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Happy Holidays to all the owlettes!
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Sas, I like the way you pack away your tree much better.
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I'm leaving my pre-lit fake tree up all year. First year w/o a real one. This is nice too. I just like it too much.
Will sleep well tonight, too tired.
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FaithonFire: yes, please do keep us posted.
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Hello to all,
Well I completed my last round of IV antibiotic for the Bacteremia last Monday. Was so happy to get that IV out of my arm. Also, the antibiotic (Rocefan) made me so nauseous. Thankful for the Zofran.
MO took me off the Ibrance for an extra week because my ANC was seriously low (.85). The low ANC and the major whack on my elbow when I tripped over Kirby lead to my little hospital adventure. Who'd a thunk an elbow bump could lead to cellulitis & Bacteremia.
Kirby sitting on my lap at the hospital as I got my IV antibiotics.
Sas - I finally completed the Apron & delivered it today. Whew! I've never been so happy to see a completed project done and gone. That hospital stay really threw off my schedule and I was so worried about disappointing the person who'd asked for the apron.
Here is a pic of the apron, it is made in the team fabric of one of our College Teams here in Oregon.
Tomorrow I need to do some clean up here and maybe a load of laundry, then pack for the trip. Sunday, Kirby's trainer is coming to pick him up and then in the evening I get to go to Christmas Eve service at church. I hope I can sleep on the plane so I can catch up on some much needed sleep.
Kathindc - That is a very clever way to preserve the Christmas tree. Are you and DH going to get to spend Christmas with family?
Bluebird - Is Danny Boy your Newfie? He looks like quite the character.
Just want to say "Merry Christmas!" to everyone and here's hoping you all stay warm and cozy through the holidays. Will be back after the first of the year.
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JunieB, you are so talented. I never got the hang of sewing. Took it in high school. Only thing I mastered was a very basic apron you tie around your waist. Will be going over to our daughter's who is married. Getting a ham from the Honey Baked Ham store and they want stuffing and crab cakes that I make. I'll make pecan pie, a lemon cheesecake that I'm going to concoct for the first time and a rum cream pie. I've already figured out a Christmas gift to my DDs and DS for next year. A hand written cookbook of the recipes they grew up on. Hint, hint. I've been trying to pass the holiday cooking to the girls. Was partly successful for a few years but it is finding its way back to me. One of these times, I may have to leave town. LOL. Hope you have a great trip and Kirby has fun a time at the trainer's!
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Kathindc - My sewing talent is limited to Aprons, Purses, Diaper bags, etc. I DO NOT do clothing. Too stressful because every body is so different and I have never had training in how to adjust patterns to fit well to each person.
Your cooking and baking sound yummy! I used to spend holidays with a friend and her family, but now that she is her sisters full time care giver she isn't able to do the prepping like she used to. Sadly, none of her adult children or grandchildren stepped up to fill in. She is truly the glue of their family.
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It’s morning somewhere
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JunieB - yes, Danny Boy is my Newfie. He's anywhere from 8 1/2 to 10 1/2, we adopted him at around 3 yrs old. I call him Doodles too. And puppy.
Junie - is that a service tag on Kirby's collar? We thought to try and get DB trained but he is excitable sometimes and wouldn't make an easy train and dealing w the cancer limited my strength so it never got done. But he was good in going to nursing homes and he was one of the petting zoo at the Christmas tree farm for a few years when I was well enough to be out in winter. That was all so much fun.
Sewing machines are dangerous around me, they do not cooperate. But I manage to make some stuff that looks like it is suppose to look if not perfect. Organic pillows, diaper bag on hanger, wall quilt for granddaughter's birth. But the machines are lucky to be alive. The apron looks very cool. Now you will get even more orders for just that style, yeah, just what you want.
Hope your arm is still improving. I had a bee sting me under lymphedema arm 6 months after surgery. What a mess. It got stuck when I was gardening, probably after deodorant smell. Go me. That arm took off to 2 dress sizes bigger than other arm. Fortunately, I had been numb and stayed that way from nerve damage from surgery / axillary nodes so except for initial hot sting no other pain, just number.
Ladies, garden without deodorant and keep your armpits covered. LOL
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Jwoo so nice to hear from you, Wish you well, would love to hear from you more, but even a small bit is so welcome. How did that urn work?
Bluebird Oh the Thyroid thing. Not understanding your post . If I had done a dily encounter diary with my endocrine docs. I could write an expose on lieing and false documentation.
