stage 4 cancer and going to lose my insurance

Also keep in mind, what he owns are community asset, it means you own half of the house, bank accounts and any other assets. You need to find yourself an attorney so you can find out how much does he own. Chances are he moved all the money out already. Do you have share credit cards with him? If you do, charge it up, so he needs to pay for the credit card balance.

Jo, don’t move out once you do you will need money. Where are you going to get money to move out

Jojo~take a deep breath. HEs a jerk. I'm sorry but you haven't worked in 15 years, which means you're not only eligible for spousal alimony, if there are children involved, child support as well. You have been married for a very long time and he cannot just tell you what he is going to do. You are entitled to him maintaining your standard of living, because you have no recorded earnings of workings. I believe if you are stage four will qualify for you many things you aren't aware of. I don't what state you live in, but the little scab girlfriend, isn't walking away with anything you're entitled to. You are entitled to AT LEAST 50/50, and trust me you will get more than that. Once he really gets into this, his head will spin like the exorcist!! My divorce lasted 18 mons. It gets expensive, contact local social security offices and your county relations programs to see if you qualify for the Medicaid insurance. Even legal aid!! You're disabled, you cannot work. I would start the application with SS as well. Supplemental income you may qualify for. Whatever you do, don't wait. And. Ever ever tip your hand to anything you're doing. You don't need him. In the end he will end up with nothing but a heartless person and nothing. No judge is going to rule against you. So he's in for quite an embarrassing battle. Big hugs for you ! In the end he may be the one who ends up paying for the entire lawyers costs. I have seen that happen quite a bit. One day at a time beautiful

Yes, divorce is complicated and having stage IV bc makes it even more so. I am not an attorney, but want to repeat that divorce law varies by state. In California, a true no fault state, all assets are split 50/50. No one gets more, regardless of who was at fault or who cheated on who. One person is not required to maintain the other persons lifestyle (as another poster stated). As a matter of fact, it matters not one little bit if your spouse was the sleaziest, meanest, self centered creep in the world and had numerous affairs. But, this is California. Which is why an attorney in your state is the only one who can tell you what you might or might not be entitled to. The fact that you have been living separately for several years may also affect your situation.
Wishing you the best.

Call your local Bar Association for a referral for a divorce attorney.