Radical Remission Book Club by Kelly A. Turner, Ph.D.

I have not finished the book, but I am shocked exercise is not on the list. i have focused a lot on diet and exercise because they were something I was very able to control. I mostly walk for exercise but I also ride my bike about once a week and I do a lot of gardening. All of those get me out in nature. We have extensive trail systems near me so there are a lot of good places to go and I enjoy it more rather than walking around my neighborhood. I just hit 7 hours of exercise for the week this evening. In the winter, sometimes i will turn on youtube and dance. Heidi knows I learned to Salsa via Youtube . I would like to find a place to go and dance the salsa.

As I said these two items are within my control. I also try to "stop and smell the roses" every day. I plan lunches with friends. I like to get obsessed with things (music, gardening, diet) and I think that is a coping mechanism. Work is something I have to do and I would quit if I could. This part has been a challenge because it can be stressful and is not my passion. Sometimes I worry that will be my downfall in my survival plan.

The only supplements I do is Vitamin D. I also decided to use less sunscreen and get natural vitamin D? As part of a Paleo lifestyle, it seems a natural. Oh and I sleep with a sleep mask since I read that tamoxifen was less effective if there was any nighttime light.

eelder: have you seen a doctor about your foot? I had that years ago,, and calf stretches and an custom made insert for my shoe fixed the problem. It is not a quick fix,, but it did work.

Yes, eelder, see if the podiatrist thinks custom orthotics would help. They ought to if you pronate, which stretches things too much. Also wear good walking or running shoes all the time; no barefoot or sandals until it calms down.

Hi Eelder,

I've had trouble with plantar fasciitis in the past and continue to have terrible hand and foot cramps.

Here are some things that helped me that may help you too.

No cheap flip flops and no bare feet (except on sandy beaches that massage your soles). All footwear should support the foot. Even slippers for around the house need to be supported by design or with insoles. Hiking shoes should fit well and have ankle support.

Throw out shoes that are starting to sag in heels, soles or sides. Many experts say, toss shoes that are over 1 year old. At least wear insoles.

Roll foot on a golf ball, tennis ball or footsie roller to stretch foot muscles.

Be sure to stretch calves, legs and tush regularly. Before getting up from bed or chair, flex and point the toes, rotate the ankles, bend the knees and hips, release as many sleep-bound muscles as possible. When sitting, do gentle walking motions with your feet to relax and massage them and your calves.

Do deep relaxation - go to yoga, listen to online or recorded guided instructions, learn body scans and relaxation exercises.

You might want to check out biofeedback devices like HeartMath or GSR2.

For cramps, supplement with oral magnesium and/or use spray magnesium oil (it dries tacky, not oily, so you you won't want to leave it on your hands).

My own best helper is listening to my body engaging Focusing techniques. I get the most amazing and immediate feedback about what to do and what not to do. Nothing like an up-to-the minute body-mind response, rather than imposing mind upon body.

Hope you find something helpful here.

warmest healing wishes, Stephanie

In the middle of RR, and I really like the offering. It will guide me.

My big challenge is my wine. The link between Breast Cancer and alcohol is strong, and I am going to have to give it up completely because there's no way I can accept the recommended 3 oz per week!

Stephanie, your posts are wonderful. Thank you.

I have been having 2-3 glasses of red wine per week. I'm hearing this is a no-no, right?

Good essay, emphasis added by me:)

Accessing Desire As Loving Motivation

--by Miki Kashtan (Aug 22, 2016)

When Yannai, my sister Inbal's son, was three and a half, his grandparents were visiting and were staying in the downstairs room. At about 8am the next morning Yannai started banging a pole on the floor upstairs. There ensued the following dialogue:

Inbal: "Seeing you banging on the floor, I am worried about our guests. I would like them to be able to rest as long as they wanted. Would you be willing to stop banging or to bang on the couch?"

Yannai: "I don't want to, but I'm willing."

I: "How come you don't want to?"

Y: "Because it's not waking me up!"

I: "So how come you're willing?"

Y: "Because I want to consider you."

He then put down the pole, without any of the sense of resentment and anger that people often exude when they are doing something against their will. Inbal expressed her gratitude to her son for meeting her need for cooperation, and they moved on with their morning.

