Just Diagnosed, DCIS suspect of inv. and 3x Neg
I'm terrified. After burying my brother in June of myxofibrosarcoma, I'm terrified of leaving my daughter behind. I have tears and all of that just pouring out of me and I can't stop. I'm scared. I don't want to die.
So I'm looking up everything. Like my friend wants to have a drink with me because of the news??? But should I have that drink? Will cancer be made worse by the foods I eat or living the way I lived prior that could have potentially caused the cancer? My grandmother and my great grandmother both had breast cancer. One passed away and one lost both breasts 20 years apart and is now 94...but I don't know what kind. I"m not even sure if mine has anything to do with them, since no aunts or my mom or any female cousins have it (as of yet). ANd there are A LOT of them.
I"m worried because my four year old jumped on my biopsy cancer ridden breast. Will this make things worse? I'm worried about what will happen to my daughter. She is four. I wonder if I survive (I'll be 40 in November and getting married in May) will we still be able to get pregnant after treatment?
If anyone can offer any insight into something I just didn't envision happening, at least not at this age, that would be great. Thank you!
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I am in the same boat as you. Diagnosed with IDC a week ago and today told its triple negative (which scares the heck out of me!). I am 45 with a 5 year old daughter.
Getting port placed tomorrow and chemo starting soon (don't have date yet).
I have been pretty good about not falling apart but right now just trying not to break down in front of my daughter.
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Hi karen and welcome to Breastcancer.org,
First things first -- take a deeeeep breath. We know it's scary and overwhelming right now as you're just learning the ropes, but you've found the absolute best place for support, advice, information, and answers. Our Community is chock-full of really knowledgeable members who will encourage you all the way and help you get the answers you're seeking. They're sure to be weighing in soon with their support!
Next, it will do you no good to worry now about what you did/didn't do to receive this diagnosis. Try to stay in the present, focus on what you can do now to get healthy and get past this. A DCIS diagnosis has an extremely good prognosis. See the main Breastcancer.org site's section on DCIS for more valuable information.
And depending on your type of treatment, it's very possible for you to still have kids after treatment. There's lots of great info on the main site's Fertility and Pregnancy Issues section.
We are right here with you. Thank you for joining and we look forward to supporting you along the way!
((((BIG HUGS))))
--The Mods
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Thank you so much! Is Triple Negative as scary as everything I"m reading? And of course, I'm a bonehead and because I got this horrible diagnosis I'm like I will change all those things that I'm doing that aren't good for me and never were, but tomorrow. Like I just need the day. I really appreciate the kind words and I hope they don't find that it's invasive. You know?
Jennifer, my thoughts are with you as well. But I guess one day at a time. I don't meet with the dr until the 6th, but I'm on the cancellation list, so hoping I get in sooner. I read with Triple negative chemo is still a possibility, but please take my boob or both if you need to. I can get new ones, right?
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I believe that working with a counselor at the onset of diagnosis, is a godsend. They can help focus your attention on what needs to be done, and offer practical advice on how to stay on task. One thing that you can start doing now, is cooking/crock pot food for the time ahead. Meal prep is important, the kind of food you eat is important to your recovery, and what you drink is important. I saw a registered dietition throughout my surgeries, radiation, and I feel amazing. I exercise most days as well. The things you can control, are the things you should be worrying about. The rest will fall into place.
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Thank you! I will definitely be doing my research on what foods to eat and what not.
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Jennifer522 - so sorry you have to go through this. Do yourself a huge favor and don't rely on googling for accurate information on TNBC. Yes, it has a poorer prognosis than ER+ cancer, but not a "poor" prognosis. The majority of women do fine. You are in the most frightening time right now, but trust me it will get better. Make sure you connect on other threads like the one for TN and the chemo threads - the support is wonderful and you realize you're not alone.
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Hi Karen,
Sorry you had to join us. I was in a similar state of mind just 4 weeks ago, when I received the news. First 2 weeks before I met with the team of doctors were absolutely the worst. Waking up in the morning with a paralyzing fear, not wanting to open my eyes and get out of bed, because there was now cancer in my real life (I still had my normal life in my dreams). At the same time hoping this was all just a bad dream and I will wake up.
