.
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forgot. My poor puppy. He is alive regardless of our stupidity. He was being given chewy for joints called phycox. Ran out so used some joint support we had used last Spring. On his food. He stopped wanting to eat. I asked Hubby if the bottle needed refrigerated after opening. Sure enough. Tossed that! Could have killed him. Have money now to order more pills. They helped. I can tell the difference. Spent three hours tonight to order dry food choice different than have been feeding. Requirements was no canola oil, potatoes and tomatoes very low in ingredients, no soy, corn, wheat, must be food sourced from North America, New Zealand or Europe, Australia. Let's see, fish from Atlantic, wild caught only. Hmmmmm no GMO foods, any oats and seeds had to never be sprayed with glyphosate to dry the crop. I found four out of maybe 80 I read. Ordered one. Sun Gold. Hope he likes it. Anyway, he has been getting pretty much all this. Though I was not THAT careful lately. But after all that was when we realized the cause of all his problems with intestinal fecal could have been from the bottle of joint formula we did not refrigerate. That said, canola oil sensitivities are common and intestinal disruption is the usual outcome. Which could be a rewason for his often requested trips out. And the dropsies. It was the main fat in his last food.
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Poor Danny Boy! Hope his tummy is better now. Tomato in dog food? Many breeds, especially the smaller ones, can get very sick or worse from them. You really have to read labels and do research. Pet and people food should be closely regulated - too much garbage in our foods
While my bad critters are sleeping...........
Here are a few of the pics JunieB took of us at the Flying Fish Restaurant during our December mini vacation. Loverly caught me with a mouth full of chocolates in her pics of us at the hotel. Junie got us all with mouths full! Very sly of her to be the picture taker during the feeding frenzy - no photos of Junie with butter on her chin, ha!
Me & Loverly sharing snow crab legs
How Loverly could eat SO much after emptying that bucket of beer I do not know
Look at her eyeing those crab legs! We both LOVE 'em. A true test of friendship; sharing the crab in a fair and peaceful manner without inflicting damage upon one another.😋
Loverly and Sassy
See? Mouths full (again)
Sassy had asked me what was the best standout moment of our get together. Without a doubt it was the very first time we we all met in the hotel lobby. Loverly and I met in the "right " parking lot - after figuring out we were each in a different, yet identical side by side parking area. Frustrating, but funny after. We triumphantly walked together into the lobby's waiting area and there were Sassy and Junie! Immediate exclamations of joy, hugs and girly mushiness. I wish I had a picture of the smile on Junie's face - she lit the whole place up. Best smiler ever! Oooh and snuggling with Sas on the sofa while lazing all together in the living room telling stories. If any of y'all ever get the chance, I highly recommend getting in a good cuddle session with her. Sassy is the snuggiest person in the entire world - I am certain of that. Loverly....hmmm. Very Euro-Chic in her black skinny jeans, boots , sunglasses and trench coat - like a supermodel or an assassin (maybe both!) She is warm and funny and just "Loverly".
Our time together was extra special because we were able to share some of it with MammaRay. Loverly sent her video clips and we texted pictures to her too. Although she was nearing her time in this life, our little Wonder Woman rallied and excitedly texted us back. For that little while, it was as if she truly were with us. Ray had texted me when I was back at home. She so wanted to call and hear all about the adventures we had but needed to rest up first. We never were able to have that phone call. Dear MammaRay had to rest up for her own journey. Our stories will have to wait until we meet in the next life that awaits us.
Sas has stressed many times the importance of connecting with each other in person, not just here. Emails, texts, phone chats.....reaching out and forming real, solid friendships. I don't know where I'd be without my BCO sisters💕
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Kath - yes we did get the pup. She is adorable but exhausting. Here's a pic of Ellie Mae sleeping in the van on the way home from Georgia (4 hours!) and another of her settling in. She was 8 weeks old when she came home last weekend on the 20th.
More pics and puppy/kitty stories later!
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Shepkitty - the little clip made me grin. She is like, ball get off the rug, I am eating it. You big softie - you got the puppy. She looks cuddly actually.
I love seeing all the pics of your gathering, the stories. Reminds me of a gathering a group of us took to Sedona several years ago, 11 women for a week. Very interesting, hysterical and emotional.