When Inbal shared this story with a group of people at one of her workshops, one man said: "But of course, your son was clear that if he didn't do what you asked you would take the pole away!" "No," she replied. "I would not have taken the pole away. In fact, I believe that because my son knew that I would not physically take the pole away from him, he was willing to put it down even though it was not what he wanted."

As I see it, the ongoing absence of coercion and "should" thinking was the context within which Yannai could find and cultivate his organic and genuine desire to care for the well being of his mother.

Whenever I notice myself using "should" thinking, I pause to translate. Instead of "I should …" I aim for "I want to … because I …." The linguistic turn is simple. The internal shift is not. It's easy to say "I want to eat fewer cookies because I want to care for my body" instead of saying "I should eat fewer cookies." It's not so easy to access our desire to care for our body sufficiently to make the difference, to access the desire so deeply that it can serve as a loving motivation to eat something else rather than a self-admonition.

From:

http://www.awakin.org/read/view.php?tid=2196

Yes, Yannai is said to be a wonderful human being...

His mother Inbal Kashtan (author of Parenting From Your Heart) includes his story in her essay, about her family's cancer experience, including her own ovarian cancer – Holding Hope, Lightly,

My son, now 13, and I are family, friends, and mutual mentors. We can talk about anything, even cancer. It's how our family has lived since he was born: everyone matters equally—my wife, myself, our son; we respect everyone's autonomy and self-knowledge, trust everyone's intentions, always aim to understand and connect.

Over a year ago, after we got some particularly sad news about my health, I asked my son how he was doing. He said he was sad but okay. I persisted, gently—was he worried? "Ima [mother]," he reminded me, equally gently, "I'm not a worrier."

"So what do you do instead of worrying?" I asked.

"When there is bad news, I'm sad. And then, as long as there are things to try, I'm hopeful again. It's not an expectation, I just hold the hope lightly."

I have learned so much from my son; this lesson has been especially powerful. I used to be afraid to hope, terrified of disappointment. Dashed hopes produced a sense of humiliation, like "I should have known better." Witnessing my son's example—his authentic capacity to live fully in the face of uncertainty by being open to both hope (held lightly) and sorrow—helped me form a vision of what's possible for me.

Inbal died two years ago, but before going, she transformed ovarian cancer and available treatments.

Others' stories about living with cancer diagnosis and treatment are available at Healing Journeys, follow this link https://www.healingjourneys.org/resources/healing-...

I just joined Kelly Turners blog post so I get now emailed to me conversations with various other patients and they tell what they are doing. Very interesting it's on her website if anyone else is interested.

Wendy

Hi! I've been slowly taking this thread in. I've been dealing with so much depression as I'm coming up on my DX date and I'm not through with treatment because of so many complications. Starting out my attitude was so wonderful, and before DX I rode my bike to work, worked out, had been vegetarian for a year for the most part.

But that's not why I skipped to the end and am posting.

It's the plantar fasciitis business! I had done EVERYTHING. EVERYTHING. Shots, socks, wraps, stretches, tape, balls.... Then I met a woman at a block party who recommended I get some of these shoes. I'm not sure they're available, because Sketchers sort of "stole" (not the right word) the general idea with the wonky shoe bottoms, but these shoes actually give you whatever benefit necessary to get rid of the PF. I swear, I bought a Mary Jane style and a tennis shoe style on Ebay at the time for a fraction of the price. I can't remember how long it took me of solid time wearing those funky shoes, but it cured it. I haven't dealt with it since.

Ok, it took me a bit to find the name of the shoes. My Ebay didn't go back that far. I'm pretty sure they were MBTs. There's conflicting research on this area, but all I can say is that nothing else worked for me but wearing these shoes. If you're at the end your PF rope and you can get a good deal, they might be worth a shot.

http://www.radicalremission.com

Story of the month:

http://www.radicalremission.com/index.php/blog

best, Stephanie

too funny.

>Z<

So this was what I got in my fortune cookie, somebody or something is trying hard to tell me something I think.

Wow, Wendy,, that was quite the fortune!