I am also 40, and this sucks! I also couldn't believe I could get breast cancer at 40, and was very angry. But eventually you will realize that life is not over. It will be a lot of appointments and probably more tests before your treatment plan will be finalized, but eventually it will be. And you will start concentrating on that. And things will still be scary, but not the same type of scary as they are now.
This community is very helpful, so keep us updated and all the wonderful ladies here will be sure to offer an advice, a gentle virtual hug and a good word.
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Thank you so much! I'm sorry we are all here, right? I think I'm more terrified than I might be if I just hadn't watched my brother die in June. Different more aggressive cancer, but still very real.
I appreciate the wonderful comments and I will definitely utilize this wonderful find. A co-worker of mine that went through all of this 10 years ago directed me here.
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Hi karentwriter:
Sorry you find yourself here. The time between diagnosis and meeting with your team is very stressful. Once I met with a breast surgeon and gained a better understanding of my diagnosis and treatment options, I felt a lot better. I hope the same for you. Meanwhile, many of those diagnosed with DCIS, find this post from Beesie to be very helpful:
A Layperson's Guide to DCIS (first post in the thread): https://community.breastcancer.org/forum/68/topics/790992?page=8#idx_232
I'm not sure what the Moderators meant by saying "it will do you no good to worry now about what you did/didn't do to receive this diagnosis." (Contrary to the plain language of that remark), the idea that anyone did or didn't do something specific "to receive" this diagnosis is unfounded and specious.
As far as healthy lifestyle choices, they are a good idea for many health reasons, but unfortunately they do not provide an impervious shield against an initial diagnosis or recurrence of breast cancer.
Triple-negative pure DCIS (Stage 0) is considered "non-invasive" and is not the same thing as triple-negative invasive breast cancer (Stage IA or above). Literature pertinent to the latter is not relevant to those with pure DCIS.
Pure DCIS is an "in situ" disease, meaning that by the pathologist's assessment, it is entirely enclosed within the walls of the duct and has not invaded the surrounding breast tissue or stroma. By this pathologic criterion, DCIS is considered to be a "non-invasive" form of breast cancer and is considered Stage 0 ("Tis (DCIS)"), and with appropriate treatment has a very favorable prognosis. This is true regardless of ER and PR status (or HER2 status, if determined).
After surgery, if the combined pathology findings from all biopsies and surgeries establish a final diagnosis of pure DCIS (Stage 0 disease), then under current clinical guidelines from NCCN, chemotherapy or HER2-targeted therapy would not be recommended, and endocrine (anti-hormonal) therapy would not be recommended for those hormone-receptor negative (ER- PR-) pure DCIS.
I am a layperson with no medical training so please confirm everything below with your team.
It sounds like your report indicated a diagnosis of triple-negative (ER- PR- HER2-) DCIS, with area(s) suspicious for invasion (said area(s) of unknown ER, PR or HER2 status). Please be sure to confirm your understanding with your team.
A pathology notation of "suspicious for invasion" is not equivalent to a definitive finding of invasion or invasive disease (e.g., a very small area of invasion, such as a microinvasion ("T1mi") less than or equal to 1 mm in size). The pathologist uses histologic tissue stains on biopsy samples to inspect whether the ducts appear to be intact (i.e., the disease is "in situ") OR whether there has been a breach of the myoepithelial layer of cells surrounding the ducts (i.e., an area of invasion). This is not always entirely clear. When the pathologist notes "suspicious for microinvasion" or "suspicious for invasion," it means that he cannot definitively conclude that microinvasion is present, nor can he exclude its presence, because he can't quite tell. If the pathologist can't tell whether there might be a tiny area of invasion or not, then he likely would not have been able to separately determine the ER, PR and HER2 status of it either.
(In cases where an area of invasion is definitively identified (as opposed to suspicion), then regardless of the size of the invasion, the diagnosis would no longer be pure DCIS (Stage 0), but would be a diagnosis of invasive breast cancer (Stage IA or higher). The ER, PR and HER2 status of invasive disease may differ from that of any nearby DCIS and should be separately determined (if possible) and reported in the pathology report (or a supplement/addendum thereto).)