How does it hurt me now. The new endocrine doc has their records. AND he says "They did these things, and this was the diagnosis". Multiple levels of lies, I have the pathology reports to prove it. . The pathology reports before they were altered. and then the big wig said he would review the slides. Well he didn't. He entered. the previous docs findings. except that was the lieing doc.
Why do I know this is b/c I have all the records. Page two states that thyroid cancer was found in both lobes. What doc 1 stated in the impression is microCa (one spot). Big wig doc did the same dx. He used the first docs stuff instead of the Quest lab stuff. The quest lab dx was diffuse ca throughout both labs..............Sadly, my world elite big wig doc lied or screwed up. I knew it. AND pondered "how can this hurt me if I fight the situation". I decided to let it go. I got a new endocrine doc last 6 months. He read to me how the big wig Moffitt guy read my slides and called it microcarcinoma. AND B/Cof that he wanted to alter my treatment.
*^%#!!)(
Sorry, got writing and it lead to all the fake stuff docs write, that then lead to screwed up treatment.
No energy to do it or credentials(not a BSN). I could make a lot of money as an expert medical detective nurse. It's a subspecialty of nursing now.
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Blue, Totally love Danny Boy. Wish he didn't puke after eating snow. But What a great dog.
. Leaving the tree up all year. Our front room wasn't used except at holidays. The boys had increasing objections about set-up. I said let's leave it sset up and then just decorate. That got more irritating over the years. They found no fun in it. I did love the sons statement in exasperation "Each ornament has a story"/ I said "Now you get it"
But good or bad I found a solution. The Tree stands in the living room. I had a "dress" made for it. It's like an Austrian ballroom dress. Generally , comes off T-day. and put back on whenever I decide.
The tree underneath is totally decorated. Takes a few minutes to take off the dress. I hang it in the spare room when it's off.
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JUnie, enjoyed our talk, now catching up on IT. Kirby looked great in the hospital. How did you take care of potting? That apron thing per our conversation should be deductible on your incomtaxes hahah because you truly made no money on it. But you are such a good person. Sure hope the husband realizes he was essentially getting for under cost. and gives you a great big tip.
Kathindic great idea on the cookbook. There is a Blank cookbook on the net. I started with one years (30 some) ago. I checked it's availability awhile ago. The blank books can be found. Look for "From Love from My Kitchen" The Paint Box Studio Press Hopkins, Minnesota. Copyright Nancy Radcliffe Edwards. She did this, but it wasn't sustainable and she went out of business.
It was a bummer. It was a very nice book with dividers for all things. My own book now is held together with two rubberbands because I would stuff it with other recipes.
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Sas, C.R. Gibson had what I was looking for. Almost went with one that you create on-line but the more I thought about it the more I wanted to go with writing out the recipes. I still have some that are in my parents' handwriting. Hate to say it but my dad was a better cook than my mom, although she was good don't get me wrong. He loved to try new things. I think I take after him because I love to concoct new dishes. It was my dad that let me start cooking. My mom was worried about me making a mess in the kitchen. My dad told her if I did than I had to clean it up.
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First, I would like to wish blessed Christmas for all my sisters and also a big WELCOME to Edel. I thought that I would have more time posting, but had poor receptions in the Bahamas. Busy day. Need to start making gumbo. Just realized this morning I am missing one ingredient. Oh well. Frying the bacon for the roux as I am typing. Hopefully, I won't burn them.
Picking up JunieB tonight from airport. Hoping she will get moved to first class. Wishful thinking, I know.
Boy! Frying bacon to get the fat out takes A LOT of patience as I am not used to cooking it. We, I meant I seldom eat bacon. Cooking on an electric stove is also a challenge for me. So Junie, if the gumbo doesn't turn out right, I do have legitimate excuse. Ha! Actually, my goal is not to burn anything and the gumbo is edible.
Hope to have more time later to post photos of our vacation.
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First wave was Saturday night, now waiting for second wave starting at 4. Christmas is ok but I’m always glad when it’s over.
Santa got me a roomba! Will try it out after the tree comes down. Be safe out there
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Sas, last sentence was supposed to be, how DID I miss this. That the cancer lymph node there for two scans and less SUV uptake then never mentioned again. And one year after that was found there are now for first time multiple cancer nodules in thyroid .itself. An ultrasound 14 months prior showed no nodules.Anyway, I trust my new thyroid specialist/surgeon is sorting it out. So nice to just know when you are in good care and can relax and allow the doctor to deal with it. Forms I need an oncologist to lean on like this.