Insomniacs - I want to sleep. Was so tired. Went to bed late bcz the Indiana Jones movie from 1989 w Harrison Ford and Sean Connery (played his father) was too good, not the plot but the acting. Bed, and right away I was feeling a pain in left side of head. Turned over and then it added a ringing in left ear. Decided this is what kept me up several nights ago. My worries go to is it in my brain now? Sleep anyway I told myself. But then my back started warning me to change positions or else, that is a level 9 pain and I have a minute or so to comply and figure out how to stop it or else. SO I did and then I had to pee. oh bother. Dressed in gown, sweater and slippers, sitting here catching up. Ear stopped ringing for a few and now is again, pain is gone, back is 90% better. 5:12 my time. AM. 5:12 AM. ugh I need sleep, when I don't get sleep I usually get deathly ill, a lupus thing from 2007 to now. Going to try again. g nite! Thanks for being out here with posts and stories.
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Hi ladies! I’m loving all the pictures, keep em coming,
My exchange surgery went very well, I have foobies! They are so much more comfortable than the expanders. I never realized how much pain I was actually in the past year and a half until they were gone. I figure I just got accustomed to it and went on with my life. DH reminded me that my pain tolerance is very high and of course he also reminded me that I went on with my life as usual when I was walking around for 3 days with a ruptured appendix and my small intestines being blocked and lived to tell about it! Now I know how it feels to be a horse that’s got a bad case of colic. Crazy stuff!
I have more surgery coming up as my PS only did extensive work on my cancer side. He thought doing the right side would have been to much for my system to handle. My expanders were under my chin and in my armpits so he had to do some extra cutting along the breast bone to get them in the right position. I love my PS, and a lot of women were telling me to go with the older doc, boy am I glad I didn’t listen to them! My PS is very soft spoken and quiet but that doesn’t make him the creepy guy I was told he was. I’m going to cry when I have to find another PS in TN. I called my insurance and asked if I could travel to see my current PS? Of course not! We’re thinking of postponing the listing of our house so I can finish my surgeries with my PS. I hate starting over with new PCPs I know I’m going to be very picky with my new PS
Sas, I’ll get some pictures up of my grandbabies soon. The garden turned out wonderfully, but I missed the end of the season as I was in Texas at the time.
Shepkitty, Sas, JunieB and Loverly, what a great time you ladies had on your mini vacation, I wish I could have gone. Anyone near Memphis TN?
Shep, your puppy is adorable!
I’ll be back later I hope. Sending lots of prayers, hugs and kisses to all!
Until next time
Wenchi
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Running through to post a little I learned about the flu 2018. I got in to my nurse 2 hrs after Hubby called them. They did a test in the room and knew in 6 min I was negative. Whew! The test is not fun, Matrix style OMG but not awful ---- a tiny long swab high into nostril on each side and swirled. But it sure was easier than a liver biopsy through the diaphragm. Since I lived through that can I live through anything? : )
I was wheezy and nurse G has me on an antibiotic I responder well to Spring 2017. I will take it in morning when we are by the ambulance service near restaurant, I am serious. WITHOUT DRUGS! Goal, to keep me out of ER and hospital and not to be any sicker than I am right now.
Will be by later to read and post. A short short on why am I eating my popcorn with a spoon? Why Hubby?
https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/to-your-health...
Of note on that article is the back of the throat being a target for the bacteria.
"Q: What does flu do to the body, and why do some otherwise healthy people die?
The virus causes damage all by itself, but the immune response it triggers, especially among young, healthy adults, also makes people sick and can lead to death. After entering the body, often inhaled through the nose or mouth, the influenza virus begins hijacking human cells in the nose and throat to make copies of itself. The virus implants in the mucous membranes at the back of the throat and upper part of the bronchial tubes. In doing so, it weakens or destroys the feather-like protective cells in the bronchial tubes that push out bacteria and other material, "like so many little oars," said William Schaffner, an infectious disease expert at Vanderbilt University.
Without that protection, bacteria — including the kind that causes pneumonia — can work their way down the bronchial tube and into the lungs, causing complicating bacterial pneumonia, he said.
Influenza virus can also trigger such a massive immune response, especially in adolescents and younger adults with robust immune systems, that these otherwise healthy people are basically drowning in their own immune cells and proteins, said Stinchfield at Children's Minnesota. Or, as Schaffner put it, the overwhelming immune response "can make your whole body's metabolism go awry. It's like an army set off bombs and killed all the good stuff while targeting the virus.""
Hellllllooooooo PLEASE FEEL FREE TO CROSS POST THIS SO MORE INFO GETS OUT THERE. Thanks!
Diane
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Beatmon, I was able to vote. Hope they get the money. Thanks
Feline, thank you.
Darn! Got to take shower and sleep. Where has the time gone? We need 48 hours in a day.
Shep, I was dressed to kill? Assassin. Ha!
Cant seem to get intoa chatty mode. Hopefully, tomorrow. Night night.