By the way, when you meet with your Breast Surgeon, please inquire about a possible referral to a Genetic Counselor. Under guidelines from the National Comprehensive Cancer Network ("NCCN") for "Genetic/Familial High-Risk Assessment: Breast and Ovarian" (Version 2.2017), early onset breast cancer (defined as a diagnosis of invasive breast cancer or DCIS at age ≤50 years old) is a consideration that supports such a referral: "Consider referral to cancer genetics professional" for genetic risk evaluation. Other factors may further support such a referral.
I note that "[t]he criteria for further risk evaluation and [for] genetic testing are not identical." As part of a genetic risk evaluation, a personal medical and family history are taken, a genetic/familial risk assessment will be performed, and a recommendation will be made regarding genetic testing. If recommended, the scope of such genetic testing (e.g., which genes), as well as the pros, cons, and limitations of such testing will be discussed (important elements of informed consent). The patient may pursue or decline any recommended testing at their option.
Best,
BarredOwl
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Wow, BarredOwl! This is all super helpful. I will definitely ask about the genetic counseling and thank you so much for explaining the suspicious invasion. I didn't know any of that, nor would i know how to pose that question. I mean she explained it, but wasn't fully clear on the microinvasion or visibility. I Realize this doesn't mean I don't have any worries, but maybe it will allow me to worry less until my consultation.
Thank you very very much!
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Hi karentwriter:
I should have mentioned that as best practice, one should request complete copies of the pathology reports from all biopsies and surgeries, and any addenda or supplements to those reports, including the results of any related testing (e.g., ER, PR, HER2 testing) for your review and records. Confirm the accuracy of information received orally against the actual report content bearing your name. (Trust but verify.)
Summary information from a patient portal is not sufficient, because it may not extract all important details and/or errors may be introduced when typing in the information.
Usually, one can pick up copies from a nurse navigator or the administrative assistant of your surgeon. In some cases, reports were forwarded to me in electronic form (.pdf) via secure email upon request. I kept a three-ring binder with copies of all written reports from all imaging, as well as all biopsy and surgical pathology reports.
The Medical Records Division of the institution where any imaging or biopsy was done is another possible source of written reports (and electronic copies of digital imaging records on CD). Be sure to call in advance to request specific materials (e.g., with reference to procedure dates). Ask for a pick-up time and location, as well as any related requirements (e.g., photo ID, possible fee).
BarredOwl
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Thank you again! I certainly will.
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I'm new to this site and I wish I had all this information before my surgery in June.
I might add that some practices have a Breast care coordinator that can be very helpful with questions or practical information also.
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Thank you! Yes, I think that is actually who I have been talking to. I was trying to figure out her role because the first call I was all over the map. After that she didn't give me her title again, but she is always saying she is there to talk and what not. So I bet that is who she is. Yes, I guess I was unfortunate enough to have a friend that already went through this years ago. She didn't have any of this and she is the one that pointed me here. The numerous women who have had to endure this have either personally pointed me in directions or other friends knew people who went through this and they gave me advice as well. Mostly bad, but super helpful for women who just come into this world. I don't want to think about this stuff all the time, but I just found out Thursday. I figure over time that might get better. Usually if I get an answer to a question it calms me for awhile.
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I really think the info on this site is very useful. It is normal to have a million questions and worries. You are not alone. 1 in 8 women get diagnosed. You are stronger than you think. No matter what the news is, it is always better to know than not. The diagnosis does not rule you, you have options and you will discuss and make a plan with your doctors.
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like right now my arm is sore like bicep mostly before I found the lump..could this be related due to the nerves in the body? If it had spread beyond the site I'm guessing the biopsy would have shown that but it concerns me
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Hi Karen,
I was diagnosed with Stage 2b TNBC in July and I'm 40. I have 3 kids 20, 17, and my only daughter is 15. I was also so worried about what that meant for my daughter. The only people in my family to have breast cancer was my great grandmother and a couple distant cousins. I had the genetic testing done and was so glad I did. My oncologist and my surgeon both told me about the test and wanted me to have it cause of my age. Definately talk to your oncologist about it. I know you feel like you're in a whirlwind right now but things will get better.