Had good day, though erenare some issues, but just a good day.
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MamaRay such a pretty treasure. I really love that necklace. My sister gave me a sister necklace that tells me how strong and kind and loved I am. Needed, I will wear it everyday.
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Lover: well, you'll just have to practice frying bacon. I'll come over and you can practice on me all you want. Too bad you were stuck in the Bahamas without internet connectivity.Me, I've spent most of the past couple of days setting up the NEW laptop I got for Christmas....before the old one died, so I can transfer files at my own rate. I guess I did learn something from all those computer classes (Sas: still working on your VPN question.)
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Kathy so happy you found a book that met your need. Our recipes lead to the heart of a family in memories. Rubber bands and all. Both my Mom and Dad were experimental cooks. Greg's Mom was a recipe follower. All were excellent cooks, just different approaches. I like the read multiple recipes and then combine and then add more of what seems good, approach. I have lost a few very excellent recipes b/c I thought I would remember what I did
One was a vegetarian lasagna. Oh well. The other, was an exceptional loss. Donnie was asked what the best thing I ever cooked. He said a fish soup (Bouillabaise). I was stunned. I remember doing it, but alas, I don't remember details. Donnie may be a rough and tumble guy lacking in filters(I love that), but his love of food and praise or lack of praise is right up there with Emeril. No clue what I did. Oh well:)
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Blue, a competent doc is worth their weight in gold. All of us here on BCO are only too aware of that. It shouldn't be, but it is.
MammaRay Love you, Love your sweetie for getting you the owl. May Our Dear Lord keep you, you will always be in our hearts, and we will meet again. I know you got some of the pictures from our visit. It was whirlwind, but great. AND it was great to share the moment with you
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Queenie, just thinking of you and there you are. I'll struggle along with this piece of junk till you are the PRO. Then I'll get something. Another button wants to come off(N)The A and B buttons are missing and the Cap lock button doesn't work right. The other night the screen was flashing so weirdly it looked like Morse code. Serious, it was flashing for maybe a couple of minutes in a pattern way. That's why I thought of Morse code. Pass that by your teacher and see what their reaction is hahahaha. Yes, VPN to prevent Morse code intrusions.
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Yes, we are home. The trip was great. I am in awe of Loverly. She is mama bear. She took care of us all. She's an incredible driver to boot. I said at the end we should have named the GPS thingy. Then thought to ask her if she had ever given it a name. She said "Idiot". We all laughed. We saw much more of South Carolina than we ever expected to because the GPS kept giving instructions that took us to the hinterlands of the state.
When both Junie & Loverly referred to their phones map directions, and I referred to a paper map we finally got home. Donnie tells me that it has to do with the advanced technology of the phones. Of course, I understand what that intellectually means, but I'm completely cell phone illiterate.
We also used centuries old technique of navigating by the position of the sun and killing the cat or skinning the cat. We finally dead ended into I 95 just as the sun was setting and headed south. At one point, I asked Loverly if she was praying, when the GPS had sent us back into the hinterland yet again. Loverly, has such mindfulness i.e great control. Then we had another short discussion about cats. Then a short scenic diversion into Jacksonville per the GPS.
IF you EVER go to South Carolina be very wary of the routes labeled 17 and alternate 17. It wanders all over the state. It's like a spider web.
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That was the end. The beginning was eventful too. We took US HWY 1 up and went through St. Augustine. The oldest settlement in the US which is claimed by other settlements, but who cares. It was so cool to go over the Lions Bridge and see the old buildings that were built in such majestic architecture. It's wonderful.
Then on to Myrtle beach. Meeting our Shepkitty. She is a Dionne of Design. She resonates character of bohemian fashion. Not many women can carry that off without looking odd. She makes it a natural breeze with life.
Then we ate, but our days of staying up all night talking is in our past. Wednesday, yak, yak, yak, then a dinner at the Flying Fish. Shep & Loverly shared a humongous 2 person crab leg dinner. Junie got some great pics. I was envious of the gusto the two shared over those crab legs. I will emulate them in the future.
The negative is it was cold high 30-& 40's. I wore socks with my Florida sandals and was saved from the cold by a wonderful scarf that Shep provided during the visit.
It was a great visit except for the cat killings(figuratively) and HWY 17.