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Poor Danny Boy. Hope he is on his way to recovery from the mishaps. Thank you Blue for the info on the flu. Just as Feline always said BCO is educational.
So mad at myself. I set the alarm clock so I can catch the Super Blue Blood Moon. I foolishly trust my body to snooze for 5 minutes after I turned off the alarm. Slept for hour and a half afterwards. Ugh. I need to stay healthy so I can live another 150 years to catch another one. I did manage to snap a photo of the moon tbe evening before the event.
I bought this tea to try. Supposedly good for health. Refreshing when chilled. Fragrance is heavenly. I love everything roses.
BBL
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TaRenee, best wishes on tapering off of Effexor. I thought about getting Peridin-c too, but want to try eating food high in Vitamin C and colorful fruits/veggies first. Man made can't be better???
Lori, good to see your post. Isn't it amazing how we learn to live with pain? Hope the foobs are twins.
Blue, you are in trouble with the law? And you gave DH permission to flick your nose if you put your foot in your mouth? You know how painful that is (I am sure it can't be more painful than the liver biopsy you had)? Ms. Chevyboy told me one time that if I ever put mine in my mouth, don't get upset andjust continue putting the other foot in also. You are right about Shep being a softie. I told her I knew she would fall in love with the pup despite the breed’s flaws.
Shep, our mini vacation had many “comedy of errors". That was so wrong that they built the parking lot mirror image of each other. I bet you they have hidden camera just to record people like us. That was hilarious. I agree that was memorable. One of the things we didn't get to do was wearing our animal hats. Ms. Sas and JunieB were too embarrassed to be seen with us with the our hats on. Such party poopers. You know I was quietly picking out the bigger crab legs in that picture.
Ms. Sas, I really have to apologize to you. The crab legs were so good, I forgot to ask you if wanted some. I was afraid that shepk would hurt me if I offered you some.
Poor JunieB was not feeling well, but chose to put up a front so we could enjoy our dinner (found out afterwards). I am sorry you didn't get a chance to enjoy the dinner, JunieB.
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Ladies,
I think this is the busiest thread out of all. It's also fun. I agree with WrenchLori, keep those pics coming. Bluebird, sorry you got the flu. I know we have to keep our immune systems strong. I had my first flu shot in November. My oncologist insisted on it. I was afraid the flu shot might do a reverse, and make me sick. Well, I've been fine.
This is probably a stupid question due to our breast cancer history, but do you ladies always get your flu shot? Bluebird, thanks for sending that article. I've always wondered the same thing, how do healthy people die with the flu? And the scary thing is, it can hit at any age!!! I had a cousin at the age of 24 who died from pneumonia. She left behind a six month old baby. Also, as we know, cancer doesn't care what age we are.
On another note, Shepkitty, I love those pics of your dogs. I just found out recently that there is a cats, cats, cats forum. I'm sure there is one for dogs, I've been lurking on the cats forum. So much cuteness. My daughter and I have two cats. Do any of you ladies post your pets on the cats or dog threads? Or both? -
Shepkitty
If you don't mind me asking, where in South Carolina do you live? I'm in North Carolina, so I know South Carolina very well. Of course, many of us go to Myrtle Beach. Also Hilton Head. My favorite is Charleston. -
Jaymeb, I always get my flu shot, but got flu anyway this year. Three weeks and coughing until my muscles hurt. I post on the Cats thread. Mostly my foster cat because my cat is black and very hard to photograph.
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Jaymeb, I use to get the flu shot every year but haven't for about three years. Last shot I had, I ended up with an intense, condensed version of it. For some reason, I can't shake the thought of it. Yes, I can be a wuss. I try very hard to stay away from crowds. I post occasionally on cats, cats, cats. A few pics of our deceased cats and now post pics of the neighborhood ferals I feed.
Lover, glad to hear your dad is doing well. You were very quiet for a while. See you are back in form with your posts. Your tea reminds me of one I got in Japan over 10 years ago. It was a Lipton tea for their Asian market called Pure Beauty, rosehip and orange. I had actually contacted Lipton to see about it coming here, no luck. It was heavenly. Had to have DS send it to me periodically. Neither he or I, the last time I went, can find it now.
Junie, how is Kirby doing?
Edited to correct autocorrect changing Jaymeb’s name
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Thanks everyone for voting...Metavivor won $10,000! It might just be the donation that finds the answers
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OMG!!! I just typed a long post and before I could hit "submit" it disappeared.
That is like a great big steaming pile of poo! Arrgh!
Well I'm off to bed. I'll try again tomorrow.
Goodnight & Sleep well to you all!
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