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Yes, I will definitely do the genetic testing, but what does that even do if I already have cancer?
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Hi Karen:
If a person is found to have a "pathogenic" mutation in a gene that confers a significant increase in lifetime risk of breast cancer, then they may consider a number of options:
(a) enhanced surveillance (additional breast cancer screening);
(b) chemoprevention (use of anti-hormonal therapy to inhibit new tumor formation in the same or opposite breast); and/or
(c) prophylactic surgery (e.g., prophylactic bilateral mastectomy).
In such a patient, who has also been diagnosed with breast cancer, such a pathogenic mutation may affect treatment recommendations /choices, such as (for example) a recommendation for mastectomy (versus lumpectomy) plus contralateral (opposite breast) prophylactic mastectomy.
Mutations in some known cancer predisposition genes may also confer increased risks of other types of cancers (e.g., ovarian cancer, melanoma, colon, prostate (in males), etcetera). In some cases, additional screening (e.g., colonoscopy, skin exam) may be recommended and/or prophylactic surgery (bilateral salpingo-oophorectomy (removal of ovaries and Fallopian tubes)) may be considered/recommended.
There can be implications for other family members. For example, if a person carries a pathogenic mutation in a cancer predisposition gene, each child has a 50:50 chance of inheriting the mutated gene copy.
BarredOwl
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karentwriter, just in case you need to hear this right now, I was diagnosed with TN DCIS in Dec 2002 at the age of 38. I have been NED for almost15 years now. Barred Owl has give you quite a bit of good intel and Beesie's thread is very comprehensive. You can do this! Ask questions here when you need/want to and get a good team together that you trust to work with you. Once you've got your treatment plan in place, most people start to feel more empowered and a bit less gobsmacked. Sending you warm thoughts and gentle ((hugs))
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Thank you so much! That does help make me feel better, MTwoman. I really appreciate it. It's that triple negative that puts a stain on the dx. But I know I need to stay positive. I'm happy though, I called the Dr today and they did have a cancellation so now I will be seen tomorrow instead of Friday. I have a whole page of questions and a great patient facilitator incase some of my questions are not answered or I forget to ask something. Hopefully the plan will be something that starts relatively quickly. I"m supposed to get married in May...trying on dresses Saturday. Someone recommended not doing that til I know if there will be a scar...there is a dress I have my eye on. My response..I don't care if there is a scar...I want that dress.
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I remember that feeling! My PS (and even BS) were much more worried about scars than I was. I have scars on my knees from running track (well, falling down while running track, actually) and scars on my hands from cooking (both knife work and heat), so 'badge of courage' say I. The treatment for DCIS (pure DCIS) contains a surgical element (lx vs mx - there are some really good threads discussing all of the various considerations in that decision if it is difficult for you), a radiological element (usually with lx, but not with mx, unless there are special circumstances) and a hormonal treatment (but the research does not support this as useful in ER/PR- dcis per my MO - but that was years ago so I'd check that out with your own MO). As I ended up with mx (due to additional areas of dcis found by mri after my lx), I didn't have rads or tamox. If recommended, I'd do the genetics testing as it could impact your thoughts about surgery. Glad you're able to get in sooner and start getting answers to your questions. IMO, you should take a photo of the dress and show it to your PS so he/she understands what your goal is. It is really nice to have something lovely to look forward to!
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That is a great idea! I do have the two dresses I love the most, but the style is pretty much the same in all the dresses I like because of my body shape. But today I'm filled with fear and dread. Suddenly I'm back to this sense of despair. I just ... well you know.
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Yes, I know. It comes (and goes) in waves. Try to ride them out as best you can. Music was really helpful for me. I had a special assortment that I carried everywhere so that in waiting rooms I didn't get more anxious (they were soothing tunes that helped me relax). You can do this!
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