It's 4:05 Am now, Junie is likely up getting ready for her flight back to Portland. UGH. She has a long tough day ahead. JUNIE safe flight. I know Kirby will be as happy to see you as Shats and Dini were to see me.
Love ya'll
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hi blue, and everyone!It took me a little while to find my way back to this thread, chemo brain had really been kicking my butt and not letting up with med side effects to boot I just can't stand the level of cognitive decline!
Today is my sons 13 th birthday and he does not want to talk to me. My 2 other daughters are 14 and 17 and are FAR more vicious with their verbal and emotional abuse than I can tolerate for no longer than a few minutes at a time but at least its communication right?
We were always a very close family until last May shortly before I was diagnosed with braca 2 stage 3 breast cancer on top of my ptsd that I have had for over a decade and managed with cognitive behavioral therapy, had a union part time job so NO medication and alcohol free for 10 months at that point. I weighed in at 105 lbs when I was diagnosed by my general practitioner after specialists missed 5 cm tumor in my armpit!!
My husband grew more and more distant the sicker I became and it was all my fault for not being able to control my symptoms well enough to deserve fair treatment or even my basic needs to be met and even then it was after I was forced to earn anything I was lucky enough to actually receive instead of the usual combo of denials shame and blame for having a need to be met to start with! So the longer he avoided coming home to help in any way the more our kids blamed me for our quality of life being all my fault
I was called a crazy lazy liar for being THAT tired and sick with NO help and 3 kids schedules and doctor dentist etc appointments to keep as my condition got worse and I was blamed for failing to live up to my family's expectations not to mention how much money we wasted on doctors misdiagnosis! I was no longer able to serve them well enough to deserve even my most basic needs being met until they felt I deserved it so I wasn't worth keeping around!
My children told my husband I was cheating on him and he was cheating on me and do NOT want him or I to repair our marriage and hold them accountable for how they have behaved. Too bad I have over a year of phone records that include all texts that prove my point about pattern abuse of disabled and dying family to extort them.
They all REALLY believe they can use majority rules thug mentality to make me disappear and escape any accountability for the bullying and other circumstances that led us to where we are today.
I was called a liar the day I told my kids I had breast cancer, and told to drop dead the day I sent a picture bald and hooked up in treatment chair to prove this is NOT a lie no matter how much they can't accept what is happening to me. Hating and blaming me for their every failure in life is the only way they can handle the rejection and manipulation of their father who I LEFT( he kicked me out by lying about having a restraining order so I stayed with my sister until we got out to moms doctors ) but I abandoned THEM so that's why I deserve their hatred. I was smart enough to keep me and my meds safe during treatments because I had nobody to take care of me that trusted me or that I could trust to be around me when I was unable to defend myself!
I love them more than I ever loved myself and I don't have it in me to give up on them no matter how hard they try to force me.
I still have hope that my husband will find out the TRUTH before he throws away 19 years of my love and faithful marriage away over a LIE our kids told him!
The fact that he KNOWS I'm really sick and can't even LOOK me in the eye now let alone send a single pic of him or kids but insists I am cheating when it's OBVIOUS that only doctors touch me so I won't DIE!
The rest of my time is eaten up on research, trying to go through all this alone and not upset my mom sister and brother during the holidays now that my kids and husband won't talk to any of them either for taking me away from him!
Even my therapist is astounded at this reaction to my diagnosis, but we do the best possible things to handle the fallout symptoms each week that I work on alone and we talk and update what things work and what don't. I am learning to adapt to my circumstances as best I can ad I heal and prepare for the fight to come.
To understand what kind of people do this, you have to know my oldest is an honor student art major and my middle is in flag squad and as vicious as they come, turned her back on me literally on her graduation day and told me I didn't deserve a pic or hug goodbye when I was leaving the school.
My son and I used to spend every day together talking but told me I didn't deserve to be there because I abandoned them. His voice has changed since I have been away and I will never hear him say I love you Mom.
I forgive them because I love them but I can't allow this to continue without showing MY proof and demanding to SEE theirs if it is going to cost me everything I ever had dedicated my life to
for them to grow up believing lies about me only destroys their own future relationships with ANYONE! It's easier than accepting the risk it poses to their health and future to call me anything except legitimately sick and still as faithful as I have always been to them. I simply refuse to endure any more and will hang them with their own words if I am left no other way. Tough love suc
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Junie did you get home? Thinking about your trip a lot. Sorry You are going back to the cold.
Mommy cute haha
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