daughter pressuring me to have genetic testing.

soami, I wonder if your daughter could go get tested herself. Perhaps if she sees a genetic counselor and gives her family history (i.e. your history) that she will qualify to get the blood draw and get her own testing done.

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I agree with the other posters - let your daughter get her own test done.

If you have it done, she will only know genetic results from your side of the family. If she has it done, she will have genetic results from both her parents' gene pools.

Perhaps I can share my situation. I was the only one diagnosed in my family with Breast Cancer and had Genetic testing that revealed PALB2. this led to me having a dbl mastectomy and oophrectomy.

When I found out about the GENE my mom was out in the waiting room. The genetic counselor told me it would be of huge benefit to test my mom because she was the side of the family with sibblings who had cancer. She cautioned me that possibly it would cause my mom a lot of distress and to only ask her if it was something that she was willing to do. The reason is because I have 5 sisters and 4 nieces. It was important to know if my moms side of the family had PALB2 because of siblings with ovarian cancer and lung cancer. Each of them only have a 50% chance of having the PALB2 Gene its not a guarantee just because your parent the mutation.

My mom agreed to be tested and was negative for everything. It gave me a great peace of mind and helped guide my treatment and how I gave the information to the women in my family. In hindsight it would have caused my mom great emotional distress if she had tested positive. I know she would have felt responsible for my Breast Cancer. I would not recommend you get tested unless you have numerous children and are concerned about that information for them. Perhaps your daughter would consider getting tested though if she is negative there is still a 50% chance she didn't get whatever gene her parents might have had. On the other hand you are correct it would give her no information about her fathers side of the family.